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Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues.  |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
Nope not being a bitch or diva sounds really bad and considering he has money hes not respecting you at all but treating you like a prostitute and not the lovely woman you are. When ive met others in past its always been a bigger chain hotels because as you say safety and comfort is everything these days. Id leave well alone hun he sounds very weird. |
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"plus you can get a travel lodge room for like 40 - 80 quid anyway "
A travelodge would have been fine. Im not a princess asking for the ritz! Just a lockable door and a bathroom is good!
It was city cottage in plymouth if anyone wants to take a look to check im not going crazy. I think it even says in reply to a review that she is sub letting the room and had no control over it... |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
just send him a message with subject box filled in ' tightarse ' then put really want to meet you still but Googled venue and it doesn't look great am still willing to meet will share cost of new venue  |
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"plus you can get a travel lodge room for like 40 - 80 quid anyway
A travelodge would have been fine. Im not a princess asking for the ritz! Just a lockable door and a bathroom is good!
It was city cottage in plymouth if anyone wants to take a look to check im not going crazy. I think it even says in reply to a review that she is sub letting the room and had no control over it... "
Yeah exactly he should be putting your safety and comfort first after all. Just seen it myself god awful place id be afraid of catching something hun. Best left alone really and him too. Plenty of better more decent men around. |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
Nothing would convince me to meet someone at a hotel like that.
When you talk about booking a hotel in my mind it’s for somewhere like a Village Hotel, Ibis, Premier Inn as a minimum. You can get great deals on day rooms with them. I booked one the other week for £30!
Trust your gut. Better to be safe than sorry! |
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"Say you will go Half's on a proper hotel chain room. And you will also cover half the cost of the room if he can't get that £25 back "
yes I said this ,it's nice to get validation don't you think |
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I shudder at the thought of single women meeting strangers in dodgy hotels. Just join a sexclub it is safer. I have done meets with men at their homes and had instance regrets, but i can handle myself and wont be intimidated.
Stay safe girl |
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If he is implying he has cash but has then booked the cheapest hotel room he can find I wouldn't meet him. He either has cash but thinks you aren't worth spending it on or is lying about having cash. Either way that'd see me looking for someone else to meet |
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Did he search for the cheapest room available in your area??? It sure sounds like it... As others have said, you can easily get a room in a proper, clean and safe hotel chain for not much more than £25.
You are definitely not exaggerating or being a diva. He is not treating you with respect you deserve, so just leave him be and move on. I'm sure you won't have problems finding a decent enough guy. |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
Just one line option to choose, which one will you prefer safe or sorry rather Sad? |
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"If he is implying he has cash but has then booked the cheapest hotel room he can find I wouldn't meet him. He either has cash but thinks you aren't worth spending it on or is lying about having cash. Either way that'd see me looking for someone else to meet "
Exactly that. Either way he doesn't sound decent. Bin him. |
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Suggest to him to go on a day use hotel site. There are many.
I've booked national chain hotels for as little as 30 quid... And they're a lot safer than the one he's suggesting. |
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Always go with your gut instinct, we only play as a couple and wouldn't consider a cheap hotel for a meet. So the thought of you going on your own must be even worse!
Are there any clubs near you?
Maybe a coffee or drink followed by a club if your comfortable?
Have fun and stay safe!
How many reviews does he have? |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
Jeeees I’ve heard it all ,,, but cmon it’s a doss house and in all honesty you would be mad to go near this cheapskate chancer with a barge pole ,,,,go with your instincts this has nothing to do with you being a Diva ! This is about your own health and welfare  |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
So you expect him to pay coz he says he has money and then moan about his choice ? And then ask on here for advice because you feel it’s not safe to see what others think?
Yet you’ve never met him before and don’t know him only what he’s said to you. But you would still be willing to meet with him if he had paid for a more expensive hotel.
Sounds to me you said yes to him hoping for a night in a nice hotel with drinks and it’s come back and bit you on the ass. As all he wants is the sex and cheap thrills.
