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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A female friend of mine on here has been constantly messed around by guys who 'want to meet' then when the time comes they let her down.
Why is it that single guys on here complain about not getting meets when they behave like that?
I would love to know if anybody can enlighten me....!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tricky one!
The guys that complain about not getting meets won't be the same ones time wasting/standing up your friend!
As to why they do it - fantasy better than reality? Wife changes plans? Cold feet? Erectile dysfunction?
Could be anything!
But if it's a regular problem - the only constant thing in the equation is her - which may highlight issues with her search methods or selection criteria! Is she seeking guys herself or responding to messages? As she's far more likely to have less problems doing the first!
Wish her good luck!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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perhaps because the selection process was shit to start with...
I'm afraid its like people saying this site is full of timewasters and fakes..its clearly not
some people lack the effective judgement and skills needed to navigate the site, or how to actually organise themselves to successfully meet..then in turn, believe it is everyone else that has the problem
blowing my own trumpet possibly..but I have never struggled getting meets...of course if i dont get the meet..I simply do something else that isnt connected with needing a shag.. |
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"perhaps because the selection process was shit to start with...
I'm afraid its like people saying this site is full of timewasters and fakes..its clearly not
some people lack the effective judgement and skills needed to navigate the site, or how to actually organise themselves to successfully meet..then in turn, believe it is everyone else that has the problem
blowing my own trumpet possibly..but I have never struggled getting meets...of course if i dont get the meet..I simply do something else that isnt connected with needing a shag.."
I'm not surprised you haven't struggled with that arse!! Yum! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A female friend of mine on here has been constantly messed around by guys who 'want to meet' then when the time comes they let her down.
Why is it that single guys on here complain about not getting meets when they behave like that?
I would love to know if anybody can enlighten me....!!!"
Im getting the exactly the same thing ive had 2 no shows and 2 cancellations in the last 3 weeks. Its pissing me off |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks
She is such a lovely person I really feel for her.
Maybe she is choosing the wrong ones but how is she meant to know this?
Sadly she lives too far away to recommend any I know...
Keep em coming, I might just tell her to look at the thread... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A female friend of mine on here has been constantly messed around by guys who 'want to meet' then when the time comes they let her down.
Why is it that single guys on here complain about not getting meets when they behave like that?
I would love to know if anybody can enlighten me....!!!
Im getting the exactly the same thing ive had 2 no shows and 2 cancellations in the last 3 weeks. Its pissing me off"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks
She is such a lovely person I really feel for her.
Maybe she is choosing the wrong ones but how is she meant to know this?
Sadly she lives too far away to recommend any I know...
Keep em coming, I might just tell her to look at the thread..."
if she takes it up the arse, tell her to give me a call  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"perhaps because the selection process was shit to start with...
I'm afraid its like people saying this site is full of timewasters and fakes..its clearly not
some people lack the effective judgement and skills needed to navigate the site, or how to actually organise themselves to successfully meet..then in turn, believe it is everyone else that has the problem
blowing my own trumpet possibly..but I have never struggled getting meets...of course if i dont get the meet..I simply do something else that isnt connected with needing a shag..
I'm not surprised you haven't struggled with that arse!! Yum! X"
actually I was surprised how it turned out..my wee skinny arse looks buFF!xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks
She is such a lovely person I really feel for her.
Maybe she is choosing the wrong ones but how is she meant to know this?
Sadly she lives too far away to recommend any I know...
Keep em coming, I might just tell her to look at the thread...
if she takes it up the arse, tell her to give me a call "
Ha ha
I know she doesn't...
But she is a long way from me and a hell of a lot further from you!!! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"perhaps because the selection process was shit to start with...
