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Been here on fab for 2+ years now and only ever been able to meet with one couple over a year ago who are no longer on fab and we wounded if its our profile that is off putting or if anyone has any suggestions that they might want to throw our way even if its negative we will always listen and take into account any advice given
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I don't see anything terribly wrong with the account. Obviously tastes are subjective. Lots of well taken photos. So on the profile I don't really have any advise. Fab is a very strange and fickle place mind.
To be fair we don't use fab to find meets. We find clubs are the perfect place to meet new people. Do you go to clubs? If not would clubs be an option for you? |
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I am not your target audience, but from my point of view it is better than many couples profiles on Fab, it is not overly negative, whilst saying what you don't want as well as what you do.
Your preferences are clear for all to see, and you have profiles of both of you on the profile, which many couples profiles don't.
If i am being really pedantic check the spelling especially of can't rather than carnt !
But other than that it looks good, but as i say i am not what you are targeting so maybe i am not the one to comment really. |
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We have been on the site for many years and never encountered anyone asking for naked pictures (maybe we have just been lucky). Like other reply we would suggest a club is the way forward  Nothing wrong with the profile |
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Your profile text starts with you moaning…also has a long disclaimer which isn’t necessary.
You are both straight but your status says Mrs wants to try a woman again…would it be best as bi curious.
Pics are graphic - not saying there’s anything wrong with graphic but you may lose some people with those types of pics.
Think about who you are trying to appeal to. If it’s single females then maybe the pics and wording puts people off. Mrs being straight will too.
Also depends on what messages you sending people.
You can’t appeal to everyone but with a few tweaks you can appeal to more people.
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Don't rely on fab. It's 80% time wasters and bullshitters now.
Got to socials or clubs and connect that way. Fabs not great for getting meets currently but is great for remaining connected to loke minded people once you've met them.
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over a year ago
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"Been here on fab for 2+ years now and only ever been able to meet with one couple over a year ago who are no longer on fab and we wounded if its our profile that is off putting or if anyone has any suggestions that they might want to throw our way even if its negative we will always listen and take into account any advice given
happy fabbing and look forward to hearing from some of you "
Ok constructive feedback.
Get rid of the rant at the start and use the ajustments to mail filters and looking for to cut down your unwanted mail.
Make it a bit more positive and about you two and what you are looking for and less of the "I don't want"
Cock picks could be replaced with something a bit more tasteful to show of the male as often people aren't into cock pics.
The clause at the end we are pretty sure is irrelevant and makes no difference if its there or not (well documented) so you could drop that bit too?
Your profile is a shop front so to speak and we suppose that you have to try and see it as if you are looking it as either you are someone else or it's someone else's profile.
In the whole it's not that bad and we must admit we'd not be put off by it if you messaged us
There has been a pandemic and we're finding it very quiet and slow going coming out of the other side couples and ladies side where as it seems like there are more male's than ever now.
Hopefully that helps
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Wow guys and girls the response has been great so we thank you for that off the get go . we will take all the above into consideration and hopefully we are able to tweak our profile to make it a little more easy on the eye
again thank you for taking time to look as well as relay your thoughts back to us
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This is just my advice of course but I would remove the rant at the beginning and the part out the end. Other than that it does come across to me in a slightly negative tone. Like you are asking people to jump through hoops a little. Inject some positivity and excitement in there |
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"Your profile text starts with you moaning…also has a long disclaimer which isn’t necessary.
You are both straight but your status says Mrs wants to try a woman again…would it be best as bi curious. "
agreed with BP.
i like your profile, but it does feel a little shouty when im reading it 
as a bi-fem, i wouldn't be inclined to message if your f half wasn't even listed as curious.
your pictures are gorgeous BTW.. you're definitely doing that bit right Px |
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"Your profile text starts with you moaning…also has a long disclaimer which isn’t necessary.
You are both straight but your status says Mrs wants to try a woman again…would it be best as bi curious.
agreed with BP.
i like your profile, but it does feel a little shouty when im reading it
as a bi-fem, i wouldn't be inclined to message if your f half wasn't even listed as curious.
your pictures are gorgeous BTW.. you're definitely doing that bit right Px "
the profile was first wrote a very long time ago when we were first dipping our toes so i think we made it that way just to give us some sort of barrier to hide behind as we were both very nervous
we hope it now sounds a little less shouty we do apologise  we meant no harm
thank you for the picture compliment xx |
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I will be honest whilst trying hard not to be rude or personal.
If I was a couple (as I was once) or woman I would not apply personally. Not for any physical disinterest reason but because your profile comes accross as somewhat demanding and suggests you feel entitled; aka as "shouty"
If you were looking for men; that would not be a problem at all, they are used to it; even expect it. But you are not and I would suspect single females and couples who are used to being the choosers may view it as "unwelcoming".
