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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is the right approach when swinging in a club? Do you just start gropping grabbing or do you ask first ? Question raised as we ask first seems that some don't think that's proper swinging ... Your views please  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"What is the right approach when swinging in a club? Do you just start gropping grabbing or do you ask first ? Question raised as we ask first seems that some don't think that's proper swinging ... Your views please "
If anyone grabbed me they would be missing several parts of their anatomy....seriously disrespectful. Social interaction is the first step.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What is the right approach when swinging in a club? Do you just start gropping grabbing or do you ask first ? Question raised as we ask first seems that some don't think that's proper swinging ... Your views please If anyone grabbed me they would be missing several parts of their anatomy....seriously disrespectful. Social interaction is the first step. "
thanks and hugs for that reply - thought we were going barking as that is the way we always did ask chat and then if invited join..but seems some misunderstand swinging to let's just "shag her" now; and that not even from single guys but couples... sighs... |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"What is the right approach when swinging in a club? Do you just start gropping grabbing or do you ask first ? Question raised as we ask first seems that some don't think that's proper swinging ... Your views please If anyone grabbed me they would be missing several parts of their anatomy....seriously disrespectful. Social interaction is the first step.
thanks and hugs for that reply - thought we were going barking as that is the way we always did ask chat and then if invited join..but seems some misunderstand swinging to let's just "shag her" now; and that not even from single guys but couples... sighs... "
Well if thats the way they like to do things i dare say they may find a few like minded folk that are happy with that, but in a club setting respect is the name of the game, i hate to be groped, as does my OH, unless its by each other |
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To throw my tuppence wirth into this debate, I'd say it depends where you are in the club.
In general terms the answer would be, treat men, women and couples with respect and "groping" etc if i read what you meant right as being someone grabbing you just as you wander around the club is as wrong in a club as it would be outside a club.
However in certain sections of a club for example a dark room such as the one at Xtasia, or if your openly playing on a bed in a room with plenty of guys already joining in, then it's unlikely to be considered groping if a guy or girl joins in at that stage uninvited. |
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This is a very relevant question as as regular club players here is our take .
In some scenarios - cinema , round room , couples room at chams if there are folk playing a conversation is unnecessary before joining in but a look or quick ask is polite to see if it's ok to join in .
If you wanna be more social first there are plenty of chances to chat first , but in our experience this often dampens the desire fir play if long conversations occur before playing .
On Saturday night there was me , my partner and another girl we took with us and we went up to the large top room to play - here's the other side of the coin - we began to play and the room filled up - so did the bed but the other couples just watched , chatted and generally added nothing to our ffm session - perhaps because they were afraid to join in and that's a shame !
Up to them of course and it didn't spoil our fun but it could have been even better if folk just bit the bullet and joined us ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive aleways asked to make sure its ok before i join in, i just think its polite, i dont like to be viewed as a lump of meat so i treat others like wise
Tho i do get some funny looks when i go over to guys in play rooms and ask if its ok to suck their cock, they look at me like to say....course why you asking lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We avoid the big beds in most clubs for this reason and finding it more common if we are in a room with another couple we,ll make eye contact a nod of the head or a little ask before we make a move on anyone, however we are finding couples and men instantly think because your on a big bed or in a couples room they have a right to start to grope or play without the slightest indication and we just usually get up and move on out of there, we know some dont mind this and thats up to them, its just not for us, a quick chat, nod of the head or eye contact to let you know your interested is the best bet |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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if anyone is grabbing me before asking... they are probably getting a "cold arm shiver!!".....
it would be rude not to ask first or get some sort of acknowledgement....
its not some sort of free for all... lol  |
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By *ove2-shareCouple
over a year ago
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"This is a very relevant question as as regular club players here is our take .
In some scenarios - cinema , round room , couples room at chams if there are folk playing a conversation is unnecessary before joining in but a look or quick ask is polite to see if it's ok to join in .
If you wanna be more social first there are plenty of chances to chat first , but in our experience this often dampens the desire fir play if long conversations occur before playing .
On Saturday night there was me , my partner and another girl we took with us and we went up to the large top room to play - here's the other side of the coin - we began to play and the room filled up - so did the bed but the other couples just watched , chatted and generally added nothing to our ffm session - perhaps because they were afraid to join in and that's a shame !
Up to them of course and it didn't spoil our fun but it could have been even better if folk just bit the bullet and joined us ! "
Thing is they could be getting off on the watching, or they might want to join in but be too embarressed or polite to ask/interupt when you are in mid flow.there are a multitude of reasons why they might not have joined in, ever thought of beckoning them over to join in if thats what you want? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if anyone is grabbing me before asking... they are probably getting a "cold arm shiver!!".....
it would be rude not to ask first or get some sort of acknowledgement....
its not some sort of free for all... lol "
wouldn't dare to grab u  H. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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One of the girls did ask if the closest couple wanted to join in , the guy said he did but the girl was too busy talking to her friend to acknowledge the question . He was pissed off and told her that's what they were there for and left , she carried on chatting on the bed and the opportunity fir others to join was restricted by the chatting people occupying play space !
