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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Have any other wives or girlfriends experienced this. Before meeting Hoodoo Man I was single on here. I could always find fun if I wanted to being a single lady. Now as a couple account we have received so many messages from single men wanting to meet we’ve had to block them. My question is ladies, Why do single men love being with attached women? I sometimes feel Cheated as if I’m not the main or only reason these guys want to meet whilst they make the conversation all about me and my pleasure. Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Kitty

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By *riel13Woman  over a year ago

Northampton

They just love being with women... I don't think they care if they are attached or not

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Fun and done no commitments.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

They think it's easier than going after single woman as they have millions of messages

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I think men see it more kinky to be in a threesome plus he can give you back at the end of night with zero issues where single woman might expect more... I'm guessing lol

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By *oxy jWoman  over a year ago

somerset

i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

op if you dont feel right meeting men now your attached then maybe dont meet them ? or make sure from the beginning via messages that your meeting the right guys for you ... but all men are not the same in fact in my eyes there are far more good men than sometimes this scene portrays each and everyone will have there own agenda and not all are bad .... thats my view anyway

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Some good points here. Not sure about the “giving back” not met one single guy who could dominate Hoodoo Man . We’re looking for single guys and women who understand pleasures and not egos. We have found that women are far more in touch and naturally more connected and comfortable with this dynamic than men.

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By *ee EllCouple  over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"Some good points here. Not sure about the “giving back” not met one single guy who could dominate Hoodoo Man . We’re looking for single guys and women who understand pleasures and not egos. We have found that women are far more in touch and naturally more connected and comfortable with this dynamic than men. "

most of the messages from guys we get go straight to talking about fucking a "married female". I always think thats a secret need to feel like they're cucking the husband - L.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport


"i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

op if you dont feel right meeting men now your attached then maybe dont meet them ? or make sure from the beginning via messages that your meeting the right guys for you ... but all men are not the same in fact in my eyes there are far more good men than sometimes this scene portrays each and everyone will have there own agenda and not all are bad .... thats my view anyway "

Thanks for your reply. I can see this working in your relationship and completely understand why your experiences as an attached female have developed these opinions and feelings. However we are not looking for a cuckold situation for the simple reason that Hoodoo Man is in no way a Cuck . He’s masculine. Commanding, confident, strong and packing. He’s ex military and experienced many different situations I can’t even imagine being in. Our issue is, why does every single guy who contacts us think he is Bull or Alpha even when our desires are explained. We both want to experience and share different people together male and female within our boundaries. It’s not about anyone feeling superior, if anything it’s about our love, kink and relationship together. Anyone who doesn’t respect that doesn’t get past the second message.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport


"Some good points here. Not sure about the “giving back” not met one single guy who could dominate Hoodoo Man . We’re looking for single guys and women who understand pleasures and not egos. We have found that women are far more in touch and naturally more connected and comfortable with this dynamic than men.

It’s a real shame especially when it’s not what you’re looking for. Hoodoo laughs about their insecurities lol

most of the messages from guys we get go straight to talking about fucking a "married female". I always think thats a secret need to feel like they're cucking the husband - L."

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By *oxy jWoman  over a year ago

somerset


"i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

op if you dont feel right meeting men now your attached then maybe dont meet them ? or make sure from the beginning via messages that your meeting the right guys for you ... but all men are not the same in fact in my eyes there are far more good men than sometimes this scene portrays each and everyone will have there own agenda and not all are bad .... thats my view anyway

Thanks for your reply. I can see this working in your relationship and completely understand why your experiences as an attached female have developed these opinions and feelings. However we are not looking for a cuckold situation for the simple reason that Hoodoo Man is in no way a Cuck . He’s masculine. Commanding, confident, strong and packing. He’s ex military and experienced many different situations I can’t even imagine being in. Our issue is, why does every single guy who contacts us think he is Bull or Alpha even when our desires are explained. We both want to experience and share different people together male and female within our boundaries. It’s not about anyone feeling superior, if anything it’s about our love, kink and relationship together. Anyone who doesn’t respect that doesn’t get past the second message. "

i was not answering from a cuckold point of view that was a general view the problem is alot of men just dont know how to be they get attacked for everything they do so they are dammed if they do and dammed if they dont .... i think it all to do with the chat before hand and telling them what you expect ..

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By *ee EllCouple  over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"Some good points here. Not sure about the “giving back” not met one single guy who could dominate Hoodoo Man . We’re looking for single guys and women who understand pleasures and not egos. We have found that women are far more in touch and naturally more connected and comfortable with this dynamic than men.

It’s a real shame especially when it’s not what you’re looking for. Hoodoo laughs about their insecurities lol

most of the messages from guys we get go straight to talking about fucking a "married female". I always think thats a secret need to feel like they're cucking the husband - L."

Yeah we totally get what you mean. for us we feel like the ones that say about it feel like they must be the exception. - L.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

As said in first response, we do and yet the guys still only interested in being the dominant one and their own fantasies. They never get past the second message, hence why we prefer to play with couples than singles. However we both do want threesome, moresome with other singles. Much easier to get males involved yet most are just time wasters and guys who think the female isn’t satisfied and easy lol . I have my bull we want experiences now not egos.


"i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

op if you dont feel right meeting men now your attached then maybe dont meet them ? or make sure from the beginning via messages that your meeting the right guys for you ... but all men are not the same in fact in my eyes there are far more good men than sometimes this scene portrays each and everyone will have there own agenda and not all are bad .... thats my view anyway

Thanks for your reply. I can see this working in your relationship and completely understand why your experiences as an attached female have developed these opinions and feelings. However we are not looking for a cuckold situation for the simple reason that Hoodoo Man is in no way a Cuck . He’s masculine. Commanding, confident, strong and packing. He’s ex military and experienced many different situations I can’t even imagine being in. Our issue is, why does every single guy who contacts us think he is Bull or Alpha even when our desires are explained. We both want to experience and share different people together male and female within our boundaries. It’s not about anyone feeling superior, if anything it’s about our love, kink and relationship together. Anyone who doesn’t respect that doesn’t get past the second message.

i was not answering from a cuckold point of view that was a general view the problem is alot of men just dont know how to be they get attacked for everything they do so they are dammed if they do and dammed if they dont .... i think it all to do with the chat before hand and telling them what you expect ..

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"As said in first response, we do and yet the guys still only interested in being the dominant one and their own fantasies. They never get past the second message, hence why we prefer to play with couples than singles. However we both do want threesome, moresome with other singles. Much easier to get males involved yet most are just time wasters and guys who think the female isn’t satisfied and easy lol . I have my bull we want experiences now not egos.

i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

op if you dont feel right meeting men now your attached then maybe dont meet them ? or make sure from the beginning via messages that your meeting the right guys for you ... but all men are not the same in fact in my eyes there are far more good men than sometimes this scene portrays each and everyone will have there own agenda and not all are bad .... thats my view anyway

Thanks for your reply. I can see this working in your relationship and completely understand why your experiences as an attached female have developed these opinions and feelings. However we are not looking for a cuckold situation for the simple reason that Hoodoo Man is in no way a Cuck . He’s masculine. Commanding, confident, strong and packing. He’s ex military and experienced many different situations I can’t even imagine being in. Our issue is, why does every single guy who contacts us think he is Bull or Alpha even when our desires are explained. We both want to experience and share different people together male and female within our boundaries. It’s not about anyone feeling superior, if anything it’s about our love, kink and relationship together. Anyone who doesn’t respect that doesn’t get past the second message.

i was not answering from a cuckold point of view that was a general view the problem is alot of men just dont know how to be they get attacked for everything they do so they are dammed if they do and dammed if they dont .... i think it all to do with the chat before hand and telling them what you expect ..

"

Agree 100% about egos. Everyone satisfied fully, equally or nobody happy. Xx

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By *mooth Operator 07Man  over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Believe it or not, but the same shit happens to attached men. Not that I am at the moment.

I can walk to a pub, clubs or other social environment's on my own and no woman would battered an eyelid. However, if I walkend accompanied in the same places with a woman, all of a sudden women look at me.

I don't get it and I never understood why? I just let let go over my head and not get involved in the nonsense what i witnessed.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man  over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Apologies, ladies' wrong comment wrong place. I should take more notice when it's female zone only.

Sorry.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Believe it or not, but the same shit happens to attached men. Not that I am at the moment.

I can walk to a pub, clubs or other social environment's on my own and no woman would battered an eyelid. However, if I walkend accompanied in the same places with a woman, all of a sudden women look at me.

I don't get it and I never understood why? I just let let go over my head and not get involved in the nonsense what i witnessed. "

The acknowledgement that a woman finds you attractive is a good initial safety net for a woman. But just because a man is with a woman, I wouldn't find them ALL attractive. Lol

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By *ad_buddiesCouple  over a year ago

London

I think men can be territorial. The fact that you "belong" to someone else spikes that behaviour.

It like a dog peeing on something to make it his lol

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By *red333Man  over a year ago

Dorchester

Man wants woman or man wants hole, which evolved first?

