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It can be very difficult. I used to play as a couple and was amazed how tricky finding compatible couples was. Problem is all issues are magnified by 2 for example you now have 4 ppl who need to fancy each other instead of 2. You have to want to do similar things agree on boundaries etc (eg use of condoms or not).
We got to the point that we found meeting at clubs was a much better way of meeting couples as if you get a no show or there is no spark the evening or day isn’t a complete bust. |
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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago
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we found it very hard to find it very hared to get 4 people to all gel we have had fun with a few couples and still good friends but we now look for men as we seem to get more luck that way and we both like mfm |
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On Fab it's not easy to meet other couples.
We don't really use Fab for meets, we prefer clubs as that works well for us. There's also the opportunity for group sex, voyeurism and such which are difficult to arrange otherwise.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Like many others on here we do exactly the same and meet in clubs. It does work for us.
In an ideal world we would like to meet another couple that we could share a meal and drinks, flirts and laughs with and see how it goes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Difficult.
Would be easier if couples didn’t just put up pics of the lady.
Then there’s the issue of getting on.
Then playing to the same boundaries.
We have met some great couples on here but only a few. |
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"Not brill on here. Either I'm to easy or everyone else has a mega list of things they want  Club is better
Mrs C "
Think it’s always easier in the heat of the moment whereas messaging you’re trying to find the perfect match for everything you all want to do rather than just doing a bit of something. |
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Extremely hard , so we mainly do threesomes or solo in club , enjoy parties more as wife tends to get more fun with fems for bi fun in group play , and if we are both playing with different partners we are not to far apart , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've never met a couple, aside from looks making sure everyone is happy, it's making sure everybody is doing what they want too. 4 people's expectations is a lot harder to manage.
Maybe one day though  |
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I agree with the majority here in saying it is very difficult. It’s the 4 way attraction part.
We don’t “take one for the team” so to speak, we all have to get along and that can prove difficult.
Even in a club setting, although easier, can still prove to be a little tricky.
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"How easy or difficult have you found it to meet another couple you are both happy with?
We think it is not that easy."
We were shocked after the initial giddy rush of enthusiam just how difficult it waas and remains so. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It would probably be easier doing a "come dine with me" for couples and see if there was a spark by the end of the week. if not there should be good food and a laugh |
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Very difficult on here. Everything has to align. Bounderies, the sexual click, then there's the availability of all four ppl at the same time,. Can be a nightmare. All the time we've been here only managed to meet with one cpl and we still are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can certainly be difficult, the first couple we met was from here and that was great, we now find it much easier to just go to clubs which is a great, we would love to meet a couple we could do other things with though, nights out weekend away etc x |
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Personally we have found it really difficult!!
Different for everybody I’m sure, but it’s so hard to find a couple we both like!
And when we do, they don’t like us, or don’t message back!!
Oh well…..it’s still fun looking!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Must be a challenge.
Half the couples on Fab don’t even have a picture of the male half. "
We've mentioned this a few times.
Bit like putting out the special offer on the shelf and hiding the rest of the deal
In our experience it's more being able to find mutually available times that is the biggest difficulty. Oh and a slightly weird looking beardy semi-Viking looking guy in the couple has a limited appeal. I'm sure if I cut my hair and had a shave I'd have a more universal appeal but bad bitch loves me so I will stay as I am |
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Just about impossible:
The couples that message us, we don't seem to fancy, or they end up asking if just the guy can visit us.
Those that message that we do fancy tend to be straight and that doesn't work for how we play.
The couples we fancy, we're too shy to message.
We're too shy at clubs to approach couples because of how we play and needing the female half to be bi.
And even getting over all those hurdles, couples seem to think they don't need to read profiles and are incredibly poor at keeping a conversation going.
What with all that and constant let downs by guys, we're on the verge of giving it all up.
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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago
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"How easy or difficult have you found it to meet another couple you are both happy with?
We think it is not that easy."
Hard for us because we are not looking for mf swop
We want MM and FF fun and not that many other couples who don’t want MF swop |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couples meeting Single Guys .. the Holy Grail ??
Couples so defensive and cautious, understandably… but we’re here for fun and new experiences, if only a little easier ?? |
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"It can be very difficult. I used to play as a couple and was amazed how tricky finding compatible couples was. Problem is all issues are magnified by 2 for example you now have 4 ppl who need to fancy each other instead of 2. You have to want to do similar things agree on boundaries etc (eg use of condoms or not).
We got to the point that we found meeting at clubs was a much better way of meeting couples as if you get a no show or there is no spark the evening or day isn’t a complete bust."
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We’ve found it incredibly difficult, so much so that we haven’t had a meet yet! We tried clubs to begin with and we’ve had a couple of experiences there, then we thought we would organise meeting others at clubs but it just hasn’t ever worked out. We’re now hoping to arrange a hotel meet in the new year. It is really tough though, we’re lucky to have even one night a month off together so trying to line it up with two other schedules is a logistical challenge and that’s after you’ve managed to find a couple where there’s some degree of attraction between all of you.
