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Things people say on posts and messages that are red flags
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What are some of the things that people say on their posts and messages that are red flags and tell you they are toxic?
For me, one of those is “ if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best”
Why the hell would anyone want to handle you at your worst? It guarantees they won’t be around to see your best. |
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Profiles that are basically just a rant and/or list of any grievances they have had with previous meets or people they have messaged.
It mediately sets a very negative tone for anyone reading it and for any header brave enough to message them. |
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"Profiles that are basically just a rant and/or list of any grievances they have had with previous meets or people they have messaged.
It mediately sets a very negative tone for anyone reading it and for any header brave enough to message them. "
Agree.
Not exactly putting their best foot forward, is it? Defeats the purpose of making a good first impression |
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Any profile that treats entire groups / sections of society as things to cross off their bucket list. Call me old fashioned, but what ever happened to fancying the PERSON, not their age, skin colour, accent......?
So "Really wanna try it wiv a [insert label]" is a definite stopper for me.  |
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over a year ago
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"Any profile that treats entire groups / sections of society as things to cross off their bucket list. Call me old fashioned, but what ever happened to fancying the PERSON, not their age, skin colour, accent......?
So "Really wanna try it wiv a [insert label]" is a definite stopper for me. "
100% this |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"Ohhh offering money for Greedy...
Had that a few times.
Or just addressing one of us etc  "
Wow!!! We'd be tempted to report them..
And oh yes, couple's addressing Y only.. Delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ohhh offering money for Greedy...
Had that a few times.
Or just addressing one of us etc
Wow!!! We'd be tempted to report them..
And oh yes, couple's addressing Y only.. Delete "
We do, report and instant block |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end 
Indeed fab pics, especially outdoor, at one with nature"
For your age!!!
Sorry, had to do it  |
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"We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end
Indeed fab pics, especially outdoor, at one with nature
For your age!!!
Sorry, had to do it "
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Naming other profiles and slagging them off on status updates.
Moaning that nobody replies and they can't get a meet,usually from shadow profiles.
Can't add pics due to work ,really you can't add anything at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No pics or text on profile anything over a couple of weeks old. Shows a distinctly lazy attitude to trying to get laid.
Compounded by replying with ‘well, what would you like to know?’ when told as much  |
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The dom/sub/master/Sir thing does nothing for us.
Lazy boring clichés like if carlsberg did swingers etc ... they do bang average lager. We don't bite unless you want us too, yawn...
The whole ropes making parts of your body red. No
Extreme close up open pussy and cock pics. Yak
Demanding and negative profiles put us off.
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Being given choice of dom or sub... some of us are neither!
Anyone asking for a hung guy... sorry but my cock is not the most important thing.
Lastly bit red flag for me is anyone who mentions hard drugs.. immediate block. |
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Lines that give away
- bareback ( block)
- BBC ( narrow minded thinking all black men are same )
- ranting on status and profile
- profile is full of negative stuff about others
- no profile pic still asking for face pic with first message
- cock pic as profile pic even for a couple ( just yuk)
- disrespectful
- desperate
- impolite towards certain race ( I know everyone has sexual preferences, doesn't mean to stage others)
- no humour at all ( not sure I am going to spend an hour in the same room with them )
-arrogance
- how big is your cock ?? as first question..I will send it by post ??
- just chatting ( penpals lol)
- and so on |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
People who vocally state on forum posts that bareback is the best thing ever and the only way they play, yet have safe sex listed as an interest and tel you in messages they always use precautions.
Yeah....OK.......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Used to be on here as a couple and we arranged a few gangbangs occasionally.
We used to get replies from men who declared they were "VERY experienced gangbang veterans" but on viewing their profiles they wouldn't even have gangbangs selected as one of their interests.  |
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By *ampire69Man
over a year ago
Birmingham West Midlands |
when your based in birmingham or anywhere and you get meet request from london penzance manchester glasgow,do you think i am going to jump on my bike and start pedalling to get to you come on FFS |
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A lot put me off haha not necessarily red flags but for me it's a no.
Bareback forum threads
Bareback pics
Entitled/rude people
Racism selected as a preference
Sex chat . Yes it's a sex site but I don't know you and don't know if I want to have sex with you yet.
Dom, bull, daddy crap. Honestly loads more, it just gives me the ick.
My status are usually ranty lol and my profile is pretty long  |
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"Ones that demand a "clear face pic" in first message when their profile has no pics at all, rudeness is a big no as well. "
Hahahah yes this. "Face pic or no reply" on a profile with no pics. Usually accompanied by a shitty ranty bio that leaves nothing whatsoever to actually make you want to message in the first place. |
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