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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
Better that, than to give single guys false hope ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
Can you block all single women and couples? If not then I agree, it is a bit one sided |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
Can't you block couples? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
How so? You can also look at their profile. Why would you want to waste time messaging people who aren't interested in you anyway? |
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I get a bit irked when someones profile says no single guys or no white guys and then they mKe multiple trips to view me. There is obvious interest as they make multiple trips. Totally their choice of course but seems a bit odd they would bother looking up single guys on searches if they dont want to interact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
If people aren't interested, then they aren't losing out. I'd suggest you let it go and focus on those who are interested in people around your age. |
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By *h86Man
over a year ago
Glos |
"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
No you just sound creepy, and like they owe you a favour. Just because you want it doesnt mean you can have it. Make it clear what you have to offer and let others decide if they want it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tough luck. If they don't want to be contacted by single men then why would you feel you want to message them
Being a year out of a couples age range....now that's cruel ha ha |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
You're not missing out if you don't want it.
What a bizarre statement!
I don't want you to take my photo (no offence meant, I just don't) so therefore I'm not losing out!
This entire post screams white male privilege. The fact is if someone isn't interested in talking to someone else then they don't have to. Just like you don't have to talk to people you don't want to interact with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get a bit irked when someones profile says no single guys or no white guys and then they mKe multiple trips to view me. There is obvious interest as they make multiple trips. Totally their choice of course but seems a bit odd they would bother looking up single guys on searches if they dont want to interact."
People look at profiles for all sorts of reasons
It doesn't mean they want your penis |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
I'm not interested in having my picture taken by you so I'm not missing out on anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This whole post is part of reason it's sooo difficult on here as a single guy. I'm not trying to be Mr nice guy but just f****n have some respect and accept certain things |
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I dont think its 1 sided. We have single guys blocked as we arent looking for single guys.
As an experiment, I asked MrD if we could unblock single guys for 24hrs to see what happens.
Got ridiculous 'hey babe wanna fuck' messages and the rest. We changed our settings back the next day.
Everyone can block whomever they want. Called free will.
MsD |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont think its 1 sided. We have single guys blocked as we arent looking for single guys.
As an experiment, I asked MrD if we could unblock single guys for 24hrs to see what happens.
Got ridiculous 'hey babe wanna fuck' messages and the rest. We changed our settings back the next day.
Everyone can block whomever they want. Called free will.
MsD"
Sorry you attracted the arseholes |
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By *edGMan
over a year ago
Daventry |
Personally I think everyone should be able to block whatever they want and should actually do so. It would save everyone a lot of time sending and receiving messages that will never lead to anything. |
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
Naughty people aren’t they? |
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Couples and single females can get inundated with messages from single males, a large percentage of which would be pointless questions asking how they are or cock pictures that they haven’t asked for. After a few days of receiving enough messages to fill their mailbox followed by follow up messages asking why have you deleted my message and don’t you wanna see more of my cock and don’t you wanna talk chick? It gets monotonous so the easiest thing to do is block single males then look for them yourself. |
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"I dont think its 1 sided. We have single guys blocked as we arent looking for single guys.
As an experiment, I asked MrD if we could unblock single guys for 24hrs to see what happens.
Got ridiculous 'hey babe wanna fuck' messages and the rest. We changed our settings back the next day.
Everyone can block whomever they want. Called free will.
MsD
Sorry you attracted the arseholes"
Not all were. Mixed bag. Some guys were very polite and respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As an experiment, I asked MrD if we could unblock single guys for 24hrs to see what happens.
Got ridiculous 'hey babe wanna fuck' messages and the rest. We changed our settings back the next day.
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Not all were. Mixed bag. Some guys were very polite and respectful. "
All this flaming in this thread.....why is it always the case here ? These forums seem to get so toxic half the time when it comes to talking about single guys "whinging" -- it is pretty dreadful.....
For my 2 cents worth:
There are several problems - and unfortunately, because we are using a fantastic *FREE* platform, they have to make some money and have some "premium" features - unfortunately, seeing previous messages and other similarly helpful things as to whether you have messaged before or the type of "supporter" you need to be to message someone...
