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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
Anyone else find you can spend a long time chatting to people from here to find they are time wasters. Why do people feel the need to lie and not just be themselves? What is the point of talking to someone and not being honest. You will get found out eventually. Also is anyone actually genuine in here? |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Im kinda new here so how could a verified account be fake i had to show my pic etc"
When I say fake I mean not really swingers just guys using the site as a vehicle for wanking off.
I have chatted to loads of couples and it ends up being the bloke chatting while the wife has no idea. When I ask to speak to the wife they go all weird. |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"So what couples dont need to do the pic thing then or am I being silly"
No they do. They are real couples but I have a trans gf who I meet with. When I contact a couple about meeting us both, if I get yes it’s usually the guy saying yes. When I ask would the wife be interested they fib me off and won’t answer or say not it would be me meeting g you both. They are on here Asa couple so shouldn’t be agreeing to meet alone. Also most guys want my gf and after a few messages we figure that out. We only meet together and I would never sit and watch I’m not doing that. |
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By *mogen321TV/TS 18 weeks ago
Near Bournemouth/Kensington |
Same experience. Often it’s only the guy still playing. Blokes tend to be more direct and in more of a rush, so you can normally tell who’s typing.
Seems to be less couples on here these days. |
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"Well if no one here is genuine, that includes you
Fair point. But all I seem to get is time wasters who turn out to be fake. "
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You appear to be the common denominator; perhaps you need to change your approach or your methods on how you engage with people on here...? |
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Ive been saying for age's being verified n have verifications means nothing anymore,ive chatted to loads of ppl over the years n after a few messages they disappear, so that's why my profile says what it does now coz i just cant dowith the level of negativity that this site has |
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"In my experience at least 80% on here are timewasters, prove me wrong!"
if your experience is that 80% of the people you've interacted with have wasted your time, it's only true for you.
0% of people we've interacted with have wasted our time so it isn't true for us |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Look, the door swings both ways and I understand what you're talking about.
We had a verified couples account for 3 years but the amount of fuckery and bullshit we had to deal with from single guys was unrelenting, so we changed to this profile and it's much simpler.
No assholes in our inbox and we reach out to those we spot when searching profiles.
We can easily facetime, meet, or whatever, we got no problem with proving who we are. But after years of a couples profile and especially after covid, (as we were here before it on another profile), we realised the amount of fucking idiots is just too much, so we said "Fuck it and fuck them!"
There really are some wonderful people out there as couples, single women, or single men, but the fuckery is too much, so this profile actually works to filter out the knobs, literally and figuratively! |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Same experience. Often it’s only the guy still playing. Blokes tend to be more direct and in more of a rush, so you can normally tell who’s typing.
Seems to be less couples on here these days."
I definitely find the same |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Well if no one here is genuine, that includes you
Fair point. But all I seem to get is time wasters who turn out to be fake.
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You appear to be the common denominator; perhaps you need to change your approach or your methods on how you engage with people on here...?"
I don’t think I do as I met my gf on here. I think my approach works just fine. It was a general question about time wasters to try and see how everyone else finds it on here. |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"In my experience at least 80% on here are timewasters, prove me wrong!
if your experience is that 80% of the people you've interacted with have wasted your time, it's only true for you.
0% of people we've interacted with have wasted our time so it isn't true for us "
That’s great you are clearly very good at spoofing this whore are not genuine. |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"I think it’s a role play/ fantasy thing for a lot of people and they never intended to meet. They get off on the idea and the chat then it comes to meeting and suddenly it’s reality "
Totally agree |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Look, the door swings both ways and I understand what you're talking about.
We had a verified couples account for 3 years but the amount of fuckery and bullshit we had to deal with from single guys was unrelenting, so we changed to this profile and it's much simpler.
No assholes in our inbox and we reach out to those we spot when searching profiles.
We can easily facetime, meet, or whatever, we got no problem with proving who we are. But after years of a couples profile and especially after covid, (as we were here before it on another profile), we realised the amount of fucking idiots is just too much, so we said "Fuck it and fuck them!"
There really are some wonderful people out there as couples, single women, or single men, but the fuckery is too much, so this profile actually works to filter out the knobs, literally and figuratively!"
It’s hard to filter out the time wasters but worth it. When You find someone who is genuine it makes it fees really special. |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Three times in three weeks we have been let down by the same man.always an hour before we meet he mails with an excuse "
After the first no show is would have blocked him. I do know why you allowed him to do it 3 times? |
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We got that fed up of being let down we just started going to clubs, its way easier to meet in a club as long as you put yourself out there, alot of people say clubs are clicky but in our experience as long as you put in the effort to talk to people it can be a great experience and way of meeting, given up on single guys from fab and only meet them at clubs.
