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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are there any genuine couples or single ladies bi or straight that are actually looking to meet for some fun with a Normal Average Regular Guy?
As whatever seams to be in the the meets or on the profile is BS and it really is disheartening to spend time messaging a meet request or a profile and nothing not even the conman curiosity a "no thank you" is sent as a reply.
Answers below please as I'm starting to get p***d off with it?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Welcome to fab!!!
Alot dont reply as alot get inundated with messages.
Personally i rarely reply..as if you reply you get another message which can get arsey..
There are more women to men ratio.
But you will get there.. try a club great way of meeting folk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are there any genuine couples or single ladies bi or straight that are actually looking to meet for some fun with a Normal Average Regular Guy?
As whatever seams to be in the the meets or on the profile is BS and it really is disheartening to spend time messaging a meet request or a profile and nothing not even the conman curiosity a "no thank you" is sent as a reply.
Answers below please as I'm starting to get p***d off with it?
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As you haven't asked for it, can't comment on profile. But suggest you read posts on what works. And proof reading is your friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"May be but I'm not shallow, self centered or conceited, I can only show what I am and who I am does honesty really mean that little now a days. "
If that is directed to me, you have ignored my well meant suggestions. Best of luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all have to make the best of what we have got although there is always room for improvement - training in gym, whitening teeth, nice hair (if any is left) etc etc. A Mr Average can always improve himself physically and with that more confidence and higher chance of pulling. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you really not met anyone off here since 2010?"
To actually have any meaning full regular meets yes.
I know what to do I have had great results in the past but no luck since then and not for want of trying.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"May be but I'm not shallow, self centered or conceited, I can only show what I am and who I am does honesty really mean that little now a days.
If that is directed to me, you have ignored my well meant suggestions. Best of luck."
No that was nit directed at anyone in its just where the post landed I have no problem with anyone directly that would be a treble thing to say or do and I would never do that.
Sorry if it upset you it was not meant to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"May be but I'm not shallow, self centered or conceited, I can only show what I am and who I am does honesty really mean that little now a days.
If that is directed to me, you have ignored my well meant suggestions. Best of luck.
No that was nit directed at anyone in its just where the post landed I have no problem with anyone directly that would be a treble thing to say or do and I would never do that.
Sorry if it upset you it was not meant to."
100% not upset. My previous suggestions still stand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"May be but I'm not shallow, self centered or conceited, I can only show what I am and who I am does honesty really mean that little now a days.
If that is directed to me, you have ignored my well meant suggestions. Best of luck.
No that was nit directed at anyone in its just where the post landed I have no problem with anyone directly that would be a treble thing to say or do and I would never do that.
Sorry if it upset you it was not meant to.
100% not upset. My previous suggestions still stand."
Ok Brumlove I will read that thank you. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of women are looking for average guys. Being interesting and engaging will go a long way.
You linked your profile so I'm guessing that's asking for thoughts; the type of pictures and lack of proof reading may discourage, as may your accom status. What works for some doesn't work for others though. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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You have been here a long time, so you really should know by now that no reply = no thank you.
Couples and females are inundated with messages unless they apply filters so it’s not rude not to reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just a well thought out Message and be willing to chat for quite a while. If you get chatting with a particular single or couple that you think you might get along with try to focus on getting to know them rather than chatting with dozens at once. Just my opinion but that's what has worked for me. |
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Most people are average, including the men here.
It doesn't matter what the imagined reason! Height, race, cock size etc that men focus on it being, it's generally about getting a lack of response because they are in abundance here and people have preferences and so are able to get good matches fairly easily.
Plus no reply = not interested ATM. It's not disrespect, it's standard Fab practice and clear in the site rules.
If you are doing the best that you can to optimise your success here, then it's about others not finding you matching their needs. All of the usual advice on how to sell yourself well, by having your profile do this well fully apply. Text and pics the best you can. Picking the right people who seem to match in reverse and messaging really well too. It's a numbers game. With thousands of people here, you need to continuously mail many people and forget those who don't reply.
Use offsite tools to help too. Average men get success all the time as many people love meets with them.
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People do need to make a quick decision on who may be attractive and match their requirements, because with a bulging mailbox, if in doubt or it's a no, they'll move on to the next message and rarely go back.
Put yourself in their shoes. What would they need to have to make a quick or instant decision about you or any single man? Is he physically attractive to them, based on how he looks today? is a standard essential element for everyone. Has he the right interests? Has he the personality I'd get on with? These and more are the types of thongs that come to mind - use your empathising skills to work it out.
