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"Who here knows what aftercare is?" Yup and we practice it ! It’s so important  | |||
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"In dom/sub play? " No, not just in dom and sub play. In all sex, it’s a single most important thing because it happens right after the nut, and you want to taper off slowly not fall off the edge of a cliff. | |||
"Who here knows what aftercare is? Yup and we practice it ! It’s so important "I need aftercare, I just had an amazing experience that’s been ruined by a cum ‘n go. | |||
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"I guess I do this or I'd have been told by now "You’d think so, some people don’t think it’s an issue I guess | |||
"Yep. It's essential." Couldn’t of put it better, very affirming | |||
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"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? " Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh | |||
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"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh"Agreed completely and if it has been vigorous it's nice to lay there talking in the glow while heart rates return to normal and so on. Nope never just go! | |||
"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh
Agreed completely and if it has been vigorous it's nice to lay there talking in the glow while heart rates return to normal and so on. Nope never just go! "It wasn’t vigourous but it was pretty erotic. I did some things I wouldn’t normally do because I felt comfortable and now I feel ashamed because I feel used | |||
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"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh
Agreed completely and if it has been vigorous it's nice to lay there talking in the glow while heart rates return to normal and so on. Nope never just go!
It wasn’t vigourous but it was pretty erotic. I did some things I wouldn’t normally do because I felt comfortable and now I feel ashamed because I feel used"Don't feel ashamed, it is not a reflection of you it is their own shortcomings and their own problems that have made them act that way. In absolutely no way shape or form is it you. Take care of yourself, reach out if you want a chat. | |||
"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh
Agreed completely and if it has been vigorous it's nice to lay there talking in the glow while heart rates return to normal and so on. Nope never just go!
It wasn’t vigourous but it was pretty erotic. I did some things I wouldn’t normally do because I felt comfortable and now I feel ashamed because I feel used
Don't feel ashamed, it is not a reflection of you it is their own shortcomings and their own problems that have made them act that way. In absolutely no way shape or form is it you.
Take care of yourself, reach out if you want a chat. "Honestly dude, I just want to cum and then get cuddles/ shower off together. I need the aftercare aspect more than the act itself. I’ve got like two years without any action I can then to literally just carry on shooting in to the sink if this is going to be the only way I can avoid the psychological stress | |||
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"Who here knows what aftercare is? Yup and we practice it ! It’s so important
I need aftercare, I just had an amazing experience that’s been ruined by a cum ‘n go." | |||
"Spoooooooooning" After sex spoons are essential! If not, Snacks in bed and a giggle. | |||
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"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh
Agreed completely and if it has been vigorous it's nice to lay there talking in the glow while heart rates return to normal and so on. Nope never just go!
It wasn’t vigourous but it was pretty erotic. I did some things I wouldn’t normally do because I felt comfortable and now I feel ashamed because I feel used
Don't feel ashamed, it is not a reflection of you it is their own shortcomings and their own problems that have made them act that way. In absolutely no way shape or form is it you.
Take care of yourself, reach out if you want a chat.
Honestly dude, I just want to cum and then get cuddles/ shower off together. I need the aftercare aspect more than the act itself. I’ve got like two years without any action I can then to literally just carry on shooting in to the sink if this is going to be the only way I can avoid the psychological stress "Sorry you feel this way about the experience you had. You’re not alone with those feelings I think I’ve done things I wasn’t truly comfortable with at the time. But it’s another learning experience that hopefully won’t happen again. Sending love | |||
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"In dom/sub play? No, not just in dom and sub play. In all sex, it’s a single most important thing because it happens right after the nut, and you want to taper off slowly not fall off the edge of a cliff. " Exactly. Most intense types of sex should include appropriate aftercare , why people think it’s specific to BDSM shows a real lack of emotional intelligence | |||
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"Yes, but as a lot of people don't know about it, or don't know how to do it properly, I only participate in activities I know it won't be needed. I had this conversation with a fwb recently, I told him I knew exactly when I'd drop after an intense couple of hours of breath play and face slapping. The day arrives and we'd arranged to meet in the evening....he cancelled then went silent for 4 days. I've been in the bdsm scene for a few years now, so could handle it myself, but after telling him what I'd need and him completely ignoring it, in fact making it worse, I'll never do anything with him again "You did right by sounds of it to stop a sessions. If he can't give you the needs you want before during and after | |||
"Yes, but as a lot of people don't know about it, or don't know how to do it properly, I only participate in activities I know it won't be needed. I had this conversation with a fwb recently, I told him I knew exactly when I'd drop after an intense couple of hours of breath play and face slapping. The day arrives and we'd arranged to meet in the evening....he cancelled then went silent for 4 days. I've been in the bdsm scene for a few years now, so could handle it myself, but after telling him what I'd need and him completely ignoring it, in fact making it worse, I'll never do anything with him again
