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over a year ago
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Hi we are relatively new to this
Have found a guy for mmf threesones and have met regularly I feel confident around him and am pretty happy to keep him as a regular as we get on really well, my husband disagrees and believes we should not settle for the first person we meet and should try to meet a few others aswell,I’m not sure I want to have sex with multiple men as only ever been with my husband before all of this. we are not sure on how all this works yet.
From your experiences what have you found works best for you
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi we are relatively new to this
Have found a guy for mmf threesones and have met regularly I feel confident around him and am pretty happy to keep him as a regular as we get on really well, my husband disagrees and believes we should not settle for the first person we meet and should try to meet a few others aswell,I’m not sure I want to have sex with multiple men as only ever been with my husband before all of this. we are not sure on how all this works yet.
From your experiences what have you found works best for you
Thanks "
I dont have any experience with this but all I can say is you both need to feel comfortable with who you are inviting in to the bedroom.
If you're not sure you want to have sex with different men then dont. once you're both more experienced and with time you may change your mind.
You could maybe chat to other guys see what you think but dont feel like you have to. Someone else might come along that you both think would be a good match. Who knows.
Sorry its probably not what you were hoping for and hopefully someone will come along soon and give you some better advice. |
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I wish we could find a couple of regulars. I (fem - but my hubby would agree) understand your husbands concerns about ony having one guy due to risk of emotional attachment so I think you should get 2 or 3. Just enough that your not meeting the same one too often but not so many you feel like you are sleeping around. That would be my ideal. 3 guys or couples (or mix of guys and couples) whom we could see maybe once a month in rotation so only see each one every 3 months or so. |
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Thankyou for your reply, yes we are keen to meet a couple and or a woman for fun too so we could meet different scenarios of people too so each meet offers something different with a different setup |
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It's not about what works for other people but what works for you. If neither of you are happy with how the other wants to do things then you're best not doing it at all.
That sounds harsh but your relationship is far more important than swinging |
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"I wish we could find a couple of regulars. I (fem - but my hubby would agree) understand your husbands concerns about ony having one guy due to risk of emotional attachment so I think you should get 2 or 3. Just enough that your not meeting the same one too often but not so many you feel like you are sleeping around. That would be my ideal. 3 guys or couples (or mix of guys and couples) whom we could see maybe once a month in rotation so only see each one every 3 months or so. "
I agree, too much of one person ( although it can work) does lead to hubby feeling a little threatened, as it is relationship forming. |
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