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By *mogen321TV/TS 42 weeks ago
Near Bournemouth/Kensington |
Love to switch. Spanking is best when you take turns and work through a selection of paddles. It keeps the anticipation ongoing and it is easier for your partner to show you what they like. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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We live a bdsm lifestyle and in my opinion a switch shouldn't exist.
As all that makes a person a Dom or sub if that's what you are then to switch to the other role goes against everything that makes you the previous role.
A switch is for folk playing at the lifestyle.
Of course just my opinion x |
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By *vaRoseWoman 42 weeks ago
Ankh-Morpork |
"We live a bdsm lifestyle and in my opinion a switch shouldn't exist.
As all that makes a person a Dom or sub if that's what you are then to switch to the other role goes against everything that makes you the previous role.
A switch is for folk playing at the lifestyle.
Of course just my opinion x"
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When it comes to the Missus and her lover, I am certainly Dom. I whip the living wotsit out of both of them once they've had their fun together.
It was only earlier that the wife and I had a good session, and I bound her tits before whipping them. She admitted that after 8 orgasms, she lost count through delirium.  |
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Everyone is entitled to their view, but I feel people confuse confidence or assertiveness in bed or being a pleasure dom with being a D/s Dominant. In my view D/s is based on a relationship and a commitment to each other. It is not turn up shag and go. That is more topping and bottoming, where there is no transfer of authority or power. That is not say that people do not add swinging to their D/s dynamic, they do, but the swinging is an add on, and not the other way around.
With the increased crossover of swinging and BDSM and BDSM's appearance in porn oe bad social media as being purely sex based with a bit of Anne Summers lite impact (or my pet peeve sex rope and calling it shibari) thrown in causes confusion.
I am not a believer in "the one true way" but there is social history and there are norms. But people don't want to get educated.
Switching is well established within the norms of D/s. If it works for the parties and is part of their relationship then that is D/s.
My view D/s is more than sex, and the more people try to get away from the authoritarian side of D/s and concentrate on sex the more they show themselves as hedonist kinksters rather than Doms or subs.
It is similar to the argument that swinging is just about sex, whereas others would say there is more to it than that. |
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"Everyone is entitled to their view, but I feel people confuse confidence or assertiveness in bed or being a pleasure dom with being a D/s Dominant. In my view D/s is based on a relationship and a commitment to each other. It is not turn up shag and go. That is more topping and bottoming, where there is no transfer of authority or power. That is not say that people do not add swinging to their D/s dynamic, they do, but the swinging is an add on, and not the other way around.
With the increased crossover of swinging and BDSM and BDSM's appearance in porn oe bad social media as being purely sex based with a bit of Anne Summers lite impact (or my pet peeve sex rope and calling it shibari) thrown in causes confusion.
I am not a believer in "the one true way" but there is social history and there are norms. But people don't want to get educated.
Switching is well established within the norms of D/s. If it works for the parties and is part of their relationship then that is D/s.
My view D/s is more than sex, and the more people try to get away from the authoritarian side of D/s and concentrate on sex the more they show themselves as hedonist kinksters rather than Doms or subs.
It is similar to the argument that swinging is just about sex, whereas others would say there is more to it than that. "
I am sure you right but i think most of the guys posting are only submissive to their wives or their masters as part of a sexual play and are quite ordinarilly assertive in everyday life |
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"Everyone is entitled to their view, but I feel people confuse confidence or assertiveness in bed or being a pleasure dom with being a D/s Dominant. In my view D/s is based on a relationship and a commitment to each other. It is not turn up shag and go. That is more topping and bottoming, where there is no transfer of authority or power. That is not say that people do not add swinging to their D/s dynamic, they do, but the swinging is an add on, and not the other way around.
With the increased crossover of swinging and BDSM and BDSM's appearance in porn oe bad social media as being purely sex based with a bit of Anne Summers lite impact (or my pet peeve sex rope and calling it shibari) thrown in causes confusion.
I am not a believer in "the one true way" but there is social history and there are norms. But people don't want to get educated.
Switching is well established within the norms of D/s. If it works for the parties and is part of their relationship then that is D/s.
My view D/s is more than sex, and the more people try to get away from the authoritarian side of D/s and concentrate on sex the more they show themselves as hedonist kinksters rather than Doms or subs.
It is similar to the argument that swinging is just about sex, whereas others would say there is more to it than that.
I am sure you right but i think most of the guys posting are only submissive to their wives or their masters as part of a sexual play and are quite ordinarilly assertive in everyday life"
I would agree, but add the clarification, that for people into D/s it is built into their ordinary life. Hence female led relationships. The humiliated cuck trope is just one of a number of ways men can be submissive. I do not equate submission with weakness, only with authority/power transfer. |
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Mr here. I am the Dominant and my wife is the submissive. She opened it up to me when we met. I just hadn't realised I was a Dominant. The whole lifestyle is very misunderstood at times. I always suggest people do some decent reading to properly understand the dynamic and not rely on hearsay and dodgy movies lol.
This is a good website: https://www.killingkittens.com/blog/exploring-the-world-of-dominants-and-submissives/ |
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