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What’s a good opening message
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m really struggling to understand what a good opening message is, I try the hi, how’s things and then talk about something in the profile (to show I’ve read it) then ask them to take a look at mine as it’s got some important info.
Most of the time I never get a reply, where am I going wrong
Please help ladies x |
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Just send a picture of your cock, next to a sky remote 
In all honesty, not one messages will work with everyone you’re trying to attract. You start with some tasteful pictures and a decent profile text and hope that whatever message you send, will lead them to check out your hard work on your profile |
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I'm no expert but your profile text needs some work.
Too much self deprecation is bound to be off putting and saying you have limited time is just another way of saying hurry up ladies!
If you are going to be honest about being married then just leave it at that and don't try to justify your reasons for being here.
Too much of your profile is about what you want or expect rather than what you have to offer in as positive way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, if there’s nothing in a profile to catch my eye then the message is unlikely to change my mind.
A hi, short sentence that references my profile and a photo is enough
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Just be yourself. There isn't a formula. I'd suggest avoid one liners, attach or link a face pic or pay attention to what the person(s) looking for. Don't cut and paste. Put some thought in. Not everybody is or likes the same. Be true to yourself. |
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I don't send many messages but as a starter
Don't send fancy a fuck, any woman on fab has a default filter of delete for that
Avoid general chit chat such as how are you. The reason it doesn't work is that is something intended for verbal communication where body language is present
Be friendly and go from the profile text
Hope you get some replies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So try:
“Hi, I enjoyed reading your profile, and I particularly liked [add your comment here]...”
Read the profile, try to understand the person. Could be a good start!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here's the deal..
I see another male message amongst the vast amount.
I don't have to open the message to read the first line.
Say it sparks interest. I go into steath mode and look at your profile. Then I go meh!! Nothing to offer me.
Message is deleted or I move into another.
Thats the basic concept.
So regardless of how good your message is. Your profile lets tou down.
Mistress Amelia
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Make it personal so they know you have read their profile, we like a bit of humour and someone who can’t write a sentence saying a little bit about them but it also needs to be backed up by a decent profile. |
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"I’m really struggling to understand what a good opening message is, I try the hi, how’s things and then talk about something in the profile (to show I’ve read it) then ask them to take a look at mine as it’s got some important info.
Most of the time I never get a reply, where am I going wrong
Please help ladies x"
I’m presuming this is just a thread to get you noticed but I’ll play along anyway.
There’s no copy and paste message that is guaranteed to get you a reply.
Just be yourself, keep each reply unique, and always attach a photo, more likely to be read then.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just be yourself. There isn't a formula. I'd suggest avoid one liners, attach or link a face pic or pay attention to what the person(s) looking for. Don't cut and paste. Put some thought in. Not everybody is or likes the same. Be true to yourself. "
this 100% only you know you.. only you know what you want don't become another fab robot be you and don't over think thing as the first message is not to get a meet its to get notice and state an interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner sends all the messages. I trust her with it and she gets a good number of responses. Maybe women respond better to her.
She says that she is just open, honest and friendly.
(Not so friendly when I hog the duvet.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's all about the timing and if it gets read or goes into mass delete.
If it's the latter it could be the best message ever but it goes down as a poor message.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's all about the timing and if it gets read or goes into mass delete.
If it's the latter it could be the best message ever but it goes down as a poor message.... "
So this. It's all about timing and the first line. Guys need to remember anything could be happening on our side of the screen. Even the best message can be binned if we are not in the mood and just cos we are online don't mean we want to meet now. I. D, tend to be up late at night and get so many requests to meet at 3am??? My biggest advice to guys is to look to send messages to people with active statuses as if we are in the mood to meet we will make it clear. Also if writing to a couple don't assume it's the girl writing.. hope this helps |
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"It's all about the timing and if it gets read or goes into mass delete.
If it's the latter it could be the best message ever but it goes down as a poor message....
So this. It's all about timing and the first line. Guys need to remember anything could be happening on our side of the screen. Even the best message can be binned if we are not in the mood and just cos we are online don't mean we want to meet now. I. D, tend to be up late at night and get so many requests to meet at 3am??? My biggest advice to guys is to look to send messages to people with active statuses as if we are in the mood to meet we will make it clear. Also if writing to a couple don't assume it's the girl writing.. hope this helps"
best advice you will get lads |
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