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By *asps OP Man 12 weeks ago
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Speaking to a great couple last nite who are looking to spice up there lives ... they want to start with soft play not swapping fully ..when I asked how far is soft play as every one's boundaries are different. They didn't know and hadn't really discuses it ... I advised before any play with anyone they talk to each other first .... what are your boundaries when it comes to soft play ? |
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Basically, soft play = foreplay, in most cases. So everything apart from sticking your cock in one of them for anal or vaginal sex. But yes, do get them to discuss boundaries as some couples, for example, don't kiss anyone but their own partners. |
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"Yeah I think k they think soft play is more bit kissing and a bit of touching. Don't think they know just how far soft play covers "
Maybe you can help them decide, and set clear boundaries then, by listing the activities and asking if they'd be ok with those or not. I'd say it's much better to set the boundaries before the meet than do something at the meet they're not comfortable with. If they are a new-ish couple, they may not know how far they'd be happy to go. |
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"Basically, soft play = foreplay, in most cases. So everything apart from sticking your cock in one of them for anal or vaginal sex. But yes, do get them to discuss boundaries as some couples, for example, don't kiss anyone but their own partners. "
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Can't really see the point in it myself, but I would say it's fingering, oral and kissing.
Why would you bother 🤷♂️ I can understand doing soft play at a party where harder stuff us going on and you want an introduction or just something light. But to actually arrange a meet with a couple to soft swap seems crazy to me. |
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I would say it’s everything except penetration……however lots of couples have different boundaries with kissing etc. it’s a conversation that’s definitely needed between them before considering a meet. If they don’t know their boundaries then the person they’re meeting won’t either xx |
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By *asps OP Man 12 weeks ago
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Had a good chat with the couple that I was on about ... tho I kept my original profile I only come on here if I have another half or im single but been on here nearly 20 years and have a good understanding of swinging etc. The couple came in to this blind almost. I don't think they really sat down. Talked about the whole swinging etc let alone playing ...talking to them and letting them read reply to this topic has really opened there eyes. ... I told them to take a few weeks away from here and talk to each other first. Some times fantsay is better than real thing |
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