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We both discuss how hot the thought is of meeting people solo & the amazing sex that comes after but also are well aware of the reality if it doesn't match the fantasy, so to the hotwife cpls who have / do / want to do this, how has it gone for yous? Xx |
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As we are still very new to all of this, we have discussed the possibility of doing this in the future.
I think for us, it would have to be with a guy that we’ve had a few meets with first though, to build up that level of trust. |
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By *ndiiiMan
over a year ago
Paisley Scotland |
"As we are still very new to all of this, we have discussed the possibility of doing this in the future.
I think for us, it would have to be with a guy that we’ve had a few meets with first though, to build up that level of trust."
No shortage of offers I’d say xx |
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We do this and when it's good it's easily the most exciting thing we've done in terms of swinging. For me, I'd say the key is not being shy about saying no to someone if the conversation starts to feel a bit less than promising, or you meet and they're not as hot as they had seemed.
We arrange most of these meets through another site (a famous one originally set up to have affairs). A common scenario is that after a lot of chatting, we meet at a hotel bar (we prefer non-local people in this instance) and we all have a drink together and then Alice and the guy go off to the room.
99% of the time it has been incredible for our relationship. It's not always the best experience ever, obviously, but we've met less idiots this way than through trying to arrange mmf on fab.
OP, feel free to ask any questions. I'll invite Alice to contribute if you want to ask her anything directly. |
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"As we are still very new to all of this, we have discussed the possibility of doing this in the future.
I think for us, it would have to be with a guy that we’ve had a few meets with first though, to build up that level of trust."
Exactly the same for us, I think further down the line alone meets with someone we have already met would be an ideal scenario for us |
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"I think for us, it would have to be with a guy that we’ve had a few meets with first though, to build up that level of trust."
Meets as in socials, or play meets?
We decided not to do this sort of thing with people we have played with previously, as it takes away some of that "meeting with a stranger for sex" sort of excitement. (Not that they are a complete stranger by then, but in terms of undressing, experiencing for the first time, etc...)
Of course, everyone and every couple are different and you'd need to do what feels good and safe for you. |
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Our experiences have been slightly different in that we tend to build up a relationship with a guy/bull initially and then it leads onto a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, nights out, stop-overs,etc.
Most satisfying if you find the right guy/bull. |
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"As we are still very new to all of this, we have discussed the possibility of doing this in the future.
I think for us, it would have to be with a guy that we’ve had a few meets with first though, to build up that level of trust.
Exactly the same for us, I think further down the line alone meets with someone we have already met would be an ideal scenario for us"
Yes we will be looking along these lines, Mistress played with one guy while I was at work which I enjoyed pics etc but 2nd time I was at home and she was at his again pics and videos which was hot but it went silent and lost its allure to me so will be looking for me to be present for initial few meets from now on I think |
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Best thing we ever done. Had a few 3somes, she liked him and now meets solo two or 3 times a month, hence the little activity on Fab from us.
We have great sex when she gets home and tells me the details.
The hard bit is finding that someone that is suitable |
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"Best thing we ever done. Had a few 3somes, she liked him and now meets solo two or 3 times a month, hence the little activity on Fab from us.
We have great sex when she gets home and tells me the details.
The hard bit is finding that someone that is suitable "
Agree with that, a lot of bulls tend to be married so arranging meets can be quite tiresome on a long-term basis |
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We've done this a few times.
On a couple of occasions it was with guys we were already fully comfortable with, after meeting a few times before.
On one occasion it was a one night stand, bringing home a guy after a night out.
We thoroughly enjoyed those moments but rejected any opportunities since, as Mrs A prefers it when we're together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Done this a few times. It's basically a date night for the wife.
In the past husband has paid for her outfit prior to the meet.
Also booked us our restaurant and on one occasion sat away from us in a bar and was ignored all night. He then had to her a taxi home as we went to our hotel room
Not for everyone but we found it hot |
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"I think for us, it would have to be with a guy that we’ve had a few meets with first though, to build up that level of trust.
Meets as in socials, or play meets?
We decided not to do this sort of thing with people we have played with previously, as it takes away some of that "meeting with a stranger for sex" sort of excitement. (Not that they are a complete stranger by then, but in terms of undressing, experiencing for the first time, etc...)
Of course, everyone and every couple are different and you'd need to do what feels good and safe for you. "
I’m guessing it will kind of evolve for us over time, but we’d want to do a play meet first I’d think too.
