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Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not?"
no more so than you keeping a single guy profile on here and using it for whatever you want.
how can you cry mistrust when you are on here anyway, whether looking for anything or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah she does know
I have no secrets from her"
Does she have a profile on here as well?
To answer your original question though, yes Id say it was out of order if you both decided to suspend your profile. I am a bit confused about why you still have a single profile though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it was a bit sneak of her I suppose, but this again falls in the " only one side of the story category"
Maybe instead of asking on here you should be talking to her about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doing it behind your back is wrong and she knows it otherwise she wouldn't have kept it from you. A textual affair is no different to a real affair in my eyes , perhaps you need to sit down and have a long discussion about where your both heading ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not?"
Wrong place to seek succour here mate! You will be hounded down and mauled by the forum Rottweiler's
I would recommend Jackies problem page for the answers to such heady dilemmas
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not?
no more so than you keeping a single guy profile on here and using it for whatever you want.
how can you cry mistrust when you are on here anyway, whether looking for anything or not"
Because he said in answer to does your wife know you are on here "Yeah she does know
I have no secrets from her"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't be able to forgive that level of deception. I could learn to live with it but I would never forget it.
Going behind your back like that is out of order. You both decided to take a break from Fab. If she needed to text someone, why did she feel like she could not ask?! Or is there something more going on?
crystal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People will have diffrent views about it!..
I think its just between you and your wife to talk about it...
I personally dont think its wrong to message a guy on here as to keep it as a fantasy and maybe to have some sexual attention & attraction. ..
But to give someone your personal mobile number is kinda out of order..just my opinion...
But like I say its for you & your wife to talk through! ...bambi x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nature of the game unfortunately
theres always gonna be a chance of something like this happening when you open your relationship up to others"
 Anyone can do this in any relationship. Opening your relationship to others has nothing to do with it.
A liar or a cheater in an open relationship will still be a liar or a cheater in a conventional vanilla type relationship.
crystal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nature of the game unfortunately
theres always gonna be a chance of something like this happening when you open your relationship up to others
Anyone can do this in any relationship. Opening your relationship to others has nothing to do with it.
A liar or a cheater in an open relationship will still be a liar or a cheater in a conventional vanilla type relationship.
crystal"
yeh but look at where ur at and whats involved. more chance of it happening on here i think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nature of the game unfortunately
theres always gonna be a chance of something like this happening when you open your relationship up to others
Anyone can do this in any relationship. Opening your relationship to others has nothing to do with it.
A liar or a cheater in an open relationship will still be a liar or a cheater in a conventional vanilla type relationship.
crystal
yeh but look at where ur at and whats involved. more chance of it happening on here i think"
Seriously?! Why do you think that?
I really don't understand your 'logic' |
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"Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not?"
...whilst you're on here doing what exactly?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nature of the game unfortunately
theres always gonna be a chance of something like this happening when you open your relationship up to others
Anyone can do this in any relationship. Opening your relationship to others has nothing to do with it.
A liar or a cheater in an open relationship will still be a liar or a cheater in a conventional vanilla type relationship.
crystal
yeh but look at where ur at and whats involved. more chance of it happening on here i think
Seriously?! Why do you think that?
I really don't understand your 'logic'"
i dont need you to understand it lol its my own opinion
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"nature of the game unfortunately
theres always gonna be a chance of something like this happening when you open your relationship up to others
Anyone can do this in any relationship. Opening your relationship to others has nothing to do with it.
A liar or a cheater in an open relationship will still be a liar or a cheater in a conventional vanilla type relationship.
crystal
yeh but look at where ur at and whats involved. more chance of it happening on here i think
Seriously?! Why do you think that?
I really don't understand your 'logic'
i dont need you to understand it lol its my own opinion
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I thought you might have had a hypothesis, theory or personal experience as to why you think that way as opinions usually have some kind of basis from which they are formed.
I think couples on here are less likely to cheat as they are more likely to be open about their fantasies. If one half of a couple in a conventional relationship had a fantasy, they are less likely to discuss it as they won't want to upset their partner and may go behind their back to get what they want. Couples on here are already open about what they want and are exploring sexual fantasies together. Why would they need to cheat?!
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"nature of the game unfortunately
theres always gonna be a chance of something like this happening when you open your relationship up to others
Anyone can do this in any relationship. Opening your relationship to others has nothing to do with it.
A liar or a cheater in an open relationship will still be a liar or a cheater in a conventional vanilla type relationship.
crystal
yeh but look at where ur at and whats involved. more chance of it happening on here i think
Seriously?! Why do you think that?
I really don't understand your 'logic'
i dont need you to understand it lol its my own opinion
I thought you might have had a hypothesis, theory or personal experience as to why you think that way as opinions usually have some kind of basis from which they are formed.
I think couples on here are less likely to cheat as they are more likely to be open about their fantasies. If one half of a couple in a conventional relationship had a fantasy, they are less likely to discuss it as they won't want to upset their partner and may go behind their back to get what they want. Couples on here are already open about what they want and are exploring sexual fantasies together. Why would they need to cheat?!
crystal"
Crystal is right. I usually find that we disagree with them on this forum but this is exactly right. Cheating is deception, it is not about the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i was thinking more along the lines of feelings developing and pushing someone to go to those lengths
this isnt facebook or part of ur average couples lives. you join up and theres intent to let others in from the start. the a deeper level of intimacy so i think its an easier environment for shit like this to go down in |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We both have access to this him on PC her on pad and phone, it can be either of us on the forum, or the messages there is nothing hidden and as soon as there was it would be game over in every respect, but as we dont hide anything and usually wait to tell eachother about winks, messages etc and agree on the response it really is a non issue.
The fact you have a single profile and she has a secret message thing going on tells me you are both going to need a lawyer sooner or later.
Any form of deception will = relationship ended in both our books. |
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"Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not?"
Maybe not out of order if you have been doing something wrong. |
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"Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not?
Maybe not out of order if you have been doing something wrong."
Surely if he has been doing something wrong or not is irrelevant? it doesn't make what she's been doing any less out of order does it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not?
Maybe not out of order if you have been doing something wrong.
Surely if he has been doing something wrong or not is irrelevant? it doesn't make what she's been doing any less out of order does it? "
I think maybe your too nice.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last year I was on here with my missus but we decided to take a break and suspend our profile.
I found out 5 months later that she had swapped numbers with a guy on here and they had been texting and swapping intimate pics with each other behind my back
out of order or not?
no more so than you keeping a single guy profile on here and using it for whatever you want.
how can you cry mistrust when you are on here anyway, whether looking for anything or not
Because he said in answer to does your wife know you are on here "Yeah she does know
I have no secrets from her" "
but his OP said they both decided to take a break and suspend/delete the profile, but this single one has been active for more than a year, so they either BOTH decided to take a break, or decided to take a break as a couple but he is able to mess about on his own, cant have both. |
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