Others were getting off by watching which is cool and my reference to being embarrassed to ask was the point if the post - just a look is often enough to know you may join in |
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I think it depends where in the club you are and what is happening at the time.
In social areas, as the name implies, talking is indeed the done thing.
When walking around the club between playrooms/areas I would consider anyone who just walked up and copped a feel to be a fuckwit. However, in my opinion men are not always the most common fuckwits at clubs. Check out the females who arrive together and put a bottle or two behind the bar... wait an hour or so and soon enough you'll have a pair of cackling fuckwits tugging at guys towels and thinking they have the right to any cock in the building.
Orgy rooms and open play areas are a different matter..... especially if they are sprawlled out on the bed rather than standing around the edge of the room just watching. Personally, depending on the position/body language, I'd say it is OK to start touching and see what reaction you get.... but may be not dive straight into the genitals without testing the water on an arm or leg first. If they are not interested there's no harm done and we should all be grown up enough to know what moving someone's hand away without a fuss means.
When I play in open group play rooms it is so other people can touch. I love feeling more and more hands joining in.... and the last thing I want is someone tapping me on the shoulder to introduce themselves formally and ask if it's OK to rub one of my boobs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think women touching each other without asking is not frowned up on.or if you are all very close and making lots of eye contact then touching is ok.
if some random grabbed nik,i would seriously hurt him,as i would in a normal club situ.
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"i think women touching each other without asking is not frowned up on.or if you are all very close and making lots of eye contact then touching is ok.
if some random grabbed nik,i would seriously hurt him,as i would in a normal club situ.
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Whereas I would be annoyed to be sexually touched by another woman at a club without an invite being issued - just as I am if a man does it. There is an assumption that all female swingers are bi, not true! On one occasion I left a room and took my playmate into a private room because a woman wouldn't take no for an answer when she asked me to stroke her tits. She seemed convinced that by asking me over and over that I would go "all right then, if it'll make you cum".
I don't play in orgy rooms though I do often play in open rooms and have no problem being watched (if I did I'd be in a locked room). If Someone has been unable to catch my eye (usually because I'm totally immersed in the action) then at the most a light touch on my arm. Although if I want more playmates I will look up for them.
I have had to return a stray hand I have found on my boob on more than one occasion and it does rather spoil the mood if I have to start speaking to wannabe participants like they are naughty boys who should know better...  But as club rules are generally made clear they should know better!! 
Just on Friday one guy in a club dark room grabbed my foot quiet hard then tried to suggest someone else had done it when I called him on it...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Must agree.....if someone started to touch Karen in a sexual way without an invite then they would be choking on their teeth ....end of.........
It's all about respecting other peoples bodies and feelings for us........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being randomly gropped by a bloke in an open area of the club is so annoying and I have been known to slap away the hand before now, even if I thought they were hot.
I dont need lots or even much conversation however eye contact and something more than a grab at me is needed. (might even just be a wink and a smile) I dont do open rooms or dark rooms on my own so I avoid that one but I find it offensive when someone grabs at me, (I'm not on a supermarket shelf ya know)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the right approach when swinging in a club? Do you just start gropping grabbing or do you ask first ? Question raised as we ask first seems that some don't think that's proper swinging ... Your views please "
You have to ask.. but I find that tedious and find the men far to well behaved for my liking.. its why I like the adult cinemas as most tend to touch and wait to be told to sod off in that situation.. and I prefer it like that.
However as the majority of women would rip your cock off if you did that to them.. its always best to either ask.. or wait to be asked.
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Your either socialising in the wrong circles or going to the wrong clubs!
Manners are free. If anyone thinks they have a right to grab either of us without asking in one form or another first we're gonna have serious issue.
If anyone grabs at Mrs P then they just blew any chance they had of playing with her if thats what they intended.
Its just plain rude and anyone thinks thats 'proper swinging' then they are fools. |
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"What is the right approach when swinging in a club? Do you just start gropping grabbing or do you ask first ? Question raised as we ask first seems that some don't think that's proper swinging ... Your views please
You have to ask.. but I find that tedious and find the men far to well behaved for my liking.. its why I like the adult cinemas as most tend to touch and wait to be told to sod off in that situation.. and I prefer it like that.
However as the majority of women would rip your cock off if you did that to them.. its always best to either ask.. or wait to be asked.
Cali "
Although there are places where you should expect to be grabbed   |
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