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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Since joining La Chambre in May (we've been three times), on each occasion we haven't played with anyone. We both want to play with another couple but are still quite nervous and wondered if this is putting other couples off approaching us, don't get me wrong we aren't shrinking violets. When we've been in the past we've stayed in the lounge for a while drinking, played in an open room together and watched others play. Short of walking around with a neon sign advertising "we want to play" do you guys have any suggestions.
We are planning our next visit on Sat 11th Aug and would love to take the next step.
Thanks. |
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That first step is always very hard, it might be worth taking a couple or something with you that you have met before with the general suggestion of playing in the club ?
that side whats work for us getting Mrs C tanked up and letting her go dance ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sometimes its easier to chat to someone and arrange to meet them their. They will know you are a little nervous but its not like a total stranger you are poaching there. What ever you do don't rush though as its should be fun and if it takes longer that is not always a bad thing.  |
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Start chatting to people in the bar area. Ask Barry or Dean and Julie if they will introduce you to a few people.
And if you're not sure what to say, simply tell them what you've just told us! If they're not interested in playing they will still be able to offer some helpful suggestions about what works for them.
Above all remember that its a community. Many are regulars. Dint just talk to the hotties, talk to everyone. You never know who you'll get introduced to!
Hope you have fun guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Since joining La Chambre in May (we've been three times), on each occasion we haven't played with anyone. We both want to play with another couple but are still quite nervous and wondered if this is putting other couples off approaching us, don't get me wrong we aren't shrinking violets. When we've been in the past we've stayed in the lounge for a while drinking, played in an open room together and watched others play. Short of walking around with a neon sign advertising "we want to play" do you guys have any suggestions.
We are planning our next visit on Sat 11th Aug and would love to take the next step.
Thanks. "
Our advice would be to take your time and be patient, when the time is right and you meet the right couple then you will have tons of fun
As the others said socialising is always a good start and for us the first step as even if they are the hottest couple ever there has to be a 4 way attraction and click and if thats not there then there is no point !
Take your time enjoy the sexiness of it all and let nature take its course ( even though that seems a contradiction in terms on the swinging scene lol )
Have fun guys as im sure you will as judging by the pics the female looks very sexy indeed so im sure you will find tons of fun
S and J xx |
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"Since joining La Chambre in May (we've been three times), on each occasion we haven't played with anyone. We both want to play with another couple but are still quite nervous and wondered if this is putting other couples off approaching us, don't get me wrong we aren't shrinking violets. When we've been in the past we've stayed in the lounge for a while drinking, played in an open room together and watched others play. Short of walking around with a neon sign advertising "we want to play" do you guys have any suggestions.
We are planning our next visit on Sat 11th Aug and would love to take the next step.
Thanks. "
This is an interesting post and actually is a problem that a lot of us single guys encounter as in how to ask to join in, or if a couple is looking for a single guy but doesn't make it blatently obvious sometimes the opportunity frustratingly goes away for all concerned.
The Neon sign approachis the best idea.....
Seriously though, take a big gulp and talk to other people in the social areas of the club, but don't just talk about the weather and how Team GB is doing.... Drop into the converstaion that you've been to the club 3 times but haven't had the courage/opportunity to play with another couple yet. You may need to be as upfront as that, or ask them what they like about the club and what type of things they like so you can turn the chat round to yourselves and what your looking for.
The other approach used by couples and singles alike is wait for 1 or 2 couples to be playing in the couples or open room and go and join in, but get yourself reasonably close to one or both couples. Make eye contact as you start to play, they;ll definately notice your there and if your arm or leg brushes against his/hers you'll soon judge by their reaction as to whether they want to go further.
Ofcourse with the latter approach you don't want to be leaning over 20 seconds after you enter the room wafting your guys cock in her face, or your lady suddenly making a grab for another guys cock or another ladies boobs, but gentle subtle approaches do work and are often emplyed by many couples and single guys in clus successfully.
The horror stories you read on the forums here are for guys in particular who simply don't understand the word subtle approach, or don't know how to test the waters.
Best of luck whatever you do |
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" We both want to play with another couple but are still quite nervous . . "
We know just how you feel, although we haven't been to clubs or bars as that isn't really our scene, we'd like to try another couple as we've had a woman join us before and loved it. So we're gravitating to the next level lol, but we're finding some couples to be a little pushy, I can understand that there are alot of fakes and idiots on here as we've had issues with them also. But we're still in the infancy of couple fun so looking for a little patience and understanding of sorts |
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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago
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"Since joining La Chambre in May (we've been three times), on each occasion we haven't played with anyone. We both want to play with another couple but are still quite nervous and wondered if this is putting other couples off approaching us, don't get me wrong we aren't shrinking violets. When we've been in the past we've stayed in the lounge for a while drinking, played in an open room together and watched others play. Short of walking around with a neon sign advertising "we want to play" do you guys have any suggestions.
We are planning our next visit on Sat 11th Aug and would love to take the next step.
jees how the hell are you not been jumped on the minute you walk in the door,hotter than the weather we are having,come to the south west lol
Thanks. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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 and as for us men on our own - best just stand i a line and smile with you dick in one hand a pint in tother lol and hope your NEON light is not flickering lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We just went to an open bed and started playing together, people will soon come and ask you to play, and if they don't you still had fun anyway,, if you want to approach people and ask when they are on the beds that is sometimes easier too |
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you could have because we have been to Chameleons about 8 times and not played yet lololol 
