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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Im new to all this and im finding that no body is really interested in me, is it my profile or just me?

Any advice would help

Thanks

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

You're a very young man who can't accommodate with a one line profile. What did you expect?

Come on....is it that difficult to put together a decent profile?

Plenty of generic profile advice in the forums OP, do a search.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ive literally never done this before and i dont know what to say though?

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By *irl1234xxxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

You’re very young, that will put some people off.

You have one photo and one line of text. That will put lots of people off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep it as it is, the worse your profile is might give the rest of us a chance

But then again I doubt it, seriously though it does not matter how good your profile is on this site. Just accept your very unlikely to get anywhere here. Go to a club I say. Good luck though.

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

"Keep it as it is, the worse your profile is might give the rest of us a chance

But then again I doubt it, seriously though it does not matter how good your profile is on this site. Just accept your very unlikely to get anywhere here. Go to a club I say. Good luck though. "

I did laugh at the first bit.... but the rest is rubbish imo.

Effort and manners will go along way with the ladies, take no thanks as that - don’t sulk as it’s not attractive at all. If you do get a response don’t blow it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Getting a lot of mixed results lol fuck knows?????????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ask yourself this question.

Why should a woman here meet me instead of the guy with the detailed and interesting profile?

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly the 12 words you have managed to write on your profile won't impress anyone.

Your profile couldn't sell a Big Mac to a starving man, so it's not going to sell you to prospective meets. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. Do some research and have a look at some other profiles to give you ideas.

Put on some more pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile. Anything in between is great.

However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too. Then get off the site and meet people socially or try a club.

Good luck.

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"Getting a lot of mixed results lol fuck knows?????????"

No your not. Every person that has posted on this thread agrees that your profile is rubbish. That is not a mixed result.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep it as it is, the worse your profile is might give the rest of us a chance

But then again I doubt it, seriously though it does not matter how good your profile is on this site. Just accept your very unlikely to get anywhere here. Go to a club I say. Good luck though.

I did laugh at the first bit.... but the rest is rubbish imo.

Effort and manners will go along way with the ladies, take no thanks as that - don’t sulk as it’s not attractive at all. If you do get a response don’t blow it. "

This.

Only message those who you match aswell, that should help.

Patience is ever vital x

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

6’5 is a big claim... if you’re that tall then seriously put a pic or two up demonstrating it, some ladies will love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/868684

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/877648

Have a good read through those, there is plenty of advice for single guys.

As others have said, you are very young, and not that many people on here want to meet very young guys as a) they are not experienced enough,

b) the potential meets may have kids about your age,

c) from experience, the potential meets might know young guys get their sexual education from porn, which is nowhere near real life.

Anyway, good luck.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Not read other replies, so some of this may have been covered.

It's worthwhile having reasonable expectations, so that you don't get despondent and also will be happy, when things improve. As a single man, you're amongst tons of competition, so it does take a lot of effort and patience, before things pay off: assume months, not days.

Those people who manage to sell themselves well will generally do better than those who don't - so check out topics in the forum that could help you to do that. Good profiles, including a range of photos that let others know how much they find you attractive, are things that I look for from a guy: it suggests that he's thought about what I'd need, in order to spend my time with him.

Let your personality and interests stand out.

Good luck!

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By *atindollTV/TS over a year ago

edinburgh

Get a cock pic on there lol.

I'm just joking..sort of..I love a good cock pic me.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's your profile. If it reflects who you really are, don't change a thing. There's advice on mine should you wish to use it. Plenty of existing threads too. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men massively outnumber women here so you really need to put some effort in.

Effort in = rewards out

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

If your profile reflects you then don't change a thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No offense kiddo but you would have better luck with tinder or POF. You would find people who share more in common with you there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im new to all this and im finding that no body is really interested in me, is it my profile or just me?

Any advice would help

Thanks"

Have you taken any of the advice on board?

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"Im new to all this and im finding that no body is really interested in me, is it my profile or just me?

Any advice would help

Thanks

Have you taken any of the advice on board?"

I’m sure the advice is under active consideration

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have to think at the moment with the pandemic this website isn’t what is used to be, as you can imagine.

Then you’re very young so that puts a lot of people off. I like young guys but I know I’m a minority.

You need more photos. The more the better, and a variety. Not just cock pics.

A face photo will make a huge difference although I understand why some can’t post one.

And you need to work on your profile. Tell people about you: why are you here, what are you like, what are you looking for.

I’m very open minded but no text or a generic one liner that has no thought behind would put me off.

I hope you’re not offended, I just want to give my honest opinion so you know what to work on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im new to all this and im finding that no body is really interested in me, is it my profile or just me?

Any advice would help

Thanks

Have you taken any of the advice on board?

I’m sure the advice is under active consideration

Yes

Perhaps the OP has been super busy

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman over a year ago

Victoria, London

uncomfortably young and looks like i's snap you!!!

haven't the inclination to be teacher

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By *untalicious CoupleCouple over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"Im new to all this and im finding that no body is really interested in me, is it my profile or just me?

Any advice would help

Thanks

Have you taken any of the advice on board?"

Considering the advice was given over a year ago and the profile is still the same...it doesn't look it

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By * Plus ECouple over a year ago

The South

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By * Plus ECouple over a year ago

The South

"Im new to all this and im finding that no body is really interested in me, is it my profile or just me?

Any advice would help

Thanks

Have you taken any of the advice on board?

Considering the advice was given over a year ago and the profile is still the same...it doesn't look it

He did ask for advice again 32 weeks ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry just come back to this site after a while off, going to put some time and effort into my profile??

Feel free to drop me a message if anyone id interested

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Sorry just come back to this site after a while off, going to put some time and effort into my profile??

Feel free to drop me a message if anyone id interested"

Welcome back! There's advice on my profile should you wish to use it. Good luck!

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By *lym4realCouple over a year ago

plymouth

Just take some of the great advice on here and always remember if you are going to send messages to a "Couple" you are messaging "Both" of them and although mr4 loves being called "Hot/Sexy " he does take umbrage at being asked if he'd like some "Fun" as he's quite happy looking for misery etc etc ..but most of all remember it is meant to be "Fun" if it isn't "Fun" there really is no point but best of luck ...

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By * Plus ECouple over a year ago

The South

"Sorry just come back to this site after a while off, going to put some time and effort into my profile??

Feel free to drop me a message if anyone id interested

Welcome back! There's advice on my profile should you wish to use it. Good luck!

This advice is good advice, read and digest.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry just come back to this site after a while off, going to put some time and effort into my profile??

Feel free to drop me a message if anyone id interested"

Is your profile the new version??

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"Sorry just come back to this site after a while off, going to put some time and effort into my profile??

Feel free to drop me a message if anyone id interested

Is your profile the new version??"

It’s different to what it was this morning, yes

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Back in Gatwick!

"Sorry just come back to this site after a while off, going to put some time and effort into my profile??

Feel free to drop me a message if anyone id interested"

I’m out of your age range

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