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By *dquest OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
So, heading to our first house party on Saturday. We met the hosts for a social a while back but don't know any of the other couples. From their fab verifications, all the other couples know each other quite well. We will be the newbies in more ways than one!
Questions to fab land:
1. How do these things usually go?
2. What leads from happy social to play?
3. Any pitfalls we should avoid?
Any advice would be helpful! |
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we went to a house party under those circumstances.
I don't know if there's a usual way that these things go.
At the one we went to two women started to play with each other and others just joined in.
Pitfalls in our case were the other couples made it pretty clear we weren't in their gang. If you aren't others cup of tea or vice versa it can be awkward.
My advice would be to go along, go with the flow and enjoy the experience. If you find it isn't what you hoped or you're not feeling it make your excuses and leave  |
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By *dquest OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"we went to a house party under those circumstances.
I don't know if there's a usual way that these things go.
At the one we went to two women started to play with each other and others just joined in.
Pitfalls in our case were the other couples made it pretty clear we weren't in their gang. If you aren't others cup of tea or vice versa it can be awkward.
My advice would be to go along, go with the flow and enjoy the experience. If you find it isn't what you hoped or you're not feeling it make your excuses and leave "
That sounds like good advice! |
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We’ve hosted a couple of parties plus been to a few. Even at parties where some of the guests are lovely but just not our cup of tea to play with, you’ll find you’ll naturally gravitate to people you warm to and end up playing with them.
I’ve only been to one where there were 3 couples who knew each other and were really cliquey. I just left them to it as I’d rather not get involved with people like that anyway. There were others there who were much more accommodating and I had a great time.
I always say, worst case scenario you have sex with your other half! I’m sure you’ll have a great time and it’s always fun meeting new people even if all you do is chat and swap stories x |
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Our first house party was like a normal party - spent time chatting and having a laugh with lots of people. When we clicked with a couple we went into a bedroom and played.
At worst think of it as a normal party and mingle, hopefully you will get to play too but think of it as an added bonus and you won’t be disappointed
Enjoy! |
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By *dquest OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"We’ve hosted a couple of parties plus been to a few. Even at parties where some of the guests are lovely but just not our cup of tea to play with, you’ll find you’ll naturally gravitate to people you warm to and end up playing with them.
I’ve only been to one where there were 3 couples who knew each other and were really cliquey. I just left them to it as I’d rather not get involved with people like that anyway. There were others there who were much more accommodating and I had a great time.
I always say, worst case scenario you have sex with your other half! I’m sure you’ll have a great time and it’s always fun meeting new people even if all you do is chat and swap stories x "
Thanks so much for the reassuring words! |
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By *dquest OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Our first house party was like a normal party - spent time chatting and having a laugh with lots of people. When we clicked with a couple we went into a bedroom and played.
At worst think of it as a normal party and mingle, hopefully you will get to play too but think of it as an added bonus and you won’t be disappointed
Enjoy!"
Will keep our expectations low and be happily surprised if we click with another couple. |
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By *dquest OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"You’ll have to let us know how it goes! "
Fair enough. If this thread is still around, we will update by Sunday afternoon. If not, message us and we promise to let you know how it went. |
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over a year ago
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Go with the flow, with no expectations, you have met the hosts , they invited you & obviously feel you will fit in & gel with their other guests.
As you know who is going you could send them a friendly message them in advance |
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By *dquest OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Go with the flow, with no expectations, you have met the hosts , they invited you & obviously feel you will fit in & gel with their other guests.
As you know who is going you could send them a friendly message them in advance "
Thanks have sent out messages now! |
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By *dquest OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Discuss beforehand with each other any limits etc and then go with an open mind without too many expectations and see how it goes.
Probably best to go easy on any booze too."
Our main limit is we don't play apart. Seem by profiles that everyone else at the party are happy to play apart. Hmm... |
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You always get the clique's no matter where you go. It's almost like the school playground with all the cliquey mum's.
When we went to our first house party, we went along with no assumptions and no intention to play. It took us a while to actually feel comfortable playing at parties.
For us, it's people we feel comfortable with that make all the difference. If something feels right, go with it.
I find just chatting to people helps me to relax.
I hope you have a great time. |
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By *hynot3Man
over a year ago
Middlesbrough |
"So, heading to our first house party on Saturday. We met the hosts for a social a while back but don't know any of the other couples. From their fab verifications, all the other couples know each other quite well. We will be the newbies in more ways than one!
Questions to fab land:
1. How do these things usually go?
2. What leads from happy social to play?
3. Any pitfalls we should avoid?
Would be interested to find out how it went....myself and a female friend have been invited to one next week....we haven’t accepted yet we know mixture of males/females and couples going....good luck
Any advice would be helpful!"
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
We would suggest if there is a guest list of who is going to read their profiles and any that you like the sound of drop them a message to say hi before arriving, get some conversation going that way you won’t feel nervous on arriving thinking you don’t know anybody. Just enjoy the experience, all are different, it could be you don’t play on the night but meet people that you would like to meet up with in the future. Go have fun x |
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By *dquest OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Ok, so messaged the three couples prior to the event as advised by you lot. That did help quite a bit.
We arrived ~15 min after the start time and were surprised to be one of the last to arrive. That's not at all like a vanilla party!
We came with gifts in hand (bottle of wine, thank you card and so forth) which was greatly appreciated but didn't seem to be the norm.
There were enough seats in their lounge for everyone and we all, spontaneously, ended up next to other people than our spouses. There was a bit of banter and drinks with lite snacks before the host introduced a game leading to all the men getting a chance to kiss all the women. This turned steamy rapidly, especially after one of the ladies excused herself and came back wearing next to nothing.
We all retired upstairs together where out hosts had a big room with two large play beds and, thankfully, an air conditioner to keep the heat to a manageable level.
What more can I add besides that all the men got to play with all the women (and some of the women with women) and thatvthe group play, with all the amazing variations, continued on and off from about 8:30 PM to 1:00 AM.
After the last man standing gave his last gasp, we adjourned to the dining room where we enjoyed a wondrous array of snacks, drinks and laughs until about 2:30 AM.
Brilliant night! Great hosts, very good looking and compatible guests... wow!
Pardon the grammar and spelling... very sleepy |
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