(Basing the above on the ops status of wanting a sugar daddy). |
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Learnt a long time ago, if I go to someone's house, once or many times. I don't wear necklaces, stockings or scarves. I'll turn up in sensible heels that I can run in if needed. Make an excuse like I'm letting a friend know I've arrived and estimated time I'm there, make him go into the house, I follow, thereby mitigating him being able to double lock the front door. Spare clothes in the car, just in case. |
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Just had a look at the place and it's a "HELL-TO-THE-NO" from both of us.
But at the same time, I'm not sure what you expected without contributing to the cost or making sure you are involved in the booking process... |
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"Dont go.
But I am curious as to why you just let him organise it rather than doing it together. I would have suggested somewhere that suited me even if he’d booked and paid for it.
V x "
This!
And no chance, choosing that dump would probably spoil the whole meeting plan if it was me. |
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"If you're not gonna feel comfortable, don't go.
No need to tell everyone what a skinflint you think he is"
It was not about the money at all. I have frequently stayed in travelodges for the same price. Its the cleanliness and hygiene and where its situated i had issue with. As a girl walking there by myself through the area of town that the homeless, druggies and prostatutes hang out in didnt make me feel safe. I was not calling him a skinflint. |
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"If you're not gonna feel comfortable, don't go.
No need to tell everyone what a skinflint you think he is
It was not about the money at all. I have frequently stayed in travelodges for the same price. Its the cleanliness and hygiene and where its situated i had issue with. As a girl walking there by myself through the area of town that the homeless, druggies and prostatutes hang out in didnt make me feel safe. I was not calling him a skinflint."
Always go with your gut.
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It's ok to have standards, and it's ok to want something nicer and safe!
We are told often enough that as women on this site we play all the cards!
So, you let them know what your basic requirements are for a hotel and if they don't like it tough!
They also have an option to move on. I'm not saying guys should pay all costs by the way, I would always insist on paying half.
That way no body owes anyone anything.
You have respect for yourself hunny and don't settle for anything less xxx |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
Stevie wonder could see this con artist coming from a mile away, co owning a restaurant but wants to meet you in a room in a shared house for £25.
I'm staying in the jury's inn Plymouth next week for £51 so a nice hotel doesn't have to be expensive.
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"If you're not gonna feel comfortable, don't go.
No need to tell everyone what a skinflint you think he is
It was not about the money at all. I have frequently stayed in travelodges for the same price. Its the cleanliness and hygiene and where its situated i had issue with. As a girl walking there by myself through the area of town that the homeless, druggies and prostatutes hang out in didnt make me feel safe. I was not calling him a skinflint."
Why mention the cost then? |
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"Your gut instinct is normally right...
Travelodges aren't that expensive... and they're safe.
Be careful..! "
I found the bestest travelodge a few weeks ago
And I know a really nice premier Inn ... |
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"Your gut instinct is normally right...
Travelodges aren't that expensive... and they're safe.
Be careful..! "
Travelodges by themselves aren't safe it's the person you go there with that make any hotel safe and this guy sounds a wrong un whether it's a posh hotel or a dodgy room. |
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"Your gut instinct is normally right...
Travelodges aren't that expensive... and they're safe.
Be careful..!
I found the bestest travelodge a few weeks ago
And I know a really nice premier Inn ... "
Hardly rocket science is it.....Google!  |
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I would go with your gut about that if however you really do want to me him up with him do a social at pub of your choice but if I was you I would leave well alone |
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"Your gut instinct is normally right...
Travelodges aren't that expensive... and they're safe.
Be careful..!
I found the bestest travelodge a few weeks ago
And I know a really nice premier Inn ...
Hardly rocket science is it.....Google! "
Google does not know everything .... |
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"Your gut instinct is normally right...
Travelodges aren't that expensive... and they're safe.
Be careful..!
I found the bestest travelodge a few weeks ago
And I know a really nice premier Inn ...
Hardly rocket science is it.....Google!
Google does not know everything .... "
Iv just asked Google and Google said errrrrrrr yehhh I do .. |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
Do not go anywhere near it.
Know your worth. |
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"Your gut instinct is normally right...
Travelodges aren't that expensive... and they're safe.
Be careful..!
I found the bestest travelodge a few weeks ago
And I know a really nice premier Inn ...
Hardly rocket science is it.....Google!
Google does not know everything ....
