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Is no kissing a deal breaker for guys ?
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By *ynergy OP Man 5 days ago
Manchester |
We experienced our first threesome at the weekend. We really enjoyed it but Mrs said next time she wouldn't want to kiss him she said it felt abit too intimate! She said she struggled the next day to get her head around it she thought it would be ok obviously or we would set a boundarie. She said if we do it again she wouldn't wanna kiss him. That's absolutely fine with me but do even guys meet couples with that rule ? |
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Passionate kissing is a big turn on for me and a very intimate part of any relationship.
I would be less interested in meeting if it were a hard no.
I’ll always respect boundaries but would not be my preference |
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You will find people that are OK with it, and some where its a deal breaker.
For us, kissing is a must have as both of us need it in order to get properly turned on. It's about compatibility, and we would find a couple with this rule incompatible and wish you the best and move on - just like we do with some other preferences and I'm sure people do with ours too.
But that's the hard yards we choose to put in to make sure we get what we want out of a meet, it's the price to pay |
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"We experienced our first threesome at the weekend. We really enjoyed it but Mrs said next time she wouldn't want to kiss him she said it felt abit too intimate! She said she struggled the next day to get her head around it she thought it would be ok obviously or we would set a boundarie. She said if we do it again she wouldn't wanna kiss him. That's absolutely fine with me but do even guys meet couples with that rule ?"
I wouldn't believe all those men that claim it's a deal breaker. Over a decade ago I found myself feeling like your wife: fucking is fun, erotic and fantasy fulfilling, but kisses for me (except with other women) implies closeness, intimacy and romance. I don't want that with random guys - I'm swinging not dating. Yet, in all the threesomes, foursomes and moresomes I've had with other guys not one man has ever complained, and most have asked to come back for more. So kissing is a deal breaker, except when good sex is on offer. |
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"We experienced our first threesome at the weekend. We really enjoyed it but Mrs said next time she wouldn't want to kiss him she said it felt abit too intimate! She said she struggled the next day to get her head around it she thought it would be ok obviously or we would set a boundarie. She said if we do it again she wouldn't wanna kiss him. That's absolutely fine with me but do even guys meet couples with that rule ?
I wouldn't believe all those men that claim it's a deal breaker. Over a decade ago I found myself feeling like your wife: fucking is fun, erotic and fantasy fulfilling, but kisses for me (except with other women) implies closeness, intimacy and romance. I don't want that with random guys - I'm swinging not dating. Yet, in all the threesomes, foursomes and moresomes I've had with other guys not one man has ever complained, and most have asked to come back for more. So kissing is a deal breaker, except when good sex is on offer."
Yes and not one man has refused a blow job because I wouldn't kiss him.
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By *cgmcgMan 5 days ago
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"We experienced our first threesome at the weekend. We really enjoyed it but Mrs said next time she wouldn't want to kiss him she said it felt abit too intimate! She said she struggled the next day to get her head around it she thought it would be ok obviously or we would set a boundarie. She said if we do it again she wouldn't wanna kiss him. That's absolutely fine with me but do even guys meet couples with that rule ?"
I had a meet with a couple where she did not want to be touched, just watch. That was cool for me , as the boundaries were set. So, a lovely surprise when she offered to peg me! No kissing though! |
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"Kissing is essential. No passion without kissing 😘 "
What makes you think most women want passion? Many get all that they want from their partner. They want to fuck others purely for sex, spice and raunch. |
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"Kissing is essential. No passion without kissing 😘
What makes you think most women want passion? Many get all that they want from their partner. They want to fuck others purely for sex, spice and raunch. "
This is exactly it.
If the guy wants kissing they can kiss hubby 😂 |
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"Kissing is essential. No passion without kissing 😘
What makes you think most women want passion? Many get all that they want from their partner. They want to fuck others purely for sex, spice and raunch. "
It's personal preference at the end of the day. I'm sure if there was any potential to meet someone, boundaries would be discussed prior to it, and a decision can be made whether to go forward or not.
If someone was to tell me that kissing was off the cards, I wouldn't entertain them for one minute. Because that's MY preference.
Also, BG was talking about passion from his side. Not theirs. |
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"Kissing is essential. No passion without kissing 😘
What makes you think most women want passion? Many get all that they want from their partner. They want to fuck others purely for sex, spice and raunch.
It's personal preference at the end of the day. I'm sure if there was any potential to meet someone, boundaries would be discussed prior to it, and a decision can be made whether to go forward or not.
If someone was to tell me that kissing was off the cards, I wouldn't entertain them for one minute. Because that's MY preference.
Also, BG was talking about passion from his side. Not theirs."
I was indeed. I respect everyone has their own preferences. |
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Lots of couples have their own boundaries and things they save for themselves.
It’s never an issue with me as long as these things are discussed beforehand and everyone is clear on the boundaries.
I’ve met many couples with a no kissing rule, as well as other things. It’s never been a dealbreaker and I’ve always had a great time |
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It’s now become a deal breaker for me… it’s something I ask about very early on to save everyone’s time.
Each to their own but if kissing is off the cards then it all just feels robotic, transactional and awkward trying not to kiss the person mid sex, let alone beforehand…
Totally respect of boundaries, however a no kissing rule makes me think I’m just a human dildo and nothing more. |
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"It’s now become a deal breaker for me… it’s something I ask about very early on to save everyone’s time.
Each to their own but if kissing is off the cards then it all just feels robotic, transactional and awkward trying not to kiss the person mid sex, let alone beforehand…
Totally respect of boundaries, however a no kissing rule makes me think I’m just a human dildo and nothing more. "
We tried no kissing once it felt very robotic as you say and went straight out the window. |
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I don’t often kiss on meets that are purely just sex.
I actually met a couple and asked if they were ok with no kissing, they thanked me, stating that they wanted to ask me the same but they were worried that would come off as weird for asking.
No one should be feel obliged to do anything they don’t want to in a meet.
If it doesn’t feel right then it doesn’t feel right |
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Ideally kissing should be involved, but as others have said, this is just sex, and I expect most guys wouldn’t see no kissing as a barrier to that. The main thing is to make everything clear so there aren’t any prior expectations. |
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I appreciate on the kissing situation everyone is different but not kissing seems a bit odd to us. After my wife has licked their cock, their nipples, their balls and even their bums or toes it seems strange to say mouth to mouth kissing is then too intimate!
Each to their own though. |
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