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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i tend not to reply to people i have no interest in
to be honest it depends how many messages i have, if i dont have many i will send a no thanks if i have loads i dont |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they have sent a nice polite message then I always reply because I think it's impolite not to.
If it's a one line message or something disrespectful then I just ignore it/ delete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on so many things
I always read the profile first to see if I like it
The style of the message as some really are'nt worth replying to
How many im getting all at once in which case ill usually get to them at some point.......mostly
Whether im in the right frame of mind to answer straight away or not as I may not have the time
When ive lost them down the page and have been lazy and not cleared my inbox,in which case I sometimes think oh that was ages ago they've probably forgotten they sent it now so don't reply
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My profile is specific.
I always read the profile before the message. If the profile is outwith what I'm looking for I delete and ignore: my profile says I will.
If the profile matches, a nice message is sent, but no attraction for whatever reason I always send a thanks but no thanks and wish them well. If they come back with anything other than thanks for reply, they get blocked.
However, sometimes I get messages from men the polar opposite of what I'm looking for I have to write. Something along the lines of "I'm curious, truly I am. When you saw single, straight, local, tall, white sub (and they're none of the above) what made you think hmmm, that's just for the other fellas...not me!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reply with a message full of abuse and hate directed towards the person that sent it, their family and their families family. I then find out their ip address and identify their home address and go around there house in the middle of the night and post dog shit through there letter box. I then hire a a man to shout at them randomly for the the rest of their lives.... i think its only fair. but that's just me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it is clear they have not read the profile I do ignore. "
If they are the complete opposite of what we are looking for we ask if they read the profile, if a yea comes back we just block x or just block the Clatty email senders x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A quick NO thanks you is class
If the person send some more message delete without reading
When someone delete my message without reading, the site show it. So i just put a private note on that person profile with a brief description. That way when i am tempted of messaging her again i read the note and refrain of messaging
Voilaaaaaaaaaaaaa |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you get messages off people you have no interest in do you ignore or send a no thanks.
Our choice is to ignore."
It all depends on the message. Some are cut and paste and I will ignore, others are inane which also get ignored. Some have put effort in and deserve a reply. Time comes into it too as I refuse blankly to spend an hour a day crafting no thanks messages to people I have no interest in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they have sent a nice polite message then I always reply because I think it's impolite not to.
If it's a one line message or something disrespectful then I just ignore it/ delete."
Exactly this ^^^^  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply with a message full of abuse and hate directed towards the person that sent it, their family and their families family. I then find out their ip address and identify their home address and go around there house in the middle of the night and post dog shit through there letter box. I then hire a a man to shout at them randomly for the the rest of their lives.... i think its only fair. but that's just me"
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"When you get messages off people you have no interest in do you ignore or send a no thanks.
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problem is with answering back is that if you then decide to generally block groups of people... they will still be able to get thru...
kinda defeats the purpose of ignore otherwise....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A quick NO thanks you is class
If the person send some more message delete without reading
When someone delete my message without reading, the site show it. So i just put a private note on that person profile with a brief description. That way when i am tempted of messaging her again i read the note and refrain of messaging
Voilaaaaaaaaaaaaa"
Thats a great idea as it saves you the trouble another time
I love the prvate notes function,I use it a lot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you get messages off people you have no interest in do you ignore or send a no thanks.
Our choice is to ignore."
we have a copy and paste " It's a polite no thanks"
Manners cost nothing!!! |
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If they have read my profile and haven't ignored the fact they are outside of one or more of my preferences... 9 times out of 10 or something like that, I will send a reply regardless of whether or not I am interested.
Anything else will depend on what I feel like doing at the time..... but I'll more than likely ignore it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply with a message full of abuse and hate directed towards the person that sent it, their family and their families family. I then find out their ip address and identify their home address and go around there house in the middle of the night and post dog shit through there letter box. I then hire a a man to shout at them randomly for the the rest of their lives.... i think its only fair. but that's just me"
That was you!! Well - you got the wrong door - but don't worry, my neighbour blamed their poodle!