Maybe what we actually need is a feature that is fairly cheap to add and maybe if enough of us suggest the same feature it will be added.
How about a segregated in-box.....so, for each user type (single guy, couple, single girl, etc) there is a tab on the mailbox - but a removal of the feature that stops people being allowed to send messages to someone....
A premium feature could be a filtered mailbox - so, you see in your main inbox just the ones that fit your filters - e.g. male, couple between 25-50 and based within 40miles.... and the rest in a different tab....
Nothing will ever be perfect, but at least people wont be frustrated by not being able to message someone.....
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"Wow that’s opened up a hornets nest.... lots of posturing and self righteousness.... I’m just saying.....lol "
I disagree with everything you’ve written here, which makes it simpler 
It hasn’t opened up a hornets’ nest at all, it’s just got some people you blamed giving you honest, assertive replies. Maybe you aren’t great with people who disagree with you?
I don’t see any posturing either; it’s people telling you truthfully and without malice why it’s like it is.
Self righteousness? No, it’s really people being able to choose. Is that ok to do that, or should you be the judge of what other people are able to do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As an experiment, I asked MrD if we could unblock single guys for 24hrs to see what happens.
Got ridiculous 'hey babe wanna fuck' messages and the rest. We changed our settings back the next day.
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Not all were. Mixed bag. Some guys were very polite and respectful.
All this flaming in this thread.....why is it always the case here ? These forums seem to get so toxic half the time when it comes to talking about single guys "whinging" -- it is pretty dreadful.....
For my 2 cents worth:
There are several problems - and unfortunately, because we are using a fantastic *FREE* platform, they have to make some money and have some "premium" features - unfortunately, seeing previous messages and other similarly helpful things as to whether you have messaged before or the type of "supporter" you need to be to message someone...
Maybe what we actually need is a feature that is fairly cheap to add and maybe if enough of us suggest the same feature it will be added.
How about a segregated in-box.....so, for each user type (single guy, couple, single girl, etc) there is a tab on the mailbox - but a removal of the feature that stops people being allowed to send messages to someone....
A premium feature could be a filtered mailbox - so, you see in your main inbox just the ones that fit your filters - e.g. male, couple between 25-50 and based within 40miles.... and the rest in a different tab....
Nothing will ever be perfect, but at least people wont be frustrated by not being able to message someone.....
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Or folk could just get over themselves when they can't penetrate someone's inbox |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or folk could just get over themselves when they can't penetrate someone's inbox
See what I mean about flaming? Well proven!"
Simple solutions are often the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
Just like you have blocked single guys from messaging you?
That is so frustrating  |
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
They obviously do this as they do not wish you to contact them. |
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
If you're looking for people interested in having their photos taken, log a search for people who list on their profiles exactly this, I'm sure there are plenty!
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?
Just like you have blocked single guys from messaging you?
That is so frustrating "
He'll let you take his photo for free. As long as you don't want sex as payment! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
In my opinion you can alter your settings to choose who contacts you, but if someone states no single guys then why try and contact them. They have expressed who and what they are looking for and that is their choice and should be respected... |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Or folk could just get over themselves when they can't penetrate someone's inbox
See what I mean about flaming? Well proven!"
That's not flaming at all. It is simply about ego, people getting pissy because they think they have an automatic right to message someone that isn't interested in them.
Filters are there for that reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
Even though you are really?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I imagine it’s because they don’t want to hear from single guys. They are dreadful on here so don’t blame them. "
with the dozens of times i've had my time wasted by couples and single females over the years then they too can be just as bad only it often seems different rules and acceptable for them to do so yet all the time on the forums it seems to be just single guys that get stick |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"I imagine it’s because they don’t want to hear from single guys. They are dreadful on here so don’t blame them.
with the dozens of times i've had my time wasted by couples and single females over the years then they too can be just as bad only it often seems different rules and acceptable for them to do so yet all the time on the forums it seems to be just single guys that get stick"
Because single women don't start threads complaining that men block them. Your point is valid, there will be bad people in all groups but if someone starts a thread about it then that's the focus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I imagine it’s because they don’t want to hear from single guys. They are dreadful on here so don’t blame them.
