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I think once you get over 60, you are definitely perceived as "too old" by many in these parts (if not 10 years before TBH)  .
It's also not helped, IMHO, by the fact that lots leave their default age range to 18-99 (even though they typically have a cut-off way lower than that), resulting in you thinking you might still be 'in the frame' with some, whereas you are really excluded from most, from the get-go (whatever you might say in your approaches to them).
The bummer of course (as I'm sure you feel too), is there is lots of life in the 'old dog' yet and you probably still feel mentally like you did in your mid-30s, albeit you look much older of course; I'm certainly still very capable and sexually active for sure.
Even though I don't look my age, I'm not going to lie about it (which would probably help!). Tis what it is I'm afraid, might as well be honest me thinks.
The really 'wider' question here, is why no one told us this would happen!!! |
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By *ungandMan 2 weeks ago
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Some think we are past our sell by date even if they have the dreaded 99 on their profile, you never get a reply or you get blocked. A simple no thanks would suffice.
There are so people on here who do chat and reply to emails so we can live in hope |
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"Tbh from 50 upwards you have had it on here "
Strangely enough I had never heard of fab or anything like it when I was 50. I joined when I was 52 with zero experience or expectation and haven't had any age related issues.
To answer the op, I haven't been meeting anyone new for the last 5 years but that's by choice for personal reasons. I do however have someone I meet on a regular basis and we have a couples profile on here as well |
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"We have a meet arranged for an older gentleman on Sunday, as a much older man has been on my fuck it list for a while, and been surprised by the number of men over 60 who have said "no thanks" 😅"
Tbh I would also say no thanks but it's nothing personal. My eldest daughter is almost the same age as you and I have a strict preference of always keeping a 10 year gap between my kids ages and anyone I'm meeting. |
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I do get a few replies to messages . Yes chat also . Still trying to meet . Ones who chat ? I feel that there is a chance . But I am on the ‘ reserves ‘ in case of a let down ? Not sure what reserve ?  |
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I don't know
Click on the box that you're the age they are looking for and put your age search realistic
I don't leave mine so I'm searching for an 18 year old ,unrealistic
I put mine 50-80 and there are people who always answer and aren't rude |
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Well, fkin ell, this is a proper 'woe is me' fest
You do know Fab is far from being the only way to meet people?
Spread your wings, less time chasing fantasy on here
Actually leave the house and meet real people
Adventure before dementia! |
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Interesting post. I’m going on 71 and still getting excitement at the thought of meets. I think medication has a lot to answer for in older men, i regularly hear tales of guys who just can’t get hard anymore…must frustrate both them and their partners. Happily in my case almost the opposite, harder than ever. As for meets, they have happened and are almost always wonderfully uplifting. Not as many as I’d like but not zero either so stay optimistic, if it can happen for me I reckon you younger guys have loads of chances! As for the ladies on here who like older men, congratulations on your taste!! |
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By *avexxMan 2 weeks ago
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"Well, fkin ell, this is a proper 'woe is me' fest
You do know Fab is far from being the only way to meet people?
Spread your wings, less time chasing fantasy on here
Actually leave the house and meet real people
Adventure before dementia!"
,,, correct |
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Folks on here are generally trying to fulfil fantasies of some sort and whilst age may be a factor for some other things will be for others (body shape, hair or lack of , face etc). So whilst being over 60 narrows the field other factors are at play too.
Have I met anyone through this site no not really, have I interacted with folks at clubs that have subsequently led to play yes, but it's not every time (the same factors still apply) you need to be attractive in some way to someone and that's easier to do face to face.
