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how couples got into hotwifing?
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As single guy, always intrigues me how couples getting into hotwifing
Was it something the wife brought up? Or the husband? Was it something discussed at the beginning of the relationship or well into it?
Was the person who brought worried that the other person would be appalled, disgusted, angry (if i ever get married, I know I would be worried bringing up that I would like to watch her with other men)
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I brought it up as husband.
We were married for about 16 years before I suggested the idea to her.
I supposed I'd fantasised about it for many years before but never been brave enough to ask. I can actually remember the first time I thought of the concept of seeing my wife with another man.
We'd sort of discussed the idea of couple swapping but I wasn't interested in having sex with another woman and vixen wasn't keen on seeing me with another woman (understatment!).
We were both naive, we didn't understand the terms hotwife, or stag & vixen etc.
It is a big leap when you try it for first time, having fantasies is one thing but actually acting them out is quite another. We were very lucky in that it felt natural and comfortable from the start.
I personally think you need to know each other very well as a couple. No way we could have done it after 1, 3, 5 years of marriage.
We get messages almost daily from guys asking how to get their wife into hotwifing! |
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"I brought it up as husband.
We were married for about 16 years before I suggested the idea to her.
I supposed I'd fantasised about it for many years before but never been brave enough to ask. I can actually remember the first time I thought of the concept of seeing my wife with another man.
We'd sort of discussed the idea of couple swapping but I wasn't interested in having sex with another woman and vixen wasn't keen on seeing me with another woman (understatment!).
We were both naive, we didn't understand the terms hotwife, or stag & vixen etc.
It is a big leap when you try it for first time, having fantasies is one thing but actually acting them out is quite another. We were very lucky in that it felt natural and comfortable from the start.
I personally think you need to know each other very well as a couple. No way we could have done it after 1, 3, 5 years of marriage.
We get messages almost daily from guys asking how to get their wife into hotwifing!"
thats really interesting - that you had been married for 16 years before even discussing it!! I am not surprised you were nervous - am sure many wives would not be interested at all!
i wonder if the initial idea for hotwifing comes from the husband - rather than the lady
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I as husband brought it up in the early of marriage and the idea was shot down immediately. 15 years later and a child - I got courage again and brought it up during some crazy sex and dirty talk. We then went on a day date and played in the car in a multi story car park.
Next thing we planned for was to visit ignite being the closest club to us and haven’t looked back since. She know now I get my kicks from watching her getting fucked by well behaved strangers. |
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"I as husband brought it up in the early of marriage and the idea was shot down immediately. 15 years later and a child - I got courage again and brought it up during some crazy sex and dirty talk. We then went on a day date and played in the car in a multi story car park.
Next thing we planned for was to visit ignite being the closest club to us and haven’t looked back since. She know now I get my kicks from watching her getting fucked by well behaved strangers."
again, its interesting that you the husband brought up the idea - think a lot of husbands would love to have their wives become hotwives
Am not surprised it took you another 15 years to ask again - after being shot down the first time! |
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again, its interesting that you the husband brought up the idea - think a lot of husbands would love to have their wives become hotwives
Am not surprised it took you another 15 years to ask again - after being shot down the first time!"
seems like you want to make a point but aren’t able to do so. |
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again, its interesting that you the husband brought up the idea - think a lot of husbands would love to have their wives become hotwives
Am not surprised it took you another 15 years to ask again - after being shot down the first time!
seems like you want to make a point but aren’t able to do so. "
my point is that its hard topic to bring up..(from husbands or wives point of view) |
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Both just been very experimental and openly communicated about sex throughout our relationship. Always chatted about threesomes in a some what jokey sense and then decided to take the plunge once we got married (we waited for marriage lol). Always have open communication, even if I have one to one messages with guys my husband can have access to my phone etc whenever he likes, and vice versam |
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"Both just been very experimental and openly communicated about sex throughout our relationship. Always chatted about threesomes in a some what jokey sense and then decided to take the plunge once we got married (we waited for marriage lol). Always have open communication, even if I have one to one messages with guys my husband can have access to my phone etc whenever he likes, and vice versam"
its always interesting to me as single guy how couples get into hotwifing...as something I dont have experience of
perhaps thats one way to bring it up - in jokey fashion...to test the water...
When i meet howtife couples - its very clear they are very honest and open with each other - which is presumably how they were open enough to take the plunge |
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As I say it's essential to have trust and open communication, If there are ANY doubts within the relationship regarding open communication then it isn't going to work out.
As much as I enjoy the lifestyle I have openly said if my husband even has the slightest issue then he needs to tell me and I can either resolve the issue or leave the lifestyle all together. |
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"Not sure if we fall into this category she loves other guys together play but always wants me included all along "
how did you guys get into hotwifing? did she bring it up? or did you? just interesting (as single guy) how couples move into the lifestyle... |
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"Not sure if we fall into this category she loves other guys together play but always wants me included all along
how did you guys get into hotwifing? did she bring it up? or did you? just interesting (as single guy) how couples move into the lifestyle..."
