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By (user no longer on site) OP
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How do you arrange meets. Taking in to account child free time is at a premium, do you still have an initial social meet, knowing it might be a while before you can arrange another more naughty meet. Or do you say sod it and go for it when the opportunity arises. |
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Doesn't it depend on the individual circumstances?
Some of us have older children, some younger ones. So if a good reliable sitter/family friend is around it makes all the difference.
For me a social is when I want to meet socially, a meet is for something else; although I do make it clear if we meet and the spark is missing, it becomes a social  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Doesn't it depend on the individual circumstances?
Some of us have older children, some younger ones. So if a good reliable sitter/family friend is around it makes all the difference.
For me a social is when I want to meet socially, a meet is for something else; although I do make it clear if we meet and the spark is missing, it becomes a social "
its a shame when a potential play meet becomes a social though, especially when it may be awhile till you are free to play again |
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"Doesn't it depend on the individual circumstances?
Some of us have older children, some younger ones. So if a good reliable sitter/family friend is around it makes all the difference.
For me a social is when I want to meet socially, a meet is for something else; although I do make it clear if we meet and the spark is missing, it becomes a social its a shame when a potential play meet becomes a social though, especially when it may be awhile till you are free to play again"
In the situation I described above it will be an awfully long time, as I would only switch it to a social if there was no spark. Why why oh why would I meet again with someone when there is no spark? 
I do enjoy meeting with people socially, and have arranged socials with people; but if I arrange a meet & it turns into a social then oh dear  |
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"How do you arrange meets. Taking in to account child free time is at a premium, do you still have an initial social meet, knowing it might be a while before you can arrange another more naughty meet. Or do you say sod it and go for it when the opportunity arises. "
I live with my adult daughters and usually meet at home. I always take time getting to know meets and meet socially before inviting them to mine or going to theirs.
My eldest works funny shifts and my youngest is researching her dissertation so in and out: my playtime is limited but I'd never forego my safety checks for a shag!
Will be taking a road trip to a playmates soon as can't trust my girls to stay gone. 
Life was easier when they were in school and college! |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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We do both, if we had a few hours free on a weekday evening we would see if people we had been chatting with were free for a meet up, with a view to getting a Friday or Saturday night free when we didn't have to time limit ourselves when we are getting up for work, however if all were interested and a weekend night became available before a social had happened we would be happy to meet and play first night all according x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doesn't it depend on the individual circumstances?
Some of us have older children, some younger ones. So if a good reliable sitter/family friend is around it makes all the difference.
For me a social is when I want to meet socially, a meet is for something else; although I do make it clear if we meet and the spark is missing, it becomes a social "
I'm confused. So you meet some guys socially first and others you meet to play first time, is that right? |
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"Divorce is the answer.
Children then spend time with their other parent. For us that's every other weekend we have free. "
thats me too, but not every other weekend, I get one, one month and maybe 3 another month.
Plus the occasional daytime club meet. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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Our free time is very limited with me working alot of weekends and us having a youngish daughter. So we only tend to arrange meets with those that we are both really interested in.
More than happy to meet just for a social only. Don't see it as a waste of our time but then it's not just the sex we are interested in.
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"Doesn't it depend on the individual circumstances?
Some of us have older children, some younger ones. So if a good reliable sitter/family friend is around it makes all the difference.
For me a social is when I want to meet socially, a meet is for something else; although I do make it clear if we meet and the spark is missing, it becomes a social
I'm confused. So you meet some guys socially first and others you meet to play first time, is that right?"
Yes, If I am unsure about someone I will do a social, (newby/unverified/their preference, or other reason) others I arrange to meet for a more intimate encounter, however, I make it clear that either/all of us can decide we don't want to play and keep it social.
I think it is generally accepted by 99.5% of people that if there is no spark/connection then no play.
I'm honest, upfront (blunt) and clear. I make sure they know I will have a few safety texts and my gps will be noted.
The same as if I arrange to meet with someone and they try something I am not comfortable with for eg bb, then I'm off.
We're adults, I've never had a problem. |
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