We have said it before but fab is just an adult media site now and a cheap porn site |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"We got that fed up of being let down we just started going to clubs, its way easier to meet in a club as long as you put yourself out there, alot of people say clubs are clicky but in our experience as long as you put in the effort to talk to people it can be a great experience and way of meeting, given up on single guys from fab and only meet them at clubs.
We have said it before but fab is just an adult media site now and a cheap porn site "
I agree with what you are saying about fab. It’s no longer a site for genuine swingers. I’m off to a club Saturday which will be my second experience of a club. Let’s hope I find some genuine folks there instead of all this one hand typing people. |
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"We got that fed up of being let down we just started going to clubs, its way easier to meet in a club as long as you put yourself out there, alot of people say clubs are clicky but in our experience as long as you put in the effort to talk to people it can be a great experience and way of meeting, given up on single guys from fab and only meet them at clubs.
We have said it before but fab is just an adult media site now and a cheap porn site
I agree with what you are saying about fab. It’s no longer a site for genuine swingers. I’m off to a club Saturday which will be my second experience of a club. Let’s hope I find some genuine folks there instead of all this one hand typing people. "
Hope you have fun and just remember to be polite and talk to people but never expect to play, when we go to a club we go for the atmosphere and a laugh if anything else happens thats a bonus |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"We got that fed up of being let down we just started going to clubs, its way easier to meet in a club as long as you put yourself out there, alot of people say clubs are clicky but in our experience as long as you put in the effort to talk to people it can be a great experience and way of meeting, given up on single guys from fab and only meet them at clubs.
I going for a social and a night out with my gf. We plan on just enjoying our night and watching what goes on. Looking forward to meeting and chatting to like minded people. Not got any intention of playing.
We have said it before but fab is just an adult media site now and a cheap porn site
I agree with what you are saying about fab. It’s no longer a site for genuine swingers. I’m off to a club Saturday which will be my second experience of a club. Let’s hope I find some genuine folks there instead of all this one hand typing people.
Hope you have fun and just remember to be polite and talk to people but never expect to play, when we go to a club we go for the atmosphere and a laugh if anything else happens thats a bonus "
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I've never had my time wasted on fab and I've been here since 2016.
Chats fizzle out but that's ok because we weren't compatible but I've never had a no show for any meets I've arranged.
As others have already said it's funny how some people claim that most of their experiences are negative while others like me either don't have negative experiences or if we do we don't dwell on them.
Sweeping claims that 80 percent of the site are time wasters says much more about the person making those claims than it does about the site itself.
If you take this place so seriously that you expect an outcome from every engagement you will fail before you have started.
If you are finding that all or most of your engagements are not what you expect them to be it's time to adjust your expectations and take a step back and look at your own approach rather than blame everyone else.
Timewaster is a lazy word that gets thrown at people who simply don't want to meet someone.
Sitting on your sofa and exchanging online messages over a few days isn't really having your time wasted is it?
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"Well if no one here is genuine, that includes you
Fair point. But all I seem to get is time wasters who turn out to be fake.
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You appear to be the common denominator; perhaps you need to change your approach or your methods on how you engage with people on here...?
I don’t think I do as I met my gf on here. I think my approach works just fine. It was a general question about time wasters to try and see how everyone else finds it on here. "
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Really? One thing I've noticed on your threads is that you consistently seem to experience memory loss; you said:
"Fair point. But all I seem to get is time wasters who turn out to be fake.". |
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"In my experience at least 80% on here are timewasters, prove me wrong!
if your experience is that 80% of the people you've interacted with have wasted your time, it's only true for you.
0% of people we've interacted with have wasted our time so it isn't true for us
That’s great you are clearly very good at spoofing this whore are not genuine. "
We are very good at spotting people who have no intention of meeting. I'm not sure what you're classing as time wasters or genuine but if anyone approaches us and immediately start talking sex we know if it's a couple they are unlikely to meet and if it's a man they'll probably go quiet once they've achieved their masturbatory aim until the next time the urge over takes them. If a meeting has been discussed but they fudge the issue of dates, they aren't interested in in person interaction, if their responses are non committal or monosyllabic, same.
In short just because someone is talking doesn't mean they will meet you. I think you have to weigh up in your own mind what the realistic outcome of any interaction is likely to be. |
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"In my experience at least 80% on here are timewasters, prove me wrong!
if your experience is that 80% of the people you've interacted with have wasted your time, it's only true for you.
0% of people we've interacted with have wasted our time so it isn't true for us
That’s great you are clearly very good at spoofing this whore are not genuine.
We are very good at spotting people who have no intention of meeting. I'm not sure what you're classing as time wasters or genuine but if anyone approaches us and immediately start talking sex we know if it's a couple they are unlikely to meet and if it's a man they'll probably go quiet once they've achieved their masturbatory aim until the next time the urge over takes them. If a meeting has been discussed but they fudge the issue of dates, they aren't interested in in person interaction, if their responses are non committal or monosyllabic, same.