Although, we are planning our first club visit(s) in the next few months, so who knows if we meet someone there that we decide to do a solo meet with.
Like you say though, we are all different and it’s about finding what works! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As we are still very new to all of this, we have discussed the possibility of doing this in the future.
I think for us, it would have to be with a guy that we’ve had a few meets with first though, to build up that level of trust."
I have just this arrangement with a couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our experiences have been slightly different in that we tend to build up a relationship with a guy/bull initially and then it leads onto a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, nights out, stop-overs,etc.
Most satisfying if you find the right guy/bull."
This would be our ideal option. Not easy though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve had some great experiences being with a married woman on her own (with husband’s knowledge).
There’s a subtle difference of thrill depending on which half of the couple takes the lead in organising it. |
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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago
SF, NY, London (in that order) |
We have dabbled with the solo meet idea in the past, but only now the pandemic is settling have we been able to finally actually do it! It's been a revelation actually, especially for those of us that have young families and find meeting as a couple challenging.
Since we moved to the USA, we have had to find other apps to find people though. Especially ENM, poly, open. Which feels different, at least in America.
Sexually though, it's incredibly liberating, and the reclaim is phenomenal. |
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This is how we play in the main due to family.
Lots of photos and videos are sent and often a phone call of L going at it..
Its hot as hell for us both.
Then she comes home throughly used dripping wet and tells me every little detail.
I cum without stimulation most times. |
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"Our experiences have been slightly different in that we tend to build up a relationship with a guy/bull initially and then it leads onto a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, nights out, stop-overs,etc.
Most satisfying if you find the right guy/bull.
This would be our ideal option. Not easy though "
It’s not easy, but we’ve found one or two guys/bulls over the years where this dynamic has worked well for all concerned. |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Wife has done this with a couple of guys who we had met together previously. Did this in hotels and it was great. A real turn on for all.
Then we decided to take it to the next level and meet at one guys house. That ended very badly when the guy continually tried to force p0ppers on the wife despite her protesting. She left. That meet probably gave insight as to why a good looking guy in his 40s was not in a serious relationship for the 10 years we had known him.
So it can be good but even if you know them you have to be careful. It’s pretty much put us off single guys. |
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Great fun so long as the lady doesn't get too attached. Twice now after meeting couples at my home to reassure him that his wife was playing with a clean, and reliable guy in a safe environment, the ladies would text me and ask if they could come round and play. I thought that these get togethers were with their husbands knowledge, but then the shit hit the fan when it emerged that they had no idea that we were meeting, and it became apparent that the ladies had started to develop feelings for me. So I'm a bit undecided about future solo encounters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We both discuss how hot the thought is of meeting people solo & the amazing sex that comes after but also are well aware of the reality if it doesn't match the fantasy, so to the hotwife cpls who have / do / want to do this, how has it gone for yous? Xx"
This is something we've discussed and my wife loves the idea of meeting alone. It's definitely an idea that intrigues me too.
A good connection and trust between all parties is essential though I would say. |
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Was something wife and I were just discussing this week as she’s due to go on holiday again. And last time was when it all started, a week of teasing each other while she was aWay got us to the point of trying out Hotwifing, and her meeting alone on her journey home.
Was a very nervous build up, and there’s been hiccups on the way but generally that experience and all since have been incredibly hot
For both of us |
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"This is how we play in the main due to family.
Lots of photos and videos are sent and often a phone call of L going at it..
Its hot as hell for us both.
Then she comes home throughly used dripping wet and tells me every little detail.
I cum without stimulation most times."
Sounds very hot  |
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"This is how we play in the main due to family.
Lots of photos and videos are sent and often a phone call of L going at it..
Its hot as hell for us both.
Then she comes home throughly used dripping wet and tells me every little detail.
I cum without stimulation most times."
That sounds very much like our situation. No time to meet together, but maximise meeting apart. Little FaceTime call doesn’t go amisss too |
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By *P4SEXMan
over a year ago
preston |
Yes, from experience I think this works quite well. It also offers up some exciting scenarios, playing on hubbys mind as he waits in the bar, then gets pics and videos from the room, showing him what is happening. |
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"We both discuss how hot the thought is of meeting people solo & the amazing sex that comes after but also are well aware of the reality if it doesn't match the fantasy, so to the hotwife cpls who have / do / want to do this, how has it gone for yous? Xx"
Trust is the most important thing.
