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"Personally yes ….. What issues do you think could arise?
It’s a bit noncey for me …..
personally I’d have no interest in an 18 yr old … "
I feel that’s the right attitude to have personally. As an 18 year old lad, would you have ever taken up another by a 45 year old woman? |
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"Personally yes ….. What issues do you think could arise?
It’s a bit noncey for me …..
personally I’d have no interest in an 18 yr old … I feel that’s the right attitude to have personally. As an 18 year old lad, would you have ever taken up another by a 45 year old woman? "
Probably would have considered it at 18 …. But now at 45 I wouldn’t … roles reversed maybe not …. Just doesn’t sit right … |
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"Personally yes ….. What issues do you think could arise?
It’s a bit noncey for me …..
personally I’d have no interest in an 18 yr old … I feel that’s the right attitude to have personally. As an 18 year old lad, would you have ever taken up another by a 45 year old woman?
Probably would have considered it at 18 …. But now at 45 I wouldn’t … roles reversed maybe not …. Just doesn’t sit right … "
Could not agree more!! |
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"Personally yes ….. What issues do you think could arise?
It’s a bit noncey for me …..
personally I’d have no interest in an 18 yr old … I feel that’s the right attitude to have personally. As an 18 year old lad, would you have ever taken up another by a 45 year old woman?
Probably would have considered it at 18 …. But now at 45 I wouldn’t … roles reversed maybe not …. Just doesn’t sit right … "
It’s a healthy attitude  Maybe it’s something that could get more attention. |
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"It would be for me, yes.
What would be the problem for you?"
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Although it's legal, I'd have nothing in common with someone that young,their outlook and experience will be very different to mine.
If you're happy with it, you go for it though. If it's for more than fun, you could be close to her parents age. |
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"It would be for me, yes.
What would be the problem for you?.
Although it's legal, I'd have nothing in common with someone that young,their outlook and experience will be very different to mine.
If you're happy with it, you go for it though. If it's for more than fun, you could be close to her parents age. "
I don’t think I’d be happy with it, for all the reasons you’ve mentioned. It’d most likely be fraught with problematic scenarios involving parents! |
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A 28 year age gap is too much for me. I'm not sure morality has a lot to do with it but I know when I was 18 I had no interest in 25 year old men let alone 45.
I have known people in relationships with large age gaps and they tend to just get on with their lives because they're sure of their own reasons for being with their partner. |
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"A 28 year age gap is too much for me. I'm not sure morality has a lot to do with it but I know when I was 18 I had no interest in 25 year old men let alone 45.
I have known people in relationships with large age gaps and they tend to just get on with their lives because they're sure of their own reasons for being with their partner. "
Oh no definitely I agree, it’s a lot. Some people think it’s a bit predatory and I’d tend to agree with that thought, given the brain development as one of the other posters has mentioned. |
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"A 28 year age gap is too much for me. I'm not sure morality has a lot to do with it but I know when I was 18 I had no interest in 25 year old men let alone 45.
I have known people in relationships with large age gaps and they tend to just get on with their lives because they're sure of their own reasons for being with their partner. Oh no definitely I agree, it’s a lot. Some people think it’s a bit predatory and I’d tend to agree with that thought, given the brain development as one of the other posters has mentioned."
I suppose it depends on who is the predator. There are incredibly naive 45 year olds
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"A 28 year age gap is too much for me. I'm not sure morality has a lot to do with it but I know when I was 18 I had no interest in 25 year old men let alone 45.
I have known people in relationships with large age gaps and they tend to just get on with their lives because they're sure of their own reasons for being with their partner. Oh no definitely I agree, it’s a lot. Some people think it’s a bit predatory and I’d tend to agree with that thought, given the brain development as one of the other posters has mentioned.
I suppose it depends on who is the predator. There are incredibly naive 45 year olds
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Haha now there’s a truth right there! |
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By *TWboyMan 1 day ago
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"I wouldn't have anything in common with someone 27 years younger.