But there are many above who see no problem so perhaps I am totally wrong. Good luck anyway. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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Had a read I know I'm not a couple ir female, to me its a bit run of the mill.
My generic advice to all genders demographics.
Your profile should inform the reader of you your wants desires needs and what you can also offer in return
It should entice with its words and pictures hopefully enough to gain a response.
If you read your profile would you think "I gotta find out more?"
In a field of haystacks what separates yours from any other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been here on fab for 2+ years now and only ever been able to meet with one couple over a year ago who are no longer on fab and we wounded if its our profile that is off putting or if anyone has any suggestions that they might want to throw our way even if its negative we will always listen and take into account any advice given
happy fabbing and look forward to hearing from some of you "
Nothing off putting at all  attractive and welcoming profile with stunning pictures 
Fab is a strange place  |
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It's the typical M& biF. Hoovering up the spare women, plus couples.
I'd have thought you were in the upper tier of couples. Couples dynamics can be strange. More people to please. When 2 couples meet there's always a duffer, with the corresponding partner taking one for the team. I can almost guarantee one of the other parties will be the duffer.
Good photos. Nice profile. Spelling to tidy up. Perhaps you're just too good? |
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Your profile wouldn’t put us off.
The pictures are nice and well presented, possibly a couple of non sexual ones may help.
We would meet you if it wasn’t for one of you being a smoker, but that’s our preference.
As someone else has said, get to your local club on a busy night.. you’ll make lots of friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not just about having a good profile. The trick is, getting people to find your profile in the 1st place!
We have found that posting on the forums always results in us having our profile viewed, so coming on here is a great start.
Also, reaching out to others and saying hello and chatting to other Fabbers is a must. (You might be doing this stuff already, but you don't say either way)
As couples, we dont have it as tough as single guys, thank goodness! But still, some fabmin time is worthwhile in the end.
Good luck! 
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"Been here on fab for 2+ years now and only ever been able to meet with one couple over a year ago who are no longer on fab and we wounded if its our profile that is off putting or if anyone has any suggestions that they might want to throw our way even if it's negative we will always listen and take into account any advice given
happy fabbing and look forward to hearing from some of you "
100% nothing wrong but finding meeting with the matched couple is hard your both good looking and finding a couple the same is very hard try clubs.
But never lower your standard. |
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"This is just my advice of course but I would remove the rant at the beginning and the part out the end. Other than that it does come across to me in a slightly negative tone. Like you are asking people to jump through hoops a little. Inject some positivity and excitement in there "
You’ve rewritten  my comments look out of place now lol
Looks great and I really like the bit about being nervous. It actually shows you are genuine and not putting up a front. Great profile OP |
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Thanks for the more recent comments with the changes we have made think its time we spent a little more time in the forums talking to you wonderful people and maybe take a look at a club even though that would be out of comfort zone it sounds like its a must if we want to move forward
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You’re looking for females and couples but you can’t accommodate
Would you expect a single female to invite a couple to their house
If you don’t share your house others may not want to share theirs
I am a straight single female so wouldn’t be interested plus I am old and different body type so you might not want me
Just wanted to let you know how I would feel about the whole accommodation situation xx |
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"You’re looking for females and couples but you can’t accommodate
Would you expect a single female to invite a couple to their house
If you don’t share your house others may not want to share theirs
I am a straight single female so wouldn’t be interested plus I am old and different body type so you might not want me
Just wanted to let you know how I would feel about the whole accommodation situation xx"
I appreciate your point of view but a lot of couples have kids. Accommodation isn't always possible. We certainly can't always accomodate but we are prepared to meet halfway and get a hotel room if we can't.
Personally I feel it's a bit unfair to put it all on the couple and the whole "you can't accomodate ergo I wouldn't want to meet" point of view is rather one sided. Not targeting you there because it is a common thing said by many single ladies on the site.
I just think if there's a will, there's a way and to many people get hung up on the accommodation thing when its neither practical nor realistic for a lot of couplee and there are other options out there.
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Thanks for that @wetwifeandhim2019 this would be our situation all so
if we were to meet a single female we would suggest a hotel half way between us both as we personally would feel that to be a safer option and common ground so to speak . some might find it daunting stepping into a couples house all alone so i think thats the way we would go with that
also family life is separate and we would kind of like to keep it that way
if it puts people off that we can't accommodate maybe we could add this to the profile
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"Your age range is very small.
Perhaps try a club and meet lots of couples in one night? "
Not read the full thread but agree with this
Also how many 22-37 year old women/ couples do you think join a swingers site and are a few miles from you ?
Maybe consider going up to 40 or slightly higher or attend a club or social one evening.