Oh - and my nan says that bloke that's been shouting at her needs to speak up a bit - she's deaf you know!! But she quite fancies him so if he's after a gummy BJ.......................  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply with a message full of abuse and hate directed towards the person that sent it, their family and their families family. I then find out their ip address and identify their home address and go around there house in the middle of the night and post dog shit through there letter box. I then hire a a man to shout at them randomly for the the rest of their lives.... i think its only fair. but that's just me"
How much does that man cost to hire ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would be so much less stress for people who are think non replies are rude if they just said something similar to this at the end of their initial message if you like the look of us/me then ill/we'll look forward to hearing from you
If not then take care and happy playing/peving /wanking........ ect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nine times out of ten if you say a polite 'No thanks' they will then argue. We used to be polite but now just ignore, block and delete unsuitable men. It's just not worth the hassle. And most of them haven't read our profile anyway because most of them are straight. But then that is another thread ....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A quick NO thanks you is class
If the person send some more message delete without reading
When someone delete my message without reading, the site show it. So i just put a private note on that person profile with a brief description. That way when i am tempted of messaging her again i read the note and refrain of messaging
Voilaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Thats a great idea as it saves you the trouble another time
I love the prvate notes function,I use it a lot "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i reply politely.
i am always surprised that so many couples view me who have as a first line 'we dont met single men'.
wonder if the wife knows he is bisexual. |
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I largely respond to messages from people I don't or likely won't like. Whilst it can mean more effort, when I get a few more messages back, with their continued effort at getting sex, it mostly means that people know where they stand, and doesn't leave them feeling demoralised, as can happen to some people on here, when they've sent tons of messages, but heard nothing.
It's not always easy to reply to lots of messages, so it's a tough and possibly unworkable standard for many, but I'd prefer to err on the side of aiming to do this, than otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you never know when you might meet them at a party which actually happened to us but the other way round. We met a couple at a party who had quite recently told us "not our type". They wanted to play ........ hmmmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we are sent a nice message we always reply in one way or another. At one time we even messaged back if someone had just sent a wink or a friends invite, but they just get ignored now I'm afraid as it says on our profile we don't like friend invites sent out of the blue, so they've clearly not read our profile and don't deserve a reply. |
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I send a no thanks. If it was a polite or innocuous message they get the polite version.
If it was lazy they get a simple no.
If it was rude or offensive they get nothing but a block.
It does seem to work, I don't get inundated with messages the way I did when I first joined. Any cut and paste, mailed once a month every month get warned that if they send it again I'll block them and then I do.
And it does mean that I don't have to worry how people will react in clubs when they realise who my alter ego is - as a single female I'd prefer not to have anyone being arsey with me unexpectedly.
It's nice to be nice!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you get messages off people you have no interest in do you ignore or send a no thanks.
Our choice is to ignore."
I kindly say thanks but no thanks. I think its just rude not to respond.Also if I get a dear john letter i always thank them for explaining. Its good to ne nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I send a no thanks. If it was a polite or innocuous message they get the polite version.
If it was lazy they get a simple no.
If it was rude or offensive they get nothing but a block.
It does seem to work, I don't get inundated with messages the way I did when I first joined. Any cut and paste, mailed once a month every month get warned that if they send it again I'll block them and then I do.
And it does mean that I don't have to worry how people will react in clubs when they realise who my alter ego is - as a single female I'd prefer not to have anyone being arsey with me unexpectedly.
It's nice to be nice! "
Exactly this!
I view responses to messages the same way I would deal with someone else in a face to face environment - you wouldn't just blank someone in a club if they approached you - you'd say no thanks - so why should it be any different via messages? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Strangely enough I don't get alot of messages out of the blue, but I always reply politely even if it's a no thanks your not my type ......
Manners cost nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you get messages off people you have no interest in do you ignore or send a no thanks.
Our choice is to ignore."
i think it would depend on the message.
obviously i think 'i got a big cock, wanna fuck' wouldnt deserve a reply but well written respectful messages should at least get a 'no thanks'
it is only polite...
and i know some of you ladies and couples get loads of messages but if a guy in a pub started to chat you up, would you just turn your back without reply???? |
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I think some people must be very lonely or crave any kind of attention as truly, I can't understand why you'd enter into correspondence with someone who has totally ignored everything on your profile but YOU see it as rude to ignore them!
THEN...complain about follow up messages!
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"When you get messages off people you have no interest in do you ignore or send a no thanks.
Our choice is to ignore.
i think it would depend on the message.
obviously i think 'i got a big cock, wanna fuck' wouldnt deserve a reply but well written respectful messages should at least get a 'no thanks'
it is only polite...
and i know some of you ladies and couples get loads of messages but if a guy in a pub started to chat you up, would you just turn your back without reply????"
You're not comparing like with like.
However, I'd never be in a pub alone so for someone to come over and chat me up he'd have intruded into my conversation, so hardly likely to get a warm reception.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they clearly haven't read ALL of our profile, then that tells us all we need to know about them and its the bin for them.