I'm afraid its like people saying this site is full of timewasters and fakes..its clearly not
some people lack the effective judgement and skills needed to navigate the site, or how to actually organise themselves to successfully meet..then in turn, believe it is everyone else that has the problem
blowing my own trumpet possibly..but I have never struggled getting meets...of course if i dont get the meet..I simply do something else that isnt connected with needing a shag.."
bloody hell.. i just nodded at everything you just said....
if she is having trouble with the selection, then maybe it was time the selecting criteria was changed... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A female friend of mine on here has been constantly messed around by guys who 'want to meet' then when the time comes they let her down.
Why is it that single guys on here complain about not getting meets when they behave like that?
I would love to know if anybody can enlighten me....!!!"
I've been pissed about by single fems & couples too. It ain't just guys, its everyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the people she is arranging meets with have probably got pics of other people who are good looking and get a thrill from arranging a meet and wank themselves silly wile doing it . |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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what is she doing that is different to you. are you expecting time wasters to tell why they time waste, the people who do it won't put their hand up.
you seem to do well and are enjoying it, she could learn more from you
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"A female friend of mine on here has been constantly messed around by guys who 'want to meet' then when the time comes they let her down.
Why is it that single guys on here complain about not getting meets when they behave like that?
I would love to know if anybody can enlighten me....!!!"
just noticed you're a single lady - why don't you give her some advice - you seem to have had a few meets, you might be able to see where she might be going wrong. Z |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Without meaning to sound harsh if she "is constantly messed around" then she is the cnstant factor and she needs to look at what she is doing wrong."
I completely disagree. There is nothing 'wrong' about arranging a meet. I had one last week. Fully and recently verified. Chatted on phone. Even on the day of the meet. Then cancelled just prior on a flimsy pretext. Luckily I set up another with someone else.
Getting tired of people responding instantly that the person let down is at fault. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Without meaning to sound harsh if she "is constantly messed around" then she is the cnstant factor and she needs to look at what she is doing wrong.
I completely disagree. There is nothing 'wrong' about arranging a meet. I had one last week. Fully and recently verified. Chatted on phone. Even on the day of the meet. Then cancelled just prior on a flimsy pretext. Luckily I set up another with someone else.
Getting tired of people responding instantly that the person let down is at fault."
The key word, which you appear to be missing is "constantly" - sorry but if that's the case then I stand by my comment that the OP's friend needs to look at their own selection process.
Why do some people have real issues with no shows and fakes on here yet plenty of others have no problem? It's not a coincidence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Without meaning to sound harsh if she "is constantly messed around" then she is the cnstant factor and she needs to look at what she is doing wrong.
I completely disagree. There is nothing 'wrong' about arranging a meet. I had one last week. Fully and recently verified. Chatted on phone. Even on the day of the meet. Then cancelled just prior on a flimsy pretext. Luckily I set up another with someone else.
Getting tired of people responding instantly that the person let down is at fault."
Actually, you have hit the nail on the head.
She has had some good meets but, exactly as you state, gets flimsy excuses after arranging the meet.
Just to answer a question above, no, she definitely isn't a minger, lol, and even tho I'm not into women I know a pretty one and she is very attractive. It's very disheartening to get let down as I have had a few guys let me down but not as many as she has.
All of your replies are very useful and I will (maybe) tell her about the thread! Lol
Thanks to you all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Without meaning to sound harsh if she "is constantly messed around" then she is the cnstant factor and she needs to look at what she is doing wrong.
I completely disagree. There is nothing 'wrong' about arranging a meet. I had one last week. Fully and recently verified. Chatted on phone. Even on the day of the meet. Then cancelled just prior on a flimsy pretext. Luckily I set up another with someone else.
Getting tired of people responding instantly that the person let down is at fault.
Actually, you have hit the nail on the head.
She has had some good meets but, exactly as you state, gets flimsy excuses after arranging the meet.
Just to answer a question above, no, she definitely isn't a minger, lol, and even tho I'm not into women I know a pretty one and she is very attractive. It's very disheartening to get let down as I have had a few guys let me down but not as many as she has.