Iv just asked Google and Google said errrrrrrr yehhh I do .. "
oh no you don't |
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"He sounds awful. We would not meet him let alone in a place like that"
don't be so literal ,I'm sure if she explained her reasons and offered to chip in it wouldn't be a problem, two sides to every story |
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"Your gut instinct is normally right...
Travelodges aren't that expensive... and they're safe.
Be careful..!
I found the bestest travelodge a few weeks ago
And I know a really nice premier Inn ...
Hardly rocket science is it.....Google!
Google does not know everything ....
Iv just asked Google and Google said errrrrrrr yehhh I do .. oh no you don't "
Be silent |
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"Your gut instinct is normally right...
Travelodges aren't that expensive... and they're safe.
Be careful..!
I found the bestest travelodge a few weeks ago
And I know a really nice premier Inn ...
Hardly rocket science is it.....Google!
Google does not know everything ....
Iv just asked Google and Google said errrrrrrr yehhh I do .. oh no you don't
Be silent "
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"plus you can get a travel lodge room for like 40 - 80 quid anyway
A travelodge would have been fine. Im not a princess asking for the ritz! Just a lockable door and a bathroom is good!
It was city cottage in plymouth if anyone wants to take a look to check im not going crazy. I think it even says in reply to a review that she is sub letting the room and had no control over it... "
Just had a look, don't even go there ! No way would I expect anyone to feel safe or cherished entertaining in a place like that, looks like the set of "rising damp" where's Rigsby ? |
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"plus you can get a travel lodge room for like 40 - 80 quid anyway
A travelodge would have been fine. Im not a princess asking for the ritz! Just a lockable door and a bathroom is good!
It was city cottage in plymouth if anyone wants to take a look to check im not going crazy. I think it even says in reply to a review that she is sub letting the room and had no control over it...
Just had a look, don't even go there ! No way would I expect anyone to feel safe or cherished entertaining in a place like that, looks like the set of "rising damp" where's Rigsby ? "
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
I'd actually ask him to meet me in a more public place - coffee shop!
To see if he's the actual person you are expecting! Go half's to a decent hotel room after that initial meet... Personally, I'd block him after that down-right insulting manky offer!
Take care of yourself hun... |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
If you think it's wrong. Do NOT meet.
Firstly, not conferring with you re room? Every time I have a hotel meet we agree on a room/budget together. I always pay half.
If he just booked it without checking that's at best a wee bit inconsiderate at worst, intentional.
If you think he'll feel bad about laying out cash then what I want you to do is reverse positions and imagine you were him.
I had booked a hotel once and the meet cancelled on me at last minute. He'd had a wee case of cold feet.
I asked if he would still pay his half and he ghosted
I went to the hotel and enjoyed a lovely meal, a swim and a massage and then watched MCU the rest of the night. I got peace in nice surroundings. I wasn't bothered.
Follow your instincts, trust them. |
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He might charge you lol.
Don’t go! You need to be comfortable and definitely deserve better then that sounds.
Could you not offer to go half’s and get somewhere better? I personally always have half if FB and I get a room. |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues.
Nope not being a bitch or diva sounds really bad and considering he has money hes not respecting you at all but
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treating you like a prostitute and not the lovely woman you are.
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When ive met others in past its always been a bigger chain hotels because as you say safety and comfort is everything these days. Id leave well alone hun he sounds very weird. "
Is it just me or do others think that phrase is pretty fucking unpleasant?
(Sorry if this is a tangent but I kinda felt it was important to point out that being a sex worker doesn't make you less valuable as a human being. Doesn't mean you deserve no respect or bad treatment)  |
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over a year ago
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Don't you wish all potential meets were as thoughtful and considerate as the OP ...
Why choose a forum to discuss this. The moment it was suggested it should have been 'see you later aligator' ... let him snap his teeth on his tod |
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a sex worker, it's someone using what assets they have to earn a living. I do what I do with my body for a job, just happens to be a mix of manual labour and in an office |
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Trust your instincts, if someone thinks that hotel is the right place to invite someone for mutual adult fun. And you don't agree with that, then decline and move on. There's plenty more fish in the Fab sea.
