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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.
We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.
We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.
This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.
Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!
I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).
Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations? |
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Often happens to me after a couple of sentences. Appears some folk are literally boiling with rage all the time and all it takes is one wrong word to set them off. God help anyone sarcastic or satirical they’ll be straight to block!
I never see the point of being unpleasant on social media, you don’t know who you’re chatting to, you’ve probably taken their words out of context and why not give everyone the benefit of the doubt. And if they’re unpleasant…..walk away, it’s easy.
Happy New Year to all anyway xx |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.
We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.
We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.
This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.
Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!
I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).
Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"
awwww hey guys get that all the time, people just block us for no reason, it plays havoc with your thoughts omg our last veri was from 4 years ago, are we a couple, age range, compliments etc etc  |
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
Thanks for messages folks. It is a weird one. Obviously some fake profiles are pretty sophisticated but to have multiple photos from different locations of the same people (admittedly a lot more of Mrs B than me) and verifications displayed so you can follow up to see who they are and if they are real 
All we did was pay her a compliment too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was accused of being fake and having 'porno pics' on my profile. I just took it as a compliment. Sadly they now keep getting reported and removed by fabadmin.
Somehow even though it haa been removed , it's stayed on as my display pic. Strange. |
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"Doesn't happen so much at the moment, but yeah, I'm accused of being fake with some regularity.
I'd fake something more glamorous than me, tbh.  "
Never put yourself down, even tongue in cheek. We have never met but over the last couple of years I have witnessed your personality and whit across the forums. You rock! |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
I have been called fake before as well. It's not a problem to be with you it's a problem to do with them.
They probably just was surprised that they were approached by a genuine couple and felt it couldn't actually be legitimate so decided you are fake.
There are of course quite a few fake couples and singles on here and they may have had a bad experience in the past that lead them to not be able to accept your message in the intent it was intended. |
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I get accused of being fake because I don't want to meet them lol.
Don't sweat it honestly people are just strange on here. I also got accused of being a pic collector because I asked if he had one that he could send, after he messaged me. |
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.
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Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.
We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people!  |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
OP - you have multiple verifications from people who have met others plus you have a party verification. You meet pretty much the gold standard for ‘real’ on Fab.
We’ve been called timewasters because we wouldn’t send a single guy a face pic after three messages. Fab is a zoo  |
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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago
Leeds + Newcastle |
Tbh, if they looked solely at your pictures I could understand why they thought you were fake.
Not many people* have nice photos on a couple profile on here, and if they do they are quite often taken from Google.
Take it as a compliment!!
*Don't come for me, it's true but there are exceptions.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Congrats OP, you are finally a Genuine Swinger! Got to be called a fake to join the club. 
Maybe Fake is a new hip term for the young uns. It will be a compliment like spiffing or jolly good.  |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please) |
It upset me the first time, they sent abusive messages said they were going to report my profile as fake.
Then I realised what a sad little person they were and not worth worrying about.
Plenty of people on here can vouch for me. |
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"Anyone on here could be fake ... I’ve spoke to loads .. arrange a meet then there gone  "
Again changed their minds. Doesn't mean they're fake. Even after meeting and having amazing sex, people can still change their mind |
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One couple accused us of lying about our ages saying we were a lot older than stated , they were adamant and acted like they were outing us.
If you can't say something nice just say nothing at all . |
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"Doesn't happen so much at the moment, but yeah, I'm accused of being fake with some regularity.
I'd fake something more glamorous than me, tbh.
Never put yourself down, even tongue in cheek. We have never met but over the last couple of years I have witnessed your personality and whit across the forums. You rock!"
Thank you  |
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"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.
I think we get shelved a lot as we don’t do the whole speed dating right now meets, Mr is away with Merchant navy a lot and a bad last meet put us off for a spell when he was shore side last, I think that people that react poorly to genuine real life reasons for not playing are a blessing in disguise.
We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.
We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.
This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.
Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!
I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).
Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I turned a guy down who then said that I probably didn't even exist (I checked with a quick look in the mirror and I'm pretty sure I do)....confusingly amusing. |
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"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.
We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.
We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.
This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.
Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!
I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).
Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"
We got called fake because we wouldn’t chat via Kik, despite having two green ticks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP - we can totally empathise. We’ve had it more than once, usually because we won’t give out Smoke’s personal number so the “lady” or “couple” can speak to her to prove she exists. Our attitude is that we’ve got now (and have had in the past) enough verifications by meeting in person to attest to the fact that we’re real. We’re always open about the fact that we’re in a long distance relationship as well, so more often that not it’s either me, or her, on here alone. We just find it laughable.