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

And this is the difficulty we’re finding. Hoodoo Man wants me and wants to help fulfill my fantasies as I do with him. And this is why women understand and honestly want to be apart of our dynamic more than men. I’ve yet to meet one man that would last more than one minute before Hoodoo showed him real dominance and primal instinct if he came with the attitude of man wants hole and Alpha. It’s so frustrating for us both


"Man wants woman or man wants hole, which evolved first? "

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire

Do you feel mr hoodoo is perhaps expecting guys who contact you to jump through unrealistic hoops?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I’m not a fan of the Alpha thing, a real Alpha doesn’t need to posture or have titles, it’s almost as though it’s known but doesn’t need saying, plus there are many forms of alpha depending on what it is you are after.

As a single woman on here of course you didn’t have any trouble, the reality being that you guys hold all the power, it doesn’t happen without your say so, there are laws about men being the original alpha male stereotype.

As for now it just sounds like you haven’t met the right third wheel

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't think they actually do prefer being with attached women. It's a numbers game and single women are a rare find in this game, couples are a lot easier to reach and connect with.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Absolutely not. Hoodoo being ex military and an honourably, honest and trustworthy man expects the same from other single guys. He expects they understand why we as a couple are doing this and why we want this. He expects them to respect our relationship and expectations. He expects them to honour their commitments and understanding of our relationship. And most of all he expects them to understand he is doing this for our kink’s and not for a single guy to stroke and massage his own ego, especially given Hoodoo’s experiences and background. You couldn’t meet a more secure, confident, intelligent and caring man. He’s built my confidence and shown me I don’t have to settle for these kind of guys, I can have my cake and eat it. We are just finding it difficult to find single guys who truly fall into this category. It’s interesting how you passively aggressively suggest it’s Hoodoo who is at fault. Hoodoo showed me what I’m worth and what I deserve. If you want a part of our magic yet lacking, yes you will feel you have to jump through a lot of hoops. Whilst he just dances through them with a smile. To be honest when we’ve tried to meet single guys, met socially etc their assertiveness, bravado and confidence disappears within the hour. This may be because Hoodoo expects a certain attribute and moral compass from single guys, which he finds more easily in couples. But this attribute isn’t Hoodoo’s lacking as you suggest. It’s the single guys (we have conversed with so far that are lacking) if you’re happy to make do (as I was in the past) with that then you will do well, cause there are plenty available


"Do you feel mr hoodoo is perhaps expecting guys who contact you to jump through unrealistic hoops?"

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

This is exactly that. The third wheel has to fit with us and not the porn films they like to watch and fantasies over


"I’m not a fan of the Alpha thing, a real Alpha doesn’t need to posture or have titles, it’s almost as though it’s known but doesn’t need saying, plus there are many forms of alpha depending on what it is you are after.

As a single woman on here of course you didn’t have any trouble, the reality being that you guys hold all the power, it doesn’t happen without your say so, there are laws about men being the original alpha male stereotype.

As for now it just sounds like you haven’t met the right third wheel "

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

I agree with your maths, however the human element is when reading some of the BS from single guys in the forum a large majority say how turned on or excited etc they are knowing they are fucking another man’s wife, as if the woman/wife alone isn’t enough for them, but the power balance and lack of connection (because let’s be honest if that guy was connected with the couple the power balance wouldn’t be present) is what really gets them off. A lot of attached guys on here will follow the females wishes/fantasies being institutionalised and programmed overtime , example Not Looking For Single Men, Profile Verifications 20 single men 1 couple 0 females. I think in many cases single guys find attached frustrated women an easier target with less risk and single women more work to impress. Sorry I’m not meaning to slander all single guys, we’re just finding really difficult to find one who meets our dynamic. All talk about sharing and pleasure but very few if any are there because they truly want to enhance or have any interest in the couples experiences and respect their relationship. They say it lol but duplicate with every word.


"I don't think they actually do prefer being with attached women. It's a numbers game and single women are a rare find in this game, couples are a lot easier to reach and connect with."

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By *imi_RougeWoman  over a year ago

Portsmouth

I like the sound of your partner, he's holding other men accountable, he knows what men are like and can see straight through them. They might be able to keep up the facade with women, but not him.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Thank you Hoodoo would appreciate your comment, he often gets slammed for his honesty and outlook. What you have said is exactly the problem we are having. It’s not that Hoodoo doesn’t want or insecure/jealous of other guys far from that, it’s the other guys don’t get, interested or care about us and our relationship. Hoodoo and I would not want to share ourselves with anybody like that. Hence why couples and single females fit our dynamic much better, as they have a similar outlook as ourselves. Hoodoo feels bad because he wants to see me fulfill my fantasies but only with the right people and unfortunately no single guys have come close so far.


"I like the sound of your partner, he's holding other men accountable, he knows what men are like and can see straight through them. They might be able to keep up the facade with women, but not him."

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By *imi_RougeWoman  over a year ago

Portsmouth

Hold out until you meet the right person, it's equally a hard as a single woman. Like you say, lots of interest, but low quality!

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Hold out until you meet the right person, it's equally a hard as a single woman. Like you say, lots of interest, but low quality!"

I think it sounds like it's hoodoo that will decide who's the right person

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I’m sorry, forgive me, but are classifying yourself in the “attached frustrated women” category, I was under the impression that couples who are looking for a third were generally very happy and secure in their relationship, only opening up to the idea of adding another to enhance what they already have.

As for saying many male partners are being institutionalised and programmed, is that not just a little bit offensive, I’m sure some me enjoy taking a backseat and letting another man devour their wife, while they had little to no involvement (cuckolding), just because it’s not your partner’s kink, doesn’t mean you get belittle those that enjoy it, I’m sure it takes a self assured confident man to be part of an arrangement like that.

A little naive to think you could just come online and find exactly what you want without any effort, surely you must remember the story of the princess who had to kiss a lot of frogs before she found her prince, well my dear this is a big pond with an awful lot of frogs in it.

Spare a thought for the decent guys on here being tarnished with the same brush as the smooth talking assholes who didn’t meet your expectations, I’ve read profiles on here where they specifically mention personal hygiene is a must, I mean come on, how the fuck is that an actual thing needs to be said, but here we are in world filled with different people, with different ideas and expectations, wouldn’t it be boring if we were all the same.

You’ve found yourself a good man, I’m sure he wasn’t the first man you found yourself with, but you did find a good, there is no reason why won’t find another to throw into the mix, might just take a bit of time is all.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

I know we both will decide and this is another difficulty in couple. Both have to be happy, Hoodoo has suggested plenty of guys, we have discussed in detail and he has been very positive and eager, yet I was the one who said no. I think you may be projecting your own relationship or experiences onto Hoodoo which says more about you than it does Hoodoo


"Hold out until you meet the right person, it's equally a hard as a single woman. Like you say, lots of interest, but low quality!

I think it sounds like it's hoodoo that will decide who's the right person "

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple  over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"Fun and done no commitments."

I think you are onto something there

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I know we both will decide and this is another difficulty in couple. Both have to be happy, Hoodoo has suggested plenty of guys, we have discussed in detail and he has been very positive and eager, yet I was the one who said no. I think you may be projecting your own relationship or experiences onto Hoodoo which says more about you than it does Hoodoo

Hold out until you meet the right person, it's equally a hard as a single woman. Like you say, lots of interest, but low quality!

I think it sounds like it's hoodoo that will decide who's the right person "

I don't even know what you're on about now

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals

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By *esparate danMan  over a year ago

glasgow

It sounds like Hoodoo would have more success taking you back to the barracks one night

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By *ustBoWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals "

pretty much this. No one should be a third wheel or have to jump through hoops to prove they are worthy of a meet. If it's not mutual pleasure and respect for all involved then it shouldn't happen. No one should be made to feel they are there to be a plaything in someone else's fantasy.

Yes it can be hard to find the right person but treating them as a third wheel you'll just get people who won't care about anything bar getting a fuck,any decent guy who respects himself and others would walk away if they are treated like that. Decent guys have more respect for themselves than to jump through hoops. I bet your partner wouldn't so why expect others to.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Many thanks for your input and we are glad how well you are doing with journey. However looking at your verifications and experiences especially the as it appears just the female half of the relationship is getting the attention is the exact opposite of what we are looking for. No need to relax, it’s easy to find single men who just want to fuck and feel more confident when the male partner is just watching. This would not work for us as Hoodoo will never come second to anyone. Yet the single guys who contact us assume this or hide it as part of their agenda. Your experiences are yours but not what we are looking for. Nothing to do with jumping through hoops, it’s about fitting our dynamic, if you don’t fit then you will feel you have to jump through hoops or feel the third wheel. This is what we want to avoid not create.


"Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals "

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Again we don’t treat them as a third wheel. I can understand how this is difficult for a single woman on here to understand being on this site and all the attention being directed only to you. Relationships require attention to all in the relationship . The issue is after a few conversations the single men start treating Hoodoo as the third wheel, which is laughable at best because when Hoodoo gets involved in the conversation their bravado disappears and they ghost us. Not because WE are rude or unfair, because they don’t care about Our desires and are emotionally immature not ever being in a committed relationship.


"Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals

pretty much this. No one should be a third wheel or have to jump through hoops to prove they are worthy of a meet. If it's not mutual pleasure and respect for all involved then it shouldn't happen. No one should be made to feel they are there to be a plaything in someone else's fantasy.

Yes it can be hard to find the right person but treating them as a third wheel you'll just get people who won't care about anything bar getting a fuck,any decent guy who respects himself and others would walk away if they are treated like that. Decent guys have more respect for themselves than to jump through hoops. I bet your partner wouldn't so why expect others to. "

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By *luttyLaylaWoman  over a year ago

North West

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Many thanks for your input and we are glad how well you are doing with journey. However looking at your verifications and experiences especially the as it appears just the female half of the relationship is getting the attention is the exact opposite of what we are looking for. No need to relax, it’s easy to find single men who just want to fuck and feel more confident when the male partner is just watching. This would not work for us as Hoodoo will never come second to anyone. Yet the single guys who contact us assume this or hide it as part of their agenda. Your experiences are yours but not what we are looking for. Nothing to do with jumping through hoops, it’s about fitting our dynamic, if you don’t fit then you will feel you have to jump through hoops or feel the third wheel. This is what we want to avoid not create.

Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals "

I think you maybe didn't read our verifications very well. My partner has never just watched. In fact, with only a couple of exceptions, we play together. Everyone involved. My partner doesn't come second and I think it's an incredible jump that's brought you to that conclusion. Or wilful ignorance. Again, I'd suggest if you softened the air of arrogance you might fare better.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman  over a year ago

North West

Couples reply more than single women profiles. Most aren’t bothered if single or not as long as no drama.

(Obviously not speaking for all of making presumptions- just based on all my single male friends comments and being here years!)

It’s all a numbers game. Single male profiles are more likely to get replies from couples than they are single females purely cos there’s more of them.

Also answers why you think they treat your partner like a third wheel- cos they don’t care and just want the women.

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.


"Couples reply more than single women profiles. Most aren’t bothered if single or not as long as no drama.

(Obviously not speaking for all of making presumptions- just based on all my single male friends comments and being here years!)

It’s all a numbers game. Single male profiles are more likely to get replies from couples than they are single females purely cos there’s more of them.

Also answers why you think they treat your partner like a third wheel- cos they don’t care and just want the women. "

As a bloke it's this in a nut shell

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Exactly this. All singles responding to this post should look at this from a couples perspective and not a singles. We’re not being overly specific/dramatic etc far from it. We are also as our profile states not a hot wife/ cuckold etc couple. We’re looking for fun with others be it singles, couples or more. It’s just funny how couples and single females seem to understand our dynamic and it is far easier for us to enjoy those interactions giving enjoyment to all than it is single guys. Perhaps we are something different that doesn’t fit into the demographics of fab. But I very much doubt that. It’s most probably because we have stated what we are looking for and prepared not to sugarcoat it, half the time being labelled as fake etc. Yet when Hoodoo tests their validity not overtly or harshly but honourably and consistently to our relationship and goals , their character weakens and the reality of why this single male wants to meet with us becomes apparently clear and it couldn’t be further from our aspirations . Yet couple’s and single females have a different mindset. From our non sugarcoating experiences anyway .


"Some good points here. Not sure about the “giving back” not met one single guy who could dominate Hoodoo Man . We’re looking for single guys and women who understand pleasures and not egos. We have found that women are far more in touch and naturally more connected and comfortable with this dynamic than men.

most of the messages from guys we get go straight to talking about fucking a "married female". I always think thats a secret need to feel like they're cucking the husband - L."

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

I think your last sentence answered your own question.


"Couples reply more than single women profiles. Most aren’t bothered if single or not as long as no drama.

(Obviously not speaking for all of making presumptions- just based on all my single male friends comments and being here years!)

It’s all a numbers game. Single male profiles are more likely to get replies from couples than they are single females purely cos there’s more of them.

Also answers why you think they treat your partner like a third wheel- cos they don’t care and just want the women. "

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Granted I don’t read them fully more a quick glance. However glad you have raised that my attention and now I have taken a more in-depth look. Not sure what any others might think but all I see is K and further down Molly mentioned very little about Mr. I really don’t think I got it wrong at first. Whilst you clearly deny it, it doesn’t make it true. Think you need to put Cuckolding on your interests. Poor Cuck doesn’t even know he’s being Cucked. No wonder you’re such an adversary for single guys lol. This is the what as a couple we are talking about. The BS and justification people tell you rather than just being honest. We mainly play together, pull the other one love lmfao


"Many thanks for your input and we are glad how well you are doing with journey. However looking at your verifications and experiences especially the as it appears just the female half of the relationship is getting the attention is the exact opposite of what we are looking for. No need to relax, it’s easy to find single men who just want to fuck and feel more confident when the male partner is just watching. This would not work for us as Hoodoo will never come second to anyone. Yet the single guys who contact us assume this or hide it as part of their agenda. Your experiences are yours but not what we are looking for. Nothing to do with jumping through hoops, it’s about fitting our dynamic, if you don’t fit then you will feel you have to jump through hoops or feel the third wheel. This is what we want to avoid not create.

Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals

I think you maybe didn't read our verifications very well. My partner has never just watched. In fact, with only a couple of exceptions, we play together. Everyone involved. My partner doesn't come second and I think it's an incredible jump that's brought you to that conclusion. Or wilful ignorance. Again, I'd suggest if you softened the air of arrogance you might fare better."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Granted I don’t read them fully more a quick glance. However glad you have raised that my attention and now I have taken a more in-depth look. Not sure what any others might think but all I see is K and further down Molly mentioned very little about Mr. I really don’t think I got it wrong at first. Whilst you clearly deny it, it doesn’t make it true. Think you need to put Cuckolding on your interests. Poor Cuck doesn’t even know he’s being Cucked. No wonder you’re such an adversary for single guys lol. This is the what as a couple we are talking about. The BS and justification people tell you rather than just being honest. We mainly play together, pull the other one love lmfao

Many thanks for your input and we are glad how well you are doing with journey. However looking at your verifications and experiences especially the as it appears just the female half of the relationship is getting the attention is the exact opposite of what we are looking for. No need to relax, it’s easy to find single men who just want to fuck and feel more confident when the male partner is just watching. This would not work for us as Hoodoo will never come second to anyone. Yet the single guys who contact us assume this or hide it as part of their agenda. Your experiences are yours but not what we are looking for. Nothing to do with jumping through hoops, it’s about fitting our dynamic, if you don’t fit then you will feel you have to jump through hoops or feel the third wheel. This is what we want to avoid not create.

Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals

I think you maybe didn't read our verifications very well. My partner has never just watched. In fact, with only a couple of exceptions, we play together. Everyone involved. My partner doesn't come second and I think it's an incredible jump that's brought you to that conclusion. Or wilful ignorance. Again, I'd suggest if you softened the air of arrogance you might fare better."

What you see is verifications from socials. Nights out. Not play meets. And yes for the most part I go to Meet & Greets on my own with my Fab girlfriends. Not always, but mostly.

When it comes to meeting others for sex, that's something we do together in the majority of cases and our verifications show that quite plainly. They also show that

we both have had solo meets. Not just me. You're choosing to not see that because you've already decided that you know our sex life better than we do. You've seen my name mentioned more in our verifications and presumed them to be play meets. You've decided we're into cuckolding and that my partner is a cuck based purely on the fact I go to more M&Gs with friends than he does. Not only that, you've mocked it.

But in a way, by doing that and in how you've responded, you've illustrated exactly what I was talking about in my first reply...you get out what you put in.

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple  over a year ago

TELFORD

Guaranteed no commitment.

More of a challenge.

More of a thrill pleasuring someome elses partner while they watch.

Forbidden fruit. Taboo.

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By *JCouple  over a year ago

Teesside


"Granted I don’t read them fully more a quick glance. However glad you have raised that my attention and now I have taken a more in-depth look. Not sure what any others might think but all I see is K and further down Molly mentioned very little about Mr. I really don’t think I got it wrong at first. Whilst you clearly deny it, it doesn’t make it true. Think you need to put Cuckolding on your interests. Poor Cuck doesn’t even know he’s being Cucked. No wonder you’re such an adversary for single guys lol. This is the what as a couple we are talking about. The BS and justification people tell you rather than just being honest. We mainly play together, pull the other one love lmfao

Many thanks for your input and we are glad how well you are doing with journey. However looking at your verifications and experiences especially the as it appears just the female half of the relationship is getting the attention is the exact opposite of what we are looking for. No need to relax, it’s easy to find single men who just want to fuck and feel more confident when the male partner is just watching. This would not work for us as Hoodoo will never come second to anyone. Yet the single guys who contact us assume this or hide it as part of their agenda. Your experiences are yours but not what we are looking for. Nothing to do with jumping through hoops, it’s about fitting our dynamic, if you don’t fit then you will feel you have to jump through hoops or feel the third wheel. This is what we want to avoid not create.

Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals

I think you maybe didn't read our verifications very well. My partner has never just watched. In fact, with only a couple of exceptions, we play together. Everyone involved. My partner doesn't come second and I think it's an incredible jump that's brought you to that conclusion. Or wilful ignorance. Again, I'd suggest if you softened the air of arrogance you might fare better.

What you see is verifications from socials. Nights out. Not play meets. And yes for the most part I go to Meet & Greets on my own with my Fab girlfriends. Not always, but mostly.

When it comes to meeting others for sex, that's something we do together in the majority of cases and our verifications show that quite plainly. They also show that

we both have had solo meets. Not just me. You're choosing to not see that because you've already decided that you know our sex life better than we do. You've seen my name mentioned more in our verifications and presumed them to be play meets. You've decided we're into cuckolding and that my partner is a cuck based purely on the fact I go to more M&Gs with friends than he does. Not only that, you've mocked it.

But in a way, by doing that and in how you've responded, you've illustrated exactly what I was talking about in my first reply...you get out what you put in. "

Fair play for responding in a classy way to what quite frankly was a rude, condasending and belittling post that exposed the worst of the OP. Many would have fought back against such a venomous attack but you rose above them x

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By *lue NoteMan  over a year ago

Chertsey


"i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

op if you dont feel right meeting men now your attached then maybe dont meet them ? or make sure from the beginning via messages that your meeting the right guys for you ... but all men are not the same in fact in my eyes there are far more good men than sometimes this scene portrays each and everyone will have there own agenda and not all are bad .... thats my view anyway "

Thank you x

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Errr presumed because what couple who meet mainly together yet the female part of the couple goes to M&Gs majority without her partner and with female friends? Some of these are weekend aways. As for they also show errr not really, have to be honest 95% are about you on your own without partner. No assumptions here just following patterns. So as stated in my first response to you, we as a couple are not looking for the dynamic you having, we suggested cuckold which you strongly denied yet we’re sticking with our initial assumption regardless how you dress it up. K or Molly you clearly rule the roost and all the best to you. We’re looking for a different dynamic that’s all. As for you get out of what you put in, we couldn’t agree more unfortunately the single guys we have interacted with haven’t put it in . Certainly not like we have to our relationship, desires and expectations. Yet couples and single women are far more in tune and invested in the intimacy and connection. Have to be honest your verifications show why you have a hard time understanding this. Especially being on your own the majority of the time yet somehow mainly play with your partner mmmmmm strange is all we’re saying, nothing more.


"Granted I don’t read them fully more a quick glance. However glad you have raised that my attention and now I have taken a more in-depth look. Not sure what any others might think but all I see is K and further down Molly mentioned very little about Mr. I really don’t think I got it wrong at first. Whilst you clearly deny it, it doesn’t make it true. Think you need to put Cuckolding on your interests. Poor Cuck doesn’t even know he’s being Cucked. No wonder you’re such an adversary for single guys lol. This is the what as a couple we are talking about. The BS and justification people tell you rather than just being honest. We mainly play together, pull the other one love lmfao

Many thanks for your input and we are glad how well you are doing with journey. However looking at your verifications and experiences especially the as it appears just the female half of the relationship is getting the attention is the exact opposite of what we are looking for. No need to relax, it’s easy to find single men who just want to fuck and feel more confident when the male partner is just watching. This would not work for us as Hoodoo will never come second to anyone. Yet the single guys who contact us assume this or hide it as part of their agenda. Your experiences are yours but not what we are looking for. Nothing to do with jumping through hoops, it’s about fitting our dynamic, if you don’t fit then you will feel you have to jump through hoops or feel the third wheel. This is what we want to avoid not create.

Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals

I think you maybe didn't read our verifications very well. My partner has never just watched. In fact, with only a couple of exceptions, we play together. Everyone involved. My partner doesn't come second and I think it's an incredible jump that's brought you to that conclusion. Or wilful ignorance. Again, I'd suggest if you softened the air of arrogance you might fare better.

What you see is verifications from socials. Nights out. Not play meets. And yes for the most part I go to Meet & Greets on my own with my Fab girlfriends. Not always, but mostly.

When it comes to meeting others for sex, that's something we do together in the majority of cases and our verifications show that quite plainly. They also show that

we both have had solo meets. Not just me. You're choosing to not see that because you've already decided that you know our sex life better than we do. You've seen my name mentioned more in our verifications and presumed them to be play meets. You've decided we're into cuckolding and that my partner is a cuck based purely on the fact I go to more M&Gs with friends than he does. Not only that, you've mocked it.

But in a way, by doing that and in how you've responded, you've illustrated exactly what I was talking about in my first reply...you get out what you put in. "

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.

I think you're confusing meets and plays just reading through the couples veries

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.

Sorry you both**

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Sorry my mistake the main reason people are on this site is for friendship. Meets to make friends nothing more no other interest, situations, stimulation and intoxicants can possibly change that, especially over a weekend . Socials for socials sake nothing more. It’s hurting my head now if people really believe human nature is that honest and innocent. Agreements between people fine understanding and respect no worries. But behaviour and patterns that are duplicitous to that. That’s the difficulty we’re having. Why go without your partner and with presumably single women (because we know very few couples unless cuck who would do this so these female fab friends aren’t all attached if any) if you’re not acting as a single women and part of the gang you came with . These socials and weekends aren’t like a day shopping with the girls. But hey you’re right we’re obviously confused and don’t understand sticking your head in the sand and ignoring the obvious whilst wearing a different mask to others.


"I think you're confusing meets and plays just reading through the couples veries "

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"Errr presumed because what couple who meet mainly together yet the female part of the couple goes to M&Gs majority without her partner and with female friends? Some of these are weekend aways. As for they also show errr not really, have to be honest 95% are about you on your own without partner. No assumptions here just following patterns. So as stated in my first response to you, we as a couple are not looking for the dynamic you having, we suggested cuckold which you strongly denied yet we’re sticking with our initial assumption regardless how you dress it up. K or Molly you clearly rule the roost and all the best to you. We’re looking for a different dynamic that’s all. As for you get out of what you put in, we couldn’t agree more unfortunately the single guys we have interacted with haven’t put it in . Certainly not like we have to our relationship, desires and expectations. Yet couples and single women are far more in tune and invested in the intimacy and connection. Have to be honest your verifications show why you have a hard time understanding this. Especially being on your own the majority of the time yet somehow mainly play with your partner mmmmmm strange is all we’re saying, nothing more.

Granted I don’t read them fully more a quick glance. However glad you have raised that my attention and now I have taken a more in-depth look. Not sure what any others might think but all I see is K and further down Molly mentioned very little about Mr. I really don’t think I got it wrong at first. Whilst you clearly deny it, it doesn’t make it true. Think you need to put Cuckolding on your interests. Poor Cuck doesn’t even know he’s being Cucked. No wonder you’re such an adversary for single guys lol. This is the what as a couple we are talking about. The BS and justification people tell you rather than just being honest. We mainly play together, pull the other one love lmfao

Many thanks for your input and we are glad how well you are doing with journey. However looking at your verifications and experiences especially the as it appears just the female half of the relationship is getting the attention is the exact opposite of what we are looking for. No need to relax, it’s easy to find single men who just want to fuck and feel more confident when the male partner is just watching. This would not work for us as Hoodoo will never come second to anyone. Yet the single guys who contact us assume this or hide it as part of their agenda. Your experiences are yours but not what we are looking for. Nothing to do with jumping through hoops, it’s about fitting our dynamic, if you don’t fit then you will feel you have to jump through hoops or feel the third wheel. This is what we want to avoid not create.

Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals

I think you maybe didn't read our verifications very well. My partner has never just watched. In fact, with only a couple of exceptions, we play together. Everyone involved. My partner doesn't come second and I think it's an incredible jump that's brought you to that conclusion. Or wilful ignorance. Again, I'd suggest if you softened the air of arrogance you might fare better.

What you see is verifications from socials. Nights out. Not play meets. And yes for the most part I go to Meet & Greets on my own with my Fab girlfriends. Not always, but mostly.

When it comes to meeting others for sex, that's something we do together in the majority of cases and our verifications show that quite plainly. They also show that

we both have had solo meets. Not just me. You're choosing to not see that because you've already decided that you know our sex life better than we do. You've seen my name mentioned more in our verifications and presumed them to be play meets. You've decided we're into cuckolding and that my partner is a cuck based purely on the fact I go to more M&Gs with friends than he does. Not only that, you've mocked it.

But in a way, by doing that and in how you've responded, you've illustrated exactly what I was talking about in my first reply...you get out what you put in. "

Sweet baby jesus. So now we're a cuckold couple because we're capable of socialising separately? And yep some are weekends away. Shock horror! You know nothing of our commitments, our work schedules or any other number of factors. Isn't it marvellous though that as well as having fabulous sexual & social encounters together we can BOTH socialise separately without either feeling threatened by that. It's actually laughable now because you're obviously ignoring what's plainly obvious because it doesn't fit your narrative

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By *melia DominaTV/TS  over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"Have any other wives or girlfriends experienced this. Before meeting Hoodoo Man I was single on here. I could always find fun if I wanted to being a single lady. Now as a couple account we have received so many messages from single men wanting to meet we’ve had to block them. My question is ladies, Why do single men love being with attached women? I sometimes feel Cheated as if I’m not the main or only reason these guys want to meet whilst they make the conversation all about me and my pleasure. Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Kitty

"

It is the forbidden fruit!