with the dozens of times i've had my time wasted by couples and single females over the years then they too can be just as bad only it often seems different rules and acceptable for them to do so yet all the time on the forums it seems to be just single guys that get stick
Because single women don't start threads complaining that men block them. Your point is valid, there will be bad people in all groups but if someone starts a thread about it then that's the focus."
no problem with the thread and completely agree that if others dont want to be contacted by single guys then that is their choice and should be repected.i simply thought that it was a cheap shot by somebody on here to just tarnish single guys with the same brush thats all |
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
Surely if they want professional standard photos taking they will contact a photographer, maybe someone they already know and trust rather than a stranger off a Swinger's website? Or just search for a local photographer? Or they could start a thread on here asking for photographers to which you could respond without wasting your time or theirs. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"I imagine it’s because they don’t want to hear from single guys. They are dreadful on here so don’t blame them.
with the dozens of times i've had my time wasted by couples and single females over the years then they too can be just as bad only it often seems different rules and acceptable for them to do so yet all the time on the forums it seems to be just single guys that get stick
Because single women don't start threads complaining that men block them. Your point is valid, there will be bad people in all groups but if someone starts a thread about it then that's the focus.
no problem with the thread and completely agree that if others dont want to be contacted by single guys then that is their choice and should be repected.i simply thought that it was a cheap shot by somebody on here to just tarnish single guys with the same brush thats all"
Don't worry most of us have a bell end filter  (you probably do too) |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I imagine it’s because they don’t want to hear from single guys. They are dreadful on here so don’t blame them.
with the dozens of times i've had my time wasted by couples and single females over the years then they too can be just as bad only it often seems different rules and acceptable for them to do so yet all the time on the forums it seems to be just single guys that get stick
Because single women don't start threads complaining that men block them. Your point is valid, there will be bad people in all groups but if someone starts a thread about it then that's the focus.
no problem with the thread and completely agree that if others dont want to be contacted by single guys then that is their choice and should be repected.i simply thought that it was a cheap shot by somebody on here to just tarnish single guys with the same brush thats all"
I agree, it was a cheap shot, there are plenty of lovely guys on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
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OP, It could just be that they don't want to be flooded with messages from single guys; which they will be as soon as they remove the filter.
If they are interested and message you, you can then reply to them. |
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag...
Even though you are really? "
I'm glad someone else thought this.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, It could just be that they don't want to be flooded with messages from single guys; which they will be as soon as they remove the filter.
If they are interested and message you, you can then reply to them."
Exactly this |
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Someone said to me that it’s best to just move on and don’t worry about them. There’s nothing you do about it and it’s best to just find someone else. There’s women I like and wish to talk to but they’re age preference is higher than me but that’s their choice at the end of the day. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Well at least couples are looking at my profile now...... who knows someone may be interested in what I have to offer..... lol"
I doubt it, you haven't shown yourself in the best light on this thread. |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
That's the way it goes, everyone has their preferences |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Well at least couples are looking at my profile now...... who knows someone may be interested in what I have to offer..... lol
Are you 44 or 50? "
The 44 thing was a dig at me because that's my upper age limit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
Up to them, everyone has a preference. Just shrug your shoulders and think “they don’t know what they’re missing” and move on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well at least couples are looking at my profile now...... who knows someone may be interested in what I have to offer..... lol
Are you 44 or 50?
The 44 thing was a dig at me because that's my upper age limit. "
Ah, |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Well at least couples are looking at my profile now...... who knows someone may be interested in what I have to offer..... lol"
maybe.... maybe not.... probably maybe not....
i am a fan of the saying "you only get one chance to make a great first impression!!"
so if someone didn't know you before this... and started reading... what do you think they would be thinking...
"spoilt" and "entitled" spring to mind.... sorry....
you are not owed anything for being here... and why concentrate of those who dont want you, rather than focusing and putting your best self forward to those who do!
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
No, it's not one sided at all.
It comes down to each person's choice.
Anyone may choose to view any profile, but with whom they wish to start any dialogue is their choice too!
For many Females and Couples, they could repeat the phrase, NO SINGLE MALES 1000 times in their profile, yet the Muppet Single Males will ignore that request and message anyway!