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Trust your instincts - if you're uneasy then you're not going to enjoy the meet at the very least, and it could end up much worse than simply feeling uncomfortable. And don't feel bad about saying you won't meet him there, that's your prerogative. His reaction when you decline might be revealing. Stay safe. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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I would meet in a public place first and if that goes well then consider booking a hotel. You can then Google one and decide together.
Whether it's a scummy hotel or a posh hotel, you still need to think about your safety meeting a stranger alone. |
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By *illyS1Woman
over a year ago
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"If he is implying he has cash but has then booked the cheapest hotel room he can find I wouldn't meet him. He either has cash but thinks you aren't worth spending it on or is lying about having cash. Either way that'd see me looking for someone else to meet "
Absolutely this. I wouldn't go, you aren't being a diva, your safety is important!! |
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"If he is implying he has cash but has then booked the cheapest hotel room he can find I wouldn't meet him. He either has cash but thinks you aren't worth spending it on or is lying about having cash. Either way that'd see me looking for someone else to meet
Absolutely this. I wouldn't go, you aren't being a diva, your safety is important!!"
Here, here. |
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Being a half owner of a restaurant doesn’t mean anything really loads of restaurants are struggling anyway his finances have nothing to do with meeting for sex, he might not have much money but if you don’t feel like you would be comfortable offer to give him the money he has spent on it, I think that’s only fair tbh |
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
When you say he shares a place does he mean with his wife or partner ? |
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"Do you still like him or has he deleted his profile and closed the restaurant as a result of this thread ?
Talk about drastic measures  "
well restaurants come under stringent hygiene laws if that hotels standard is anything to go by then his standards aren't good cmon am I right or am I right |
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"Do you still like him or has he deleted his profile and closed the restaurant as a result of this thread ?
Talk about drastic measures well restaurants come under stringent hygiene laws if that hotels standard is anything to go by then his standards aren't good cmon am I right or am I right "
Absolutely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For the love of God OP, don't go. It ringing massive alarm bells. Plenty of decent places in Plymouth. Msg me if you need a chat x"
omg you're like mother fab
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"For the love of God OP, don't go. It ringing massive alarm bells. Plenty of decent places in Plymouth. Msg me if you need a chat xomg you're like mother fab
Apoarantly so, I help lots of people lol. "
I want to help lots |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"For the love of God OP, don't go. It ringing massive alarm bells. Plenty of decent places in Plymouth. Msg me if you need a chat xomg you're like mother fab "
Apparantly so, I help lots of people lol.
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"For the love of God OP, don't go. It ringing massive alarm bells. Plenty of decent places in Plymouth. Msg me if you need a chat xomg you're like mother fab
Apparantly so, I help lots of people lol.
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lol so good you said it twice |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"For the love of God OP, don't go. It ringing massive alarm bells. Plenty of decent places in Plymouth. Msg me if you need a chat xomg you're like mother fab
Apparantly so, I help lots of people lol.
lol so good you said it twice"
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"Hi all after some advice please. So a guy i was talking to recently wants to meet me. But he shares a place and i cant accommodate. I said i would feel more comfortable meeting in a hotel . Ie on neutral safe ground.
Can i just point out first that he has implied and said he co owns a restaurant and in his own words will get me anything i want.. suggesting he has money etc.
I say i would feel safer in a hotel meeting you for the first time. Just let me know which hotel and what name it is booked under.
This morning, proud as punch he tells me the hotel... its a 25 quid room in someones house with a shared bathroom which is actually located in the area of plymouth which is where the homeless and prostitutes work from. The reviews say the house is dirty and full of owners things etc with no privicy.
I do not feel comfortable at this place. Walking there alone i wouldnt do anyway let alone stay. Am i being a bitch or diva saying i wont go there? I feel bad as i dont think he can get his 25 quid back. But i dont feel comfortable at all with that set up. Its not the cost at all. Its the area and hygene issues. "
Trust your gut
Amd don’t believe what people tell you online x |
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The guy may not have read the reviews . It has a score of 6.5 so not overly bad on face value. And yes if you read the reviews it would put anyone off. However I feel this should have been dealt with between you both. All you’ve done is made the said person come across badly with all the white knights calling him tight and that you could do better . Yet we will never know his side off the story. The guy was obviously good enough for her when she thought he was well off . |
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