So all I can suggest op is get yourself off to a local club and visit it more than once |
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Still going strong myself. Not trying to brag but the ladies seem to like what we do and come back for more. I have done this for many years and still have more work to do. Check my verifies and contact me for those opportunities for fun for all |
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Of course, it is more difficult when you get older but not impossible. You just have to sell yourself, keep trying and be patient. I've had lots of disappointments but also some really good meets which make for it all. |
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I meet a guy who's 72, so yes over 60s can get meets, but looking at the first few that posted, it's not your age putting people off its your profiles, well I would never even reply to a message from you |
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Due to the number of guys significantly outnumbering women on fab it’s understandably difficult to get a meet at any age. Unfortunately too many guys think that being on fab guarantees them a meet. Think again! Don’t for one minute convince yourself that the women on fab are desperate, when they generally have a much larger pool to choose from. Just be patient, engage in conversation if the opportunity arises and if that leads to a meet, either social or play then happy days! Just be yourself not what you think people want you to be. |
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For what it’s worth I’m more likely to engage if the pics appeal to me and the profile in general is a good one… I wouldn’t discount just on age - had an amazing few months with a very kinky 70yo at the start of this year! |
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"For what it’s worth I’m more likely to engage if the pics appeal to me and the profile in general is a good one… I wouldn’t discount just on age - had an amazing few months with a very kinky 70yo at the start of this year! "
Yes totally agree with you  |
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"You gents know that the men in their twenties and early thirties complain that nobody wants to meet them due to their age too. "
That maybe true, but at least they are heading in the right direction. Lol |
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Well, I'm 68 very soon, I'm not expecting meets to fall at my feet, but do get the occasional young woman messaging me who's into older chaps, and it's lovely.
Apart from that, it's just the forums that keep me here. |
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I have met loads of men over 60 for sexy fun no problems. Maybe abit slower for them to get meets perhaps vs 30-55 guys but still fine.
Though I can only talk from a bisexual / gay sex side not hetrosexual men only meeting women |
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I think fab is a shit placefor single guys whatever age to get regular meets IMO What you lose in the age stakes as you get older you gain in experience,
pateience, kinkiness plus you know what you want which is a turn on for either sex so it balances out.
This is also an more middle-age focused scene. Its never really been a 'young' scene - people in their 20s up to early 30s have regular bars, clubs and stuff so this should just be a sideline - any male ih their early 20s fixated on this scene should re-assess things IMO and get out more - literally...theres a world out there (and i pulled far more in regular clubs back then than i ever have on fab ...
so swinging is, and always has been, with obvious outliers, very much slanted towards middle age - the sort of late thirties to late fifties as an everage i'd say - and that means as folk get to their 60s and 70s there should be plenty of others reaching that age group so still a market.
Whether fab is the best way of meeting people is another subject of course  |
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"Do you get any meets or are you like me becoming invisible on here !!!"
Would you really go with a 20 yr old. Are you messaging women on the hot pics pages.
Or do you message women of a similar age where you are well within their age preference. Its all about being realistic. Or try a club where age is less of an issue if you get on in person |
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"Do you get any meets or are you like me becoming invisible on here !!!
Would you really go with a 20 yr old. Are you messaging women on the hot pics pages.
Or do you message women of a similar age where you are well within their age preference. Its all about being realistic. Or try a club where age is less of an issue if you get on in person"
I would go to a club if one near . Then only one near ? But not listed on Fab . Is a spa at Heathrow . Plus again males are restricted. Yes I get replies to messages . Chatting to a few profiles. But as I put in another thread. I am yes being considered to meet . But a ‘reserve’ . As better choices for the profiles ? |
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Also over 60, I meet women on a sugar babes website so there is payment involved. With my sugar babe(s) (hate that term btw) we have met single men and women on here. I’m always open and upfront in describing the nature of my relationship with the very attractive women I sugar-dare with.
What I have discovered over and over again is that even the most handsome and virile of men in their 20s, 30s and 40s struggle to fine women on here. Some truely exceptional men struggle. If you’re over 60 you’re in the most niche of niche markets.
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To play devil's advocate here I've always loved to meet couples older than myself ,I find that most of that age group prefer to meet similar ages , so if any naughty couples over 60 fancy getting to know and having regular play with a very sincere 50 year old please drop me a message . |
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Relevant T- shirt: "I can't believe I'm the same age as old people", pretty much sums it up. I'm 67 soon and just simply not old. But you'll never convince folk under 50 of that. I do ok off this site, this is simply an occasional indulgence, so I don't worry about being ignored. I love the scene though, I've learned so much about human behaviour. |
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