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By *ildfrost OP Couple 3 days ago
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Please be gentle, very new to all this and maybe just havent quite mastered the ropes yet... we have interest in our pics and typically respond to those who wink or message us that we like back but then the 'conversation' is like getting blood from a stone. We always read and ask stuff based on their profiles, some people want nsa, others want to build a 'relationship' then see what happens. We're happy with both and tailor messages to suit
Then we get blocked or left unread, (honestly i cant work out how to tell the difference atm). We don't know what we're doing wrong half the time
To us, personally, it's more appealing to meet one person who could literally be a friend
Do you think we just need to be patient and that kind of person will be on a website like this? Or should we be looking at specific dating sites?
We are toying with the idea of clubs but a bit nervous as I dont want to do anything with another man just want to get my husband pleasured  |
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Have you been here before? Because 2 weeks is 2 seconds in fabtime
What were your expectations?
I think a lot of people wink for the sake of winking, if the forums threads are anything to go by nobody really pays attention to winks as people just blanket wink.
There's confusion a little, if your looking to build up a regular then ok, but for a woman just to play with Mr, some could see that as they are just a toy so it's confusion
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First of all welcome to the forums.
You've only really been here for two weeks and that isn't really indicative of the true feel for this place. It takes a while and you need to be patient. I'm sure things will get better.
If you're truly only looking for a woman for your husband then your predicament is no different to other singleton men who find it tricky to connect with women on here. That will take time, unless you make some connections at clubs or group socials.
I think your profile needs polishing up to entice your target audience.
Whatever you decide I wish you both well. |
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"Please be gentle, very new to all this and maybe just havent quite mastered the ropes yet... we have interest in our pics and typically respond to those who wink or message us that we like back but then the 'conversation' is like getting blood from a stone. We always read and ask stuff based on their profiles, some people want nsa, others want to build a 'relationship' then see what happens. We're happy with both and tailor messages to suit
Then we get blocked or left unread, (honestly i cant work out how to tell the difference atm). We don't know what we're doing wrong half the time
To us, personally, it's more appealing to meet one person who could literally be a friend
Do you think we just need to be patient and that kind of person will be on a website like this? Or should we be looking at specific dating sites?
We are toying with the idea of clubs but a bit nervous as I dont want to do anything with another man just want to get my husband pleasured "
Yup we have the same issue |
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I find it truely astounding that the people who are getting through your inbox are time wasters and ghosts.
As a single male, it’s incredibly hard to even get a reply from most profiles. I genuinely read through profiles and try to do my best to be respectfully keen, but not overly vulgar or desperate in my first message. It’s disheartening to know that there are fuckwits out there making women and couples jaded towards the scene.
My advice would be to take a chance on the profiles that aren’t 10/10 hung gym bods, and perhaps speak to the people who seem to have their shit in order with regular life outside of fab. |
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"Please be gentle, very new to all this and maybe just havent quite mastered the ropes yet... we have interest in our pics and typically respond to those who wink or message us that we like back but then the 'conversation' is like getting blood from a stone. We always read and ask stuff based on their profiles, some people want nsa, others want to build a 'relationship' then see what happens. We're happy with both and tailor messages to suit
Then we get blocked or left unread, (honestly i cant work out how to tell the difference atm). We don't know what we're doing wrong half the time
To us, personally, it's more appealing to meet one person who could literally be a friend
Do you think we just need to be patient and that kind of person will be on a website like this? Or should we be looking at specific dating sites?
We are toying with the idea of clubs but a bit nervous as I dont want to do anything with another man just want to get my husband pleasured "
Personally we only meet in clubs as you get to talk to real people face to face and this is a big help in cutting down on time wasters. When you're chatting to people it is easier to explain what you're looking for rather than trying to get the point across via message tennis. Clubs really aren't as daunting as you think bit can be hard for people to make that first step due to nerves. My advice would be to go to one but treat it as you would an ordinary night out, go with no expectations and just socialise and chat to people and you will soon wonder why you didn't try one sooner. |
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By *eliWoman 2 days ago
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Why would dating sites be a better bet than Fab when you're just wanting "to get my husband pleasured"? They won't. That's far more of a Fab thing.