Plus - if you two are fake…… we don’t wanna be real  xx |
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"OP - we can totally empathise. We’ve had it more than once, usually because we won’t give out Smoke’s personal number so the “lady” or “couple” can speak to her to prove she exists. Our attitude is that we’ve got now (and have had in the past) enough verifications by meeting in person to attest to the fact that we’re real. We’re always open about the fact that we’re in a long distance relationship as well, so more often that not it’s either me, or her, on here alone. We just find it laughable.
Plus - if you two are fake…… we don’t wanna be real xx"
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Cheers for the fans guys, would return them if we could |
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Someone just told me he was grumpy, I told him not to worry, the other 6 dwarfs would arrive shortly.
He told me I should try harder and then I'd get a shag then blocked me...bless his little heart  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP - we can totally empathise. We’ve had it more than once, usually because we won’t give out Smoke’s personal number so the “lady” or “couple” can speak to her to prove she exists. Our attitude is that we’ve got now (and have had in the past) enough verifications by meeting in person to attest to the fact that we’re real. We’re always open about the fact that we’re in a long distance relationship as well, so more often that not it’s either me, or her, on here alone. We just find it laughable.
Plus - if you two are fake…… we don’t wanna be real xx.
Cheers for the fans guys, would return them if we could "
You’re very welcome - lovely pics especially the one of you two together clothed xx |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints |
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"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.
We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.
We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.
This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.
Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!
I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).
Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"
We've been called fakes only from people we don't accept as friends.
Our rule is, if we haven't met, we don't do friends request.
We always respond to requests with a message explaining our reason.
TBF it's only couples who complain, never a single guy, they tend to take it in good grace.
Best just move on, no loss. |
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints"
We have had a specific email address for swinging since we started out on this together over 15 years ago. We watermark our pictures with it to help stop fakes stealing and using them (they still can but it helps).
The long profile text may grate you but that is a totally different topic and I don’t really understand how that could be construed as fake? |
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"To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints
We have had a specific email address for swinging since we started out on this together over 15 years ago. We watermark our pictures with it to help stop fakes stealing and using them (they still can but it helps).
The long profile text may grate you but that is a totally different topic and I don’t really understand how that could be construed as fake?"
We also have a specific email for swinging, we’ve been meaning to watermark all our pics with it l, soooo much fabmin |
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"To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints"
I have a swinging email address. Occasionally it's useful |
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"OP - we can totally empathise. We’ve had it more than once, usually because we won’t give out Smoke’s personal number so the “lady” or “couple” can speak to her to prove she exists. Our attitude is that we’ve got now (and have had in the past) enough verifications by meeting in person to attest to the fact that we’re real. We’re always open about the fact that we’re in a long distance relationship as well, so more often that not it’s either me, or her, on here alone. We just find it laughable.
Plus - if you two are fake…… we don’t wanna be real xx"
 awww thanks |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.
Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.
We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people! "
This is the problem these days...some people love to be offended and angry at everything or everyone. Glance in their direction, say "good morning", or try to be nice in any way, shape or form and you're their focus of anger-fuelled attention.
That "person" was probably fake, has issues or just clearly isn't suitable for a social site of any description.
I wouldn't even try to work out what makes some people tick...."the abyss" springs to mind.
Thankfully, most people on Fab seem to be decent and friendly (with the odd exception being overly angry and aggressive profiles). I understand that some users are sick of certain types pestering them, but then their "defence mode" profile makes them appear aggressive, which puts others off.
The kick of the pants is that in some cases, they might be the complete opposite, but the projected image has given the completely wrong impression.
Anyway, slightly off the main subject there, but it was a natural progression |
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints
I have a swinging email address. Occasionally it's useful "
We also have a separate phone (burner lol) just for swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We choose not to share our veris, we've had creepy people message us before asking for info on previous meets. Doesn't mean we can't prove to others though that we are real. We can turn our verification summary on when asked or verify in other ways.
A good starting point though is being photo verified. Admittedly OP, I'd self question why your last veris are dated and your not photo verifed.
But I wouldn't assume your fake though. I would however be alittle reluctant to add as friends etc without confirming your still a couple.
(so many couples on fab split up and single guys keep the profiles running...)
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.
Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.
We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people!
This is the problem these days...some people love to be offended and angry at everything or everyone. Glance in their direction, say "good morning", or try to be nice in any way, shape or form and you're their focus of anger-fuelled attention.
That "person" was probably fake, has issues or just clearly isn't suitable for a social site of any description.
I wouldn't even try to work out what makes some people tick...."the abyss" springs to mind.