It is purely primal.

A taken woman is a prospective mate.

Lower level Primates sneak to in season females when the alpha isn't looking.

Humans are no different.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Nail on the head!! Thank you


"Have any other wives or girlfriends experienced this. Before meeting Hoodoo Man I was single on here. I could always find fun if I wanted to being a single lady. Now as a couple account we have received so many messages from single men wanting to meet we’ve had to block them. My question is ladies, Why do single men love being with attached women? I sometimes feel Cheated as if I’m not the main or only reason these guys want to meet whilst they make the conversation all about me and my pleasure. Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Kitty

It is the forbidden fruit!

It is purely primal.

A taken woman is a prospective mate.

Lower level Primates sneak to in season females when the alpha isn't looking.

Humans are no different. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sorry my mistake the main reason people are on this site is for friendship. Meets to make friends nothing more no other interest, situations, stimulation and intoxicants can possibly change that, especially over a weekend . Socials for socials sake nothing more. It’s hurting my head now if people really believe human nature is that honest and innocent. Agreements between people fine understanding and respect no worries. But behaviour and patterns that are duplicitous to that. That’s the difficulty we’re having. Why go without your partner and with presumably single women (because we know very few couples unless cuck who would do this so these female fab friends aren’t all attached if any) if you’re not acting as a single women and part of the gang you came with . These socials and weekends aren’t like a day shopping with the girls. But hey you’re right we’re obviously confused and don’t understand sticking your head in the sand and ignoring the obvious whilst wearing a different mask to others.

I think you're confusing meets and plays just reading through the couples veries "

I go - and we go - to have fun and a bit of craic with friends we've made over the years & to meet new people. We talk, we laugh, we dance. A huge part of this lifestyle for some IS the friendship & community aspect. We go to socials with no agenda other than to have a good night out. I'm sorry that is incomprehensible to you or that you don't believe that. But that's totally on you.

You said "these socials aren't like day shopping with the girls"..they kind of are. I'm not really sure what you're imagining goes on but I fear you might be way off

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

No you are ignoring what I asked at the beginning and just projecting your lifestyle on to us. As said well done to you, but it’s not what we’re looking for. Fantastic you do these things together and separately great. If it works for you great. Dress it up how you like, you run the roost K and I’m sure others will take you at face value. We’re having difficulty finding a single guy who fits our dynamic because we see through that face value and delve deeper. Just cause we’re on this site doesn’t mean we’re a free for all. You may call it vanilla but when we find the right people we are far from that. Just a little more selective surrounded by many chancers. But yeah you’re definitely cuckold he just doesn’t know it, no matter how dress it up and protest. Unless you never played with others on those (more than one weekends away ) cause he certainly didn’t, he wasn’t there. Remind me to look the definition of socialising and cuckolding. I don’t mean to attack you it’s just at first you said this, then modified it, then challenged to look into verifications, now you go to swingers meets with your female fab friends who in noticed you didn’t confirm attached or single, so going single and now it’s not just a weekend away but appears regular weekends away whilst pretending you’re relationship is similar to ours. We called you out from day one. Just as we do single guys. See how after a while you get to the truth!! No judgement just didn’t compare your experiences with single guys to ours. We’re clearly not on the same page nor looking for the same things.


"Errr presumed because what couple who meet mainly together yet the female part of the couple goes to M&Gs majority without her partner and with female friends? Some of these are weekend aways. As for they also show errr not really, have to be honest 95% are about you on your own without partner. No assumptions here just following patterns. So as stated in my first response to you, we as a couple are not looking for the dynamic you having, we suggested cuckold which you strongly denied yet we’re sticking with our initial assumption regardless how you dress it up. K or Molly you clearly rule the roost and all the best to you. We’re looking for a different dynamic that’s all. As for you get out of what you put in, we couldn’t agree more unfortunately the single guys we have interacted with haven’t put it in . Certainly not like we have to our relationship, desires and expectations. Yet couples and single women are far more in tune and invested in the intimacy and connection. Have to be honest your verifications show why you have a hard time understanding this. Especially being on your own the majority of the time yet somehow mainly play with your partner mmmmmm strange is all we’re saying, nothing more.

Granted I don’t read them fully more a quick glance. However glad you have raised that my attention and now I have taken a more in-depth look. Not sure what any others might think but all I see is K and further down Molly mentioned very little about Mr. I really don’t think I got it wrong at first. Whilst you clearly deny it, it doesn’t make it true. Think you need to put Cuckolding on your interests. Poor Cuck doesn’t even know he’s being Cucked. No wonder you’re such an adversary for single guys lol. This is the what as a couple we are talking about. The BS and justification people tell you rather than just being honest. We mainly play together, pull the other one love lmfao

Many thanks for your input and we are glad how well you are doing with journey. However looking at your verifications and experiences especially the as it appears just the female half of the relationship is getting the attention is the exact opposite of what we are looking for. No need to relax, it’s easy to find single men who just want to fuck and feel more confident when the male partner is just watching. This would not work for us as Hoodoo will never come second to anyone. Yet the single guys who contact us assume this or hide it as part of their agenda. Your experiences are yours but not what we are looking for. Nothing to do with jumping through hoops, it’s about fitting our dynamic, if you don’t fit then you will feel you have to jump through hoops or feel the third wheel. This is what we want to avoid not create.

Perhaps you need to relax a bit. You talk of egos but everything about how you come across is egotistical. It feels like you're making it all into some great big pissing contest. You talk of people respecting your relationship but respect is a two way street. Treating the men you hope to meet as a third wheel (your words) is really disrespectful.

You get out what you put in and maybe a good place to start is treating others as equals

I think you maybe didn't read our verifications very well. My partner has never just watched. In fact, with only a couple of exceptions, we play together. Everyone involved. My partner doesn't come second and I think it's an incredible jump that's brought you to that conclusion. Or wilful ignorance. Again, I'd suggest if you softened the air of arrogance you might fare better.

What you see is verifications from socials. Nights out. Not play meets. And yes for the most part I go to Meet & Greets on my own with my Fab girlfriends. Not always, but mostly.

When it comes to meeting others for sex, that's something we do together in the majority of cases and our verifications show that quite plainly. They also show that

we both have had solo meets. Not just me. You're choosing to not see that because you've already decided that you know our sex life better than we do. You've seen my name mentioned more in our verifications and presumed them to be play meets. You've decided we're into cuckolding and that my partner is a cuck based purely on the fact I go to more M&Gs with friends than he does. Not only that, you've mocked it.

But in a way, by doing that and in how you've responded, you've illustrated exactly what I was talking about in my first reply...you get out what you put in.

Sweet baby jesus. So now we're a cuckold couple because we're capable of socialising separately? And yep some are weekends away. Shock horror! You know nothing of our commitments, our work schedules or any other number of factors. Isn't it marvellous though that as well as having fabulous sexual & social encounters together we can BOTH socialise separately without either feeling threatened by that. It's actually laughable now because you're obviously ignoring what's plainly obvious because it doesn't fit your narrative "

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport

Yeah right keep telling yourself that swingers social and shopping with your friends are the same especially the weekend events. Love to go shopping with your friends


"Sorry my mistake the main reason people are on this site is for friendship. Meets to make friends nothing more no other interest, situations, stimulation and intoxicants can possibly change that, especially over a weekend . Socials for socials sake nothing more. It’s hurting my head now if people really believe human nature is that honest and innocent. Agreements between people fine understanding and respect no worries. But behaviour and patterns that are duplicitous to that. That’s the difficulty we’re having. Why go without your partner and with presumably single women (because we know very few couples unless cuck who would do this so these female fab friends aren’t all attached if any) if you’re not acting as a single women and part of the gang you came with . These socials and weekends aren’t like a day shopping with the girls. But hey you’re right we’re obviously confused and don’t understand sticking your head in the sand and ignoring the obvious whilst wearing a different mask to others.

I think you're confusing meets and plays just reading through the couples veries

I go - and we go - to have fun and a bit of craic with friends we've made over the years & to meet new people. We talk, we laugh, we dance. A huge part of this lifestyle for some IS the friendship & community aspect. We go to socials with no agenda other than to have a good night out. I'm sorry that is incomprehensible to you or that you don't believe that. But that's totally on you.

You said "these socials aren't like day shopping with the girls"..they kind of are. I'm not really sure what you're imagining goes on but I fear you might be way off "

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By *ickD80Man  over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Why don’t you just block single men from messaging you?

You state in your profile that you’re not interested in single men and don’t want them to message you so any respectful single male is going to read this and not message you. The single men who are messaging you are ones who’ve either read your profile and ignored it or not read your profile at all, so that doesn’t bode well.

