A bit of a rant but the question is genuine. I was talking to a really beautiful and a kind hearted lady for the past couple of days. She was stunning we were getting along fine was planning a meet but both were free different times but figuring something out. Obviously coz she a lady her inbox was full of messages always. Talked to her different times of the day and always she would have like 250+ messages. And I think that’s the reason she deleted her account coz not able to find her anymore.
My only theory is the huge flux of messages made her do that and then those disrespectful dickheads and cunts who are not able to take a No. This raised a question in my mind that how other couple and females go through it ? Really apologies that you guys have to go through this but how do you cope up with it? |
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By *emma200Woman 10 weeks ago
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If I can be honest with you OP.. my inbox being full and how people message me doesn’t give me reason to want to delete my account. I choose to ignore, block and move on.
Although I have had someone similar who I was meet pending and talking to delete his account .. probably wasn’t for him, nerves or for cold feet.
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I use filters, to reduce the mail I receive and make it more likely I'll hear from those if be interested in.
All couples, men and ladies can apply them and it makes life so much easier here.
She may have had something happen in real life or change her mind op, don't dwell on it or worry what other men do. It sadly won't change and you can only do your best to be decent yourself and stand out that way. |
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I only have couples and females allowed to message me anyway but I can usually tell in the first few messages if another female is a guy or the couples that message it’s the guy I’m swapping messages with.
As for the amount I get I tend to have an overload of messages when I put up a new pic or two for around three or four days then it tails off.
I do admit to just pure laziness in not being bothered to read them all when this happens also.
Maybe she deleted her account and is going to set up a new one . |
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It’s really not that hard to ignore the nonsense and only reply to people you may be interested in. If it becomes too much there are many filters that can be applied to slow down the flow of messages……if it gets overwhelming you can also set your account to private for however long you want and use the time to clear your inbox and delete etc.
Everyone will do this differently though and have their own way of dealing with it xx 😘 |
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By *aciamiCouple 10 weeks ago
Hertfordshire |
As per the post above, we will regularly use filters to limit messages from single guys. It is a pain though as there we predominantly use the site to stay in touch with people and that blocks people from being able to get in touch with us.
The stupid messages or those that just contain smut get immediately deleted, and in many cases the person sending them is blocked. That does help keep the repeat message idiots at bay.
As for singles pretending to be couples, they are very quickly sussed out and blocked. |
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"I only have couples and females allowed to message me anyway but I can usually tell in the first few messages if another female is a guy or the couples that message it’s the guy I’m swapping messages with.
As for the amount I get I tend to have an overload of messages when I put up a new pic or two for around three or four days then it tails off.
I do admit to just pure laziness in not being bothered to read them all when this happens also.
Maybe she deleted her account and is going to set up a new one ."
She might set up a new one. Well that’s a whole new dimension of overthinking. What If 😂 she sets up a new account and find this forum. This might make her fell more for me hehe  |
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We don't go through anything. In our time here I think we've had around between 5 and 10 abusive messages. We had tight mail filters but also our age stops a lot of abuse (probably because we remind them of their parents 🤣🤣).
It is really easy to apply mail filters to prevent being overwhelmed . |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Could she have hidden her profile for a bit?
Also, if you use the old basic search, then profiles that have blocked you show up and you can see if that's the case...
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