Thankfully, most people on Fab seem to be decent and friendly (with the odd exception being overly angry and aggressive profiles). I understand that some users are sick of certain types pestering them, but then their "defence mode" profile makes them appear aggressive, which puts others off.
The kick of the pants is that in some cases, they might be the complete opposite, but the projected image has given the completely wrong impression.
Anyway, slightly off the main subject there, but it was a natural progression "
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"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.
Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.
We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people!
This is the problem these days...some people love to be offended and angry at everything or everyone. Glance in their direction, say "good morning", or try to be nice in any way, shape or form and you're their focus of anger-fuelled attention.
That "person" was probably fake, has issues or just clearly isn't suitable for a social site of any description.
I wouldn't even try to work out what makes some people tick...."the abyss" springs to mind.
Thankfully, most people on Fab seem to be decent and friendly (with the odd exception being overly angry and aggressive profiles). I understand that some users are sick of certain types pestering them, but then their "defence mode" profile makes them appear aggressive, which puts others off.
The kick of the pants is that in some cases, they might be the complete opposite, but the projected image has given the completely wrong impression.
Anyway, slightly off the main subject there, but it was a natural progression "
As it's usually men message me, i get alot of angry men who don't like rejection |
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I know how these type of accusations feel and they do knock your confidence for a while, but if that's your only negative negative comment then I don't think you've anything to fret over. Just try and brush it off and get back into the swing of things. Personally, I get negative comments sometimes, but thatnkfully not too often. The last was concerning the fact I don't travel. A woman I was chatting to basically told me she supected I was a fake and timewaster because my profile said I didn't travel but I suggested to her we meet in Chester, which is a very short, cheap train journey for me. I never got the opportunity to tell her there's a difference in saying I don't travel and travelling the mere 10-12 miles into Chester. |
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"We choose not to share our veris, we've had creepy people message us before asking for info on previous meets. Doesn't mean we can't prove to others though that we are real. We can turn our verification summary on when asked or verify in other ways.
A good starting point though is being photo verified. Admittedly OP, I'd self question why your last veris are dated and your not photo verifed.
But I wouldn't assume your fake though. I would however be alittle reluctant to add as friends etc without confirming your still a couple.
(so many couples on fab split up and single guys keep the profiles running...)
Xxx"
Very good point! We had forgotten about the photo verified thing! Guess we thought multiple veris covered it.
More recent veris needed too (just need to start meeting again). |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.
Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.
We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people!
This is the problem these days...some people love to be offended and angry at everything or everyone. Glance in their direction, say "good morning", or try to be nice in any way, shape or form and you're their focus of anger-fuelled attention.
That "person" was probably fake, has issues or just clearly isn't suitable for a social site of any description.
I wouldn't even try to work out what makes some people tick...."the abyss" springs to mind.
Thankfully, most people on Fab seem to be decent and friendly (with the odd exception being overly angry and aggressive profiles). I understand that some users are sick of certain types pestering them, but then their "defence mode" profile makes them appear aggressive, which puts others off.
The kick of the pants is that in some cases, they might be the complete opposite, but the projected image has given the completely wrong impression.
Anyway, slightly off the main subject there, but it was a natural progression
As it's usually men message me, i get alot of angry men who don't like rejection"
Yes, I get that...and if you've let them down politely, they have a serious problem.
I get that they can be pissed off if someone's been nasty with their rejection (another group of people with serious issues).
It would be nice if everyone respected each other and behaved politely towards everyone else on here.
Unfortunately (and in reality) the nature of the beast means that we're never going to have that.
Still, if the majority behave in a respectful and polite manner, hopefully those others will give up and go away.
Until the next bunch join...
The never ending storyyyyyy.... |
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By *he SmithsCouple
over a year ago
Devon & London |
At least you received a reply!
We’ve been on the scene a while too and whilst Fab has always been a broad church we’re always surprised when a well meaning message is ignored or not replied to with engagement. In your case perhaps she just found you too perfect to be believable!
That’s why we just focus on club night these days, at least we can’t be accused of being fakes stood in front of them!
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But to be honest, do we care?
Not in the slightest.
It's a swingers site on social media, a tiny little piece of our lives and a very private piece at that.
If someone messages us and say "you're fakes", who cares.
We know we are a genuine couple and don't care if others think we are fakes as the chances of meeting these people are almost nil.
Of all the social media sites we visit, this is by far the most catty, most angry, most angst ridden, but we've met the most lovely people too, but its a site of many parts.
We are delighted when folks block us as it saves time and effort.
If we block folks it's not any reflection on them, it's just for one reason or another we will never meet.