I think some older guys who go for younger women just do it for the ego boost."
I actually think that in most cases their bodies are not probably fully matured either so I agree with you totally……. |
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Age difference doesn’t matter if there is a connection. I cannot imagine having a connection with someone in there 20s, however never say never. In same way I’ve had connections with people 20+ years older and younger and they have all been fun |
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For me it's too big an age gap.. the funny thing is.. if this was a 30 year old with a 55 year old... most wouldn't bat an eyelid..
At 18 I had a brief liason with several older men.. they helped me learn a few things about myself.
I personally dont go for younger than 35 if I can help it now x |
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"Just wondering if there's a correlation with whether you've got kids (of whatever age). Do people without kids tend to think it's OK, whereas those with feel uneasy about it?"
That’s a good point!!
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"For me it's too big an age gap.. the funny thing is.. if this was a 30 year old with a 55 year old... most wouldn't bat an eyelid..
At 18 I had a brief liason with several older men.. they helped me learn a few things about myself.
I personally dont go for younger than 35 if I can help it now x "
Interesting… were they positive lessons? |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on "
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags. |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags."
There’s a hell of a lot of things to unpack there! |
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"For me it's too big an age gap.. the funny thing is.. if this was a 30 year old with a 55 year old... most wouldn't bat an eyelid..
At 18 I had a brief liason with several older men.. they helped me learn a few things about myself.
I personally dont go for younger than 35 if I can help it now x "
It seems most people think that 18 is a bit immature compared to a 30 year old which I know isn't always the case. |
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"Personally yes ….. What issues do you think could arise?
It’s a bit noncey for me …..
personally I’d have no interest in an 18 yr old … I feel that’s the right attitude to have personally. As an 18 year old lad, would you have ever taken up another by a 45 year old woman?
Probably would have considered it at 18 …. But now at 45 I wouldn’t … roles reversed maybe not …. Just doesn’t sit right … "
Inguess this proves how naive we are at 18! |
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"For me it's too big an age gap.. the funny thing is.. if this was a 30 year old with a 55 year old... most wouldn't bat an eyelid..
At 18 I had a brief liason with several older men.. they helped me learn a few things about myself.
I personally dont go for younger than 35 if I can help it now x
It seems most people think that 18 is a bit immature compared to a 30 year old which I know isn't always the case."
Even so it still seems like someone older has a power advantage, which could be immoral? Just spitballing here though. |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags. There’s a hell of a lot of things to unpack there! "
Exactly which is why guys who seek/play with those kind of age gaps creep me out especially as it just boils down to sex. |
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"Do you think an 18 yr old / 45 yr old is too big an age gap?
A fab shag yes, true love no. Do you think 18 year olds can get past it just being a shag?"
Both of us could when we were 18. Many of our friends couldn't.
I think it depends on the individual |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags. There’s a hell of a lot of things to unpack there!
Exactly which is why guys who seek/play with those kind of age gaps creep me out especially as it just boils down to sex."
Do you think there should be an age limit (top end) to sites like this then? Or do we need more stringent things in place on here from both sides of the age range? |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags. There’s a hell of a lot of things to unpack there!
Exactly which is why guys who seek/play with those kind of age gaps creep me out especially as it just boils down to sex. Do you think there should be an age limit (top end) to sites like this then? Or do we need more stringent things in place on here from both sides of the age range?"
Personally no as legally the age of consent is 18 and people can fuck/see whoever and have preferences.
Some will see it as creepy others will think nothing of it... |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags. There’s a hell of a lot of things to unpack there!
Exactly which is why guys who seek/play with those kind of age gaps creep me out especially as it just boils down to sex. Do you think there should be an age limit (top end) to sites like this then? Or do we need more stringent things in place on here from both sides of the age range?
Personally no as legally the age of consent is 18 and people can fuck/see whoever and have preferences.