If they have read our profile - including age parameters, interests etc - and are outside those BUT they make a point of telling us they have seen them and know they are not strictly what we are looking for, we will reply, sometimes asking them to justify why they contacted us. Have to ask the question...... or you may be dismissing an exceptional experience otherwise.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you get messages off people you have no interest in do you ignore or send a no thanks.
Our choice is to ignore.
i think it would depend on the message.
obviously i think 'i got a big cock, wanna fuck' wouldnt deserve a reply but well written respectful messages should at least get a 'no thanks'
it is only polite...
and i know some of you ladies and couples get loads of messages but if a guy in a pub started to chat you up, would you just turn your back without reply????
You're not comparing like with like.
However, I'd never be in a pub alone so for someone to come over and chat me up he'd have intruded into my conversation, so hardly likely to get a warm reception.
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you dont have to be alone, you could be with girlfriends who may have gone to the bar. So you would be rude to someone who maybe chanced his arm and started to chat to you??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends, if the message is polite but they are not what i'm looking for then its thanks but no thanks
if they obviously havent read my profile or just cut n paste then i just delete or ignore
if its the latter and includes a cock pic then delete n block... |
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I would suggest replying or blocking if it is an instant no . Why because of this fact .. No reply does not always mean not interested , many ladies receive so much mail that they delete or overlook many messages they receive . For ages I would only send one mail taking the no reply not interested at face value then for profile where in my humble judgment I could not understand a lack of reply I message again and guess what I have a 20 to 30 % success rate
don't like it don't like sending more than one message for it will bother those who are not interested but one has to because I do not know who just hates me or who has not seen me
thus a simple no thanks helps every one .perhaps a no thanks button ? |
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If it's a nice message with some thought in it, then I will reply. If it's "hi, hows you"? or "fancy a fuck"? and/or they're blatantly out of my preferences then I'll ignore i'm afraid.
I used to reply to all messages but got abuse or more commonly, "oh, but why not"? |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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A woman winked me earlier. I read her profile and noticed she was looking for tall people so I messaged her, thanked her for the wink but said I don't think I am what you are looking for.
So much for being polite, She just deleted the message lol. F*ck it next time I will take the same action as most others and just delete it straight away. No more mr nice guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its a nice message and I'm not interested I say hi and thanks. If crap message I ignore. Guys constantly moaning about this is a major feckin bug bear. Get over it. If you didn't like a profile would you SEND a message. No thought not so why should we reply. You have a choice of who to message let us have a choice who to reply to |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"If its a nice message and I'm not interested I say hi and thanks. If crap message I ignore. Guys constantly moaning about this is a major feckin bug bear. Get over it. If you didn't like a profile would you SEND a message. No thought not so why should we reply. You have a choice of who to message let us have a choice who to reply to "
Why are you ranting about guys? The op asking the question is a couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you get messages off people you have no interest in do you ignore or send a no thanks.
Our choice is to ignore."
ahhhh thats why we never got a reply from you. lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If its a nice message and I'm not interested I say hi and thanks. If crap message I ignore. Guys constantly moaning about this is a major feckin bug bear. Get over it. If you didn't like a profile would you SEND a message. No thought not so why should we reply. You have a choice of who to message let us have a choice who to reply to
Why are you ranting about guys? The op asking the question is a couple"
I'm not ranting. Usually guys who have this issue tho |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"If its a nice message and I'm not interested I say hi and thanks. If crap message I ignore. Guys constantly moaning about this is a major feckin bug bear. Get over it. If you didn't like a profile would you SEND a message. No thought not so why should we reply. You have a choice of who to message let us have a choice who to reply to
Why are you ranting about guys? The op asking the question is a couple
I'm not ranting. Usually guys who have this issue tho "
I don't I just boil another poor bunny |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair it depends on my mood, and the message sent.
Sometimes I will reply and say thanks for the message but not for us thanks..
If its a want to fuck you message I just delete. But sometimes I have to reply and ask them just why they thought it was okay to send me a message like that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I think it shows what king of person you are.
If you can't be bothered to reply then you should do one yourself. It's rude and ignorant and I despise ignorance - it's scummy"
if some one takes the time to look at your profile and sent a message then why ignore them only takes a few seconds to say sorry but no thanks if they then start pestering then ignore or block |
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Half the problem is that people....usually single guys, sorry....expect a reply when they clearly haven't read your profile before they have written to you.
So no....if someone writes to me knowing full well they don't match up with my personal requirements....they won't be getting a reply.
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