Paul finds it funny when we get a nasty mail or accusations of being fake, I not so much.
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"But to be honest, do we care?
Not in the slightest.
It's a swingers site on social media, a tiny little piece of our lives and a very private piece at that.
If someone messages us and say "you're fakes", who cares.
We know we are a genuine couple and don't care if others think we are fakes as the chances of meeting these people are almost nil.
Of all the social media sites we visit, this is by far the most catty, most angry, most angst ridden, but we've met the most lovely people too, but its a site of many parts.
We are delighted when folks block us as it saves time and effort.
If we block folks it's not any reflection on them, it's just for one reason or another we will never meet.
Paul finds it funny when we get a nasty mail or accusations of being fake, I not so much.
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Did you bruise someone’s ego? I’m often accused of being fake or called names when I say ‘no’ to someone.
People can’t take it when you turn them down and then they just turn nasty.
Personally, I think you’ve got a great profile, fabulous pics and totally understand why you’ve no verifications since 2019.
Block them and move on. Hope you have a fantastic 2023 when it comes. |
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We got called fake by a single guy last night, he messaged and paid L a compliment, we replied with a thank you. His next message baffled us. He said you do know I’m straight you’re obviously just a bender and not a real couple. Wow that was definitely a new one for us. |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"We got called fake by a single guy last night, he messaged and paid L a compliment, we replied with a thank you. His next message baffled us. He said you do know I’m straight you’re obviously just a bender and not a real couple. Wow that was definitely a new one for us. "
Probably a silly teenage boy with a false profile, wanking off to profiles in his bedroom...then reacting that way when faced with reality (in your case, a genuine compliment). |
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"We got called fake by a single guy last night, he messaged and paid L a compliment, we replied with a thank you. His next message baffled us. He said you do know I’m straight you’re obviously just a bender and not a real couple. Wow that was definitely a new one for us.
Probably a silly teenage boy with a false profile, wanking off to profiles in his bedroom...then reacting that way when faced with reality (in your case, a genuine compliment)."
Definitely a strange one , but provided us with a little giggle. blocked and moved on |
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"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters."
I guess it's being accused of something you're not. In this case, it shouldn't matter but it still hurts them.
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"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.
We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.
We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.
This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.
Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!
I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).
Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"
We’ve had the same a while ago , funny game this swinging thingy |
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"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.
We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.
We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.
This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.
Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!
I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).
Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"
We have had the same also, just because we wont meet on a weekday night at 11pm with no notice. Some people don't realise some of us have to work! xx |
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By *irldn OP Couple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters."
“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird! |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
trouble most likely, or creating it :) |
"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.
“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird!"
its okay I'm apparently a fake too ... as not meeting at the moment due to a multitude of personal reasons ( not least I'm feeling about as sexy as a wet blanket) and that apparently makes me a fake |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.
We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.
We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.
This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.
Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!
I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).
Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?
We have had the same also, just because we wont meet on a weekday night at 11pm with no notice. Some people don't realise some of us have to work! xx"
You mean you won't disturb your personal life and family commitments at the 11th hour, then go to work looking and feeling like extras from "The Walking Dead", just to satisfy the whims of someone who may or may not be genuine?
Why, how rude and inconsiderate of you |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.
“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird! its okay I'm apparently a fake too ... as not meeting at the moment due to a multitude of personal reasons ( not least I'm feeling about as sexy as a wet blanket) and that apparently makes me a fake "
I hope those personal reasons get resolved soon, and you feel sexy again
In the meantime, don't worry about the opinions of rude, inconsiderate people....I'm sure you don't |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
trouble most likely, or creating it :) |
"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.
“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird! its okay I'm apparently a fake too ... as not meeting at the moment due to a multitude of personal reasons ( not least I'm feeling about as sexy as a wet blanket) and that apparently makes me a fake
I hope those personal reasons get resolved soon, and you feel sexy again
In the meantime, don't worry about the opinions of rude, inconsiderate people....I'm sure you don't "
I don't... it made me laugh to be called a fake.. especially when I've been the first face many have been introduced to at clubs and events across the decades.
And I hope I stop feeling like this soon xx |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.
“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird! its okay I'm apparently a fake too ... as not meeting at the moment due to a multitude of personal reasons ( not least I'm feeling about as sexy as a wet blanket) and that apparently makes me a fake
I hope those personal reasons get resolved soon, and you feel sexy again
In the meantime, don't worry about the opinions of rude, inconsiderate people....I'm sure you don't I don't... it made me laugh to be called a fake.. especially when I've been the first face many have been introduced to at clubs and events across the decades.
And I hope I stop feeling like this soon xx"
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