We been around here a long while but took time away before Covid and when we returned I’m mega fussy about ladies I’ll play with and so was easier to meet guys but seems it’s near impossible to meet them so going to try clubs |
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By *TinRedCouple 2 weeks ago
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Our old next door neighbours were swinging every other week!
We got chatting to them and they told us, so we watched a documentary, and it went from there. Mrs T ended up fucking the woman from next door, and the fella used to quite often get himself off in the shower, whilst T would sunbathe knowing what was going on! |
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I fancied the idea of it for few yrs on/off but nothing.
Then after 20yrs married, quite a few average sex yrs after kids & work & life... we did it.
Instigated by wife after lots of chat with close workmate. |
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"Our old next door neighbours were swinging every other week!
We got chatting to them and they told us, so we watched a documentary, and it went from there. Mrs T ended up fucking the woman from next door, and the fella used to quite often get himself off in the shower, whilst T would sunbathe knowing what was going on! "
Next door neighbours! Not what I was expecting as intro to swinging...but it means that you dont have to travel far... |
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"We only started swinging last year - around our 19 wedding anniversary- but after a few months of not getting time together to meet together I asked if I could meet someone by myself."
how did you decide to make the leap into swinging - was it husbands idea or yours..or bit of both |
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By *CExeCouple 2 weeks ago
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We'd both been naughty for a long time and enjoyed swinging together. Circumstances meant we became a long distance relationship and playing separately under the 'hot wife'dynamic keeps the spark. Chels very much wanting me to have some adventures with girls and send her the videos, but funnily enough it's a little harder to make that become a reality! |
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By *TinRedCouple 2 weeks ago
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"Our old next door neighbours were swinging every other week!
We got chatting to them and they told us, so we watched a documentary, and it went from there. Mrs T ended up fucking the woman from next door, and the fella used to quite often get himself off in the shower, whilst T would sunbathe knowing what was going on!
Next door neighbours! Not what I was expecting as intro to swinging...but it means that you dont have to travel far..."
It was quite funny because for a few years we didn't have a clue... But as soon as they told us we could definitely imagine them as "the type" 🤣
Always made parties a little more interesting for sure! |
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"Our old next door neighbours were swinging every other week!
We got chatting to them and they told us, so we watched a documentary, and it went from there. Mrs T ended up fucking the woman from next door, and the fella used to quite often get himself off in the shower, whilst T would sunbathe knowing what was going on!
Next door neighbours! Not what I was expecting as intro to swinging...but it means that you dont have to travel far...
It was quite funny because for a few years we didn't have a clue... But as soon as they told us we could definitely imagine them as "the type" 🤣
Always made parties a little more interesting for sure!"
you certainly didnt have far to go...
it never occurred to me that the neighbours would be the reason a couple got into fabbing |
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"We only started swinging last year - around our 19 wedding anniversary- but after a few months of not getting time together to meet together I asked if I could meet someone by myself.
how did you decide to make the leap into swinging - was it husbands idea or yours..or bit of both"
It was his idea but I readily agreed |
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"We only started swinging last year - around our 19 wedding anniversary- but after a few months of not getting time together to meet together I asked if I could meet someone by myself.
how did you decide to make the leap into swinging - was it husbands idea or yours..or bit of both
It was his idea but I readily agreed "
thats interesting - if i might ask - what made you readily agree - was it something you had been thinking about yourself.. |
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Not done it yet but something I brought up as the M. Thought it would be hot seeing my partner be a real life pornstar, knowing she’d come back to me. I don’t see it as a threat at all and want the best sex lives for us. She’s keen now, just got to find the moment to kickstart our swinging experiences!  |
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"We only started swinging last year - around our 19 wedding anniversary- but after a few months of not getting time together to meet together I asked if I could meet someone by myself.
how did you decide to make the leap into swinging - was it husbands idea or yours..or bit of both
It was his idea but I readily agreed
thats interesting - if i might ask - what made you readily agree - was it something you had been thinking about yourself.."
Because I was bored stiff with how things were (hence the username) and knew something had to change or our relationship wouldn’t. I knew nothing about swinging, other than stereotypes and had no interest in men other than men husband after an incident in mh teens. But the more we looked into it, and I finally actually accepted certain things weren’t fault I was more and more interested. |
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Having been married for 15 years we were looking to spice up our sex life, we decided to go on a swingers holiday to a swingers resort in Spain, not really sure what it was all about.
It all lead from that point on, and never looked back. |
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"Having been married for 15 years we were looking to spice up our sex life, we decided to go on a swingers holiday to a swingers resort in Spain, not really sure what it was all about.
It all lead from that point on, and never looked back."
you went straight in at the deep end! |
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When we were young I became aware of men eying L up on nights out, that led to watching her chat and flirt, nothing more.
After several years of watching this happen and getting turned on, I realised I wanted more. I suggested swinging which L point-blank refused, but in time she became interested and eventually she became a hotwife.
17 years on from there we still dabble with this, at the minute she has a fwb arrangement with a lucky fella - lucky he gets to fuck L and lucky he has a 9 inch cock to fuck her with. |
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