We like to meet prospective play mate's first socially together first if we are BOTH happy then play happens alone.
The guy has to respect the husband and understand that the meet is for him almost as much as it is for her.
I try to stick with trusted friends who understand the dynamics of our relationship and the fact hubby isn't a cuck. |
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"We both discuss how hot the thought is of meeting people solo & the amazing sex that comes after but also are well aware of the reality if it doesn't match the fantasy, so to the hotwife cpls who have / do / want to do this, how has it gone for yous? Xx"
This is something we are very much looking to get into, its a huge turn on for us both  x |
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"We both discuss how hot the thought is of meeting people solo & the amazing sex that comes after but also are well aware of the reality if it doesn't match the fantasy, so to the hotwife cpls who have / do / want to do this, how has it gone for yous? Xx
This is something we are very much looking to get into, its a huge turn on for us both x"
I'm sure you won't be short of offers.....  |
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"We both discuss how hot the thought is of meeting people solo & the amazing sex that comes after but also are well aware of the reality if it doesn't match the fantasy, so to the hotwife cpls who have / do / want to do this, how has it gone for yous? Xx
This is something we are very much looking to get into, its a huge turn on for us both x"
I’d be happy to help  |
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After a very long break my wife has said that she wants this with her last guy. She said she wants the freedom of sex without having to perform for an audience and they get to do just want they want.
I must confess that I’ve always loved this idea and can’t wait to see how things developed for them. |
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As i write this update she's only just back a few hours ago for the weekend in Manchester with family and I suggested she get some special lingerie that only he will see, to which she readily agreed, going to Victoria Secret no less. 'I might let you see a picture of it, but only if he agrees. From now on, you don't get a say, understood?' and kind of gives me a look that says I mean business. Unlike the first journey we took, there seems to be very little resistence to the changes in dynamic, so pretty much confirms how she felt back then all along. She has birth control and he's now probably going to let him cum wherever.
She then said 'I'll be fucking pissed off with you if you pester me for details. I'll get a shower, some wine and then reiterated that I won't be getting updates of any kind tomorrow. I nodded in agreement and said I won't bother her. She looked at me sternly and said 'In fact, when I get home tomorrow afternoon when I'm ready I might fill you in on some details. Or might just flick your dick at bedtime.'
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Me mrs would meet solo most of the time, it was far easier at the time, she used to send me videos and pics while i was at home, turned me on so much knowing she was being pleasured by another guy. |
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Have always encouraged my wife to play solo.Very erotic knowing that she fucks others in my abscense adds a little bit more naughtiness to the scenario and always a delight when she surprises me with a used pussy. |
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We originally began our 'journey' just meeting couples together (which we still love) however things got tricky with childcare so about 2 years ago we started meeting solo. We both find it such a turn on knowing we are out with someone and the reclaim is hot!! There has to be a decent amount of trust we think to do this but you wont regret it |
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By *lashyMan 1 week ago
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My wife routinely plays alone although we had a spell of going to swingers clubs and parties, the vast majority of men she has met have been from outside of the ‘swinging community’. Generally she meets them in the old fashioned way on nights out or through dating sites. The men involved seem to automatically assume she is divorced/separated or cheating. |
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Rach has met 2 guys solo (having initially been watched by me previously) with no issues raised - if anything she told she found it a bit more liberating WITHOUT having an audience.
It's highly possible she will meet one of these particular guys solo tomorrow. |
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We had an arrangement with this couple where Mrs met him solo and I met his Mrs solo taking vids and pics so we could see/watch when with respective partners. We also took turns sitting out threesomes aswell. So many hot matchups. Was great fun. |
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"Rach has met 2 guys solo (having initially been watched by me previously) with no issues raised - if anything she told she found it a bit more liberating WITHOUT having an audience.
It's highly possible she will meet one of these particular guys solo tomorrow."
How was it? |
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This is still fairly new to us , but as a rule L will only meet guys we’ve previously played or have met in a club. At least she knows what to expect from them and knows she will enjoy it. We like pics and videos to be sent while the meet is happening so always make sure everyone is comfortable with that before it happens.
So far every meet has been amazing and she’s came home smiling, the sex has been amazing afterwards and we’ve enjoyed watching and reliving it together x |
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