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By *Nm19 OP Couple
over a year ago
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Hi all, we are fairly new to the scene - we dabbled a little some years ago and fancied having another look. Have been to a club a couple of times and chatted with some very nice people. We then enjoyed sex with each other while being watched by others in the same room. We don’t consider ourselves to be of the mindset that we will ever get to a full swap, maybe a little soft play with other partners with the right people but full sex would only be for us together. We do get turned on by watching others and being watched. However the mrs is bi curious has an attraction to women (she has a thing for boobs lol) more than men in this lifestyle (if you want to term it that way) and we have talked about her playing with the female of another couple when all four are together, so guys just watching or playing with their own partners as the girls have fun together should we meet the right couple at a club.
My question to anyone couples reading would be do you or are there couples out there that just do this type of play and enjoy it? What are your experiences of this type of play? And any tips to help us out?
Sorry for the waffling but hopefully you get the gist!
Thanks all. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we go out it’s always different. Sometimes we swap sometimes we just play together but being watched. We never planned that we would over swap and then one night it just happened. Once you separate the sex you have together and the sex when swinging are so very different. |
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By *Nm19 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"When we go out it’s always different. Sometimes we swap sometimes we just play together but being watched. We never planned that we would over swap and then one night it just happened. Once you separate the sex you have together and the sex when swinging are so very different. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re a full swap couple, but we have had messages off other couples who would enjoy us women playing together, with the guys watching, but would rather only have full sex with their own partner.
There are lots of profiles of couples who do that.
Play as you want to play, your bodies, your decision. Hope you continue to enjoy, and find couples who want the same as you- can guarantee you will x Viv xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would also play this way. We have done everything in baby steps. It’s very exciting just to have others there and include them as you feel comfortable in fore play. Do it your way, plenty will  . Good luck! - Mrs |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
We prefer not to play this way. Only because as I the female feel uncomfortable like a circus monkey for the guys pleasure is all.
It's not completely off the table just not our preferred way to play.
But we're the strange couple who's first swinging experience was a full blown orgy haha |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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I'd be happy for this but I wouldn't want to feel I'm there to be a performing monkey and put on a show for the husband. Just my personal take on it. Wish you both good luck |
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I’m sure there’s couples who like this and many only wanted this scenario when they first dipped their toes. After a very short while, once you have trust in each other it just seems natural, and normal, to allow a full foursome. This doesn’t have to be full swap but both couples playing with each partners.
I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all, we are fairly new to the scene - we dabbled a little some years ago and fancied having another look. Have been to a club a couple of times and chatted with some very nice people. We then enjoyed sex with each other while being watched by others in the same room. We don’t consider ourselves to be of the mindset that we will ever get to a full swap, maybe a little soft play with other partners with the right people but full sex would only be for us together. We do get turned on by watching others and being watched. However the mrs is bi curious has an attraction to women (she has a thing for boobs lol) more than men in this lifestyle (if you want to term it that way) and we have talked about her playing with the female of another couple when all four are together, so guys just watching or playing with their own partners as the girls have fun together should we meet the right couple at a club.
My question to anyone couples reading would be do you or are there couples out there that just do this type of play and enjoy it? What are your experiences of this type of play? And any tips to help us out?
Sorry for the waffling but hopefully you get the gist!
Thanks all. X "
We meet this way quite a lot and have regular meetings with FWBs. My interest is primarily girl girl cos that is a side of my sexuality I enjoy. Do soft play guys of couples if there is an attraction or chemistry, but is not a priority as very happy with fella I have.
Happy for guys to watch join in with partners, maybe lend a hand, is not a porn show or entertainment. My pet hate is guys that feel they they need to give a commentary or direction, pretty sure I know what I'm doing lol
Get messages, pre requisite being the guy gets to play, and get abuse from both sides when say no thankyou.
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By *Nm19 OP Couple
over a year ago
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Thanks all for the replies guys, we are completely comfortable with playing just the two of us, watching others and being watched but interested in exploring a little further and as described in the original post this could be something the Mrs may be comfortable with but who knows what will happen when it’s for real lol!!! |
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"I’m sure there’s couples who like this and many only wanted this scenario when they first dipped their toes. After a very short while, once you have trust in each other it just seems natural, and normal, to allow a full foursome. This doesn’t have to be full swap but both couples playing with each partners.