Some will see it as creepy others will think nothing of it..."
We’re funny onions aren’t we? |
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Sometimes you just happen to fall for someone and their age doesn't matter (as long as it's legal obviously).
People who consistently pursue much younger partners come across as predatory and gross, to me.
And I don't consider people under 25 to be actual adults to my mind. Under 30 really, but there are exceptions a couple of years under that occasionally.
But meh. Morality is based on a lot more than just the age gap itself 💜 |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags. There’s a hell of a lot of things to unpack there!
Exactly which is why guys who seek/play with those kind of age gaps creep me out especially as it just boils down to sex. Do you think there should be an age limit (top end) to sites like this then? Or do we need more stringent things in place on here from both sides of the age range?"
No I don't. Anyone of any age over 18 and under 99 is free to join fab and meet whoever they want of whatever age. The site can't start limiting the age groups that people want to meet, filters and age ranges allow people to do that already.
I see far more older men being led along by their dicks than younger men or women being unduly influenced.
The vast majority of people realistically meet within a fairly small age range.
Why are you concerned about this op? |
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"Sometimes you just happen to fall for someone and their age doesn't matter (as long as it's legal obviously).
People who consistently pursue much younger partners come across as predatory and gross, to me.
And I don't consider people under 25 to be actual adults to my mind. Under 30 really, but there are exceptions a couple of years under that occasionally.
But meh. Morality is based on a lot more than just the age gap itself 💜"
I like your attitude on this. So if someone is happy to experience things with ages from 18+ then you’d say it’s okay? As long as there’s a broad range of ages involved? |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags. There’s a hell of a lot of things to unpack there!
Exactly which is why guys who seek/play with those kind of age gaps creep me out especially as it just boils down to sex. Do you think there should be an age limit (top end) to sites like this then? Or do we need more stringent things in place on here from both sides of the age range?
No I don't. Anyone of any age over 18 and under 99 is free to join fab and meet whoever they want of whatever age. The site can't start limiting the age groups that people want to meet, filters and age ranges allow people to do that already.
I see far more older men being led along by their dicks than younger men or women being unduly influenced.
The vast majority of people realistically meet within a fairly small age range.
Why are you concerned about this op? "
I just had a few questions based on a recent request and wanted some balanced views on it xx |
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"Yeah definitely, coz I seriously regret dating someone when I was about 18 n he was 20yrs older, when I think back , it creeps me out n think what planet was i on
Me too...he was 21 years older than me though I married him when I was 22....looking back there were major red flags. There’s a hell of a lot of things to unpack there!
Exactly which is why guys who seek/play with those kind of age gaps creep me out especially as it just boils down to sex. Do you think there should be an age limit (top end) to sites like this then? Or do we need more stringent things in place on here from both sides of the age range?
No I don't. Anyone of any age over 18 and under 99 is free to join fab and meet whoever they want of whatever age. The site can't start limiting the age groups that people want to meet, filters and age ranges allow people to do that already.
I see far more older men being led along by their dicks than younger men or women being unduly influenced.
The vast majority of people realistically meet within a fairly small age range.
Why are you concerned about this op? I just had a few questions based on a recent request and wanted some balanced views on it xx"
I see. Well whatever the request was you obviously have concerns. Tread warily |
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I’m not sure if it’s a genuine or satire post but chipping in anyway.
I could never meet an adult who was young enough and either:
1 - at an age where biologically the age gap would be the same as a parent/child between me/then
2 - the same age as as my now adult child/ren, be of a similar age, or would have been attending school at the same time as my child/ren
3 - the same age of a now grown up child/ren of a friend of mine who is at a similar age to me.
Irrespective of whether they are adult and of consenting age, I find it creepy that people would consider meeting an adult that’s biologically young enough to be their child. Irrespective of whether you are a parent or not, or whether you have friends or family who are parents of now adults of that age, it’s weird. Especially if that adult is only 18 and you are mid 40’s
Surely you must have been around when they were a child who is now at 18. Wouldn’t you think of that person and find it weird?