All of your replies are very useful and I will (maybe) tell her about the thread! Lol
Thanks to you all"
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"A female friend of mine on here has been constantly messed around by guys who 'want to meet' then when the time comes they let her down.
Why is it that single guys on here complain about not getting meets when they behave like that?
I would love to know if anybody can enlighten me....!!!"
If I were constantly being messed about I'd rethink how I choose playnates.
Does she have one of those "victim" profiles? By that I mean the type that run themselves down, mention being hurt in the past etc? Does she have a type but feels "grateful" for any attention and readily agrees to meet?
There are predatory males and those that like to take the piss.
I'm not demonising single men as I only meet single men and none have let me down. |
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"perhaps because the selection process was shit to start with...
I'm afraid its like people saying this site is full of timewasters and fakes..its clearly not
some people lack the effective judgement and skills needed to navigate the site, or how to actually organise themselves to successfully meet..then in turn, believe it is everyone else that has the problem
blowing my own trumpet possibly..but I have never struggled getting meets...of course if i dont get the meet..I simply do something else that isnt connected with needing a shag.."
 I need to lay down...I agree with everything you've said! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Does she have one of those "victim" profiles? By that I mean the type that run themselves down, mention being hurt in the past etc? Does she have a type but feels "grateful" for any attention and readily agrees to meet?
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and I bet that happens more than people think, also forums posts... there are the guys who seek the vulnerability... chase the vulnerable, get the verification and move on... nothing wrong with that, but may cause pain. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A female friend of mine on here has been constantly messed around by guys who 'want to meet' then when the time comes they let her down.
Why is it that single guys on here complain about not getting meets when they behave like that?
I would love to know if anybody can enlighten me....!!!
If I were constantly being messed about I'd rethink how I choose playnates.
Does she have one of those "victim" profiles? By that I mean the type that run themselves down, mention being hurt in the past etc? Does she have a type but feels "grateful" for any attention and readily agrees to meet?
There are predatory males and those that like to take the piss.
I'm not demonising single men as I only meet single men and none have let me down. "
No, she is very selective and meets socially before anything else. I really don't know wht she is doing wrong...maybe nothing, but as some have said, choosing the wrong guys. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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and I bet that happens more than people think, also forums posts... there are the guys who seek the vulnerability... chase the vulnerable,
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Thats very true.
Im currently seeking a vulnerable 6ft 4 Rasta (ginger cock optional)... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"perhaps because the selection process was shit to start with...
I'm afraid its like people saying this site is full of timewasters and fakes..its clearly not
some people lack the effective judgement and skills needed to navigate the site, or how to actually organise themselves to successfully meet..then in turn, believe it is everyone else that has the problem
blowing my own trumpet possibly..but I have never struggled getting meets...of course if i dont get the meet..I simply do something else that isnt connected with needing a shag..
I need to lay down...I agree with everything you've said! "
its always nice to know ur having a fiddle about me...i hope _abio isnt though!!!!! |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Without meaning to sound harsh if she "is constantly messed around" then she is the cnstant factor and she needs to look at what she is doing wrong.
I completely disagree. There is nothing 'wrong' about arranging a meet. I had one last week. Fully and recently verified. Chatted on phone. Even on the day of the meet. Then cancelled just prior on a flimsy pretext. Luckily I set up another with someone else.
Getting tired of people responding instantly that the person let down is at fault.
The key word, which you appear to be missing is "constantly" - sorry but if that's the case then I stand by my comment that the OP's friend needs to look at their own selection process.
Why do some people have real issues with no shows and fakes on here yet plenty of others have no problem? It's not a coincidence. "
Someone feels shit about being messed about and then is made to feel worse by being blamed for that. Not nice. Yes, it happens. Even when you really plan and prepare, and do your homework. But that is not the fault of someone who is let down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"perhaps because the selection process was shit to start with...