In short just because someone is talking doesn't mean they will meet you. I think you have to weigh up in your own mind what the realistic outcome of any interaction is likely to be."
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"Im kinda new here so how could a verified account be fake i had to show my pic etc
When I say fake I mean not really swingers just guys using the site as a vehicle for wanking off.
I have chatted to loads of couples and it ends up being the bloke chatting while the wife has no idea. When I ask to speak to the wife they go all weird. "
I've had exactly the same which is why now I don't bother with people who don't have any pics or veris |
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By *asHornyCouple 18 weeks ago
galway city |
Were a couple , have met some lovely people , but a lot of conversations burn out , these are probably genuine other couples where we all want to meet up but life gets in the way , kids , family , work . We are understand it is hard getting 4 people together on a night somewhere , then all because mg in the mood ! We have had meets with couples dabbling toes into swinging world nice coffee and fun talk , but once again we respect not everyone is on the same page , they make guy want to but it is a big step up n trust between a couple and what matters guy be a fantasy team s best kept that way for some , we tend to find some single guys want to meet right away , offers of sex in car parks in winter or back of factories, in woods in the rain !!! This is a complete turn off to both of us , no effort or imagination , probably cheeting and not much to offer apart from a badly taken dick pick ! Anyway love to all out there |
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"Im kinda new here so how could a verified account be fake i had to show my pic etc"
Yes, a verified account, particularly just photo verified, or web cam verified, can still be fake. Or couple's account when she left and he decided to continue using that account without changing it to a single account. |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Too many timewasters and fantasists on here now. Been let down 4 times in the last 2 weeks. Seriously thinking of giving up on here."
I’m sorry to hear that
Shame I live so far away I would t let you down. |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Well if no one here is genuine, that includes you
Fair point. But all I seem to get is time wasters who turn out to be fake.
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You appear to be the common denominator; perhaps you need to change your approach or your methods on how you engage with people on here...?
I don’t think I do as I met my gf on here. I think my approach works just fine. It was a general question about time wasters to try and see how everyone else finds it on here.
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Really? One thing I've noticed on your threads is that you consistently seem to experience memory loss; you said:
"Fair point. But all I seem to get is time wasters who turn out to be fake."."
Sorry I should have stipulated I meant recently it’s all time wasters. Do forgive me for no stipulating that clearly. |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Im kinda new here so how could a verified account be fake i had to show my pic etc
Yes, a verified account, particularly just photo verified, or web cam verified, can still be fake. Or couple's account when she left and he decided to continue using that account without changing it to a single account. "
All that happens way too often. |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
manchester |
"Plenty of genuine people around.
Train your spidey senses. The time wasters are reasonably easy to spot. "
You are right. I’m starting to learn the tell tale signs for myself. When you do meet someone genuine it makes it so much better. |
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I think it’s about being open and honest. For example we haven’t explored yet but we are wanting too. Mrs is pregnant so we’ve had to pause meetings but we still enjoy the chat and have definitely learned a thing or two from the fab members. It’s best to get it out early so your don’t disappoint people ect |
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By *avidNP OP Man 18 weeks ago
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"I think it’s about being open and honest. For example we haven’t explored yet but we are wanting too. Mrs is pregnant so we’ve had to pause meetings but we still enjoy the chat and have definitely learned a thing or two from the fab members. It’s best to get it out early so your don’t disappoint people ect "
Would it be ok to message you both? |
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Had my fair share over the years:
One couple, who I honestly thought was a man I was talking to. Because of her deep voice. Turned out to be more than ok though. Had a fun hour or so with the couple.
But the last but one arranged meet. The man phoned to say they were setting off at 9.30am. Then ghosted.
Same with another couple recently. All off another website, not FAB I might add. Common mistake, was that I never spoke to the lady before arranging a meet. Always the male. |
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So many. We plan a meet and then on the day they give an excuse then ghost afterwards or they just don’t turn up. Roughly around a few days ago, I was mid commute to a planned meet and went to message them only to realise they blocked me. |
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"Never had my time wasted in the years I’ve been here. Just because not all conversations lead to a meet it doesn’t make them time wasters "
Exactly this....as long as messages sent to us are worth replying to we happily engage in conversation on here with all sorts of people, but that doesn't mean we intend to meet them. If you think that a conversation that doesn't result in a meet is a waste of time then that's on you. We make the meeting side as simple as possible if we're interested, we tell them when we're going to a certain club and if they want to meet then we'll see them there....if they don't show that's ok, nobody's time is wasted.
I would question whether you're using a couples account to approach people with your gf or just your single account? And if so are you sharing details/pics of your gf upfront or expecting people to be interested just from your profile and pics? We get a lot of men that send us messages asking if we'd like to meet them with their (gf/fwb/friend)...and we're not interested in that approach. We'd much rather it was a couples profile where we can get a feel for both parties. |
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