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Are you really a “swinger” as a single man ?
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over a year ago
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As a single guy you’re definitely swinging with another couple as the lady is having sex with another guy with her partner. If a single guy is meeting a single girl then ‘swinging’ maybe the wrong description. Just my opinion. |
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"I think you have to have a partner to be a swinger as such...."
Why? You’re looking for single women, what are those women if not swingers? And if single women can be swingers, why can’t single men? |
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We have met men who understood swinging and were perfect meets we have chatted with men who think its a site full of free prostitutes but some are definitely singers don't get nervous with couples or stage fright |
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"As a single guy you’re definitely swinging with another couple as the lady is having sex with another guy with her partner. If a single guy is meeting a single girl then ‘swinging’ maybe the wrong description. Just my opinion."
Quite an accurate observation |
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Swinging used to mean having sex with persons other than your partner with your partner's consent. By that definition, a single could not be a swinger although they might be meeting swingers.
Maybe fab started out catering for true swingers, but it has become a site for anyone interested in sexual encounters. At least it used to be that way. Nowadays, it's a vehicle for people who don't have meets to pass our time posting on the forums. |
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"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player."
This, it’s how you view others and what you’re looking for
I’m single and class myself a swinger, I’ve been in a relationship as one and single as one, my views didn’t change per my status and I wouldn’t have a relationship just for the label |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me swinging is a lifestyle choice based around the enjoyment of being in the ompany of other like minded people, with everybody's aim to gain social and sexual satisfaction in a clandestine world, away from the judgement of others.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player.
This, it’s how you view others and what you’re looking for
I’m single and class myself a swinger, I’ve been in a relationship as one and single as one, my views didn’t change per my status and I wouldn’t have a relationship just for the label "
A guy asked me (away from here) why I'm on here if I'm not going to be naughty, my response: to find a swinging partner.  |
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"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player."
Definitely the case.
Swinging is essentially a social activity with the potential to develop into playtime.
I see lots of singles, especially guys, going into clubs thinking it is some sort of free-for-all but those who settle in to the swinging scene know it is all about the personal interactions, not just a quick hookup.
Of course there is a time & place for quickies but on the whole it is the attitude of caring about other's pleasure that defines swingers from shaggers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or are we just horny fellas ? "
Ask yourself some very simple questions....
"Is this something I only do when I'm single or horny?"
"Would I be jealous of another guy fucking my partner like I fuck other guy's partner?"
Basically if your answers are focused towards being selfish and jealous. You're not a swinger, you're a fuckboy/player. If your answers are focused towards being inclusive on both sides, you're a swinger that just happens to be outwith a relationship at this point in time. |
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I was a swinger when I was single, but the line is often a little more blurred with guys for some reason.
A good measure is if a single guy 'swinger' gets a girl friend, does he bring her along to have fun? Or does he say, no way, not MY girl?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Or are we just horny fellas ?
Ask yourself some very simple questions....
"Is this something I only do when I'm single or horny?"
"Would I be jealous of another guy fucking my partner like I fuck other guy's partner?"
Basically if your answers are focused towards being selfish and jealous. You're not a swinger, you're a fuckboy/player. If your answers are focused towards being inclusive on both sides, you're a swinger that just happens to be outwith a relationship at this point in time."
spot on I agree |
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"Or are we just horny fellas ?
Ask yourself some very simple questions....
"Is this something I only do when I'm single or horny?"
"Would I be jealous of another guy fucking my partner like I fuck other guy's partner?"
Basically if your answers are focused towards being selfish and jealous. You're not a swinger, you're a fuckboy/player. If your answers are focused towards being inclusive on both sides, you're a swinger that just happens to be outwith a relationship at this point in time."
Very much agree with this.
Personally I really enjoy watching my play partners playing with others.
A large part of the reason I'm long term single is I don't think I'd be happy in a relationship with somebody who wasn't part of or at least in tune with the swinging lifestyle. |
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"As a single guy you’re definitely swinging with another couple as the lady is having sex with another guy with her partner. If a single guy is meeting a single girl then ‘swinging’ maybe the wrong description. Just my opinion."
Agree. Also being watched while playing is not what the general population would do either.
Therefore swinging. |
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I guess single guys shagging single girls are just shaggers LOL! Ditto guys that shag the odd couple. However, single guys that mix and converse with singles and couples, get to know them, and focus on adding something to a more 'group' environment are probably swingers.....  |
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"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player.
Definitely the case.
Swinging is essentially a social activity with the potential to develop into playtime.
I see lots of singles, especially guys, going into clubs thinking it is some sort of free-for-all but those who settle in to the swinging scene know it is all about the personal interactions, not just a quick hookup.
Of course there is a time & place for quickies but on the whole it is the attitude of caring about other's pleasure that defines swingers from shaggers "
Spot on! I had never had an orgasm until I joined the swinging lifestyle. Swingers are very generous lovers and are generally more respectful.
I'm a single woman but am definitely a swinger |
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