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"You’re looking for females and couples but you can’t accommodate
Would you expect a single female to invite a couple to their house
If you don’t share your house others may not want to share theirs
I am a straight single female so wouldn’t be interested plus I am old and different body type so you might not want me
Just wanted to let you know how I would feel about the whole accommodation situation xx"
Hotel? |
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"You’re looking for females and couples but you can’t accommodate
Would you expect a single female to invite a couple to their house
If you don’t share your house others may not want to share theirs
I am a straight single female so wouldn’t be interested plus I am old and different body type so you might not want me
Just wanted to let you know how I would feel about the whole accommodation situation xx
I appreciate your point of view but a lot of couples have kids. Accommodation isn't always possible. We certainly can't always accomodate but we are prepared to meet halfway and get a hotel room if we can't.
Personally I feel it's a bit unfair to put it all on the couple and the whole "you can't accomodate ergo I wouldn't want to meet" point of view is rather one sided. Not targeting you there because it is a common thing said by many single ladies on the site.
I just think if there's a will, there's a way and to many people get hung up on the accommodation thing when its neither practical nor realistic for a lot of couplee and there are other options out there.
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Well said. I would never invite a couple round i dont know, so why should they. Alot of people tick cant acc, but like myself can, but only if and when I know someone. There are many reasons people say cant accom. |
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"Looks good overall. Mrs K might want to change her sexuality to bisexual to match the girl/girl fun x"
Agree profile looks good some very well taken pics maybe just the bisexual change so you come up with more women searches |
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"You’re looking for females and couples but you can’t accommodate
Would you expect a single female to invite a couple to their house
If you don’t share your house others may not want to share theirs
I am a straight single female so wouldn’t be interested plus I am old and different body type so you might not want me
Just wanted to let you know how I would feel about the whole accommodation situation xx
I appreciate your point of view but a lot of couples have kids. Accommodation isn't always possible. We certainly can't always accomodate but we are prepared to meet halfway and get a hotel room if we can't.
Personally I feel it's a bit unfair to put it all on the couple and the whole "you can't accomodate ergo I wouldn't want to meet" point of view is rather one sided. Not targeting you there because it is a common thing said by many single ladies on the site.
I just think if there's a will, there's a way and to many people get hung up on the accommodation thing when its neither practical nor realistic for a lot of couplee and there are other options out there.
Well said. I would never invite a couple round i dont know, so why should they. Alot of people tick cant acc, but like myself can, but only if and when I know someone. There are many reasons people say cant accom. "
Ita quite odd really.
I get that if you're in the "meet now, shag then go" mindset then yeah...accommodation plays a big part.
If you're more into the social side and getting to know people for repeat meets then there's no reason to get hung up about accommodation.
We live in a time where you can arrange a social meet, se how it goes and either plan ahead a little for another time or book a hotel room there and then through an app on your phone if you all want to go off somewhere private.
You can easily get a nice room at a travel lodge or Premier Inn at the touch of a button.
We are cuckqean couple and accommodation isn't that much of an issue for us but if I'm meeting a single straight lady who isn't into my wife being present in any way, is she likely to be happy fooling around whilst my wife is sat down stairs?
Simple answer is no...as I've been told many times. Therefore I do use hotels if the lady in question isn't willing to accomodate.
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"we are beggining to wonder the same as not had a meet in a very long time just lots of no shows or excuses when it came to the crunch . glad to know we are not alone in this thought "
shame your so far away we could of had a lonely soul party haha
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We find it really is best to be straight up. What may be difficult is finding a couple who are happy for just the wife to play with you and for the wife to bat for both teams. |
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"Thanks for the more recent comments with the changes we have made think its time we spent a little more time in the forums talking to you wonderful people and maybe take a look at a club even though that would be out of comfort zone it sounds like its a must if we want to move forward
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Clubs are not a "must" please don't feel like that x but with your requirements either flexibility or patience need to be taken into Consideration x for instance I'm knocking on the door of 40 but I don't act it, look it or think about it x maybe check the profiles of some 40s ad see what you think? We're not all old and frumpy hahaha x |
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Clubs are not a "must" please don't feel like that x but with your requirements either flexibility or patience need to be taken into Consideration x for instance I'm knocking on the door of 40 but I don't act it, look it or think about it x maybe check the profiles of some 40s ad see what you think? We're not all old and frumpy hahaha x "
Think we will give this a try . great profile by the way  xx |
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Show your faces. I find it super important to find people attractive. Dick pics etc get super boring. For me anyway. Don’t give it all away. And a good sense of humour. Don’t take I too seriously. It’s fun. Xx |
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By *xydadbodMan
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"Show your faces. I find it super important to find people attractive. Dick pics etc get super boring. For me anyway. Don’t give it all away. And a good sense of humour. Don’t take I too seriously. It’s fun. Xx"
Thats a tough one though. Some may not want to show face.. me included for various reasons. Obviously it would be nice to be able to show face freely as then it shows signs of being open but may not be suitable for everyone. Besides, faces can be shown privately once a connection or interest is shown |
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