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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be bloody carefull.....the fact your on here asking for advice says it's something brand new to you....with respect, not the safest hands...we all start somewhere but pls be very aware your leaping in at the deep end and the physical and mental welbeibg of this person will be resting with you. Don't underestimate that.... |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"Be bloody carefull.....the fact your on here asking for advice says it's something brand new to you....with respect, not the safest hands...we all start somewhere but pls be very aware your leaping in at the deep end and the physical and mental welbeibg of this person will be resting with you. Don't underestimate that...."
Well said.
If you really don't know what you are doing, or the responsibilities that come with it, consider saying thanks but not thanks for the offer? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Her husband has given you this responsibility but it's her that wants you to do it?
Why doesn't her husband do it for her?
This all sounds very strange and dodgy to me.
What sort of a husband puts his wife's physical and mental well being in the hands of someone with no idea how to take care of them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated "
Where's the 50 shades book  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated
Where's the 50 shades book "
That thought occurred to me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be bloody carefull.....the fact your on here asking for advice says it's something brand new to you....with respect, not the safest hands...we all start somewhere but pls be very aware your leaping in at the deep end and the physical and mental welbeibg of this person will be resting with you. Don't underestimate that...."
Ditto above. Also be aware of any potential legal situations that could arise if the experience is not pleasant on all accounts. Bizarre the husband giving you 'permission'. All sounds a little scary/dodgy!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated
Where's the 50 shades book
That thought occurred to me too."
u know me well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated "
being serious now...
if you need advice this above sernero isn't for you |
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"HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated "
I would politely decline. if you've never done this kind.of thing before it's not the ideal Way to get started. |
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To be fair he said husband and her.
Why does hubby not do it? Because they want someone outside to do it?
As for asking for advice. I take the opposite view. He's doing the right thingrather than just plowing ahead.
Everyone started somewhere. Saying leave alone if you've nit done it before is the same as saying never do it.
First thing on the list of Myers for me would be a safe word.
The 2 conversations.
One with hubby about his wants AMD expectations.
Then one with the wife. Both should be alone so you can be confident in their answers without the other partner pressuring. Above all keep yourself and her safe. She is not your responsibility but the other people you introduce are.
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"To be fair he said husband and her.
Why does hubby not do it? Because they want someone outside to do it?
As for asking for advice. I take the opposite view. He's doing the right thingrather than just plowing ahead.
Everyone started somewhere. Saying leave alone if you've nit done it before is the same as saying never do it.
First thing on the list of Myers for me would be a safe word.
The 2 conversations.
One with hubby about his wants AMD expectations.
Then one with the wife. Both should be alone so you can be confident in their answers without the other partner pressuring. Above all keep yourself and her safe. She is not your responsibility but the other people you introduce are.
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If he takes her on as his slave, then she becomes his responsibility... thats part of the package |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"To be fair he said husband and her.
Why does hubby not do it? Because they want someone outside to do it?
As for asking for advice. I take the opposite view. He's doing the right thingrather than just plowing ahead.
Everyone started somewhere. Saying leave alone if you've nit done it before is the same as saying never do it.
First thing on the list of Myers for me would be a safe word.
The 2 conversations.
One with hubby about his wants AMD expectations.
Then one with the wife. Both should be alone so you can be confident in their answers without the other partner pressuring. Above all keep yourself and her safe. She is not your responsibility but the other people you introduce are.
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Of course she's his responsibility!
This is a huge thing to take on as a first step into this sort of thing. There are plenty of ways to learn about and get involved in this type of dynamic without plunging in without a clue and risking someone else's wellbeing. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
It sounds like a mild cuck scenario. But the cuck sounds as immature as the Mrs. The Mrs needs someone who knows what they are doing - absolutely no offence OP.
As much as it sounds every mans dream on the surface. What you will have OP is the Mrs phoning you up (all times of the day and night) crying, blood, sweat and tears about various rough nights, sores and how you didn't take head of this or that - how you didn't look out for this or that. How you didn't go hard enough or went too hard.