EG. A lady I know naively put up that very simple note on her profile when she joined a few years ago. Despite that request, she still had over 400 messages from Single Males.
Then when she read through a lot, most lacked any finesse. Others were rude and obnoxious. When she didn't reply, the "troll elements" emerged and she was subjected to more hassle!
She changed her filters to stop such insulting behaviour, problem solved.
OP. Don't take it personally as a slight against you.
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
Just because you can’t contact them isn’t it nice that you can still get to see their sexy pics ? And obv you must enjoy them if you fab them too
Rem_mber they might block single guys so they can carefully find them theirselves rather than trawling through messages and if you fabbed them they might notice and message you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well at least couples are looking at my profile now...... who knows someone may be interested in what I have to offer..... lol"
Sorry but offering to take pictures is just creepy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We just aren’t interested in single men at all as some aren’t interested in couples,
We didn’t have the block on when we first opened the account and found ourselves sending out no thank yous daily when our profile clearly states what we are looking for,
We don’t get any satisfaction out of sending these out and some asked for explanations so we thought it best to narrow it down to those we may be interested in trying to connect with which is the whole point of this feature,
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"I imagine it’s because they don’t want to hear from single guys. They are dreadful on here so don’t blame them. "
Quite a sweeping statement.
Not all single guys are dreadful.
I've been called many things, but not dreadful.
Granted, there are a lot. But not all. |
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"Well at least couples are looking at my profile now...... who knows someone may be interested in what I have to offer..... lol
Sorry but offering to take pictures is just creepy. "
Yeah, that strange if you want to do advertising for a photography, heres not a best place to do it. Better off doing it on Facebook, gumtree etc. Not here |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Yet again someone moaning about how other people *choose* to run their profiles - people set filters for a reason OP - what that reason is may vary but it's *their* reason and that is all you need to know - no point moaning about it or calling foul.
They might have looked at your profile because they were thinking about messaging you themselves - again their choice as to how they run *their* profile.
Like many things on here - there's nothing you can do to change it - so you have to accept it and move on and find a profile that *does* match what you are looking for - it really is that simple.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I imagine it’s because they don’t want to hear from single guys. They are dreadful on here so don’t blame them.
Quite a sweeping statement.
Not all single guys are dreadful.
I've been called many things, but not dreadful.
Granted, there are a lot. But not all."
We have to agree with this,
There seem to be some sound guys on the forums where we are happy to chat,
Just our interests are in meeting with couples so makes it easier for us both to speak with who we want to on private message,
I’m sure everyone has some form of filter on, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?
Up to them, everyone has a preference. Just shrug your shoulders and think “they don’t know what they’re missing” and move on.
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Or, create a forum thread to highlight your woes and hope everyone feels sorry for you and offers you a sympathy shag anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
not really why not block couples show em whos boss |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
We're not against single guys, we actual want to meet up with them.
However the absolutely vile and disgusting messages we get from single men mean we've blocked them from messaging us.
Honestly, if it was possible we'd send the messages to their mothers and work places, how they think it's acceptable is beyond us. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?
Up to them, everyone has a preference. Just shrug your shoulders and think “they don’t know what they’re missing” and move on.
Or, create a forum thread to highlight your woes and hope everyone feels sorry for you and offers you a sympathy shag anyway? "
Don't be silly, he doesn't want a shag, he just wants to take pics of younger women. |
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
I have heard a lot of single men block other men
It must be challenging OP?
Beyond that what nonsense are you whingeing about ? People who dont want you to message them have had to put a block in place because they know if they did not people like you would fucking message them
Which bit of the obvious does the OP not compute???
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?
How so? You can also look at their profile. Why would you want to waste time messaging people who aren't interested in you anyway?"
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?
Can you block all single women and couples? If not then I agree, it is a bit one sided "
You can block anyone you want, sometimes I take a break and block everyone so I can keep my profile open and stay in touch with my friends. And to the OP, it just means they want to do their own searching. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Wow that’s opened up a hornets nest.... lots of posturing and self righteousness.... I’m just saying.....lol
I disagree with everything you’ve written here, which makes it simpler
It hasn’t opened up a hornets’ nest at all, it’s just got some people you blamed giving you honest, assertive replies. Maybe you aren’t great with people who disagree with you?
