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Ladies - M from a couples profile or a single M profile
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Welcome all, as the title suggests, I am trying to judge how the ladies from both couples and single profiles prefer to interact with the guys.
For people like myself who have a legitimate couples profile and a singles profile, do you prefer to interact with the male half via their couples profile or a single profile?
I understand that a lot of couples profiles are single guys hiding, but also I can understand that some people find comfort in knowing the male is taken and not looking for anything serious.
So which in your opinion and from your experience is the most genuine / honest approach? |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 days ago
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Once we've established the existence and consent of the lady, I prefer speaking to both of them them individually.
I don't like not knowing who is behind a message. |
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Totally makes sense and understandable. I understand everyone has their own comfort levels and how to verify that. But I am guessing it takes a little more than signing the bottom of a message with "Mrs" 🤣 |
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"Is that a single profile which is honest and says they are taken, or a truly single guy? "
No it could be the male of a couple. Im not bi so dont really have any interest in chatting to a female 🤷♀️ |
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Through their single profile.
I'm half a couple and we both have individual accounts.
If Jack's chatting to someone alone, I prefer he does so on his account. As long as I can initially see the couple account and check it's genuine, I'd be happy to chat on the single profile then. |
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"Is that a single profile which is honest and says they are taken, or a truly single guy?
No it could be the male of a couple. Im not bi so dont really have any interest in chatting to a female 🤷♀️"
Got you, is that so your chats are a little more private too? Knowing that the female is not reading etc? |
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"Is that a single profile which is honest and says they are taken, or a truly single guy?
No it could be the male of a couple. Im not bi so dont really have any interest in chatting to a female 🤷♀️
Got you, is that so your chats are a little more private too? Knowing that the female is not reading etc?"
Yeah. I like my chats to be private between me and the person and i dont want to feel like its being vetted or it takes the fun out of it for me. If someone is legitimately allowed to play seperately i dont see it should be an issue. Each to there own but i wouldn chat to a couples account as i selfishly am on here for myself not others. |
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"Through their single profile.
I'm half a couple and we both have individual accounts.
If Jack's chatting to someone alone, I prefer he does so on his account. As long as I can initially see the couple account and check it's genuine, I'd be happy to chat on the single profile then."
This is personally how I think it should be. The profile should be tailored for what you are looking for.
We use our couples profile for couple meets and I have a singles profile for solo meets. But I find it is a mix bag of trying to be open and honest and not look like I'm playing away. |
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"Is that a single profile which is honest and says they are taken, or a truly single guy?
No it could be the male of a couple. Im not bi so dont really have any interest in chatting to a female 🤷♀️
Got you, is that so your chats are a little more private too? Knowing that the female is not reading etc?
Yeah. I like my chats to be private between me and the person and i dont want to feel like its being vetted or it takes the fun out of it for me. If someone is legitimately allowed to play seperately i dont see it should be an issue. Each to there own but i wouldn chat to a couples account as i selfishly am on here for myself not others. "
Haha, exactly! You need to be able to let your hair down and say what you want when you want.
I think everyone is here for themselves in some fashion 🤣 |
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"Is that a single profile which is honest and says they are taken, or a truly single guy?
No it could be the male of a couple. Im not bi so dont really have any interest in chatting to a female 🤷♀️
Got you, is that so your chats are a little more private too? Knowing that the female is not reading etc?
Yeah. I like my chats to be private between me and the person and i dont want to feel like its being vetted or it takes the fun out of it for me. If someone is legitimately allowed to play seperately i dont see it should be an issue. Each to there own but i wouldn chat to a couples account as i selfishly am on here for myself not others.
Haha, exactly! You need to be able to let your hair down and say what you want when you want.
I think everyone is here for themselves in some fashion 🤣"
Exactly! And unpopular opinion probably although i respect the "couple" status if im meeting a man i dont want the wife/partner deciding what i can and cant do sexually i would rather have a lady wank or find a single man haha |
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"Is that a single profile which is honest and says they are taken, or a truly single guy?
No it could be the male of a couple. Im not bi so dont really have any interest in chatting to a female 🤷♀️
Got you, is that so your chats are a little more private too? Knowing that the female is not reading etc?
Yeah. I like my chats to be private between me and the person and i dont want to feel like its being vetted or it takes the fun out of it for me. If someone is legitimately allowed to play seperately i dont see it should be an issue. Each to there own but i wouldn chat to a couples account as i selfishly am on here for myself not others.
