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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"What exactly constitutes a hardened swinger and why is being one so bad?  "
always wanted to ask... never found out...
does me being a member of "trollops anonymous" count???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way i see a hardened swinger is someone who just wants to meet, fuck and leave
When people mail me and i said i always meet for a drink first see how we get on, to me a hardened swinger are the ones who reply with....this isnt a dating site you know
i see it as more a attitude towards swinging more than how many people they meet |
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 have no idea why being a "hardened swinger" is such a bad thing. This idea that you'll do anybody is just rubbish, we know loads of people who would be considered "hardcore" and none of them just do anybody.
You know when you're "hardcore", when you want to avoid the soft swingers. So its more likely to be a them and us thing, and there's more of them then us.  |
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We where always of the understanding hardened swingers are the ones that party every week, meet new people every week or do it as often as possible.
As opposed to the not hardened swingers like us who only really play when we can not even once a month
Could be wrong though, but that was our take on it  |
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Cos I keep seeing it on profiles "I'm not a hardened swinger" and was wondering why it was a bad thing to be.
After all we're all here for the nsa fun, so what's the problem if someone gets about more than you do?
Is it sour grapes? Or are the 'hardened' ones more likely to be d&d prone (another phrase that baffles me)? Or is it just that if I'm a hardened swinger I must have a bucket fanny and no standards? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see a veri from every other night of the week all bareback all with different people as a hardened swinger.......not my thing but obviously others like it |
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"I see a veri from every other night of the week all bareback all with different people as a hardened swinger.......not my thing but obviously others like it"
But if it's not someone's thing why even mention it?
I'm not a dominatrix but I don't mention that.
And since it is a swingers site who knows (unless every meet writes a veri and you put all of them on your profile) if someone meets every day? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have always perceived a hardened swinger a little differently than the majority of people on this thread who liken it to regularity of meets and meets without a social element.
To me a hardened swinger is someone who has been on the scene for many years and seen and done it all. Its someone who has lost the initial thrill of the firsts and experience are just more of the same rather than an exciting new challenge.
When I hear people say they've been swinging for 10 plus years then that's what it symbolises to me, that there can be little left that they haven't seen or done.
It does seem to be used in a negative way and it shouldn't be as there's no right or wrong way in swinging. My perception of the term may not be the correct one but I do get the feeling that noone wants to admit that they are hardened swingers  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting. I was wondering this too. I'd think it means when someone has been swinging a long time and it's now more important than 'normal' life."
It is an interesting thought .
There always seems to be a negative when the term hardened swinger is mentioned .
Our perception is therefore that no one would call themselves hardened . But if it's someone who knows the score and is comfortable with what they do , then we are  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love how complex this site can get - was following a thread last week about people who have been on the site a while but haven't had any verifications -
So is FAB all about moderation, just for Mr, Mrs, Miss or Ms average? |
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"I have always perceived a hardened swinger a little differently than the majority of people on this thread who liken it to regularity of meets and meets without a social element.
To me a hardened swinger is someone who has been on the scene for many years and seen and done it all. Its someone who has lost the initial thrill of the firsts and experience are just more of the same rather than an exciting new challenge.
When I hear people say they've been swinging for 10 plus years then that's what it symbolises to me, that there can be little left that they haven't seen or done.
It does seem to be used in a negative way and it shouldn't be as there's no right or wrong way in swinging. My perception of the term may not be the correct one but I do get the feeling that noone wants to admit that they are hardened swingers "
we've been on the scene for ten years and we certainly haven't seen it all or done it all .admittedly we dont play that often anymore ...and before anyone says it we have profiles on other site for years before coming on this one which is why |
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We only have three veri's but if all that makes us hardend so be it.but we like to think we learn something new with ever meet which we in turn have great pleasure passing on to anyone else we meet .so if being hardend is wrong I dont want to be right lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What exactly constitutes a hardened swinger and why is being one so bad? "
A good question, and loving the answers so far. Don't know the answer but it could be just another way of separating ourselves from each other, like using the word 'professional'. |
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We've been on the scene for 10 years or so and don't consider ourselves 'hardened' - yes, we have seen and done it all, but still get that thrill from playing whether with friends or strangers. Think we'd agree that hardened means you play as often as possible, at least every week, and just want to fuck and not connect in any other way with most of your playmates. We do that in clubs but prefer to socialize as well as have sex with others. Hardened swingers seem to be in it to get more notches on the bedpost, so to speak.
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