I don’t see any posturing either; it’s people telling you truthfully and without malice why it’s like it is.
Self righteousness? No, it’s really people being able to choose. Is that ok to do that, or should you be the judge of what other people are able to do?"
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
I have looked at those verifications.
Strangely none of them seem to have what I would consider professional photos on their profiles. |
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?
Can't you block couples? "
Yes you can you can block any type |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?
Just like you have blocked single guys from messaging you?
That is so frustrating "
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
There to save both of you wasting, each other’s time. It says on profile not interested duh |
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"How does it look though if you're messaging people telling them you'll take their photos for free. It sounds creepy.
What's in it for you? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Self actualisation comes in the form of realising as a single man on a swinging site you are ten a penny and at the mercy of couples and single females. They are the essential players in this game, without them it’s just a bunch of horny blokes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tried an experiment to open the profile up to men. So far it’s been a mistake. Not a single one has tried to seduce. Just ‘ can we have sex after lockdown’
If that’s your messages guys no wonder so many get deleted. |
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By *h86Man
over a year ago
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"Tried an experiment to open the profile up to men. So far it’s been a mistake. Not a single one has tried to seduce. Just ‘ can we have sex after lockdown’
If that’s your messages guys no wonder so many get deleted. "
A symptom of the lockdown, isolation and barely any form of release has turned a lot of men into dribbling wrecks who are probably typing one handed while looking at your photo.
To be fair this is probably the norm anyway but its heightened by the current situation. Maybe things will get better soon?
*In b4 not all men* you know what I mean! |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Tried an experiment to open the profile up to men. So far it’s been a mistake. Not a single one has tried to seduce. Just ‘ can we have sex after lockdown’
If that’s your messages guys no wonder so many get deleted. "
Most messages from couples are just as bad. It even says on my profile that I'm not interested in playing with couples, they still message. |
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over a year ago
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"Tried an experiment to open the profile up to men. So far it’s been a mistake. Not a single one has tried to seduce. Just ‘ can we have sex after lockdown’
If that’s your messages guys no wonder so many get deleted. "
Did they say they would be discreet?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?
Can't you block couples? "
Can block them from contacting you by taking them off your preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
There are dozens, if not hundreds, of supposedly decent photographers on here so no-one will miss out for long if they want photos taken by a random stranger
It is as common an occupation as pilot, something involving a “uniform” and something that’s too high profile for them to possibly say |
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"Tried an experiment to open the profile up to men. So far it’s been a mistake. Not a single one has tried to seduce. Just ‘ can we have sex after lockdown’
If that’s your messages guys no wonder so many get deleted.
Did they say they would be discreet? "
I would have hoped to buck a terrible trend, had I spotted the opportunity earlier . But you doubtless think I’m Too old. Or ugly. Or olgly.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Tried an experiment to open the profile up to men. So far it’s been a mistake. Not a single one has tried to seduce. Just ‘ can we have sex after lockdown’
If that’s your messages guys no wonder so many get deleted.
Did they say they would be discreet? "
Messages containing that word are instantly deleted from my inbox as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
They probably block single guys to stop potentially hundreds of "wanna fuck" dross messages from desperate single men every day but may remove the block temporarily to message one that takes their fancy.
Extremely Simples really |
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag...