I don’t know what world you live in where all women and couples understand exactly what you want and respect your relationship but all men are disrespectful and don’t understand what you want because in my world everyone is different with different attitudes, different opinions, different needs and desires etc. regardless of what sex they are and what their relationship status is.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" But yeah you’re definitely cuckold he just doesn’t know it, no matter how dress it up and protest. Unless you never played with others on those (more than one weekends away ) cause he certainly didn’t, he wasn’t there. Remind me to look the definition of socialising and cuckolding. I don’t mean to attack you it’s just at first you said this, then modified it, then challenged to look into verifications, now you go to swingers meets with your female fab friends who in noticed you didn’t confirm attached or single, so going single and now it’s not just a weekend away but appears regular weekends away whilst pretending you’re relationship is similar to ours. We called you out from day one. Just as we do single guys. See how after a while you get to the truth!! No judgement just didn’t compare your experiences with single guys to ours. We’re clearly not on the same page nor looking for the same things.

Errr presumed because what couple who meet mainly together yet the female part of the couple goes to M&Gs majority without her partner and with female friends? Some of these are weekend aways. As for they also show errr not really, have to be honest 95% are about you on your own without partner. No assumptions here just following patterns. So as stated in my first response to you, we as a couple are not looking for the dynamic you having, we suggested cuckold which you strongly denied yet we’re sticking with our initial assumption regardless how you dress it up. K or Molly you clearly rule the roost and all the best to you. We’re looking for a different dynamic that’s all. As for you get out of what you put in, we couldn’t agree more unfortunately the single guys we have interacted with haven’t put it in . Certainly not like we have to our relationship, desires and expectations. Yet couples and single women are far more in tune and invested in the intimacy and connection. Have to be honest your verifications show why you have a hard time understanding this. Especially being on your own the majority of the time yet somehow mainly play with your partner mmmmmm strange is all we’re saying, nothing more.

"

You're actually just being incredibly insulting now. And no, I don't play at socials. Because a) they're socials and b) I've little to no interest in playing without my partner as difficult as you find that to believe

As to whether my female friends are single or attached the answer is both. I know! Mind blowing, isn't it!

But hey, look I'm glad you two found each other. You seem perfectly suited. Stop busting single guys balls, there are some great ones out there. Don't melt your head trying to figure out the wrong ones and put that energy into seeking out the right ones

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By *ickD80Man  over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Some good points here. Not sure about the “giving back” not met one single guy who could dominate Hoodoo Man . We’re looking for single guys and women who understand pleasures and not egos. We have found that women are far more in touch and naturally more connected and comfortable with this dynamic than men. "

What has ‘giving back’ got to do with dominating Hoodoo Man? It means that because you are already in a relationship a single guy can fuck you and leave you without having to worry about the relationship side of it because you’re already in a relationship.

Also, in your opening message you say that the men make the conversation all about you and your pleasure so why are you now saying you can’t find a man who understands your pleasure?

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By *ickD80Man  over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

op if you dont feel right meeting men now your attached then maybe dont meet them ? or make sure from the beginning via messages that your meeting the right guys for you ... but all men are not the same in fact in my eyes there are far more good men than sometimes this scene portrays each and everyone will have there own agenda and not all are bad .... thats my view anyway

Thanks for your reply. I can see this working in your relationship and completely understand why your experiences as an attached female have developed these opinions and feelings. However we are not looking for a cuckold situation for the simple reason that Hoodoo Man is in no way a Cuck . He’s masculine. Commanding, confident, strong and packing. He’s ex military and experienced many different situations I can’t even imagine being in. Our issue is, why does every single guy who contacts us think he is Bull or Alpha even when our desires are explained. We both want to experience and share different people together male and female within our boundaries. It’s not about anyone feeling superior, if anything it’s about our love, kink and relationship together. Anyone who doesn’t respect that doesn’t get past the second message. "

So an ex military man can’t be a cuck then? A confident man can’t be a cuck? You could just say he’s not a cuck without listing all his personality traits that in your mind define why he’s not a cuck. He’s not a cuck because he doesn’t enjoy being a cuck, it’s got nothing to do with how masculine he is or any of the traits you listed.

Where do you explain your desires regarding being with single men? All you say is that you don’t want single men to message you and make it quite clear that you aren’t interested in talking to single men. You’re expecting single men to message you with a full understanding of what you’re looking for from single men but your profile doesn’t say anything about what you’re looking for from single men.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Do you think your man is acting as an unreasonable gatekeeper? Setting the bar impossibly high and keeping you in a gilded cage? If no man meets his exacting standards then they'll never be a threat? And the reason that women and other couples "get it" is because he allows them to? Because doesn't see them as a threat?

Just a different perspective...

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By *ickD80Man  over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Exactly this. All singles responding to this post should look at this from a couples perspective and not a singles. We’re not being overly specific/dramatic etc far from it. We are also as our profile states not a hot wife/ cuckold etc couple. We’re looking for fun with others be it singles, couples or more. It’s just funny how couples and single females seem to understand our dynamic and it is far easier for us to enjoy those interactions giving enjoyment to all than it is single guys. Perhaps we are something different that doesn’t fit into the demographics of fab. But I very much doubt that. It’s most probably because we have stated what we are looking for and prepared not to sugarcoat it, half the time being labelled as fake etc. Yet when Hoodoo tests their validity not overtly or harshly but honourably and consistently to our relationship and goals , their character weakens and the reality of why this single male wants to meet with us becomes apparently clear and it couldn’t be further from our aspirations . Yet couple’s and single females have a different mindset. From our non sugarcoating experiences anyway .

Some good points here. Not sure about the “giving back” not met one single guy who could dominate Hoodoo Man . We’re looking for single guys and women who understand pleasures and not egos. We have found that women are far more in touch and naturally more connected and comfortable with this dynamic than men.

most of the messages from guys we get go straight to talking about fucking a "married female". I always think thats a secret need to feel like they're cucking the husband - L."

What is it about your dynamic that you seem to think single man are unable to understand? Don’t forget that men in relationships were once single and single men have been in relationships so do you think their ability to understand your dynamic changes the day they start a relationship or the day they become single again?

From what I can gather from your profile, Mrs is sub, Mr is Dom and you’re looking for similar couples so both men can Dom both females together. You don’t state what you’re looking for from single women or single men.

You say when you test the validity of single males their aspirations become clear and they’re always different from your aspirations yet you have never once told us what your aspirations are regarding being with a single male. And why have you come on here criticising all single males just because their aspirations aren’t the same as yours? Why are you arrogant enough to think all single males are wrong and you’re right.

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport


"i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

op if you dont feel right meeting men now your attached then maybe dont meet them ? or make sure from the beginning via messages that your meeting the right guys for you ... but all men are not the same in fact in my eyes there are far more good men than sometimes this scene portrays each and everyone will have there own agenda and not all are bad .... thats my view anyway

Thanks for your reply. I can see this working in your relationship and completely understand why your experiences as an attached female have developed these opinions and feelings. However we are not looking for a cuckold situation for the simple reason that Hoodoo Man is in no way a Cuck . He’s masculine. Commanding, confident, strong and packing. He’s ex military and experienced many different situations I can’t even imagine being in. Our issue is, why does every single guy who contacts us think he is Bull or Alpha even when our desires are explained. We both want to experience and share different people together male and female within our boundaries. It’s not about anyone feeling superior, if anything it’s about our love, kink and relationship together. Anyone who doesn’t respect that doesn’t get past the second message.

So an ex military man can’t be a cuck then? A confident man can’t be a cuck? You could just say he’s not a cuck without listing all his personality traits that in your mind define why he’s not a cuck. He’s not a cuck because he doesn’t enjoy being a cuck, it’s got nothing to do with how masculine he is or any of the traits you listed.

Where do you explain your desires regarding being with single men? All you say is that you don’t want single men to message you and make it quite clear that you aren’t interested in talking to single men. You’re expecting single men to message you with a full understanding of what you’re looking for from single men but your profile doesn’t say anything about what you’re looking for from single men. "

Being a Cuck is a choice just not his. Yet those single males we have conversed with think that, and it soon comes out. Whilst you may have never met two men the same I’m sure you have met several men with similar attitudes. Given the messages we receive we certainly have. And very few of these single men want to converse with Hoodoo. First few messages sure but after that their true intentions come out. It’s simply not what we are looking for. There may be guys out there we’re not saying they’re not. We’ve just to discover them yet out of our experience of a mountain who are.

i think men are not all the same surprise surprise and i think there will be several reasons why too many men get lumped in one category i dont think ive ever met 2 men the same let alone loads

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.

I'm guessing the single men that message you both don't read profiles and are busy cracking one off as literally says on your profile not to waste anyones time yous will find single men when yous want/ or need. Comes across as yous don't want any single men so any decent guy reads that isn't going to follow up with a message to yourselfs

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport


"Do you think your man is acting as an unreasonable gatekeeper? Setting the bar impossibly high and keeping you in a gilded cage? If no man meets his exacting standards then they'll never be a threat? And the reason that women and other couples "get it" is because he allows them to? Because doesn't see them as a threat?