Op, before people read your messages they look at your profile. You're a woman. Would you be interested in meeting a man based on your profile?
I've met men from couples before. We've either spoken a little and then met at group socials and gone on from there. Or I've looked at their profile, there are photos of the man and a bio that makes me think they sound interesting. Fun. And I wouldn't be a fleshlight of fantasty fulfillment, it's about my pleasure as much as theirs.
If you're interested, clubs and socials can be a great way of meeting people. From there you can always meet two to one.  |
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Op, before people read your messages they look at your profile. You're a woman. Would you be interested in meeting a man based on your profile?
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I thought this when I looked at your profile OP.
Single women are in very high demand on here. Single women interested in meeting couples are even harder to find.
It will take time and alot of patience |
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"Please be gentle, very new to all this and maybe just havent quite mastered the ropes yet... we have interest in our pics and typically respond to those who wink or message us that we like back but then the 'conversation' is like getting blood from a stone. We always read and ask stuff based on their profiles, some people want nsa, others want to build a 'relationship' then see what happens. We're happy with both and tailor messages to suit
Then we get blocked or left unread, (honestly i cant work out how to tell the difference atm). We don't know what we're doing wrong half the time
To us, personally, it's more appealing to meet one person who could literally be a friend
Do you think we just need to be patient and that kind of person will be on a website like this? Or should we be looking at specific dating sites?
We are toying with the idea of clubs but a bit nervous as I dont want to do anything with another man just want to get my husband pleasured "
There are women who are very open to playing with couples but most do so at clubs where they can chat face to face to both in a couple. Not many women will swap messages with couples here as they may only be chatting to the man. Be aware many women's profiles are actually men wanting to swap sexy messages. You will naturally be nervous about going to clubs but once you're in there they're a great night out full of like minded people, the hardest part is walking through the door. They're not just a massive orgy, there's no pressure you can even just observe. Some couples will engage in FF play and play with own partner. You may get the occasional opportunity to have fun with a single woman. Good luck. |
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If you talk too much you can talk yourself (and them too) out of it. The conversation can become all talk and there has to be a line (everyone draws the line differently) where you stop talking and start doing.
I would recommend going to a few clubs and social events in your area with no intention of playing. You don't have to, it isn't compulsory. Meet some people who have a bit of experience and chat to them, maybe watch them play. Get a feel for it. You will quickly understand if you want to do more or not. |
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"I dont want to do anything with another man just want to get my husband pleasured "
Have read your message and your profile bio it’s clear you are only looking for a woman (unicorn). Basically a needle in a haystack.
Hard as this might sound this lifestyle may not be what you are looking for. It might be an idea to consider paying a lady for what you want via an established agency. |
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"Please be gentle, very new to all this and maybe just havent quite mastered the ropes yet... we have interest in our pics and typically respond to those who wink or message us that we like back but then the 'conversation' is like getting blood from a stone. We always read and ask stuff based on their profiles, some people want nsa, others want to build a 'relationship' then see what happens. We're happy with both and tailor messages to suit
Then we get blocked or left unread, (honestly i cant work out how to tell the difference atm). We don't know what we're doing wrong half the time
To us, personally, it's more appealing to meet one person who could literally be a friend
Do you think we just need to be patient and that kind of person will be on a website like this? Or should we be looking at specific dating sites?
We are toying with the idea of clubs but a bit nervous as I dont want to do anything with another man just want to get my husband pleasured "
You're best trying to find someone in the natural world. You'd be surprised how many "never done this befores" there are out there |
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You are looking for a single woman. So is everyone else. Furthermore she needs to be bi and to like both of you. That cuts your pool down dramatically.
I would just take it easy, go to a club and see what happens. You have only been on here two weeks and that’s no time. |
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