For us rejection is a part of Fab, if we aren’t someone’s cup of tea then fair enough. We will respect that decision, send best wishes and move on. We’ve definitely had our fair share of people saying “no” for whatever reason.
Lately we’ve had some nasty responses when we politely decline.
Can’t we just keep things pleasant? |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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Wait wait wait, does that mean people get accepted? Lol
Rejection is part of life, I blame social media for some peoples inability to accept it. They surround themselves with only things they like and affirm them.
My two pence anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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We just laugh at the pathetic comments we get back then hit the block button. There’s just no need for nastiness as there’s already enough negativity in today’s world! |
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A lot of it comes down to maturity and expectations.
It's a swinging site and I think people have an expectation to instantly get something from everyone they message. Unfortunately the maturity part is yet to catch up with the reality of the situation that real life still applies and not everyone is here to say yes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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Similar to above really
80% of the messages I get I can read in their entirety without even opening them
I just delete them.
That should be response enough, it's not worth replying to most who message in case of the negativity back
I'll make an exception for messages that obvs have some personalisation or effort in. |
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By *rigbyMan 38 weeks ago
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Well what have I taken from the replies here...
One,if you're not thick skinned you've no business being on here
Two,it's ok for messages to not be read and the sender blocked
Three,it's ok to laugh at and ignore certain people.
Ok, everyone has the right not to be abused by random strangers messages,I get that....but realise the frustration that builds up from constant rejection and I mean constant....I just got completely ignored in a thread specifically described for my exact demographic
Did I send abusive messages?no,of course not.... but did anyone even consider a reply to me, even the op who started the thread asking to interact with exactly my details?? No....
Nobody is owed interaction,and certainly unpleasant comments are unnecessary and unacceptable, but understand just how soul destroying it can be on here |
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Its when people get nasty when we don't reply... the first message is usually one word or a single line lol.
No time for nastiness on here, our block list is more extensive than our friends list lol
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I think the let down and shock of being rejected on here turns many guys nasty and savage. Although, this is of course, no excuse for such unacceptable behaviour. A lot of people need to learn how to better deal with being rejected and just move. I'm sure it'll make the eventual invitation even sweeter  xx |
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We actually find it worse from couples than single guys, single guys can just get a bit pesty and message repeatedly.
Whereas we have had a few occasions recently where we've started chatting but once face pics have been swapped the male hasn't been Sophs type. We say this straight away and have been surprised at some of the sh//ty answers back.
We all have to find the person attractive, I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's cool. No need for the nastiness, it's not a personal attack to say sorry not our type. |
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"We actually find it worse from couples than single guys, single guys can just get a bit pesty and message repeatedly.
Whereas we have had a few occasions recently where we've started chatting but once face pics have been swapped the male hasn't been Sophs type. We say this straight away and have been surprised at some of the sh//ty answers back.
We all have to find the person attractive, I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's cool. No need for the nastiness, it's not a personal attack to say sorry not our type. "
Exactly our thoughts |
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this is not just a guy thing there were are are plenty of couples/women who cant handle rejection too some react bery badly ... hence iy stopped looking for couples and women via fab ...
as for guys if im nor interested its a str8 block nas im only here to meet im not here for friends ill never meet ...yeo my block list is nassive |
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