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Hey. I get lots of messages from guys who say they're single. Yet when I look on their profile, it says 'cannot accommodate'.
I'm thinking that actually they're not single.
What are your views from personal experience?
Or could they still be living with mum and dad at 41???? |
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"Hey. I get lots of messages from guys who say they're single. Yet when I look on their profile, it says 'cannot accommodate'.
I'm thinking that actually they're not single.
What are your views from personal experience?
Or could they still be living with mum and dad at 41????"
Or maybe they don't want strangers stalking them? |
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"Hey. I get lots of messages from guys who say they're single. Yet when I look on their profile, it says 'cannot accommodate'.
I'm thinking that actually they're not single.
What are your views from personal experience?
Or could they still be living with mum and dad at 41????"
I usually ask why they don’t accommodate. Often the answer is that they’re cheating on a partner. Sometimes they say they live in a shared house or with parents. Occasionally they say they want to build a rapport with someone before they would be happy to let someone into their home.
Whether you trust that they’re telling the truth is another thing entirely. |
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"Married here and yes that’s why I can’t accom. Just being totally honest on my profile x"
Yes but you state that you’re married in your bio.
I think OP is talking about men who claim to be single but the “cannot accommodate” sets off red flags because they might be lying about their relationship status. |
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"Hey. I get lots of messages from guys who say they're single. Yet when I look on their profile, it says 'cannot accommodate'.
I'm thinking that actually they're not single.
What are your views from personal experience?
Or could they still be living with mum and dad at 41????"
Of course they are cheating. If a single guy met a girl in a club he would take her home if she agreed. No different really. |
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"Married here and yes that’s why I can’t accom. Just being totally honest on my profile x
Yes but you state that you’re married in your bio.
I think OP is talking about men who claim to be single but the “cannot accommodate” sets off red flags because they might be lying about their relationship status. "
I think it can be a clue. But by itself it doesn't say married. It says you need to pay more attention |
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"Married here and yes that’s why I can’t accom. Just being totally honest on my profile x
Yes but you state that you’re married in your bio.
I think OP is talking about men who claim to be single but the “cannot accommodate” sets off red flags because they might be lying about their relationship status. "
And of course all single women on here do accommodate? No didn't think so.
Again maybe they also don't relish the idea of having a stalker. |
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"All it means to me is "not prepared to share their home".
It can be married. It can be caring duties (children, parents, siblings, other). It can be a sense of privacy. It might be flatmates. "
It might be their house is an absolute tip and they are embarrassed to have anyone round. It might be that they are still married on paper but separated and haven't managed to move house yet - I know someone who took 2 years to move out it took so long to sell the house. There are plenty of reasons and I think there is no obligation to share on the profile.
There almost needs to be a "can't accommodate at first" setting, and a "won't travel until I get to know you" setting. etc. |
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"Married here and yes that’s why I can’t accom. Just being totally honest on my profile x
Yes but you state that you’re married in your bio.
I think OP is talking about men who claim to be single but the “cannot accommodate” sets off red flags because they might be lying about their relationship status.
And of course all single women on here do accommodate? No didn't think so.
Again maybe they also don't relish the idea of having a stalker."
I don't think anyone is saying anything positive or negative about women in this thread.
Not all questions about men imply anything about women. Sometimes they're just questions about men. |
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"Married here and yes that’s why I can’t accom. Just being totally honest on my profile x
Yes but you state that you’re married in your bio.
I think OP is talking about men who claim to be single but the “cannot accommodate” sets off red flags because they might be lying about their relationship status.
And of course all single women on here do accommodate? No didn't think so.
Again maybe they also don't relish the idea of having a stalker."
My guy, what is your deal? Your profile says you do accommodate. Why are you sounding off? |
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"Married here and yes that’s why I can’t accom. Just being totally honest on my profile x
Yes but you state that you’re married in your bio.
I think OP is talking about men who claim to be single but the “cannot accommodate” sets off red flags because they might be lying about their relationship status.
And of course all single women on here do accommodate? No didn't think so.
Again maybe they also don't relish the idea of having a stalker.
My guy, what is your deal? Your profile says you do accommodate. Why are you sounding off?"
"Women do bad things too, so there" is always a good look 😬 |
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"All it means to me is "not prepared to share their home".
It can be married. It can be caring duties (children, parents, siblings, other). It can be a sense of privacy. It might be flatmates. "
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Precisely this. 🩶 |
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By *aandLoCouple 3 days ago
Southampton |
"I do see a lot of couples that can't accomodate too, perhaps they have children at home or something."
That's part of our reason; child at home. The genuine single guys we've chatted to of our age have often been divorced with part time/full time childcare responsibilities also.
In addition we simply don't want a stranger in our home. Once a trust has been built and we've met a few times, if the opportunity presents then we would invite someone into our home. |
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We don’t concern ourselves with it.
Is the person nice
Does the person suit us
Does the person share our interests
Does the person communicate well
Do we like the look of them
Relationships are their business not ours |
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There are many reasons which I can appreciate, but when there's no photo, no verification and been a member for sometime does throw up a red flag for me.
I don't accommodate single guys but have a joint profile with hubby where we do accommodate with couples. |
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"There are many reasons which I can appreciate, but when there's no photo, no verification and been a member for sometime does throw up a red flag for me.
I don't accommodate single guys but have a joint profile with hubby where we do accommodate with couples. "
I wouldn't bother with no photo, no verification at all. Accommodation irrelevant to my consideration. |
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By *lowhands7Man 3 days ago
South Leicestershire (and regular stays in Staffs) |
Just to balance this out, there are women who also can't accommodate.. should we draw the same conclusions?
I respect there are people on here who cheat, both men and women, but there are also people on here that have a personal life away from fab and don't want to mix the two.
From a personal point of view, it's simply having a child who lives with me. |
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"We don’t concern ourselves with it.
Is the person nice
Does the person suit us
Does the person share our interests
Does the person communicate well
Do we like the look of them
Relationships are their business not ours "
Exactly this |
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We take it as an indication that a single guy is likely attached.
Back when we first started on Fab we met a guy and verified him after... only to be contacted with abusive messages by his partner, who lived local to us.
Once bitten twice shy and all that! |
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"Hey. I get lots of messages from guys who say they're single. Yet when I look on their profile, it says 'cannot accommodate'.
I'm thinking that actually they're not single.
What are your views from personal experience?
Or could they still be living with mum and dad at 41????"
well I'm living with my dad (to be accurate he's living with me) so accommodating at home is awkward |
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It's really weird how when a woman can't accommodate everyone is understanding because she probably has kids or it is for her own safety yet guys are immediately cheating.
I hate hosting. I Have to clean the house, prepare some refreshments,get some drinks, change the bedsheets just to change them again a few hours later. I meet mostly couples and hate it when he wonders off to get a drink as I always think is he snooping around my house? I also met a few nutters and had a few meets that didn't go down well so don't wanna be stuck with weird people in my house or have someone knocking on my doors out of the blue. Meeting in a hotel eliminates a lot of those issues. Rock up, have a drink, have some fun and if things aren't going the way we planned or imagine I walk out. |
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"Hey. I get lots of messages from guys who say they're single. Yet when I look on their profile, it says 'cannot accommodate'.
I'm thinking that actually they're not single.
What are your views from personal experience?
Or could they still be living with mum and dad at 41????"
I read things literally but remain vigilant |
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I have no desire whatsoever to accommodate at home, I don't subscribe to the notion of accommodating at home...
...but I've still stated on my profile that I accommodate.
This approach works perfectly fine for me. 🩶 |
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