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Mrs spent the night with a guy recently and all was well until it came to putting the condom on..try as he might, he just could not stay hard.
Same again in the morning.
Anyone else had this problem and what is the way around it? |
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Sounds like the experience was too much for him, was it his first threesome?
ED pills or a cock ring can help. Otherwise, play without penetration. Have a condom ready in case he gets relaxed enough to slip one on as quickly as you can. |
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its only happened to me once where as soon as the condom went on I lost my erection, once it was off again I was instantly hard. The lady was very understanding and wanked me off to completion before we had a laugh about it.
god knows why it happened but it didn't ruin the meet just altered what we could do safely |
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All I can say is ladies, don't give up. Use your sex appeal, dont make it an issue, and just take charge of the situation. Met a woman once whose motto on this subject was "If I (she) can't make him aroused, then it's my (her) fault and responsibility." I personally feel the same way in reverse about making women wet and cum, it's my job. |
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Is guess that being understanding that it happens sometimes will ease his concerns and potential embarrassment factor. Any pressure he may feel, will only ramp up if you make a big deal of it.
I have had it happen myself, and with a very understanding couple. We spent much more time doing other things besides penetration. |
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We only play safe , and as soon as mr j sees a condom , and knows he's getting some , he's hard and ready to go
Its the age old thing of , do you want sex with my other half ? If its a yes , then grab a condom
Not to bad a price to pay |
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"We only play safe , and as soon as mr j sees a condom , and knows he's getting some , he's hard and ready to go
Its the age old thing of , do you want sex with my other half ? If its a yes , then grab a condom
Not to bad a price to pay "
Our thoughts exactly! |
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"We only play safe , and as soon as mr j sees a condom , and knows he's getting some , he's hard and ready to go
Its the age old thing of , do you want sex with my other half ? If its a yes , then grab a condom
Not to bad a price to pay "
I don’t think it’s anything to do with trying to get away with not using one. Sometimes the acts of putting one on can cause the old chap to droop involuntarily. |
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We actually had a man , a full grown man who folded at the sight of a condom
He actually uttered the words , he gets shy when he sees a condom
It was like the cock was in charge and running things ? And the guy was just along for the ride ! |
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I wonder how many men, having read this thread, are now worrying about their next meet. LOL.
I've not experienced a man with stage fright, but have had a man blow his beans when putting the condom on. Nothing we could say could make him feel any less embarrassed. |
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I’ve had this happen several times. I changed make of condoms. I was an old fashioned guy using durex. Switched to latex free skins large size and hardly happens now. So fellas, make sure you get good condoms that fit properly  |
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It might be worth checking the girth on the brand / type in use. Even just a little too tight can cause problems and I've noticed that the standard girth has dropped in the last few years across a few brands, starting with the supermarket ones. Standard used to be between 54 and 56mm and now seems to sit between 52 and 54 ish. Perhaps a special kind of shrinkflation? Or the ego boost of having to buy larger sizes boosts sales?
Anyway, get a comfortable girth or else it might not stay up and there's more danger of splitting. |
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I've seen this happen to guys when we play with other couples. It's also happened to me. I think it comes down to familiarity with your own partner if you've been together for a while. You can't wait to play with the other woman but your brain is telling you something else so you don't get hard.
Depending on the scenario I'll start with my Mrs be super hard, then go on to the other partner. Or if I'm not getting hard enough go back to my own partner for a short while until I'm hard. If it happens to the other guy I usually tell him to take his time, no pressure and that usually helps. The Mrs is very good at oral and that usually helps to
So guys you're not alone, happens to most of us from time to time |
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"Mrs spent the night with a guy recently and all was well until it came to putting the condom on..try as he might, he just could not stay hard.
Same again in the morning.
Anyone else had this problem and what is the way around it?"
Yes loads of times very frustrating for the guy & me. I did find a way that got past this issue PM to find out |
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