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What am I doing wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

hey fab forum!

so I am honestly lost on here,

I'm getting soo frustrated with being ignored or deleted.

I'm on here most days or even when I'm not directly on the site I'm on my mobile and get updates

I'm a genuine guy who loves sex, the intemecy the pleasure. I love giving reciving just the whole thing basically.

I'm sick of putting up status's and meet requests and getting blanked, this has even happened when I put about just wanting social or messages to get to know people with the pottential to meet.

I've worked on my profile and have made it in depth I have real pic's and when I message I try to be plesent, polite and genuine. but still nothing.

seriously what am I doing wrong.

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By *adetMan over a year ago

Ipswich

You're a small fish in a very big pond

Don't give up though fella

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"hey fab forum!

so I am honestly lost on here,

I'm getting soo frustrated with being ignored or deleted.

I'm on here most days or even when I'm not directly on the site I'm on my mobile and get updates

I'm a genuine guy who loves sex, the intemecy the pleasure. I love giving reciving just the whole thing basically.

I'm sick of putting up status's and meet requests and getting blanked, this has even happened when I put about just wanting social or messages to get to know people with the pottential to meet.

I've worked on my profile and have made it in depth I have real pic's and when I message I try to be plesent, polite and genuine. but still nothing.

seriously what am I doing wrong. "

If someone isn't attracted to you then it doesn't matter how much you love sex or how good your messages are.

Your status is abit whiny too, it's not attractive.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"hey fab forum!

so I am honestly lost on here,

I'm getting soo frustrated with being ignored or deleted.

I'm on here most days or even when I'm not directly on the site I'm on my mobile and get updates

I'm a genuine guy who loves sex, the intemecy the pleasure. I love giving reciving just the whole thing basically.

I'm sick of putting up status's and meet requests and getting blanked, this has even happened when I put about just wanting social or messages to get to know people with the pottential to meet.

I've worked on my profile and have made it in depth I have real pic's and when I message I try to be plesent, polite and genuine. but still nothing.

seriously what am I doing wrong. "

Don’t ask for advice on here mate - you’ll end up feeling way worse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know a lot of single men get criticised on here for not trying hard enough but tbh I think you’re trying TOO hard and it’s coming across as a bit desperate. That’s never appealing.

Being on Fab is not a guarantee of sex no matter how much you love it.

Take a step back. If you’re on here all the time then it’s taking over from real life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your window of meeting is very narrow, during the day, most people work probably why your not getting any meets...

Smile your picture looks miserable!!

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

Imagine if a lady had messages from 30 guys and looked at their profiles, would yours stand out ?. You have expressed what you are looking for, rather than how the lady would benefit.

It's a bit dull , no humour, and your photos are not great.

Maybe it's the messages you are sending out. Or are you waiting for people to get in touch with you ?

Have a rethink or go to a social.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Imagine if a lady had messages from 30 guys and looked at their profiles, would yours stand out ?. You have expressed what you are looking for, rather than how the lady would benefit.

It's a bit dull , no humour, and your photos are not great.

Maybe it's the messages you are sending out. Or are you waiting for people to get in touch with you ?

Have a rethink or go to a social. "

Read this and read my precious message and has yourself how you feel now OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know a lot of single men get criticised on here for not trying hard enough but tbh I think you’re trying TOO hard and it’s coming across as a bit desperate. That’s never appealing.

Being on Fab is not a guarantee of sex no matter how much you love it.

Take a step back. If you’re on here all the time then it’s taking over from real life.

I know its not a garuntee.

where do you draw the line though if we dont post at all we dont get noticed if we post regularly we are needy?

as for the thing about pictures in 2nd post yeah i know i havent got very meny smiling pics as they are taken by myself

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By *r_Jake70Man over a year ago

London

This is not the worse profile I’ve seen today, but it’s pretty far from outstanding.

First, forget about posting events unless it’s a proper party with plenty of time to organise it. One-to-ones by males are extremely unlucky to attract any attention.

Your text isn’t that great. You’re hedging your bets which is never a good idea. Decide what you want from fab (any sex with anyone is what it currently says) and stick to it. Write an articulate and clear description of this, and then seek out the women who’s needs and hopes map onto yours. Write to them referencing both their profile and yours. Be respectful, but confident, none of this “if you don’t want to do that it’s okay” crap, and hope for the best.

Get your pictures sorted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is not the worse profile I’ve seen today, but it’s pretty far from outstanding.

First, forget about posting events unless it’s a proper party with plenty of time to organise it. One-to-ones by males are extremely unlucky to attract any attention.

Get your pictures sorted "

Listen to this guy please. He gave me some great advice on how to make my profile more appealing. Now i know it's still not perfect and I need some better photos but it's a work in progress.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's a You have expressed what you are looking for, rather than how the lady would benefit.bit dull , no humour, and your photos are not great.

I put what im intrested in, i feel if i just put love giving ect ect ect that it becomes more like im a sub in some way... i do love nothing more than to please and make sure that who ever im with is satisfied but how to put that across without sounding arogent im not sure

unfortuantly im not blessed with humor.

Maybe it's the messages you are sending out. Or are you waiting for people to get in touch with you ?

Have a rethink or go to a social.

i've mentioned this in a previous forum post but i will re-say it here

i struggle massivley with large social situations due to having asperges syndrome. meeting 1-1 ect is much easier for me as it allows me to make that connection to someone easier rather than trying to work out when is the right time to talk in a group ect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a lot of single men get criticised on here for not trying hard enough but tbh I think you’re trying TOO hard and it’s coming across as a bit desperate. That’s never appealing.

Being on Fab is not a guarantee of sex no matter how much you love it.

Take a step back. If you’re on here all the time then it’s taking over from real life.

I know its not a garuntee.

where do you draw the line though if we dont post at all we dont get noticed if we post regularly we are needy?

as for the thing about pictures in 2nd post yeah i know i havent got very meny smiling pics as they are taken by myself "

Lol why can't you smile when you take your own picture?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a lot of single men get criticised on here for not trying hard enough but tbh I think you’re trying TOO hard and it’s coming across as a bit desperate. That’s never appealing.

Being on Fab is not a guarantee of sex no matter how much you love it.

Take a step back. If you’re on here all the time then it’s taking over from real life.

I know its not a garuntee.

where do you draw the line though if we dont post at all we dont get noticed if we post regularly we are needy?

as for the thing about pictures in 2nd post yeah i know i havent got very meny smiling pics as they are taken by myself "

I’m not saying you’re needy, I’m just suggesting that you stop trying so hard. Don’t let Fab dominate your life.

Four months is not a long time to have been on here. Get yourself known on the forums, start socialising at clubs but most of all remember it’s supposed to be enjoyable on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lol why can't you smile when you take your own picture?

i do try it doesnt seem to show apparently

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Have re-written the about me section to try and show more about how it will be good to meet / good for her.

unfortuantly i cant particularly help times due to work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lol why can't you smile when you take your own picture?

Also just looked on pc and last pictures i have taken of myself bar ones currently on fab are from 3 years ago