Haha, exactly! You need to be able to let your hair down and say what you want when you want.
I think everyone is here for themselves in some fashion 🤣
Exactly! And unpopular opinion probably although i respect the "couple" status if im meeting a man i dont want the wife/partner deciding what i can and cant do sexually i would rather have a lady wank or find a single man haha "
Hahaha, a lady wank is using your opposite hand right 😉
Everyone one has rules of engagement (even if it's no rules) as long as they are open enough for both parties to be able to fully enjoy themselves, then I think it works well. |
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"Not fussed.
If they are in a couple there's a bloody high chance the woman reads all the messages anyway."
This never crossed my mind tbh, is this a genuine concern of how the other partner can be nosey judging? |
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"Is that a single profile which is honest and says they are taken, or a truly single guy?
No it could be the male of a couple. Im not bi so dont really have any interest in chatting to a female 🤷♀️
Got you, is that so your chats are a little more private too? Knowing that the female is not reading etc?
Yeah. I like my chats to be private between me and the person and i dont want to feel like its being vetted or it takes the fun out of it for me. If someone is legitimately allowed to play seperately i dont see it should be an issue. Each to there own but i wouldn chat to a couples account as i selfishly am on here for myself not others.
Haha, exactly! You need to be able to let your hair down and say what you want when you want.
I think everyone is here for themselves in some fashion 🤣
Exactly! And unpopular opinion probably although i respect the "couple" status if im meeting a man i dont want the wife/partner deciding what i can and cant do sexually i would rather have a lady wank or find a single man haha
Hahaha, a lady wank is using your opposite hand right 😉
Everyone one has rules of engagement (even if it's no rules) as long as they are open enough for both parties to be able to fully enjoy themselves, then I think it works well."
Of course they do. And if its there own thats fine, but from previous experience it was almost like everything had to be checked if it was ok first and it just completely turned me off which is why i dont look for couples as i know its not for me.
But to stop derailing and answer your question if a male half of a couple messaged me from a single profile i would respond but wouldnt from a couples account 😬 |
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We both have single profiles and had them before we became a couple.
We rarely use them these days. We don't have anything to hide from eachother and if people want to message this profile to speak to either of us then that's all good. If the prefer to message the solo ones then that's equally fine. We'd always tell eachother anyway.
The one issue not mentioned yet is that some people (ok, mainly men) will already message a couples profile addressing just the woman, and often asking if she'll meet alone. Give them details of any solo profile in your couples profile text (and yes, we mention ours) and they'll often completely forget the woman's partner exists full stop.
Sure. There are likely couples profiles that are actually just a guy and you won't know who you're speaking to when messaging a couple. But if you're sending a message to a couples profile then it shouldn't really matter. They're a couple. Address them both. If you're worried about one half reading what you’ve written then maybe reconsider making approaches to couples full stop. 🤷♂️ |
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By *oyoteUglyWoman 6 days ago
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"Not fussed.
If they are in a couple there's a bloody high chance the woman reads all the messages anyway.
This never crossed my mind tbh, is this a genuine concern of how the other partner can be nosey judging?"
Not a concern as I don't really care! I wouldn't see it as been nosey, you're in a relationship. |
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"We both have single profiles and had them before we became a couple.
We rarely use them these days. We don't have anything to hide from eachother and if people want to message this profile to speak to either of us then that's all good. If the prefer to message the solo ones then that's equally fine. We'd always tell eachother anyway.
The one issue not mentioned yet is that some people (ok, mainly men) will already message a couples profile addressing just the woman, and often asking if she'll meet alone. Give them details of any solo profile in your couples profile text (and yes, we mention ours) and they'll often completely forget the woman's partner exists full stop.
Sure. There are likely couples profiles that are actually just a guy and you won't know who you're speaking to when messaging a couple. But if you're sending a message to a couples profile then it shouldn't really matter. They're a couple. Address them both. If you're worried about one half reading what you’ve written then maybe reconsider making approaches to couples full stop. 🤷♂️"
I totally agree, a couple should be addressed as a couple even if one half of the couple is showing more interaction than the other. |
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"Not fussed.
If they are in a couple there's a bloody high chance the woman reads all the messages anyway.
This never crossed my mind tbh, is this a genuine concern of how the other partner can be nosey judging?
Not a concern as I don't really care! I wouldn't see it as been nosey, you're in a relationship. "
This is my thoughts exactly, if you having to sneak around and hide messages, then that's not swinging that's cheating. |
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