It will be a psychological trip that will take your time, patience and sap your strength and will probably end with and std (joking aside). It's a wet dream not for the inexperienced. |
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"To be fair he said husband and her.
Why does hubby not do it? Because they want someone outside to do it?
As for asking for advice. I take the opposite view. He's doing the right thingrather than just plowing ahead.
Everyone started somewhere. Saying leave alone if you've nit done it before is the same as saying never do it.
First thing on the list of Myers for me would be a safe word.
The 2 conversations.
One with hubby about his wants AMD expectations.
Then one with the wife. Both should be alone so you can be confident in their answers without the other partner pressuring. Above all keep yourself and her safe. She is not your responsibility but the other people you introduce are.
If he takes her on as his slave, then she becomes his responsibility... thats part of the package"
I kindly disagree.
She maybe a sex slave, but she also has the right to say no. This is not actual slavery.
We are all responsible for our own actions.
If I call myself a slave and then perform a sex act for a master, then later regret doing it, then it was my responsibility to object in the first place.
If I'm unable to object due to restraints and being gagged then that's a different matter. |
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"It sounds like a mild cuck scenario. But the cuck sounds as immature as the Mrs. The Mrs needs someone who knows what they are doing - absolutely no offence OP.
As much as it sounds every mans dream on the surface. What you will have OP is the Mrs phoning you up (all times of the day and night) crying, blood, sweat and tears about various rough nights, sores and how you didn't take head of this or that - how you didn't look out for this or that. How you didn't go hard enough or went too hard.
It will be a psychological trip that will take your time, patience and sap your strength and will probably end with and std (joking aside). It's a wet dream not for the inexperienced."
So how did the experienced get experience without doing any of the above??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated "
Lucky? Run a mile.....this has disaster written all over it.  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"It sounds like a mild cuck scenario. But the cuck sounds as immature as the Mrs. The Mrs needs someone who knows what they are doing - absolutely no offence OP.
As much as it sounds every mans dream on the surface. What you will have OP is the Mrs phoning you up (all times of the day and night) crying, blood, sweat and tears about various rough nights, sores and how you didn't take head of this or that - how you didn't look out for this or that. How you didn't go hard enough or went too hard.
It will be a psychological trip that will take your time, patience and sap your strength and will probably end with and std (joking aside). It's a wet dream not for the inexperienced.
So how did the experienced get experience without doing any of the above???"
Maybe get experience in cuck rels? Get experience in Dom/Sub rels? Get experience in organising groups, crowds, gang bangs? Get familiar in what her tastes are or what turns her on (as the two are usually different)? Get familiar with mixing one or two of the above? Then start introducing the slave/sub to what goes on, as an observer, before any of the above begins?
Then maybe start to contemplate throwing her to the wolves if you think you can control your cock getting hard above her getting thrown about. After all, she is just going to be a sex slave... it isn't much to consider reeeeaally, is it? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"To be fair he said husband and her.
Why does hubby not do it? Because they want someone outside to do it?
As for asking for advice. I take the opposite view. He's doing the right thingrather than just plowing ahead.
Everyone started somewhere. Saying leave alone if you've nit done it before is the same as saying never do it.
First thing on the list of Myers for me would be a safe word.
The 2 conversations.
One with hubby about his wants AMD expectations.
Then one with the wife. Both should be alone so you can be confident in their answers without the other partner pressuring. Above all keep yourself and her safe. She is not your responsibility but the other people you introduce are.
If he takes her on as his slave, then she becomes his responsibility... thats part of the package
I kindly disagree.
She maybe a sex slave, but she also has the right to say no. This is not actual slavery.
We are all responsible for our own actions.
If I call myself a slave and then perform a sex act for a master, then later regret doing it, then it was my responsibility to object in the first place.
If I'm unable to object due to restraints and being gagged then that's a different matter."
In any power exchange, be it Dom/sub, Top/bottom, Master/slave or whatever other dynamic, the one taking the power also takes responsibility for the wellbeing of the one giving the power. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It sounds like a mild cuck scenario. But the cuck sounds as immature as the Mrs. The Mrs needs someone who knows what they are doing - absolutely no offence OP.