Your approach and looks from the past may have done well but others have improved in comparison plus thousands of new men may be doing it better now.
We want honesty but different communications about the same thing will create differing results. If you present yourself as others would more ideally prefer, it shows thoughtfulness about them, rather than, for example, presenting things from your perspective.
Lots of different threads with ideas here. You can ask.new things if anything seems an idea but you are uncertain. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh dear, this isn't going well. I'd remove the comment about twiglets, it's unnecessary. You don't have to insult one type of person in order to attract another. "
Noted and removed Keeley xx
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"Oh dear, this isn't going well. I'd remove the comment about twiglets, it's unnecessary. You don't have to insult one type of person in order to attract another.
Noted and removed Keeley xx
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I’m still baffled at the implied criticism of others in your OP for having choices when you’ve stated in your profile that one body type is ‘so much more fun.’ Preferences are one thing but stating one as fact is unnecessary.
Saying that, it speaks volumes about you so really, you should leave it exactly as it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh dear, this isn't going well. I'd remove the comment about twiglets, it's unnecessary. You don't have to insult one type of person in order to attract another.
Noted and removed Keeley xx
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You might have removed the twiglet remark but still imply that only certain sizes are much more fun! Anyone of any size will read this and make assumptions |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh dear, this isn't going well. I'd remove the comment about twiglets, it's unnecessary. You don't have to insult one type of person in order to attract another.
Noted and removed Keeley xx
You might have removed the twiglet remark but still imply that only certain sizes are much more fun! Anyone of any size will read this and make assumptions "
Yeah, it's a pretty shitty attitude |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh dear, this isn't going well. I'd remove the comment about twiglets, it's unnecessary. You don't have to insult one type of person in order to attract another.
Noted and removed Keeley xx
I’m still baffled at the implied criticism of others in your OP for having choices when you’ve stated in your profile that one body type is ‘so much more fun.’ Preferences are one thing but stating one as fact is unnecessary.
Saying that, it speaks volumes about you so really, you should leave it exactly as it is. "
I was trying to not say anything derogatory about any one and maybe add a little humor in being born in the late 60's I grew up with comedy double ontondre (sorry if its spelt incorrectly) rather than the offensive humor of nowadays.
It's like walking on egg shells nowadays to not offend someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, how people look doesn't matter as much as whether they have engaging personality and there is chemistry. Both my partner and my FWB are not the most handsome or toned men, but they took time to get to know me, and we get on great outside of sex, too.
So no, OP, not everyone is looking for "pretty people". However, when things are not working online, it's the easiest to blame it on being fat/ginger/black/not black/dad bod/gym toned or any other quality the person thinks they don't have. Usually, though, the fault lays somewhere totally different. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me, how people look doesn't matter as much as whether they have engaging personality and there is chemistry. Both my partner and my FWB are not the most handsome or toned men, but they took time to get to know me, and we get on great outside of sex, too.
So no, OP, not everyone is looking for "pretty people". However, when things are not working online, it's the easiest to blame it on being fat/ginger/black/not black/dad bod/gym toned or any other quality the person thinks they don't have. Usually, though, the fault lays somewhere totally different. "
Thank you Missdevil
Any way I have removed that now.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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at the end of the day i meet who i want to meet and nobody else has a decision on that you cannot expect someone to meet you when they dont like what they see/feel and to think its all down to looks is a massive mistake most guys i turn down is nearly alway down to there attitude /lack of get up and go / pushiness / abusiveness /lack of profile/ and or porno script message they are told no thanks/blocked way before the pic stage then add in the male to female ratio.
also ill block any guy who feels the need to verbally put ANY size or shape of woman down i get it all the time after ive said no thanks its the well you far too skinny anyway lol durrrr you messaged me durrrr.
signing out yours truly twigglet with a arse
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"at the end of the day i meet who i want to meet and nobody else has a decision on that you cannot expect someone to meet you when they dont like what they see/feel and to think its all down to looks is a massive mistake most guys i turn down is nearly alway down to there attitude /lack of get up and go / pushiness / abusiveness /lack of profile/ and or porno script message they are told no thanks/blocked way before the pic stage then add in the male to female ratio.
also ill block any guy who feels the need to verbally put ANY size or shape of woman down i get it all the time after ive said no thanks its the well you far too skinny anyway lol durrrr you messaged me durrrr.
signing out yours truly twigglet with a arse
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Omg love that! Twiglet with an arse brilliant 
Hopefully won't ignore you  but this twiglet doesn't have an arse |
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