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Want to get my missus into swinging
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey people I'm interested in swinging and socialising at swinging club nights only problem I have is I dont know how to bring the subject up with my missus we like to go out on date nights but how do I suggest to her about visiting a club please any advice welcome. |
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Has she ever expressed any interest in swinging do you watch porn together hassle ever hinted about wanting to be with another guy/girl 2 guys at once etc
I don't think it's something you can or should try and encourage someone to get into & there's a lot of difference in a date night with your partner & taking them to a swingers club and swapping with another couple
Communication is key for any swinging couple so ask her straight out if you can't even have that initial conversation swinging is likely not for you
Finally & this isn't a dig but I'd ditch the single profile, as. I've said communication is key as is trust & if I had any hint my husband was on a site like this prior to us joining together not only would we not be swinging together we'd likely have separated
It's not for the obvious reason if the trust being broken but also I liked the fact that we started the journey together
Oh & just noticed your from Hove, why not suggest a visit to Bristol Gardens Health Spa & Naturist Spa (naked) with a few play rooms upstairs |
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"Hey people I'm interested in swinging and socialising at swinging club nights only problem I have is I dont know how to bring the subject up with my missus we like to go out on date nights but how do I suggest to her about visiting a club please any advice welcome."
as a couple we find this wrong, should be done together |
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Sorry what's wrong with this guy asking advice ? Maybe it's his fantasy and he hasn't mentioned it yet to his other half ?  I told my wife last May and I had this fantasy for years but never told her about it and she just so happened to be turned on by the idea just as much. My advice mate is just tell her straight and let her know what you like. You might be surprised from her reaction. As someone mentioned above it is important you have great communication that's a key . Also don't use this to kind of mend a relationship. You have to be in a strong relationship. You will never know unless you ask . People saying his got a single mens profile duhhh his wife doesn't know so why would he be on here as a couple . Don't start having ago at me either saying I'm a single profile why isn't my OH on here etc . All in good time haven't got to rush because you want us to |
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"Has she ever expressed any interest in swinging do you watch porn together hassle ever hinted about wanting to be with another guy/girl 2 guys at once etc
I don't think it's something you can or should try and encourage someone to get into & there's a lot of difference in a date night with your partner & taking them to a swingers club and swapping with another couple
Communication is key for any swinging couple so ask her straight out if you can't even have that initial conversation swinging is likely not for you
Finally & this isn't a dig but I'd ditch the single profile, as. I've said communication is key as is trust & if I had any hint my husband was on a site like this prior to us joining together not only would we not be swinging together we'd likely have separated
It's not for the obvious reason if the trust being broken but also I liked the fact that we started the journey together
Oh & just noticed your from Hove, why not suggest a visit to Bristol Gardens Health Spa & Naturist Spa (naked) with a few play rooms upstairs "
Exactly this |
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"Sorry what's wrong with this guy asking advice ? Maybe it's his fantasy and he hasn't mentioned it yet to his other half ? I told my wife last May and I had this fantasy for years but never told her about it and she just so happened to be turned on by the idea just as much. My advice mate is just tell her straight and let her know what you like. You might be surprised from her reaction. As someone mentioned above it is important you have great communication that's a key . Also don't use this to kind of mend a relationship. You have to be in a strong relationship. You will never know unless you ask . People saying his got a single mens profile duhhh his wife doesn't know so why would he be on here as a couple . Don't start having ago at me either saying I'm a single profile why isn't my OH on here etc . All in good time haven't got to rush because you want us to "
As for why people are judging it’s because it can be seen as immoral for either gender to be on here without their partner knowing and don’t want to get caught up in that drama |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry what's wrong with this guy asking advice ? Maybe it's his fantasy and he hasn't mentioned it yet to his other half ? I told my wife last May and I had this fantasy for years but never told her about it and she just so happened to be turned on by the idea just as much. My advice mate is just tell her straight and let her know what you like. You might be surprised from her reaction. As someone mentioned above it is important you have great communication that's a key . Also don't use this to kind of mend a relationship. You have to be in a strong relationship. You will never know unless you ask . People saying his got a single mens profile duhhh his wife doesn't know so why would he be on here as a couple . Don't start having ago at me either saying I'm a single profile why isn't my OH on here etc . All in good time haven't got to rush because you want us to
As for why people are judging it’s because it can be seen as immoral for either gender to be on here without their partner knowing and don’t want to get caught up in that drama "
But why would they get caught in the drama this is a forum not real life club. People get too serious..this is the Internet |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
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Try booking a holiday together in a naturist/swing resort like Cap d’Agde or Gran Canaria.
That way you could get into the socialising side of the lifestyle which most of us love.
It’s not such a big step later into sharing with others but the key to all this is communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try booking a holiday together in a naturist/swing resort like Cap d’Agde or Gran Canaria.
That way you could get into the socialising side of the lifestyle which most of us love.
It’s not such a big step later into sharing with others but the key to all this is communication."
That would just freak her out be realistic lol . |
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"Sorry what's wrong with this guy asking advice ? Maybe it's his fantasy and he hasn't mentioned it yet to his other half ? I told my wife last May and I had this fantasy for years but never told her about it and she just so happened to be turned on by the idea just as much. My advice mate is just tell her straight and let her know what you like. You might be surprised from her reaction. As someone mentioned above it is important you have great communication that's a key . Also don't use this to kind of mend a relationship. You have to be in a strong relationship. You will never know unless you ask . People saying his got a single mens profile duhhh his wife doesn't know so why would he be on here as a couple . Don't start having ago at me either saying I'm a single profile why isn't my OH on here etc . All in good time haven't got to rush because you want us to
As for why people are judging it’s because it can be seen as immoral for either gender to be on here without their partner knowing and don’t want to get caught up in that drama "
Probably best to avoid morality question as that is fluid, to say the least - spot on with the drama issue though! Op - the further you go down the Fab rabbit hole on your own without communication with your partner the harder the conversation will become. Explore together  |
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The suggestion of Bristol Gardens building up to Cap d'Agde is an excellent one.
A gentle awakening of an awareness of the lifestyle allows for a normalising of the lifestyle.
From that and speaking with other couples and especially women may reasure her of the pleasure to be had without the risk of damage to your marriage.
Any pressure is both oppressive and likely to lead to resistance.
It is also morally wrong even if for whatever reason she goes along with it.
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