I'm afraid its like people saying this site is full of timewasters and fakes..its clearly not
some people lack the effective judgement and skills needed to navigate the site, or how to actually organise themselves to successfully meet..then in turn, believe it is everyone else that has the problem
blowing my own trumpet possibly..but I have never struggled getting meets...of course if i dont get the meet..I simply do something else that isnt connected with needing a shag..
I'm not surprised you haven't struggled with that arse!! Yum! X"
My thought exactly! What a peachy butt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"perhaps because the selection process was shit to start with...
I'm afraid its like people saying this site is full of timewasters and fakes..its clearly not
some people lack the effective judgement and skills needed to navigate the site, or how to actually organise themselves to successfully meet..then in turn, believe it is everyone else that has the problem
blowing my own trumpet possibly..but I have never struggled getting meets...of course if i dont get the meet..I simply do something else that isnt connected with needing a shag..
I'm not surprised you haven't struggled with that arse!! Yum! X
My thought exactly! What a peachy butt. "
awww thanks!..blowing u kisses...sorry that was a fart |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It has happened to me as well, block and move one, their loss!
With you Sextravagant "I do not believe it!"  "
It is true... The guy's excuse was "I couldn't believe my luck and thought you wouldn't show up."
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sorry to hear about your friend, but it happens, too many single men on here married and just here to wank,and pic collect, we have found some really nice single guys on here who are single, but we have been messed about so many times with guys who last min dont turn up or just disappear, SHAME ON THEM, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sorry to hear about your friend, but it happens, too many single men on here married and just here to wank,and pic collect, we have found some really nice single guys on here who are single, but we have been messed about so many times with guys who last min dont turn up or just disappear, SHAME ON THEM, "
same as most of the male halves of cpls lol... |
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"Thanks
She is such a lovely person I really feel for her.
Maybe she is choosing the wrong ones but how is she meant to know this?
Sadly she lives too far away to recommend any I know...
Keep em coming, I might just tell her to look at the thread..."
Where does she live??
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Without meaning to sound harsh if she "is constantly messed around" then she is the cnstant factor and she needs to look at what she is doing wrong."
Picking the wrong guys sounds to mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I only see single men and have to say that in 2 yesrs i have been on fab i have only been let down once but i had an idea it wasn't going to happen, never have i been sat waiting for someone, but then i like to chat for quite a while and i suppose that men figure after putting all that effort in there is no way they are going to let it go to waste. If you spend time on here and get to know who your meeting, don't rush i think you can have a lot of success and fun.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not all singles are wasters
Not had any joy on here as of yet
But pretty new so not fussed
Have had meets on other site
Always turned up when arranged,be rude not to  "
Im a genuine single guy too...ive had zero interest...but not been on here long. If invited to meet id always turn up.
Not all single guys are the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Had some serious interest from a few people on here.
All of them have just 'dissapeard' & not even got to the stage of offering a time/place for a meet.
Why bother in the first place?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think us single guys have a pretty tough time on sites like these anyway. If were all honest its pretty much a big open shopping bascket of blokes , ive used similar sites over the years and always found this to be the problem.
However if guys remain polite , honest and can prove them selves to be genuine then then wouldnt have any issues.
Ive never had this problem but know of a few that have so come on girls its 50/50 blame share this one ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think us single guys have a pretty tough time on sites like these anyway. If were all honest its pretty much a big open shopping bascket of blokes , ive used similar sites over the years and always found this to be the problem.
However if guys remain polite , honest and can prove them selves to be genuine then then wouldnt have any issues.
Ive never had this problem but know of a few that have so come on girls its 50/50 blame share this one !"
I wish people wouldn't chuck any gender in a phrase including the word 'us'.
There's no 'group mentality'. No blame to be laid on one sex or another - just individuals. There are good and bad of both sexes, and couples.
And folk would be a lot better off remembering that and concentrating on individuals rather than looking at things as specific gender issues! |
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