There are dozens, if not hundreds, of supposedly decent photographers on here so no-one will miss out for long if they want photos taken by a random stranger
It is as common an occupation as pilot, something involving a “uniform” and something that’s too high profile for them to possibly say "
Every fucker works for Jessops on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d never dream of having a photoshoot with anyone who didn’t have a professional website and premises. Last thing you need is someone tugging themselves off while it’s happening. And then doing god knows what with your pictures after. Do you really want a stranger having intimate pictures including your face and knowing your name etc. No thanks. I’d rather use someone who has their professional reputation to risk. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I’d never dream of having a photoshoot with anyone who didn’t have a professional website and premises. Last thing you need is someone tugging themselves off while it’s happening. And then doing god knows what with your pictures after. Do you really want a stranger having intimate pictures including your face and knowing your name etc. No thanks. I’d rather use someone who has their professional reputation to risk. "
Agreed, I suspect OP, along with many other 'photographers' on here, are not professionals and are just collecting material for their wank bank or to sell online. |
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What I find annoying is I read there whole description and it states they are looking for a giy my age bracket and the goto message and its blocked to your sex. Never going to find a guy that way lol |
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"What I find annoying is I read there whole description and it states they are looking for a giy my age bracket and the goto message and its blocked to your sex. Never going to find a guy that way lol"
They will if they message the guy first. They're in charge of the search then |
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"What I find annoying is I read there whole description and it states they are looking for a giy my age bracket and the goto message and its blocked to your sex. Never going to find a guy that way lol"
Of course they will. It’s a two way thing. It just means that they do the seeking. I’ve met most of my fab friends by being approached. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
lol those are the breaks  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
The only relevant words in that statement are these two.
'by me'
Somehow I doubt that matters in the slightest to most.
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"By blocking anybody over 44 you lose out on having photos taken free to a professional standard by me. .... and I’m not after a shag..."
Your glittering portfolio of 2 poor quality photos on your profile is really enticing us to unblock single males right now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get a bit irked when someones profile says no single guys or no white guys and then they mKe multiple trips to view me. There is obvious interest as they make multiple trips. Totally their choice of course but seems a bit odd they would bother looking up single guys on searches if they dont want to interact."
What they don't want is to be open to thousands of messages (mostly idiotic?) from people who don't interest them. Howrver, if they choose, they can contact someone who might and as they made the first move you can then reply.
Its not rocket science to understand how it works or why they choose to do so... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I imagine it’s because they don’t want to hear from single guys. They are dreadful on here so don’t blame them.
with the dozens of times i've had my time wasted by couples and single females over the years then they too can be just as bad only it often seems different rules and acceptable for them to do so yet all the time on the forums it seems to be just single guys that get stick
Because single women don't start threads complaining that men block them. Your point is valid, there will be bad people in all groups but if someone starts a thread about it then that's the focus.
no problem with the thread and completely agree that if others dont want to be contacted by single guys then that is their choice and should be repected.i simply thought that it was a cheap shot by somebody on here to just tarnish single guys with the same brush thats all
I agree, it was a cheap shot, there are plenty of lovely guys on fab. "
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... "
If you don't like people looking at your profile then hide it. It is your choice to show it.
"I can Fab their pics.... "
Completely your choice to do as you please.
"then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... "
Completely their choice to do as they please.
"a bit one sided?"
No. Freedom of choice is not one sided, we all have it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....
As an experiment, I asked MrD if we could unblock single guys for 24hrs to see what happens.
Got ridiculous 'hey babe wanna fuck' messages and the rest. We changed our settings back the next day.
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Not all were. Mixed bag. Some guys were very polite and respectful.
All this flaming in this thread.....why is it always the case here ? These forums seem to get so toxic half the time when it comes to talking about single guys "whinging" -- it is pretty dreadful.....
For my 2 cents worth:
There are several problems - and unfortunately, because we are using a fantastic *FREE* platform, they have to make some money and have some "premium" features - unfortunately, seeing previous messages and other similarly helpful things as to whether you have messaged before or the type of "supporter" you need to be to message someone...
Maybe what we actually need is a feature that is fairly cheap to add and maybe if enough of us suggest the same feature it will be added.
How about a segregated in-box.....so, for each user type (single guy, couple, single girl, etc) there is a tab on the mailbox - but a removal of the feature that stops people being allowed to send messages to someone....
A premium feature could be a filtered mailbox - so, you see in your main inbox just the ones that fit your filters - e.g. male, couple between 25-50 and based within 40miles.... and the rest in a different tab....
Nothing will ever be perfect, but at least people wont be frustrated by not being able to message someone.....
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Still dont see why anyone would want a seperate box for junk mail....they simply don't want the junk mail in first place.