As much as it sounds every mans dream on the surface. What you will have OP is the Mrs phoning you up (all times of the day and night) crying, blood, sweat and tears about various rough nights, sores and how you didn't take head of this or that - how you didn't look out for this or that. How you didn't go hard enough or went too hard.
It will be a psychological trip that will take your time, patience and sap your strength and will probably end with and std (joking aside). It's a wet dream not for the inexperienced.
So how did the experienced get experience without doing any of the above???"
What would you suggest to someone who wants to swim the channel but doesn't know how to swim? Or to someone who wants to learn to drive an HGV but can't drive a car? Or to someone who wants to study for a degree but hasn't ever taken any more basic exams?
There are times that people need to learn the basics and get experience before progressing. That's not saying "never do it", it's saying "take your time and learn to do it properly and safely". |
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By *awkesWoman
over a year ago
Corwen |
Eeeek 'Story of O' much...
You've not really described your own experiences or hers for that matter in this dynamic. If you're asking here... you already have your answer. Course it's just my opinion but it seems (with limited info I can read) that it is an interest for you but you're unsure of how to go about it..you will need to delve much deeper and as formentioned, (if you are indeed at the beginning of this lifestyle journey) gain experience from a mentor before taking on such a responsibility. That is what I would do...and for this research and preparation. .look elsewhere than on a swingers site.. I'm not saying (before I get shouted at) that people who are experienced in this dynamic don't use this site..but you can get advice also from other sources where the majority if not all members live the lifestyle. I would just make sure when gaining experience you take knowledge from those you trust.
As for your current situation....perhaps postpone till you feel confident in your abilities. ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated "
... Someone like you let it be fantasy or reality scares me who gives you the right to use and abuse someone as you say yourself! How stable is this lady and her husband is married to her that doesn't mean that he owns her. People like you don't do anything for single women on here. That's my 2 pence worth |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do folk ask questions then never come back when the answers aren't what they wanted?
If this guy isn't prepared to listen to any advice I'm worried for the lady involved....really.
This could go so tits up if he just ploughs on regardless and the whole thing happens...... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i am fully confident in my own goal and abilities i was jsut asking really what people think . i have read and understand what people are saying .
I am strong and able enough to make my own mind up
but thanks for all the helpful advice
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"HI all
looking for a bit off advice
I have been given sole access to a woman who wants to be used and abused by men and be used by multiple men . she wants me to control it all for her and also be there
who do i go about it , want to start her off slowly ie me and one other but then work her way up to group use as she as said thats what she wants
i know i am lucky guy
but any help or advise would be appreicated
being serious now...
if you need advice this above sernero isn't for you "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am fully confident in my own goal and abilities i was jsut asking really what people think . i have read and understand what people are saying .
I am strong and able enough to make my own mind up
but thanks for all the helpful advice
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Why did you ask help then, if you are fully confident in your own abilities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i am fully confident in my own goal and abilities i was jsut asking really what people think . i have read and understand what people are saying .
I am strong and able enough to make my own mind up..
but thanks for all the helpful advice
Why did you ask help then, if you are fully confident in your own abilities."
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Once or twice a decent thread comes up that grabs your attention; then you realise after some great responses that it's really a someone having a date with a husbands wife, that will actually lead nowhere near what is being imagined.
You can only conclude this as there is little to no input from the OP, as they already know it all, and are already 'Budda like' in mind, in being strong enough to know all that will come. You wonder what was the point of making the thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Once or twice a decent thread comes up that grabs your attention; then you realise after some great responses that it's really a someone having a date with a husbands wife, that will actually lead nowhere near what is being imagined.
You can only conclude this as there is little to no input from the OP, as they already know it all, and are already 'Budda like' in mind, in being strong enough to know all that will come. You wonder what was the point of making the thread. "
I think he wanted advice.....untill he didn't like the advice....then he didn't need advice....or something. |
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