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Depends on my playmate. Largely sub experience. Nothing like serving someone and pleasuring them.
But I do love putting in the effort for the right person or people. Learning what makes them tick and creating a scene that excites and stretches them   |
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By *tuvyMan 25 weeks ago
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"Depends on my playmate. Largely sub experience. Nothing like serving someone and pleasuring them.
But I do love putting in the effort for the right person or people. Learning what makes them tick and creating a scene that excites and stretches them "
Same for me
Depends on who it’s with and the chemistry |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Dom ...but I honestly think of myself as just really bossy as opposed to Dom ...I've always taken the lead with girls , like every time ...with guys I'm the same really , but I do like a guy who's just not having it |
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Maybe this is the right place to be educated. When a woman says she is a switch I understand that’s switching between sub and dom but what does being a dom involve if you are woman?
Might sound like a stupid question but other then pegging and being spanked I can’t quite think of anything else?
I’m happy for a woman to dom over me, but wouldn’t feel comfortable being pegged. Surely there’s other things? |
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"Maybe this is the right place to be educated. When a woman says she is a switch I understand that’s switching between sub and dom but what does being a dom involve if you are woman?
Might sound like a stupid question but other then pegging and being spanked I can’t quite think of anything else?
I’m happy for a woman to dom over me, but wouldn’t feel comfortable being pegged. Surely there’s other things? "
I was Dom for 20 years before transitioning. Now I prefer to sub. Chatting to a Domme over the weekend and it seems our styles are similar. Nurturing and lifting up, preferring sensual play - pleasurable pain and good aftercare....
I know domming as a woman is going to be very different and I'm hoping to pick up some hints and learn from her. |
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By *idNHSMan 25 weeks ago
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"Right in the middle. I can go either way, but takes a serious dom to make me sub, otherwise I try to flip mid way through "
Flipping midway through is often some of the times I've had with my ex.
She'll start of as the dom, but halfway through I 'escape' and show her who the real dom is.
Best of both worlds.
Saying that, at least 90% of the time I'm dom. |
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"Maybe this is the right place to be educated. When a woman says she is a switch I understand that’s switching between sub and dom but what does being a dom involve if you are woman?
Might sound like a stupid question but other then pegging and being spanked I can’t quite think of anything else?
I’m happy for a woman to dom over me, but wouldn’t feel comfortable being pegged. Surely there’s other things? "
All of the following have a possibility to be dom(me) or sub……
Wax play
Shibari
Impact (floggers, canes, hands…..)
Orgasm denial/control
Nipple torture
Needle play
…..to be honest the list is endless…
You are very much thinking vanilla in your understanding of Dom/sub |
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"Maybe this is the right place to be educated. When a woman says she is a switch I understand that’s switching between sub and dom but what does being a dom involve if you are woman?
Might sound like a stupid question but other then pegging and being spanked I can’t quite think of anything else?
I’m happy for a woman to dom over me, but wouldn’t feel comfortable being pegged. Surely there’s other things? "
I used to Top someone who was a masochist. I was her midway point as she also played with her sadist, who was brutal. She then discovered her Domme side. She realised although she was not sadist she enjoyed submission of the bottom /submissive. The sadist and I counselled her through avoiding subs looking for kink dispensing Dommes. In other words put all the porn ideas of a Domme in the bin i.e pegging, and being a sexual pleaser of the male submissive and take on board the concept that the submissive is there to serve. So as an example this could be feminisation. It could be just being attentive and making the tea and being there to serve. It could be more sensual (but not sexual) body control play. Think in terms of female led relationships rather than porn stars with strap-ons. Although there some Dommes into that.
Additionally, there are some seriously hard-core sadistic Dommes out there, who are into the stuff the CIA did with pales of water. Those who love needlework on bodies. Those who like sadistic rope. A little known fact in the West that in Japan the main users of shibari are men who attend professional women who tie as part of their professional services. |
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