I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well. "
Well that’s helpful and comforting to hear!
Sounds like fun to me, that’s how some people swing and however we all swing is absolutely fine!
Don’t think it translates to underlying distrust or jealousy , it’s personal preference to what turns you on.
Just as long as it’s fun.
That would be a very enjoyable spent evening in our books.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m sure there’s couples who like this and many only wanted this scenario when they first dipped their toes. After a very short while, once you have trust in each other it just seems natural, and normal, to allow a full foursome. This doesn’t have to be full swap but both couples playing with each partners.
I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well. "
This is indicative of the attitudes we come access all the time here. There no distrust and jealousy it is simply I have no interest in having full sex with other guys. I have one that delivers on that side big time so why look else where, enjoy full on intimate sex with other ladies. Guys just can't get that can't handle it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m sure there’s couples who like this and many only wanted this scenario when they first dipped their toes. After a very short while, once you have trust in each other it just seems natural, and normal, to allow a full foursome. This doesn’t have to be full swap but both couples playing with each partners.
I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well.
This is indicative of the attitudes we come access all the time here. There no distrust and jealousy it is simply I have no interest in having full sex with other guys. I have one that delivers on that side big time so why look else where, enjoy full on intimate sex with other ladies. Guys just can't get that can't handle it"
Don’t you fancy being spit roasted? Or maybe 2 cocks in your mouth?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is interesting. Not long on this site. Been finding our way round. We're a fwb couple ideally looking for a woman as he wants me to enjoy breasts too. We'd like to do that together. We also find the idea of being watched having sex a huge turnon. likewise he'd like to watch me on another woman's breasts. We didn't think couples would like idea of not swapping as we dont want sex with anyone else at the moment. Think we need to broaden our profile .. |
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This is exactly how we started. Met a full swap couple who agreed to our boundaries. They were initially a little concerned it would be too restrictive for them but they loved it and found it really hot.
We have progressed to some soft swap and that seems to just connect everyone enough to make a really hot foursome. Just stick to what works for you. |
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"I’m sure there’s couples who like this and many only wanted this scenario when they first dipped their toes. After a very short while, once you have trust in each other it just seems natural, and normal, to allow a full foursome. This doesn’t have to be full swap but both couples playing with each partners.
I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well. "
For us there is absolutely no distrust element and we don't full swap. If there was a lack of trust I'm sure girl on girl and watching each other give/receive oral from the other person would be off the table too.
Full swap holds no interest for us as we know sex with someone else will never be as good as with each other so we are only interested in doing things with others that require that 3rd or 4th person. Such as spitroast, DVP etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We prefer not to play this way. Only because as I the female feel uncomfortable like a circus monkey for the guys pleasure is all.
It's not completely off the table just not our preferred way to play.
But we're the strange couple who's first swinging experience was a full blown orgy haha "
Absolutely this for us, I'm bisexual for me not to put a show on for Mr and he knows and respects that he may have a quick perv but never just sits and watches.
We have swapped just fems in a club, but many times the other guy has tried copping a feel with me although they said strictly fems only which puts us off, so we tend to only meet full swap couples.
We do however go at the other couples pace at ours/their house of they are newbies xx |
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"I’m sure there’s couples who like this and many only wanted this scenario when they first dipped their toes. After a very short while, once you have trust in each other it just seems natural, and normal, to allow a full foursome. This doesn’t have to be full swap but both couples playing with each partners.
I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well.
For us there is absolutely no distrust element and we don't full swap. If there was a lack of trust I'm sure girl on girl and watching each other give/receive oral from the other person would be off the table too.
Full swap holds no interest for us as we know sex with someone else will never be as good as with each other so we are only interested in doing things with others that require that 3rd or 4th person. Such as spitroast, DVP etc."