You did right by sounds of it to stop a sessions. If he can't give you the needs you want before during and after "I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and I explained it all to him, but he obviously didn't listen. Then he has the nerve to message a week later saying he wants to do more!...I don't think so  lmao | |||
"Yes, but as a lot of people don't know about it, or don't know how to do it properly, I only participate in activities I know it won't be needed. I had this conversation with a fwb recently, I told him I knew exactly when I'd drop after an intense couple of hours of breath play and face slapping. The day arrives and we'd arranged to meet in the evening....he cancelled then went silent for 4 days. I've been in the bdsm scene for a few years now, so could handle it myself, but after telling him what I'd need and him completely ignoring it, in fact making it worse, I'll never do anything with him again
You did right by sounds of it to stop a sessions. If he can't give you the needs you want before during and after
I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and I explained it all to him, but he obviously didn't listen. Then he has the nerve to message a week later saying he wants to do more!...I don't think so lmao "The cheek of him | |||
"In dom/sub play? No, not just in dom and sub play. In all sex, it’s a single most important thing because it happens right after the nut, and you want to taper off slowly not fall off the edge of a cliff. Exactly. Most intense types of sex should include appropriate aftercare , why people think it’s specific to BDSM shows a real lack of emotional intelligence " | |||
"Spoooooooooning After sex spoons are essential! If not, Snacks in bed and a giggle. " exactly this | |||
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"I love to see that there are people who understand this! Any handsome man want to show me what good aftercare looks like? "It's not so much about what it looks like but more about how it feels, usually warm & a great feeling inside, no i'm not referring to fluids!!!  | |||
"I love to see that there are people who understand this! Any handsome man want to show me what good aftercare looks like?
It's not so much about what it looks like but more about how it feels, usually warm & a great feeling inside, no i'm not referring to fluids!!! "I’m aware, I’ve just not had it yet. Lots of cum ‘n go | |||
"I love to see that there are people who understand this! Any handsome man want to show me what good aftercare looks like?
It's not so much about what it looks like but more about how it feels, usually warm & a great feeling inside, no i'm not referring to fluids!!!
I’m aware, I’ve just not had it yet. Lots of cum ‘n go "Sorry to hear that, too many like that unfortunately. The old Wham Bam & not a thank you or such in sight! | |||
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"In dom/sub play? No, not just in dom and sub play. In all sex, it’s a single most important thing because it happens right after the nut, and you want to taper off slowly not fall off the edge of a cliff. Exactly. Most intense types of sex should include appropriate aftercare , why people think it’s specific to BDSM shows a real lack of emotional intelligence " And commenting on someone's post without being in possession of the full facts and simply jumping to conclusions also shows a lack of intelligence | |||
"In dom/sub play? No, not just in dom and sub play. In all sex, it’s a single most important thing because it happens right after the nut, and you want to taper off slowly not fall off the edge of a cliff. Exactly. Most intense types of sex should include appropriate aftercare , why people think it’s specific to BDSM shows a real lack of emotional intelligence And commenting on someone's post without being in possession of the full facts and simply jumping to conclusions also shows a lack of intelligence "It wasn’t in response to you. I think part of the problem is the bdsm “scene” tries to take common sense and give it special names and make it exclusive. It’s just sex and you should look after the people you do it with I read an interesting article a while back on a popular bdsm site about aftercare, specifically how to ask your partner if they would like a drink of water , I think it recommended using the phrase “would you like a drink of water” And then went on explain that other drinks can be offered such as orange juice. Anyone finding this type of advice helpful really shouldn’t be practising BDSM | |||
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It’s good to have someone who k owns what to do when that happens | |||
"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh
Agreed completely and if it has been vigorous it's nice to lay there talking in the glow while heart rates return to normal and so on. Nope never just go!
It wasn’t vigourous but it was pretty erotic. I did some things I wouldn’t normally do because I felt comfortable and now I feel ashamed because I feel used"Msg you hun. x | |||
"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh"If they changed it to "let me take care of you and shower you", I'm theirs. | |||
"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh
If they changed it to "let me take care of you and shower you", I'm theirs."I’m turning on the water for you and running your favourite bubble bath right now ! | |||
"This the period post coitus? Stroke, hug, talk type of thing? Yep thirty seconds then, I’m going to shower doesn’t really cut it tbh
If they changed it to "let me take care of you and shower you", I'm theirs.
I’m turning on the water for you and running your favourite bubble bath right now ! "Thank you. Something fruity or light floral scented? | |||
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"It’s lavender oils with a hint of eucalyptus Madame " Could you please change that? I can't have anything lavender scented. Sorry darling xx | |||
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"Mr here. Yep, we do. Although Mrs never needs it, I sometimes do suffer with Dom drop It’s good to have someone who k owns what to do when that happens "Totally get that. You’re lucky , I learned to deal with it myself , very few subs are aware of it. I have activities for the low and often look forward to doing them ! People often assume you’re distant or ghosting them too | |||
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