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By *ab_J25 OP Man 1 week ago
Cockermouth |
What are couples/single women’s views on single lads at clubs? I’ve always wanted to go but get the feeling single guys are unwanted, would love to go with a fwb or as a threesome if that’s the only way! J x |
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"Single" men aren't unwanted in clubs, they're exactly what some women and couples go for. Some men have fun in clubs but some go home disappointed. The ones that do well are probably the better looking ones who aren't shy. |
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The issue is the mixing on the same night of couples and women who only want couples (for the sake of description I call them "Pairs"), and couples and women who want single men, (for the sake of a description I call them "Hot Wives". Pairs don't see the point of single men whilst Hot Wives do. Clearly a general boundary not a rigid one. |
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By *bflirtyCouple 1 week ago
Milton Keynes |
Find a club that has singles/couples nights (often a Friday) and go. The couples there know it's a mixed night and wouldn't be there if they didn't want single guys. Try it - you've got nothing to lose. |
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By (user no longer on site) 1 week ago
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""Single" men aren't unwanted in clubs, they're exactly what some women and couples go for. Some men have fun in clubs but some go home disappointed. The ones that do well are probably the better looking ones who aren't shy."
Hit the nail on the head with that comment. This is the issue that I’ve come across on Fab. Seems that if you’re an average guy, the women and the couples aren’t all that interested. Which has always put me off of going to clubs |
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Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks. Single men who come in with the attitude "I paid my entrance fee, now I need to get my dick wet" are very much not wanted. Or the touchy-feely types, who have to talk with their hands and/or look with their hands as well as their eyes are not wanted either. Just because a lady is in a swingers club, it doesn't mean she's "fair game" and that she'd fuck anyone, even if she's playing in the open. |
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"Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks. Single men who come in with the attitude "I paid my entrance fee, now I need to get my dick wet" are very much not wanted. Or the touchy-feely types, who have to talk with their hands and/or look with their hands as well as their eyes are not wanted either. Just because a lady is in a swingers club, it doesn't mean she's "fair game" and that she'd fuck anyone, even if she's playing in the open. "
(Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks.)
Find that hard to believe. I’m sorry. But being respectful, friendly & not pushy hasn’t gotten me anywhere on here, let alone at a club.
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"Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks. Single men who come in with the attitude "I paid my entrance fee, now I need to get my dick wet" are very much not wanted. Or the touchy-feely types, who have to talk with their hands and/or look with their hands as well as their eyes are not wanted either. Just because a lady is in a swingers club, it doesn't mean she's "fair game" and that she'd fuck anyone, even if she's playing in the open.
(Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks.)
Find that hard to believe. I’m sorry. But being respectful, friendly & not pushy hasn’t gotten me anywhere on here, let alone at a club.
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You may find it hard to believe, but it's true. A few of my friends can vouch for that. |
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By *an8iMan 1 week ago
Bilston |
"Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks. Single men who come in with the attitude "I paid my entrance fee, now I need to get my dick wet" are very much not wanted. Or the touchy-feely types, who have to talk with their hands and/or look with their hands as well as their eyes are not wanted either. Just because a lady is in a swingers club, it doesn't mean she's "fair game" and that she'd fuck anyone, even if she's playing in the open.
(Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks.)
Find that hard to believe. I’m sorry. But being respectful, friendly & not pushy hasn’t gotten me anywhere on here, let alone at a club.
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I'm exactly that when I go to my local club and i do very well, when you go to the next club night ask if they have a group chat for the event and get chatting on there before you go. |
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I go to Chams with a couple on here that I have known for years, and we look for single guys to play with while we're there. I have also played with single guys when I went to PP. So they are definitely wanted at clubs |
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"Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks. Single men who come in with the attitude "I paid my entrance fee, now I need to get my dick wet" are very much not wanted. Or the touchy-feely types, who have to talk with their hands and/or look with their hands as well as their eyes are not wanted either. Just because a lady is in a swingers club, it doesn't mean she's "fair game" and that she'd fuck anyone, even if she's playing in the open.
(Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks.)
Find that hard to believe. I’m sorry. But being respectful, friendly & not pushy hasn’t gotten me anywhere on here, let alone at a club.
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Which clubs have you been to? |
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"Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks. Single men who come in with the attitude "I paid my entrance fee, now I need to get my dick wet" are very much not wanted. Or the touchy-feely types, who have to talk with their hands and/or look with their hands as well as their eyes are not wanted either. Just because a lady is in a swingers club, it doesn't mean she's "fair game" and that she'd fuck anyone, even if she's playing in the open.
(Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks.)