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"I’m not sure if it’s a genuine or satire post but chipping in anyway.
I could never meet an adult who was young enough and either:
1 - at an age where biologically the age gap would be the same as a parent/child between me/then
2 - the same age as as my now adult child/ren, be of a similar age, or would have been attending school at the same time as my child/ren
3 - the same age of a now grown up child/ren of a friend of mine who is at a similar age to me.
Irrespective of whether they are adult and of consenting age, I find it creepy that people would consider meeting an adult that’s biologically young enough to be their child. Irrespective of whether you are a parent or not, or whether you have friends or family who are parents of now adults of that age, it’s weird. Especially if that adult is only 18 and you are mid 40’s
Surely you must have been around when they were a child who is now at 18. Wouldn’t you think of that person and find it weird?
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Just to be clear this isn’t a scenario based on a meeting of any kind, it’s based on a number of conversations I’ve seen recently online and offline. Personally, I feel all your points are reasonable and valid. I couldn’t put it better myself, actually.
It does seem to divide opinion though, when it comes to consent and swinging. |
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"I’m not sure if it’s a genuine or satire post but chipping in anyway.
I could never meet an adult who was young enough and either:
1 - at an age where biologically the age gap would be the same as a parent/child between me/then
2 - the same age as as my now adult child/ren, be of a similar age, or would have been attending school at the same time as my child/ren
3 - the same age of a now grown up child/ren of a friend of mine who is at a similar age to me.
Irrespective of whether they are adult and of consenting age, I find it creepy that people would consider meeting an adult that’s biologically young enough to be their child. Irrespective of whether you are a parent or not, or whether you have friends or family who are parents of now adults of that age, it’s weird. Especially if that adult is only 18 and you are mid 40’s
Surely you must have been around when they were a child who is now at 18. Wouldn’t you think of that person and find it weird?
Just to be clear this isn’t a scenario based on a meeting of any kind, it’s based on a number of conversations I’ve seen recently online and offline. Personally, I feel all your points are reasonable and valid. I couldn’t put it better myself, actually.
It does seem to divide opinion though, when it comes to consent and swinging. "
young adults if they want to go to a swinging club they got to be 21 to get in |
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"I’m not sure if it’s a genuine or satire post but chipping in anyway.
I could never meet an adult who was young enough and either:
1 - at an age where biologically the age gap would be the same as a parent/child between me/then
2 - the same age as as my now adult child/ren, be of a similar age, or would have been attending school at the same time as my child/ren
3 - the same age of a now grown up child/ren of a friend of mine who is at a similar age to me.
Irrespective of whether they are adult and of consenting age, I find it creepy that people would consider meeting an adult that’s biologically young enough to be their child. Irrespective of whether you are a parent or not, or whether you have friends or family who are parents of now adults of that age, it’s weird. Especially if that adult is only 18 and you are mid 40’s
Surely you must have been around when they were a child who is now at 18. Wouldn’t you think of that person and find it weird?
Just to be clear this isn’t a scenario based on a meeting of any kind, it’s based on a number of conversations I’ve seen recently online and offline. Personally, I feel all your points are reasonable and valid. I couldn’t put it better myself, actually.
It does seem to divide opinion though, when it comes to consent and swinging. young adults if they want to go to a swinging club they got to be 21 to get in "
that’s definitely a more appropriate age I would say it makes a lot of sense. It does still seem quite young though though for someone in the 40s.
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For me personally yes. I feel my emotional maturity at 18 would not have been fitting with a 45 year old man but then not everyones the same.
Its legal but yeah its a no from me.
But each to there own. |
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If there's no coercion going on and she wants to meet a guy who's of an age and he feels the same what is a harm, we are swingers on here we enjoy sex and so often you hear age doesn't matter so why does it matter here.Many ladies choose men of experience to teach them the joys of sex |
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Younger people need to learn from older.
