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By *llenGT OP Woman
over a year ago
East/West Mids |
Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. |
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"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
Keep going to the clubs , and have fun xx
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Maybe contact your old fb and ask him how he feels about you still going to the same club.
If there’s a problem try another club, there’s plenty. Try going as a single gal. Most seem to have more fun on their own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Find a new fb or even two and go to the same clubs and show him what he’s missing because looking at your pictures you’re gorgeous babe and any guy would be lucky to have you xxxx |
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"Maybe contact your old fb and ask him how he feels about you still going to the same club.
If there’s a problem try another club, there’s plenty. Try going as a single gal. Most seem to have more fun on their own "
Why ask him ? its nothing to do with him if he is not her fb anymore |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
If they'll be swinging and you were only FBs - why keep you as a secret? Sooner or later all three of you may bump into each other and someone else who knew you as a couple in the swinging scene. It doesn't sound right if FB gets into relationship then you have to stop enjoying the same club. |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
Wigan |
Find a new fb if you want one, you won't have any trouble at all finding one..
Then please yourself where and when you go out.
It's your life if you bump into your old fb then that's his hard luck
Enjoy yourself ?? x |
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Carry on going to the clubs, don't forget that single ladies are welcome any night of the week that the club is open.
Try coming along to the pimps and Ho's night in November at Libs, you are welcome to join us xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you enjoy the clubs you go to if so still Go.
It's always hard when there are changes like that but in the long run if you love the lifestyle no one should make you feel that you can not go and enjoy yourself and make new friends and have fun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your situation is hardly in the spirit of swinging, people have fun, maybe get together as FB’s, then maybe move on, all parties should be cool with it, no jealousy, no involvement, no pettiness, from either side
OP, move on, do your own thing, no looking back and no regrets, you had fun and there is more to come, no doubt  |
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"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
Ok the most important thing is how you will feel going to the same club if he is there with his new gf
Remember there is the potential you may see them having sex
Don’t put yourself through that if it might upset you
If you are cool with it then make yourself look hotter than the sun , strut in and bask in the attention you will undoubtedly receive as a single female
Go enjoy yourself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
Come and have a drink with me and A, he will be forgotten about in around 6 mins lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe contact your old fb and ask him how he feels about you still going to the same club.
If there’s a problem try another club, there’s plenty. Try going as a single gal. Most seem to have more fun on their own Why ask him ? its nothing to do with him if he is not her fb anymore"
Just what I was about to say
And...if he does have a problem with it...let HIM go find another club with his new FB |
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"Find a new fb if you want one, you won't have any trouble at all finding one..
Then please yourself where and when you go out.
It's your life if you bump into your old fb then that's his hard luck
Enjoy yourself ?? x"
definitely this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think as a unicorn you will be inundated with offers, obviously dependant on the club but I'd say the one your more likely to attend would be safe and welcoming and you wouldnt be alone for very long , you are in this scene because you enjoy it, his loss is someone elses gain now go and show him what hes missing ....you look amazing , enjoy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
If you’re comfortable still going to the same places as them I’d say do what makes you happy  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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If you were only fb's with no ties it shouldn't affect where you go or what you do. I'm assuming that he didn't have the gf secretly when he was with you, that would be the only reason for him not wanting her to know if that's the case? Carry on doing what you doing, nothing to do with either of them, who knows, you might meet someone yourself, good luck. X |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Sounds as if you like your FB and possibly have feelings for him. Over the years I’ve had several FBs who have found partners and yes I had feelings for a couple of them.
It’s not easy being the single female going to a club or even meeting new people. If you have other Fab friends why not meet them at a club and at least you won’t be on your own.
Your FBs girlfriend will find out about you eventually and he should do the decent thing and introduce you to each other. You’ll either get on with her or you won’t.
There’s no reason why he shouldn’t have an open relationship or discuss having a polyamorous relationship - having partners that know about each other. Relationships should be more flexible. Life is too short for monogamy. |
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"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
Try a new club and find a new fb. Chams in Darlastons great and nice people. Id be happy to show you around  |
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"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
A single lady will always be welcomed to any club, if you have the confidence, I’d say carry on going, just mingle and chat and you’ll soon develop a circle of friends willing to take you under their wings.
You have as much right to visit your usual club as he does, you never know, you may end up playing with your former fb and his new lady. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
Would he be a friend without benefits now, so still a friend. Thought FB was no relationship so going to same club shouldn't be a problem we would have thought. Maybe if you had both been in a relationship it could be different but as FB's maybe not. If we had friends with benefits and they didn't want to play anymore we'd still speak and go to same clubs. Just go out and enjoy life OP and wherever your journey takes you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would he be a friend without benefits now, so still a friend. Thought FB was no relationship so going to same club shouldn't be a problem we would have thought. Maybe if you had both been in a relationship it could be different but as FB's maybe not. If we had friends with benefits and they didn't want to play anymore we'd still speak and go to same clubs. Just go out and enjoy life OP and wherever your journey takes you "
Go do what ya wanna do and deal with it as it comes. Never know you might end up having a good time with both of them |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Carry on enjoying yourself going wherever you want to go by yourself unless you happen to meet the right person to go with you. smile, say hello and carry on.
You have every right to go wherever you want to go and have a great time. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
Did you use the club as a single before him?
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It is a trick one. Would you be comfortable on seeing him with his new girlfriend? Or would he be ok seeing you with another man? I guess it will depend on what type of relationship you have with him now. If you both moved on I see no issue but in case one or you both did not it could be a disturbing event.
I can tell from personal experience. Having said that I am sure you will have no problems to find a new partner in crime. Relax and enjoy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Risky question but I need another perspective. So, my FB has a new girlfriend. They will be swinging, and using the club we used as a couple. She knows nothing about me. Do I find a new FB? Different clubs? Give up? I hardly got started but know I prefer clubs to meeting men in hotels. "
just go with your hart an do what’s best for you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do what you feel comfortable in yourself with. Too many giving advice that they would do and as you seen very opposed advice.
Some can cope with seeing a FB with another and gave no issues with it, some couldn't, but you're you and you know yourself best.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do what you feel comfortable in yourself with. Too many giving advice that they would do and as you seen very opposed advice.
Some can cope with seeing a FB with another and gave no issues with it, some couldn't, but you're you and you know yourself best.
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Best advice ^^^ just give yourself time and a little care before pulling your big girls pants on and kicking life up the arse ... |
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"Do what you feel comfortable in yourself with. Too many giving advice that they would do and as you seen very opposed advice.
Some can cope with seeing a FB with another and gave no issues with it, some couldn't, but you're you and you know yourself best.
Just 'do you' - whatever your comfortable with! It's never easy after a break up, so be kind to yourself, get back on the horse so to speak once your ready!
Best advice ^^^ just give yourself time and a little care before pulling your big girls pants on and kicking life up the arse ... "
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"Carry on regardless 
Definitely this "
Yep, how they deal with things is their problem, not yours. It's your fb who has changed the dynamic not you, why should you have to change to suit your fb? Anyway in theory as we're all adults on the scene there really shouldn't be any problems. |
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