Not at all. I don’t think for one minute he is threatened by others. As for controlling he’s the one looking more than me. His confidence, strength and masculinity shows without him even saying a word. He took me out for our anniversary the other year, we went for a meal and drinks where he lives. Everybody knew him saying hello and stuff drinks kept flowing all night until end and he asked for the bill. £ 20 that was it. We had flowers on our table champagne three course meal everything. He never asked for that nor expected it. It’s just the respect people who know him give him. As he does for them. As we walked to his house he was quite embarrassed about it saying that was really nice of people but unnecessary, I was in ore of it. So no I very much doubt he’s acting gate keeper or sees anyone as a threat. He just expects the same respect from single guys on this site which is difficult for us to find. Anybody who knows him would never accuse him of that.

Just a different perspective..."

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire

Is hoodoo actually a local celebrity

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.


"Is hoodoo actually a local celebrity "

Pmsl just ex military they just command respect and are not at all controlling but that scenario sounded set up

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport


"Exactly this. All singles responding to this post should look at this from a couples perspective and not a singles. We’re not being overly specific/dramatic etc far from it. We are also as our profile states not a hot wife/ cuckold etc couple. We’re looking for fun with others be it singles, couples or more. It’s just funny how couples and single females seem to understand our dynamic and it is far easier for us to enjoy those interactions giving enjoyment to all than it is single guys. Perhaps we are something different that doesn’t fit into the demographics of fab. But I very much doubt that. It’s most probably because we have stated what we are looking for and prepared not to sugarcoat it, half the time being labelled as fake etc. Yet when Hoodoo tests their validity not overtly or harshly but honourably and consistently to our relationship and goals , their character weakens and the reality of why this single male wants to meet with us becomes apparently clear and it couldn’t be further from our aspirations . Yet couple’s and single females have a different mindset. From our non sugarcoating experiences anyway .

Some good points here. Not sure about the “giving back” not met one single guy who could dominate Hoodoo Man . We’re looking for single guys and women who understand pleasures and not egos. We have found that women are far more in touch and naturally more connected and comfortable with this dynamic than men.

most of the messages from guys we get go straight to talking about fucking a "married female". I always think thats a secret need to feel like they're cucking the husband - L.

What is it about your dynamic that you seem to think single man are unable to understand? Don’t forget that men in relationships were once single and single men have been in relationships so do you think their ability to understand your dynamic changes the day they start a relationship or the day they become single again?

From what I can gather from your profile, Mrs is sub, Mr is Dom and you’re looking for similar couples so both men can Dom both females together. You don’t state what you’re looking for from single women or single men.

You say when you test the validity of single males their aspirations become clear and they’re always different from your aspirations yet you have never once told us what your aspirations are regarding being with a single male. And why have you come on here criticising all single males just because their aspirations aren’t the same as yours? Why are you arrogant enough to think all single males are wrong and you’re right. "

Hoodoo here. Thank you for your response. The difference with our dynamic is Honour and Respect. I would add Bravery but I will get onto that later. Honour a person who is true to themselves and believes and carries their actions and achievements with those beliefs. Not a guy who just wants to get his dick wet and feel he can fuck someone’s wife/ girlfriend better. I don’t mean to brag but I can fuck well, can still learn a few things but bet more will learn from me than I learn from them. Respect understanding and protection of others ensuring their way of life is maintained and enhanced by your actions. Sorry most single guys I’ve communicated with don’t even understand that statement. Yet couples and funnily enough single women do. Bravery: to put others and beliefs first before thought for yourself and be prepared to come to harm to protect others. Well this is a given son. Single guys come with nothing, have an attitude of nothing, only self gain. To me Hoodoo they are the opposite of Brave but cowards. Risking nothing yet have the potential to cause destruction (Sti’s) I’m talking. Again I don’t see much of this trait in couples unless cuckold (I stay away from this due to my experiences of seeing some horrendous things in my services) and also don’t see much of this trait in single women. It’s interesting how you accuse of tarnishing all single guys. I’ve read this thread and not once has Kitty or I said yet. Is that a psychological slip unconsciously from yourself as an omission of guilt? I’m only seeing people attacking us (mistake civilians don’t even know what an attack is) yet not one person has provided any counter evidence. We are happy to learn. Please message us separately. As far we haven’t said what we want. Look at every profile you see son, ours is quite reserved but if you read between the lines (subtext) it’s the start. Single guys can’t read between the lines. Kitty deserves more than an uneducated, lazy coward. so when the questions are asked it goes into the to hard basket. For all those who you need to relax etc etc etc. no we don’t you guys open your legs, relationships etc to whoever you want, as long as you’re urges are met. No judgement we’re looking for true honour and respect which we at the moment are only finding with couples and single women. Guys cry your eyes out all you want. Please stop sending dick pics and saying nice tits ffs

Hoodoo out.

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By *ustBoWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Again we don’t treat them as a third wheel. I can understand how this is difficult for a single woman on here to understand being on this site and all the attention being directed only to you. Relationships require attention to all in the relationship . The issue is after a few conversations the single men start treating Hoodoo as the third wheel, which is laughable at best because when Hoodoo gets involved in the conversation their bravado disappears and they ghost us. Not because WE are rude or unfair, because they don’t care about Our desires and are emotionally immature not ever being in a committed relationship.

"

I also have a couples profile so ah ye I do understand perfectly well. Thank you though for the ever so subtle snub on your reply though .

And the minute someone acts like that in messages why are ye continuing to chat anyhow. The fact you say when hoodoo joins the bravado goes sounds like he treats the men like they are beneath him. You say you want men to treat ye respectfully well that works best if all involved are treated with respect.

Mind you after reading your replies on here it's seems you are one of those couples who demand respect while having absolutely zero respect for others.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Again we don’t treat them as a third wheel. I can understand how this is difficult for a single woman on here to understand being on this site and all the attention being directed only to you. Relationships require attention to all in the relationship . The issue is after a few conversations the single men start treating Hoodoo as the third wheel, which is laughable at best because when Hoodoo gets involved in the conversation their bravado disappears and they ghost us. Not because WE are rude or unfair, because they don’t care about Our desires and are emotionally immature not ever being in a committed relationship.

I also have a couples profile so ah ye I do understand perfectly well. Thank you though for the ever so subtle snub on your reply though .

And the minute someone acts like that in messages why are ye continuing to chat anyhow. The fact you say when hoodoo joins the bravado goes sounds like he treats the men like they are beneath him. You say you want men to treat ye respectfully well that works best if all involved are treated with respect.

Mind you after reading your replies on here it's seems you are one of those couples who demand respect while having absolutely zero respect for others.

"

Some men in couples are so incredibly arrogant and rude. Often identical to the single men they despise, the only difference being they have a woman to use as sex bait.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Have any other wives or girlfriends experienced this. Before meeting Hoodoo Man I was single on here. I could always find fun if I wanted to being a single lady. Now as a couple account we have received so many messages from single men wanting to meet we’ve had to block them. My question is ladies, Why do single men love being with attached women? I sometimes feel Cheated as if I’m not the main or only reason these guys want to meet whilst they make the conversation all about me and my pleasure. Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Kitty

"

Are you saying you get more begging messages now you are in a couple profile than you did as a single?

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport


"Again we don’t treat them as a third wheel. I can understand how this is difficult for a single woman on here to understand being on this site and all the attention being directed only to you. Relationships require attention to all in the relationship . The issue is after a few conversations the single men start treating Hoodoo as the third wheel, which is laughable at best because when Hoodoo gets involved in the conversation their bravado disappears and they ghost us. Not because WE are rude or unfair, because they don’t care about Our desires and are emotionally immature not ever being in a committed relationship.

I also have a couples profile so ah ye I do understand perfectly well. Thank you though for the ever so subtle snub on your reply though .

And the minute someone acts like that in messages why are ye continuing to chat anyhow. The fact you say when hoodoo joins the bravado goes sounds like he treats the men like they are beneath him. You say you want men to treat ye respectfully well that works best if all involved are treated with respect.

Mind you after reading your replies on here it's seems you are one of those couples who demand respect while having absolutely zero respect for others.

Some men in couples are so incredibly arrogant and rude. Often identical to the single men they despise, the only difference being they have a woman to use as sex bait. "

You obviously missed the part about honour and respect. Or perhaps you just didn’t understand. Just cause it’s a sex site doesn’t mean we all have disregard our standards snowflake

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport


"Have any other wives or girlfriends experienced this. Before meeting Hoodoo Man I was single on here. I could always find fun if I wanted to being a single lady. Now as a couple account we have received so many messages from single men wanting to meet we’ve had to block them. My question is ladies, Why do single men love being with attached women? I sometimes feel Cheated as if I’m not the main or only reason these guys want to meet whilst they make the conversation all about me and my pleasure. Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Kitty

Are you saying you get more begging messages now you are in a couple profile than you did as a single? "

Given that we are more active now than I ever was when single then yes I would say so. Is that shocking to you???