C x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Incredibly difficult. Almost impossible given what our preferences are when it comes to couples. Most we’ve spoken to in person have turned out to be quite unpleasant too once they’ve realised we don’t do what they’re looking for x |
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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago
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"We’ve found it incredibly difficult, so much so that we haven’t had a meet yet! We tried clubs to begin with and we’ve had a couple of experiences there, then we thought we would organise meeting others at clubs but it just hasn’t ever worked out. We’re now hoping to arrange a hotel meet in the new year. It is really tough though, we’re lucky to have even one night a month off together so trying to line it up with two other schedules is a logistical challenge and that’s after you’ve managed to find a couple where there’s some degree of attraction between all of you.
C x
C x"
Or those who have similar interests are several hundred miles away x |
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Really difficult..club meets are deffo the way forward. Then you can mingle and find a couple you click with.
Also... profiles consisting of just pictures of the lady, or only cock pics of the chap. WTF is that all about.
I'm no oil painting, and my Mrs is deffo considerably more attractive than me. But... I've put some pictures of me on.
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I'm half a couple and we find it v hard ,I'm straight & many are not looking for partner swapping it seems ,more the elusive ffm .
When we do find a straight couple or one who are happy playing straight we have to factor in four way attraction and then of that's there availability of 4 people.
We have taken a bit of a break with covid & my other halfs health issues but when we start up again,we will probably just use a club if we fancy a meet together.
This is why we kept our single profiles as we met here & already had them. |
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We’ve been really lucky with our experiences from fab so far. Most couples we’ve spoken to have said they find it really difficult but we’ve met with a few couples from here for drinks etc and almost always ended the night going back to the hotel for some fun. We do tend to plan a week or two in advance though and have a good chat beforehand on here or WhatsApp so everyone is fairly confident that there’s a good chance everyone will click. Have met in clubs too but, touch wood, haven’t had any issues with meets we’ve arranged on here so far |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guess we have been lucky as we have met some gorgeous couples and made life long friends with some, been on many holidays and adventures with fab friends over the years "
We made very good friends with the first couple that we met here, but have struggled to get our schedules to coincide since early summer. We don't see it as a sprint though and it'll be another great event when we do align again.
Just be nice to add some more friends to our lives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's much easier in a club setting, as it's even difficult getting 4way conversations on here. "
Absolutely concur with this, the club setting does make it much easier x |
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It depends what you are looking for…going to a club and then playing alongside another couple and then having things progress is a lot easier.
But a lot of people don’t want that.
We are wanting a couple that we can meet with fairly regularly so we can build up trust and get on well with in and out of the bedroom.
A four way attraction, the guys getting on and then everyone wanting the same things, getting 4 people talking, having guys pictures (and not the standard dick pic) on a couples profile…it’s pretty much impossible.
But we live in hope… 
K |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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"It can be very difficult. I used to play as a couple and was amazed how tricky finding compatible couples was. Problem is all issues are magnified by 2 for example you now have 4 ppl who need to fancy each other instead of 2. You have to want to do similar things agree on boundaries etc (eg use of condoms or not).
We got to the point that we found meeting at clubs was a much better way of meeting couples as if you get a no show or there is no spark the evening or day isn’t a complete bust."
Absolutely THIS
The vast majority of our meets with couples have been with people we initially met at clubs or parties. Most of our meets with single guys have been via the different websites we have been on over the years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends what you are looking for…going to a club and then playing alongside another couple and then having things progress is a lot easier.
But a lot of people don’t want that.
We are wanting a couple that we can meet with fairly regularly so we can build up trust and get on well with in and out of the bedroom.
A four way attraction, the guys getting on and then everyone wanting the same things, getting 4 people talking, having guys pictures (and not the standard dick pic) on a couples profile…it’s pretty much impossible.
But we live in hope…
K"
Look no further  .
We go to clubs in Leeds quite alot and both enjoying being with couples. |
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We found it quite hard as we are only looking for bi couples so all 4 people need to have a connection .
We changed the way we meet people we only meet people through group socials we become good friends and the connection grows.It’s not ideal for people that want to do instant meets but it’s ideal for us and we’ve met loads of great couples who are also our friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Must be a challenge.
Half the couples on Fab don’t even have a picture of the male half.
Completely agree with this. Just don't get how you can attract couples when only 50% is visible "
I am in nine of the twenty four public gallery pictures which is a higher than average percentage I think.
Maybes why we don't get so much contact from couples.
In my mind it's better to put people off from the start than that awks moment when you send the males picture and it goes all tumble |
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We have made some very lovely friends through the lifestyle but these have normally come about from meeting at clubs. There have been times when we have got talking to a couple at a club, not played initially, but we have made future plans to meet up.
We have sadly had some bad experiences with meeting up with couples for the first time, outside of the club scene and this has been due to last minute cancellations or people not being honest about themselves (their ages were in exceeds of 20years more than stated).
However, when you get to make friends, the future meets can be amazing as everyone is that much more relaxed! |
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