Find that hard to believe. I’m sorry. But being respectful, friendly & not pushy hasn’t gotten me anywhere on here, let alone at a club.
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Which clubs have you been to? |
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I go as a single guy and have loads of laughs with people.
My advice, be yourself and respect boundaries.
A couple one night was putting a show on for everyone and clearly said NO ONE is to touch.
One guy decided it dudnt apply to him.
I grabbed his arm and made it clear it wasnt welcome.
He got thrown out, and the couple and i became friends (no benefits) just good friends |
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Exactly this, it’s not about being a single guy it’s about being a decent person.
"Single men who are respectful, friendly but not pushy, able to respect boundaries are very much wanted in the club, regardless of their looks. Single men who come in with the attitude "I paid my entrance fee, now I need to get my dick wet" are very much not wanted. Or the touchy-feely types, who have to talk with their hands and/or look with their hands as well as their eyes are not wanted either. Just because a lady is in a swingers club, it doesn't mean she's "fair game" and that she'd fuck anyone, even if she's playing in the open. "
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We play with single guys at our local club, theres actually an event where you wear a lanyard with a tick next to what you are looking for, eg, couples single males single females. It can be a bit easier to identify who's looking for what then |
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Yeah that's a thing, how does one know? I'm 100% straight but how do gay guys know
Like also I'd feel like a knob head if say for example I was feeling a girls arse up, and her husband was there too |
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I’ve had two of my best experiences at a club experiencing both ends of the spectrum of being a single guy.
One night turned up, it was like I was made of chocolate I barely made it to my car at the end I had bet little rest.
One daytime event I went didn’t play with anyone, even though play was going on behind me, in the rooms around me. Just not me
But both times I left really happy because I got out of it exactly the energy I put in. On the daytime thing, just really enjoyed talking to loads of different people about all kinds of things.
I think the best thing is to relax, treat people exactly how you would outside, don’t go with the expectation that you HAVE to play to have fun; see it as a very possible bonus. Have a few of your best anecdotes be interested in others; don’t just make eye contact with the man of the couple and talk to the woman’s tits.
And if you see a contingent of guys going in one direction don’t follow, by all means have a peek, but don’t be one of the slack jawed onanist zombies |
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By *oelMan 1 week ago
Midlands, London, Brussels |
"I want to get to a club, I'm single and I use wheelchair. I've tried about 5x but I always lose my nerve "
like a vanilla night, it can be good to go with a wingman to chat too, helps with being social
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"I want to get to a club, I'm single and I use wheelchair. I've tried about 5x but I always lose my nerve like a vanilla night, it can be good to go with a wingman to chat too, helps with being social"
I don't really have any friends now since my accident, and I definitely don't know anyone into swinging |
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"What are couples/single women’s views on single lads at clubs? I’ve always wanted to go but get the feeling single guys are unwanted, would love to go with a fwb or as a threesome if that’s the only way! J x"
Don’t wonder around cock in hand, be cheerful polite, icebreaker conversations , and hopefully you have good time with no expectations. |
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I've never really been to one, do the girls just sit with their boobs out? It blows my mind I can't picture the night.
I get errection at the drop of a hat too, like that is mad too, so do alot of ppl just sitting about with stiffy.
Sorry I realise I probably sound like a right dick |
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"I've never really been to one, do the girls just sit with their boobs out? It blows my mind I can't picture the night.
I get errection at the drop of a hat too, like that is mad too, so do alot of ppl just sitting about with stiffy.
Sorry I realise I probably sound like a right dick "
You said it.....  |
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By (user no longer on site) 1 week ago
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"Attend on a hotwife or greedy girl night... we only want single men then!"
This 
The advantage of a greedy girl night is that not only does it increase the likelihood of a single guy getting some play, but if he's good at what he does it can lead to said playmates wanting a second round which, over time, leads to friendship and getting to know even more people.
You have to put in the effort though and not assume that ALL the girls on a greedy event want every single cock available. |
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I'm always glad to meet, talk to, and play with, single guys in clubs. The couples scene is more difficult - there has to be mutual two way attraction, and we're both straight which reduces the chances further. If it's couples only, I usually wouldn't go.
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If you can engage with people in pubs, in a friendly way, without sexual pressure etc, then you are wanted and welcome. They are places where sex can happen but a newbie shouldn't expect it but just treat it like a local pub and get to know others.
Decent men stand out and everyone likes friendly, genuinely warm people.
Desperate, pushy men are what people keep away from. |
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In my opinion it's down to the individual themselves, seen guys clean up at events where single guys numbers were limited and other doing nothing even when then event was tailored for them. Being a bit of a introvert the older I get I fully understand the OP's pov of not feeling wanted especially if your not overly out there and social |
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