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By *itty Hoodoo OP   Couple  over a year ago

Stockport


"Again we don’t treat them as a third wheel. I can understand how this is difficult for a single woman on here to understand being on this site and all the attention being directed only to you. Relationships require attention to all in the relationship . The issue is after a few conversations the single men start treating Hoodoo as the third wheel, which is laughable at best because when Hoodoo gets involved in the conversation their bravado disappears and they ghost us. Not because WE are rude or unfair, because they don’t care about Our desires and are emotionally immature not ever being in a committed relationship.

I also have a couples profile so ah ye I do understand perfectly well. Thank you though for the ever so subtle snub on your reply though .

And the minute someone acts like that in messages why are ye continuing to chat anyhow. The fact you say when hoodoo joins the bravado goes sounds like he treats the men like they are beneath him. You say you want men to treat ye respectfully well that works best if all involved are treated with respect.

Mind you after reading your replies on here it's seems you are one of those couples who demand respect while having absolutely zero respect for others.

Some men in couples are so incredibly arrogant and rude. Often identical to the single men they despise, the only difference being they have a woman to use as sex bait.

You obviously missed the part about honour and respect. Or perhaps you just didn’t understand. Just cause it’s a sex site doesn’t mean we all have disregard our standards snowflake "

However we are pleased you acknowledged the single men’s traits whilst still protecting your opportunities to meet lol. So funny and see through

Hoodoo

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Again we don’t treat them as a third wheel. I can understand how this is difficult for a single woman on here to understand being on this site and all the attention being directed only to you. Relationships require attention to all in the relationship . The issue is after a few conversations the single men start treating Hoodoo as the third wheel, which is laughable at best because when Hoodoo gets involved in the conversation their bravado disappears and they ghost us. Not because WE are rude or unfair, because they don’t care about Our desires and are emotionally immature not ever being in a committed relationship.

I also have a couples profile so ah ye I do understand perfectly well. Thank you though for the ever so subtle snub on your reply though .

And the minute someone acts like that in messages why are ye continuing to chat anyhow. The fact you say when hoodoo joins the bravado goes sounds like he treats the men like they are beneath him. You say you want men to treat ye respectfully well that works best if all involved are treated with respect.

Mind you after reading your replies on here it's seems you are one of those couples who demand respect while having absolutely zero respect for others.

Some men in couples are so incredibly arrogant and rude. Often identical to the single men they despise, the only difference being they have a woman to use as sex bait.

You obviously missed the part about honour and respect. Or perhaps you just didn’t understand. Just cause it’s a sex site doesn’t mean we all have disregard our standards snowflake "

You should ask someone to explain what those big words mean.

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Have any other wives or girlfriends experienced this. Before meeting Hoodoo Man I was single on here. I could always find fun if I wanted to being a single lady. Now as a couple account we have received so many messages from single men wanting to meet we’ve had to block them. My question is ladies, Why do single men love being with attached women? I sometimes feel Cheated as if I’m not the main or only reason these guys want to meet whilst they make the conversation all about me and my pleasure. Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Kitty

Are you saying you get more begging messages now you are in a couple profile than you did as a single?

Given that we are more active now than I ever was when single then yes I would say so. Is that shocking to you??? "

Not at all. Some men assume that couples swing because the man is shit in bed. They are merely offering their cock as a kind gesture, so the woman in the couple can have a decent shag.

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.

Has hoodoo been up all night drinking you sound very narcissistic pal

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This is a really interesting thread, it's good to read the different points of view.

There are plenty of neanderthals out there, but not all guys are like that, it's just not that easy to find them.

I think that each perspective is driven by each couple's desires and how the male part of the couple acts and reacts.

One thing we all know is that in most instances (not all) the female is portrayed as the main part of the couple, by that I mean, lots of pictures of her, but only one or two of him (if any at all) and then people wonder why guys focus on the girl.

There is also a bit of a misconception that guys think couples are all about cuckolds due to a lack of understanding. In our relationship, we are looking for guys and girls, mainly for me but for us both. Clyde does not mind the focus being on me, because ultimately we are not just looking for MFM and he wants to see me pleasured by hit guys.

Yes, there is an aspect of guys just wanting a hole, and personally, I think that's why there are more and more single bi guys looking for other guys.

It's a shame that more guys don't use the forum and read the posts, it would be very insightful.

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By *adMerWoman  over a year ago

Sandwich

I can totally see why any decent men, or women for that matter, would give you a swerve. You ask a question and then when people give you answers that you don’t like, you attack them.

Play with you two is obviously going to be all about the pair of you. Boring.

Just because someone uses words like respect and honour doesn’t mean they actually have any for others.

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By *esparate danMan  over a year ago

glasgow

Hoodoo .. i think its time you come clean and admit its been you talking the whole time

Writing as kitty your voice and opinion have been the same as when you identify as a man

The only alternative explanation i can think of is that you sought out this vulnerable woman to build her up, dominate and brainwash her.

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By *nicornExplorersCouple  over a year ago

north east

We had a good read, the more this thread goes on the more you look insecure, built up with false ego and a desperate need for an immediate answer.

Like anything in life, something worth having doesn't come easy or free.

While we set our preference to no men, we look, we keep an open view, we move on, we don't moan about single men, they have a hard time on here as it is without the stigma being twisted.

Sounds like you both need to internally talk, you keep mentioning how "great" your partner is and how he is "ex milatary", brilliant, but what has that got to do with anything? Your listing characteristics of your man to justify what? His value and comparing him to other men? If there were plenty of him why would you be with him, so to compare others against is an unfair angle... sure this isn't the Mr commenting? Sounds like it...

Honestly the narcissism is hard to read.

I think you came in here hoping to have a answer from a single male, but came out looking ridiculous.

I'd reflect personally.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

You beat me to it!


"Hoodoo .. i think its time you come clean and admit its been you talking the whole time

Writing as kitty your voice and opinion have been the same as when you identify as a man

The only alternative explanation i can think of is that you sought out this vulnerable woman to build her up, dominate and brainwash her.

"

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By *nicornExplorersCouple  over a year ago

north east

As for answering, how do you know they only message couples for females?

It's a swingers site with boobs and bums out, there perving they are trying there luck to get action, what the site was designed for, sexual desires....

They look at single women just as much as taken, so do women sometimes, it varies, to think otherwise is to inflate your own worth beyond its actuality.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Hoodoo .. i think its time you come clean and admit its been you talking the whole time

Writing as kitty your voice and opinion have been the same as when you identify as a man

The only alternative explanation i can think of is that you sought out this vulnerable woman to build her up, dominate and brainwash her.

"

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire

Dear oh dear oh dear

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By *astandFeistyCouple  over a year ago

Bournemouth


"Hoodoo .. i think its time you come clean and admit its been you talking the whole time

Writing as kitty your voice and opinion have been the same as when you identify as a man

The only alternative explanation i can think of is that you sought out this vulnerable woman to build her up, dominate and brainwash her.

Hoodoo here I know you want response, here it is, you’re a stupid selfish, cowardly little cunt. Who has never and be thankful you haven’t witnessed the things I have. To say i target vulnerable women is one of the deepest yet immature and cruelest things you could say about my character. However the reality is it says more about you than it does about me. Honour and respect which you have proven you have none. Now run along little girl, stop pretending now . We all know what you are, hence why single. Only good for a fuck not worth any investment "

Narcissistic or what??

Maybe he said something underhand, but it's just shown you to think of yourself above others.

The problem you're having looks like its pretty much an internal problem and nothing to do with other guys.

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.

Dude makes it seem like it's hard and a accomplishment to be in a relationship some of us blokes are here as we don't want a relationship. I've got to imagine you're nice as if females message your couples profile proper narcissist

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By *JCouple  over a year ago

Teesside

After digesting the whole thread it's now clear Hoodoo Man is the biggest cuck of them all

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By *nicornExplorersCouple  over a year ago

north east


"After digesting the whole thread it's now clear Hoodoo Man is the biggest cuck of them all "

He can't be, cucks tend to be more secure haha.

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By *JCouple  over a year ago

Teesside


"Hoodoo .. i think its time you come clean and admit its been you talking the whole time

Writing as kitty your voice and opinion have been the same as when you identify as a man

The only alternative explanation i can think of is that you sought out this vulnerable woman to build her up, dominate and brainwash her.

"

As someone who loves and has studied languages its incredible how both Kitty and Hoodoo Man write and post in exactly the same style, with the same unique grammatical tells and repeated words and phrases.

Even to the average person it's beyond obvious it's the same person trying to be both Kitty and Hoodoo Man

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"After digesting the whole thread it's now clear Hoodoo Man is the biggest cuck of them all

He can't be, cucks tend to be more secure haha."

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast

Ye I've chatted to secure couples like this before and they are a prime example of everything that is wrong with this lifestyle and the last thing I'd ever want to do is understand their dynamic or have that level of toxicity forced on anyone.

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By *iss SinWoman  over a year ago

portchester

Is this a wind up thread? Please say it is

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Is this a wind up thread? Please say it is "

Sadly not

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast


"Is this a wind up thread? Please say it is

Sadly not "

Did you get permission to write that comment?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Is this a wind up thread? Please say it is

Sadly not

Did you get permission to write that comment? "

Living life on the edge RB

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By *iss SinWoman  over a year ago

portchester

Wow

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