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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, does everyone else on here need to find people that they are intending to play with, attractive, or is it just purely a sexual/lust thing? As first timers we don’t know if we are being too picky. Thanks in advance Matt and Louise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very picky with meets. There needs to be both attraction and connection. I probably meet 1 in 200 that message me.
At a clubs or gangbang it's clearly still preferable, but I'm more in the moment and more willing to let random guys "stick it in". Xx |
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Maybe I'm missing something, but is this thread suggesting that people feel sexual desire towards people they don't find attractive? Surely their attractiveness is what causes you to desire them in the first place? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it’s about attraction which I’m really struggling to find someone who I’m attracted to & the ones I am attracted to are always miles away so I dunno if I sometimes should be less picky or it’s never going to happen tough call |
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"Maybe I'm missing something, but is this thread suggesting that people feel sexual desire towards people they don't find attractive? Surely their attractiveness is what causes you to desire them in the first place? "
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I’ll stick to being fussy too, attraction is what causes the sexual desire but I need to be able to have a conversation with them and be comfortable in their company if I’m going to invite anyone to my bed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There has to be some sort of physical attraction for us but one thing we have definitely learned is that getting on great with people can maybe change our views to how attractive we find them.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe I'm missing something, but is this thread suggesting that people feel sexual desire towards people they don't find attractive? Surely their attractiveness is what causes you to desire them in the first place? "
Hi, we weren’t suggesting that at all. I think you may have misunderstood our post. We were purely asking everyone’s opinion. For us there needs to be attraction and click also. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ll stick to being fussy too, attraction is what causes the sexual desire but I need to be able to have a conversation with them and be comfortable in their company if I’m going to invite anyone to my bed "
We totally agree.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There has to be some sort of physical attraction for us but one thing we have definitely learned is that getting on great with people can maybe change our views to how attractive we find them. "
Thanks for your comment.
That makes total sense x |
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I think attraction is a hard thing... I might see people I think ooo they are nice but then there’s just no rapport with us. Whereas some people might not be to what we like in terms of initial attraction but then their personality makes them attractive so it’s a hard one. Either way we would only go further with a mutual attraction ... Of some description! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m very fussy. Got to be a connection first"
100%.
This is what we were trying to judge opinion on. We
Weren’t suggesting for one minute anything else x Thankyou x |
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By *rzuuMan
over a year ago
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For me, there definitely needs to be some level of connection / attraction for both parties.
Otherwise everything is just "going through the motions" and the real passion and joy is missing, as there will be some barriers. Thus leading to a very flat, disappointing meet.
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In the past I have had females couples say no thank you through the site.
then met them at clubs with no questions asked.
Clubs are a better way of getting a feel for people.
No pun intended
Never judge a book by the cover. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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Definitely has to be a connection, but it doesn't have to be physical attraction. If I chat to someone on here and we have a decent conversation, intelligent conversation that can mean more than finding someone physically attractive. On a previous thread, I have said that I have met people without knowing what they look like and that's true. Ok, that was a long time ago through contact magazines, a letter and phone conversation, but I still hold that today. |
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"So, does everyone else on here need to find people that they are intending to play with, attractive, or is it just purely a sexual/lust thing? As first timers we don’t know if we are being too picky. Thanks in
advance Matt and Louise "
There's no such thing as too picky. If you need to find someone sexually and physically attractive to have sex with them it's fine. I'm the same
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Deffo got to b a bit off attraction b4 meeting anyone
N conversation To
Nowt worse wen u see some people with tons of different veris over a span of days
But wen u see the kip of them
Deffo puts u off meetin some people
But then u can always spot the ones who dont give a shit wat they look like
N will just fuck anyone
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When I initially make contact, it’s because there’s an attraction. But then I speak to them, and if there’s no connection then it goes no further.
My best friend laughs at me cause I’ll go to clubs and not play cause there’s been no connection. And she’s the one that thinks I use the forums as my little black book cause I’ll talk with anyone. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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Attraction physically is important but I would balance that with how interesting the person is, how many things do you want in common, do they take time to chat and can they turn you on with chatting. I tend to find most people attractive either in their body, the way they hold themselves or facially, everyone has something. Saying that I struggle to have face pics public and only send on request if someone compliments my other pics and is interested, it's then 50/50 if I hear back, I have a face battered by wind and water from working outdoors for years and body and face don't match which is why I have only body shots public. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Attraction is important but I think more important is that you can get on with them. Nothing worse than being stuck in a room with someone/people who you might find very attractive but can’t muster up any kind of conversation. |
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We both need to find the couple attractive, it's usually me who is too picky to be fair. So if I don't like the look of the man in a couple, neither of us play.
I wouldn't play with someone for the sake of it.
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"I'm very picky with meets. There needs to be both attraction and connection. I probably meet 1 in 200 that message me.
At a clubs or gangbang it's clearly still preferable, but I'm more in the moment and more willing to let random guys "stick it in". Xx"
I love a lucky 'stick it in' session, like hitting the jackpot |
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"So, does everyone else on here need to find people that they are intending to play with, attractive, or is it just purely a sexual/lust thing? As first timers we don’t know if we are being too picky. Thanks in advance Matt and Louise "
Its all situational.. if it's a regular partner then yes there has to be attraction.. if it's a last minute arrangements I'm a bit less picky.
I tend to search for a partner and be contacted by couples short notice so yeah meeting a couple isn't as important for looks as she already has a fella lol |
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"There has to be some sort of physical attraction for us but one thing we have definitely learned is that getting on great with people can maybe change our views to how attractive we find them. "
I find this too. If the connection is there then chances are I will find something attractive in the person.
If the connection isn't there it doesn't matter how physically attractive they are. |
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