"How would you try to bring up trying a threesome with your partner for first time?
Interested in the replies and ideas  "
With caution because once you have said it and if it offends them they might get paranoid that they are not enough for you. |
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"How would you try to bring up trying a threesome with your partner for first time?
Interested in the replies and ideas "
How about "Darling, I've been thinking that I'm not enough for you. How about you choose a man to join us for a threesome?" |
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"Asking as myself wondering how you would bring that type of question up."
Depends how you and your partner interact. Do you need to hint and suggest or are you in a more straightforward type of relationship. Personally can't be doing with dancing around the handbags so I just ask because I'm in a strong enough relationship to be able to do this. |
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"Asking as myself wondering how you would bring that type of question up.
Depends how you and your partner interact. Do you need to hint and suggest or are you in a more straightforward type of relationship. Personally can't be doing with dancing around the handbags so I just ask because I'm in a strong enough relationship to be able to do this."
Not a dancing round the handbags just a (if) never been in that situation question and a how would you go about it. |
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"Asking as myself wondering how you would bring that type of question up.
So is it just curiosity or are you actually in a relationship and want to know how best to approach it to your lady ? "
Curiosity of how people would bring that type of question up. |
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"Asking as myself wondering how you would bring that type of question up.
So is it just curiosity or are you actually in a relationship and want to know how best to approach it to your lady ?
Curiosity of how people would bring that type of question up."
I guess it depends on the strength of your relationship and if you have discussed past sexual encounters. My partner knew that I have had threesomes in the past before we met so he already knew I was open to them.
That said it took us well over a year to build up the love and trust to start doing it as a couple together.
Some women may have never done it but it’s something they would love to try and some women might be completely monogamous so it’s down to knowing your partner and certainly something to consider if it’s a deal breaker or if you just want some extra fun.
It’s a really tough one because everyone’s so different and everyone’s couples dynamic is different. I guess it’s about reading the room and finding the right moment when ever you think or feel that might be. |
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"Asking as myself wondering how you would bring that type of question up.
So is it just curiosity or are you actually in a relationship and want to know how best to approach it to your lady ? "
Curiosity |
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"Asking as myself wondering how you would bring that type of question up.
Depends how you and your partner interact. Do you need to hint and suggest or are you in a more straightforward type of relationship. Personally can't be doing with dancing around the handbags so I just ask because I'm in a strong enough relationship to be able to do this.
Not a dancing round the handbags just a (if) never been in that situation question and a how would you go about it. "
Then I would just ask. |
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I got d*unk and chatted shit to the old man a few times! Lol then bought it up again and asked if he'd ever thought about swinging? He looked shocked and replied "not thought about it but doubt I would" I asked again and again and did my homework and the last time I asked he became curious, (I only asked multiple times as I could see a flicker of curiosity each time, otherwise I would have dropped it) Then again I was only interested in doing stuff with women together. Suggesting mfmf swap may have a different result with a woman.
My husband was dubious and not too keen at first as he was worried it could affect our relationship. After I assured him I was deadly serious and that we'd stop right away if anything felt wrong, he was more open to it. We are still having fun to this day and dont regret a single thing.
Communication and careful wording is key. If you dont have a strong relationship and arent both happy DO NOT TRY SWINGING. It will only highlight all your problems and push you further apart. Also, its highly addictive so tread carefully x
Mrs x |
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"I got d*unk and chatted shit to the old man a few times! Lol then bought it up again and asked if he'd ever thought about swinging? He looked shocked and replied "not thought about it but doubt I would" I asked again and again and did my homework and the last time I asked he became curious, (I only asked multiple times as I could see a flicker of curiosity each time, otherwise I would have dropped it) Then again I was only interested in doing stuff with women together. Suggesting mfmf swap may have a different result with a woman.
My husband was dubious and not too keen at first as he was worried it could affect our relationship. After I assured him I was deadly serious and that we'd stop right away if anything felt wrong, he was more open to it. We are still having fun to this day and dont regret a single thing.
Communication and careful wording is key. If you dont have a strong relationship and arent both happy DO NOT TRY SWINGING. It will only highlight all your problems and push you further apart. Also, its highly addictive so tread carefully x
Mrs x"
This is perfect advice and pretty much how we started the journey, I agree with being addictive too. |
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"Thanks x
Ive seen swinging pull couples apart so know how quickly it can happen.
Mrs x"
Don’t get me wrong we have had our wobbles along the way, thinks it’s part of the journey and I dare say we might still have the odd one but like you said communication is key and never use it to fix a problem as like you rightly said it will only make it worse. |
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