Went out recently with my wife and I was casually talking to a guy at the bar. Seemed nice, he mentioned him and wife swing sometimes.
I said so do we.
He said OMG give me half an hour ill get my wife to come out we can go back to the hotel together.
It annoyed me a bit. The assumption that because we swing we'll just go home with anyone, no question asked.
By all means, suggest it. Invite us even. You never know. But dont just "say great let's go then"
Its like asking a girl if she's single, then saying "oh great get your coat we'll go back to mine"
I dont care if you're our type. If you're pushy or just assume we'll go with you. You won't get anywhere with either of us.
We just left while he was calling his wife. Like f**k you man.
Am I too touchy here? It just feels so arrogant to assume we would and call his wife.
If you're like that, try not to be. Swingers aren't just easy pickings. |
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Happens all the time. Just yesterday we had a message from a guy asking if we met Asian guys. We replied that colour and race is of no importance to us. His reply was "when me meet, what are the rules?".
There's very much a problem with the perception that just because swingers have sex with other people, they'll have sex with all people.
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By *luttTV/TS 9 weeks ago
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"If you're like that, try not to be. Swingers aren't just easy pickings."
If anything, I’d have thought swingers would be quite difficult pickings given the number of different people who have to approve of each other. |
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Not easy by any means. Females need attraction and chemistry to meet ? Couples if looking for say male same. But then add in male of couple to be happy wife has made right decision. Even more complicated with two couples ? |
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Exactly! It's not a simple thing at all. To be completely honest im not 100% sure how we decide who to play with. We just have to have a connection of some kind. We either feel comfortable or we don't.
I can't even really be specific about it.
Anyway, im glad we're not completely alone in this.
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"Went out recently with my wife and I was casually talking to a guy at the bar. Seemed nice, he mentioned him and wife swing sometimes.
I said so do we.
He said OMG give me half an hour ill get my wife to come out we can go back to the hotel together.
It annoyed me a bit. The assumption that because we swing we'll just go home with anyone, no question asked.
By all means, suggest it. Invite us even. You never know. But dont just "say great let's go then"
Its like asking a girl if she's single, then saying "oh great get your coat we'll go back to mine"
I dont care if you're our type. If you're pushy or just assume we'll go with you. You won't get anywhere with either of us.
We just left while he was calling his wife. Like f**k you man.
Am I too touchy here? It just feels so arrogant to assume we would and call his wife.
If you're like that, try not to be. Swingers aren't just easy pickings."
Completely agree with you... over the years we have had similiar and whilst we appreciate the offer - we are not the type just to fuck for the sake of it... needs to be some chemistry etc before anything will happen (unless in a club and playing on a open room etc)..
Appreciate eveyone is different (otherwise how boring would the world be) - but we would do the same - thanks but no thanks |
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I know what my hubby would of said to him. Let's just say he would of been left in no doubt as to where the nearest exit was. Probably with 2 words.
It never fails to amaze how many ppl seem to think that because your a Swinger that anything goes. Even in clubs I find cpls get the hump and even start bad mouthing you to others when they hear thanks but no thanks. |
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