Schools sex education is basic.
Most teens don't have a clue what the hell their doing.
18 is fine but some people aren't mentally mature so sex can be a shock to the system.
I learnt from older sexual partners first, not from my own age group.
It's what's going on in the mind of the individuals that's important. |
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"Younger people need to learn from older.
Schools sex education is basic.
Most teens don't have a clue what the hell their doing.
18 is fine but some people aren't mentally mature so sex can be a shock to the system.
I learnt from older sexual partners first, not from my own age group.
It's what's going on in the mind of the individuals that's important."
That’s one perspective but don’t you think younger people need to learn from each other? |
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By *S1866Man 15 hours ago
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Good topic and some great perspectives.
Personally, if you are talking from a deep connection / relationship side then I don’t think it would ever work. Nothing much in common, different stages of life, want different experiences and so on.
Chatting from purely a sex side then I don’t see a problem if that wants to be explored in a respectful way. I know there are a lot of fantasies that involve older and younger or age gaps. I’d be lying if I said that a young guy being with an older sexy woman wasn’t a turn on! |
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"I’m not sure if it’s a genuine or satire post but chipping in anyway.
I could never meet an adult who was young enough and either:
1 - at an age where biologically the age gap would be the same as a parent/child between me/then
2 - the same age as as my now adult child/ren, be of a similar age, or would have been attending school at the same time as my child/ren
3 - the same age of a now grown up child/ren of a friend of mine who is at a similar age to me.
Irrespective of whether they are adult and of consenting age, I find it creepy that people would consider meeting an adult that’s biologically young enough to be their child. Irrespective of whether you are a parent or not, or whether you have friends or family who are parents of now adults of that age, it’s weird. Especially if that adult is only 18 and you are mid 40’s
Surely you must have been around when they were a child who is now at 18. Wouldn’t you think of that person and find it weird?
Just to be clear this isn’t a scenario based on a meeting of any kind, it’s based on a number of conversations I’ve seen recently online and offline. Personally, I feel all your points are reasonable and valid. I couldn’t put it better myself, actually.
It does seem to divide opinion though, when it comes to consent and swinging. young adults if they want to go to a swinging club they got to be 21 to get in that’s definitely a more appropriate age I would say it makes a lot of sense. It does still seem quite young though though for someone in the 40s.
Yes I agree!
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"Good topic and some great perspectives.
Personally, if you are talking from a deep connection / relationship side then I don’t think it would ever work. Nothing much in common, different stages of life, want different experiences and so on.
Chatting from purely a sex side then I don’t see a problem if that wants to be explored in a respectful way. I know there are a lot of fantasies that involve older and younger or age gaps. I’d be lying if I said that a young guy being with an older sexy woman wasn’t a turn on!"
Definitely two parts to this. I guess the risk with someone at that age, is if the sex experience is really good they might want it again and again which could lead to a potential relationship problem.
I don’t think a relationship would be a good idea! |
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"Just wondering if there's a correlation with whether you've got kids (of whatever age). Do people without kids tend to think it's OK, whereas those with feel uneasy about it?"
I the mrs don’t have kids , but still would not meet anyone less than 5-8 years my junior. As many people said above, I’d have nothing in common with them. We do however get lots of messages from twentysomething men , we don’t bother to respond |
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By *rad79Man 11 hours ago
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Id definitely fantasise about this but I imagine in reality would steer clear. Having said that I worked with a guy whose in a happy relationship with 2 kids now. She was 20 and he was 45 when they got together.
General rule my mates used to say half your age plus 7 |
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"Id definitely fantasise about this but I imagine in reality would steer clear. Having said that I worked with a guy whose in a happy relationship with 2 kids now. She was 20 and he was 45 when they got together.
General rule my mates used to say half your age plus 7 "
Now that sounds like a good rule!! I’m using that!! |
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