Love the freedom and liberation that comes with firm rules and clear boundries. It's so hot when a couple clearly communicates exactly what they do, and don't want. You can do what you want in between the boundaries and you don't have to worry about accidentaly crossing a line  |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"What are your rules as a couple?  "
Char can play with who she wants, when she wants and where she wants as long as I know about it before, during or after. No secrets is all.
Otherwise....no anal, no feet, no gags and nothing too kinky until we know them well.
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We've only 2 steadfast ones at the min but that might change in the future noone but hub gets anal and no cum in or on my pussy but as said we might increase the number of rules and also maybe take some away |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Our rules are we always try and go first (sometimes taken over by the moment) and last together. We’ll always reconnect sexually after a play date, however full on it’s been or exhausted we are. It’s like reclamation of what’s ours. Mrs doesn’t do anal with anyone but Mr. Mr only does anal with lots of lube and covered. Mrs doesn’t like her neck/throat held, she doesn’t have cum on her face although she’ll happily take in her mouth, her pussy or over her tits. Neither of us do poo or piss. BDSM/Fetish fun we keep for us currently although we have occasionally played with others when the mood has taken us. Other than that we’re up for most things. |
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person  "
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible."
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself |
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself "
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would? "
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either |
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either"
 understood
It's a preference like any other |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either"
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly? |
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly?"
I can't speak for this poster but I am more than happy for that to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly?"
It's called a preference and we all have them. Why do people continually feel the need to question other people's preferences? by saying I don't get that. You don't get it because it's not your preference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly?"
Personally, no.
But I would make compromises based on how serious I was about him and I as a couple |
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly?
It's called a preference and we all have them. Why do people continually feel the need to question other people's preferences? by saying I don't get that. You don't get it because it's not your preference. "
The no kissing thing is often hotly debated in fab. It'll never be resolved  |
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over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly?
Personally, no.
But I would make compromises based on how serious I was about him and I as a couple"
I'm not a swinger, but I am a realist.
Any need or want of an extra party would be the start of the end of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly?
It's called a preference and we all have them. Why do people continually feel the need to question other people's preferences? by saying I don't get that. You don't get it because it's not your preference. "
I’m not questioning your preference I was just seeking polite clarification for my understanding. It’s a forum isn’t it ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly?
It's called a preference and we all have them. Why do people continually feel the need to question other people's preferences? by saying I don't get that. You don't get it because it's not your preference.
I’m not questioning your preference I was just seeking polite clarification for my understanding. It’s a forum isn’t it ? "
it's not mu preference either it's ops... but my point stands - we all have preferences and we don't need to justify them. |
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
Dundalk |
We haven't met anyone as a couple yet but our rules as fab friends is total unadulterated honesty. We have no secrets from each other and anyone we meet will be an equal up to a point. There are certain things we are extremely comfortable with just between us that no-one else will get to experience.
Everything else will be discussed individually. |
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible."
We do exactly the same for the exact same reason! |
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"What are your rules as a couple? "
We try to be super open and clear on our profile so people can see from the get go what we're into and what's not OK for us, e.g. no kissing on the face but all other areas are fair game.
And then between ourselves things like:
My husband can veto any of my choices and it stops immediately, no arguments or questions - a huge part of my enjoyment comes from him so if he's not feeling it for any reason he can say so
Nothing that is going to impact or interfere with our normal home or work lives
No secrets
Nothing that's going to put either of us at risk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there are quite a few couples we know who dont kiss others ... their rules their swinging life it works for them and others ...
we have rules in place that have been there forever but because we talk all the time things change here n there its about thing we want and dont want in that moment .. safety rules are strict ... theres some lines drawn in the sand that other people should not cross ... once blocked always blocked ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are your rules as a couple? "
We are still fairly new to the scene as a couple but as it stands, our definite rules are: only J gets to do anal on me, unless it’s another woman with a strap on; I only want to swallow his cum but I will happy suck other cocks; and we will only play together in the same room. No from one of us is a no for both of us - if we are not both in agreement on something then it’s a no.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either
But happy for your partner to fuck a random. Am I understanding you correctly?
It's called a preference and we all have them. Why do people continually feel the need to question other people's preferences? by saying I don't get that. You don't get it because it's not your preference. "
100% |
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either"
see I'm weird. I love seeing a partner when I have one kissing someone else but I don't like being kissed myself |
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over a year ago
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"As a couple no kissing casual partners.
Individually we have our own too
I can’t imagine sex without kissing the other person
No, a lot of people can't. . That's why we put it on our profile so they know we're not compatible.
I totally get this one tbh. Not in a couple atm but I wouldn't like that being offered myself
You wouldn't like kissing being offered or you would?
I wouldn't enjoy watching my partner kissing a random.
I'd not seek it for myself either see I'm weird. I love seeing a partner when I have one kissing someone else but I don't like being kissed myself "
We love kissing and watching our partners being kissed |
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