This is absolutely right, unfortunately many don't get it. We are looking for experiences outside of our relationship that we can't get within. In my case is the FF as I enjoy the dynamic of when two ladies who are into each other. There is no jealousy or distrust it is simply not looking to meet with others for what we are very happy doing ourselves. Home fires burn very brightly. |
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We have found over time that we are more open about what we each want. It can be quite difficult to find couples we both fancy. Often it is the case that one of us really fancies someone, in the past we would not play.
We only Have first meets in Clubs, so we are starting to get comfortable with splitting up as it means if one of us is super horny they can fulfil their needs. As others have said, Fab sex is very different from relationship sex and ‘reclaim’ sex is super sex! |
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"Thanks all for the replies guys, we are completely comfortable with playing just the two of us, watching others and being watched but interested in exploring a little further and as described in the original post this could be something the Mrs may be comfortable with but who knows what will happen when it’s for real lol!!! "
This sums up where we are at the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Us also ...we have been to clubs and enjoyed ...but more intimate meets are our thing ...the build up and making friends you can play with again.....probably better 2nd time around ....... "
Hand under the table in the pub inner thigh mmmmmmmmmmmm all part of it |
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"I’m sure there’s couples who like this and many only wanted this scenario when they first dipped their toes. After a very short while, once you have trust in each other it just seems natural, and normal, to allow a full foursome. This doesn’t have to be full swap but both couples playing with each partners.
I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well. "
We have seen this with couples on the scene,the lady is bi and meets men and women ,but fully admits she doesn't like her partner to play with other women.
That's not healthy in our opinion
I'm not saying that's all couples who only play girl on girl.
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"I’m sure there’s couples who like this and many only wanted this scenario when they first dipped their toes. After a very short while, once you have trust in each other it just seems natural, and normal, to allow a full foursome. This doesn’t have to be full swap but both couples playing with each partners.
I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well.
We have seen this with couples on the scene,the lady is bi and meets men and women ,but fully admits she doesn't like her partner to play with other women.
That's not healthy in our opinion
I'm not saying that's all couples who only play girl on girl.
Miss"
There is no right or wrong way to play or set boundaries. We only do things that interest us and add to our sex life. Lots of couples on here are just looking for sex with someone different.
Girl on girl is something we both enjoy and isn't something we achieve from just our relationship without involving a third. I (jack) have absolutely no interest in fucking a different woman so we don't do it. It's nothing to do with jealousy as there are other things we both enjoy that involve me with another woman.
Each couple have their own kinks and reasons for being on here. |
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By *newbiesCouple
over a year ago
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This is exactly how we play and although it narrows the market down we have had some very enjoyable meets.
All 4 can still play and have plenty of fun it's just about finding the right couples |
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OP, you sound very much like us! Our club nights are mostly being watched and watching. If we do involve others then it's been very soft, mostly girly kissing and stroking or Steph wanking guys.
It's very much not everyone's idea of a good time but we love it! |
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We met a couple at a club, discussed full swap but when it came down to it, it was just for the lady of the other couple to play with me and not involve the guys, complete lies and very difficult to walk away when play had started.....  |
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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago
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We only play with women, because I (Gem) don't feel attracted to guys other than my husband right now. We've been to clubs and either played only with each other, both of us with a lady, or we meet a couple we click with and me and the lady will play while the guys watch and then we play near each other with our own partners.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the “girls playing with partners only with their own” shows signs of no trust and jealousy which isn’t ever going to work out well.
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A lot of guys insist on being part of the action and them getting to fuck me is part of the deal. We are very happy in our relationship and do no need for have sex with others and certainly not as prerequisite for a meeting.
There is no jealousy or trust issue, people keep saying that in these forums, like there has to be something wrong. OMG a couple on FAB who enjoy having sex with each other, OMG what is the world coming to 
The point is that i enjoy girl girl pure and simply, why do I need to have sex with other guys, very happy with the one I have.
Doesn't mean we don't enjoy with another couple (soft play) from time to time as long as the female is genuinely bi and in it for herself.
If you're a couple, why to you need to go outside of a relationship just to do what you can do in the relationship?
Each to their own!!
Do get tired of people making assumptions and judgements on others based on a narrow viewpoint.
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The best was me fucking my partner whilst she had the other guy in her mouth, and the other woman squeezing my balls for all she was worth!
Wonderful! 
