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By *appyPandaMan 37 weeks ago
Kilkenny and Waterford |
"Relaxing in bed after a long scene this morning "
Oh isn't that great then? So happy for you and we can't forget that Dommes need and deserve the relaxation after and aftercare if possible.
And I'm sure your sub/bottom is enjoying that sweet blissful afterglow I'm also still trapped by after an incredible weekend.
And onto the question, they're about but this site wouldn't be the best place to seek them. Fet is a far more fitting alternative when focused more on kink.
Many also tend to keep a low enough profile as bringing attention to themselves like responding in a thread about topics such as pegging will bring in hordes of messages from desperate guys begging to try it, treating them not as dominant woman with her own interests, hopes and life but instead just as an outlet to satisfy their own fetishes and control what would happen. That can be extremely off-putting for a dominant woman that just wants to be in control.
If you find one, first and foremost, treat them with respect and as an actual human being that has her own life, own interests and whole self outside of that part of her. That's the most important thing unless they've made it clear they wish from the beginning to be treated differently.
Then if you get closer, it's quite possible things may work out but it's still not a guarantee, and don't expect things to happen just because you hope they will.
Worst case scenario, you get no replies.
Above that, you end up having some nice friendly conversations with dominant women to get to pass the time with. If you're lucky, you may even make some good platonic friends to keep in touch with and joke around with, and even if they don't feel that way about you, they may know someone that they think you'd get along great with (with how outnumbered dominant women are in general, many often have fellow domme friends to talk about things with and just being free being able to talk openly being themselves) and set you up. You just never know how it may go.
I'm definitely not saying I'm an expert, but these steps will be much more useful than than just sending some message like "please peg me, Mistress" to someone who has hordes of messages like that already or "make me wear women's underwear", "sit on my face" and everything else where it's clear the sender is seeing them just for what she can do for them, not as a real person herself who just as more unconventional sexual interests.
And don't feel dejected if it feels like it's taking too long. Some of us took many many years to find someone who completed us in so many different ways not just regarding kink or submission, and couldn't be happier.
And if you just want to try things out you've seen in porn or read about, you're likely better off paying a professional Domme to do that with you among other things you'd like to try. There's no shame at all about that and getting these things off the bucket list or figuring out if they are for you.
Will definitely help you be far more relaxed after when still looking for more of a lifestyle Domme because you can get to know her properly, and not simply be desperately hoping she'll do that thing with you.
I still have a few hopes to do with mine, but not begging and am happily taking all the time possible together to just enjoy ourselves without anything else needed. More is a bonus and mutual exploration experience, not a necessity.
Long winded ramble over. |