Like with physical junk mail you dont need....goes in a seperate box....recycling. Or if I have the time....return to sender and post it back! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Didn’t realise so many people would get so wound up about this topic n the current environment... believe me I do realise why people block single men...pity there are so many idiots and fake profiles on this site.... comes with the territory I suppose. Discretion and trust are key to the success of a swingers site... |
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
They honestly might have looked at your profile from a forum post you made..... |
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We are a couple who both have single profiles and had them before we met. It has been eye opening for cock to
1) see the level of abuse single females get on here for absolutely nothing, god forbid saying no
2) single guys who don’t seem to realise that a couple involve two people and not just the female
People assume it is easy for women on here but if anything it is harder sorted through wierdos and nutters for the genuine men
This means that couples and single women have to put filters in to reduce the number of messages from the wholly inappropriate, of course this means sometimes a good one slips through the net but at least it means we don’t leave the site and smash every web enabled device within reach.
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"I’d never dream of having a photoshoot with anyone who didn’t have a professional website and premises. Last thing you need is someone tugging themselves off while it’s happening. And then doing god knows what with your pictures after. Do you really want a stranger having intimate pictures including your face and knowing your name etc. No thanks. I’d rather use someone who has their professional reputation to risk.
Agreed, I suspect OP, along with many other 'photographers' on here, are not professionals and are just collecting material for their wank bank or to sell online. "
OP, does the subject get to keep the camera memory card from the shoot? You don’t keep any copies? |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"Exactly.... I know that... Didn’t think this thread would take off...let alone fly... ha ha"
I don't think it's particularly constructive tho...this sort of question..everyone knows the answer, and simply asking gets lots of negative conversation...questions that pose interesting or challenging questions or prompt engaging and fun debate are , in my opinion a better use of the forum.. |
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Or if m_mbers are so bothered by your OP they could just ignore it, instead they feel the need to comment negatively about it all being m_mbers choice who they recieve messages off. Thereby fuelling a forum thread they say they have no interest ...all a tad hypocritical methinks |
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"I get a bit irked when someones profile says no single guys or no white guys and then they mKe multiple trips to view me. There is obvious interest as they make multiple trips. Totally their choice of course but seems a bit odd they would bother looking up single guys on searches if they dont want to interact."
Some women and couples block single guys from mailing them however may at some point be looking |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Or if m_mbers are so bothered by your OP they could just ignore it, instead they feel the need to comment negatively about it all being m_mbers choice who they recieve messages off. Thereby fuelling a forum thread they say they have no interest ...all a tad hypocritical methinks"
He posted in a public forum, his OP cones across as entitled and whiny, why wouldn't people explain to him why he seems to be having such issues? |
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Well while its nice to perv over couples photos, if im looking to hook up I dont want to waste time reading profiles of people not interested in meeting single guys. Im a bi guy and i do wish there was some way of searching for couples interested in bi guys. Although you can search for Bi more often or not they want girls not guys. |
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"Well while its nice to perv over couples photos, if im looking to hook up I dont want to waste time reading profiles of people not interested in meeting single guys. Im a bi guy and i do wish there was some way of searching for couples interested in bi guys. Although you can search for Bi more often or not they want girls not guys. "
You can on advanced search |
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"Or if m_mbers are so bothered by your OP they could just ignore it, instead they feel the need to comment negatively about it all being m_mbers choice who they recieve messages off. Thereby fuelling a forum thread they say they have no interest ...all a tad hypocritical methinks"
Or maybe they are so bothered by it they feel the need to reply. |
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"Or if m_mbers are so bothered by your OP they could just ignore it, instead they feel the need to comment negatively about it all being m_mbers choice who they recieve messages off. Thereby fuelling a forum thread they say they have no interest ...all a tad hypocritical methinks"
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"I get a bit irked when someones profile says no single guys or no white guys and then they mKe multiple trips to view me. There is obvious interest as they make multiple trips. Totally their choice of course but seems a bit odd they would bother looking up single guys on searches if they dont want to interact."
Agree it does seem strange.
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"It is quite frustrating that a couple or anybody can look at my profile... I can Fab their pics.... then can’t contact them because they have blocked single guys.... a bit one sided?"
Think of it as saving you from further upset and the time you'd spend having to make another forum post if you were able to message and then they didn't reply.
Always "glass half full" |
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Question: are you right about absolutely everything?
If you think yes then you're beyond help. If no, then the next question is: how do you find out what you're wrong about? |
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