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Mystified by single guy

By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

We've had a few meets with a single guy, all got along great, a real bond was forming, sexually and socially, he certainly seemed very happy with everything and we were planning more meets including trips to clubs together

Myself (dan) and him spoke everyday on whatsapp about anything and everything

Last meet went very well, he stayed the night in the spare room

Told him there'd be bacon sandwiches in the morning lol

Anyway, we got up in the morning to find him already gone

Ok fair enough, we thought

Maybe not his scene sitting around of a Sunday morning discussing the night before

But, that was two weeks ago now and haven't heard a thing from him since

Not even on whatsapp

I have sent him two messages which have been ignored

Now we are grown up enough to realise he may have tired of us and has decided to move on elsewhere but that flys in the face of what he said to us

If he'd have said that was the case it would've been fine

Just wondered if this is standard practice for single guys?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not standard practice for single guys. Just one of those things. Not worth trying to work out what happened.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's very strange behaviour & quite rude I think.

Just my opinion you understand.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's very strange behaviour & quite rude I think.

Just my opinion you understand.

Didn't take long for a guy to slate another guy. You know even less about this guy's circumstances than the op does.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, not standard practice. Very odd and rude. But maybe he was uncomfortable about something and really didn't know how to say it, especially after you've welcomed him into your home.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find that some men just go quiet,some may ignore a message. If that happens I delete their number and think no more of them. Some people don't say they think it's run it's course or they want a break.

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By *andy6677Man over a year ago

crewe

Deffo not standard practice for me xx If it had been me in that situation i would of still been there in the morning for your company and those bacon sandwiches lol xx Very rude on his part but forget about him and move on xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he was Muslim and your offer of a bacon butty insulted his entire religion

Disclosure - I am aware that other religions and practices do not eat any food that derives from a pig and this message was not a ment in an offensive way to any Muslims who may come across this forum post x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he just decided to call it a day but didn't want to confront you with his decision. Folk are like that sometimes.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Not standard practice for single guys. Just one of those things. Not worth trying to work out what happened. "

Don't worry, I'm not going to lose any sleep over it lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok

Myself (dan) and him spoke everyday on whatsapp about anything and everything

Last meet went very well, he stayed the night in the spare room

Told him there'd be bacon sandwiches in the morning lol

Anyway, we got up in the morning to find him already gone

Ok fair enough, we thought

Maybe not his scene sitting around of a Sunday morning discussing the night before

But, that was two weeks ago now and haven't heard a thing from him since

Not even on whatsapp

I have sent him two messages which have been ignored

Now we are grown up enough to realise he may have tired of us and has decided to move on elsewhere but that flys in the face of what he said to us

If he'd have said that was the case it would've been fine

Just wondered if this is standard practice for single guys?"

Im thinking he wasnt as single as he said he was. He got found out maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he was a vegetarian?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He's the only person that can answer that. And there's no such thing as typical behaviour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok

Myself (dan) and him spoke everyday on whatsapp about anything and everything

Last meet went very well, he stayed the night in the spare room

Told him there'd be bacon sandwiches in the morning lol

Anyway, we got up in the morning to find him already gone

Ok fair enough, we thought

Maybe not his scene sitting around of a Sunday morning discussing the night before

But, that was two weeks ago now and haven't heard a thing from him since

Not even on whatsapp

I have sent him two messages which have been ignored

Now we are grown up enough to realise he may have tired of us and has decided to move on elsewhere but that flys in the face of what he said to us

If he'd have said that was the case it would've been fine

Just wondered if this is standard practice for single guys?

Im thinking he wasnt as single as he said he was. He got found out maybe?

Must admit that was my thought too. It's an obvious but potentially totally unfair assumption

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"He's the only person that can answer that. And there's no such thing as typical behaviour"

this.......

only he can answer that... but i wouldn't about it... remember the good, and learn from the bad....

oh... and it guys running over other guys to make themselves look good..... not good!!!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No it's not standard practise for single men, not in our experience anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe he was disappointed that he was the one given the spare room, maybe he wasn't really single? Lots of reasons but the only one would can say is him. Know it can be a struggle finding that 1 person to let into your lifes in such a way that you guys did but there will be plenty others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's very strange behaviour & quite rude I think.

Just my opinion you understand.

Didn't take long for a guy to slate another guy. You know even less about this guy's circumstances than the op does.

When I saw the post just wondered how long it will take before the white knights have their say. Just saying

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By *olarfoxMan over a year ago

North Cambs

Perhaps not quite on the same level, but I (and I'm sure others) am regularly baffled by the behaviour of women on here, so its certainly not exclusive to the male population.

I have developed what I believe to be very good connections with daily conversation and meets scheduled, only to suddenly be dropped like a stone. Usually this takes the form of messages suddenly simply no longer being replied to.

Very frustrating and to my mind simply disrespectful of others. NSA certainly does not mean that people shouldn't be open and honest to each other.

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

"Ok

Myself (dan) and him spoke everyday on whatsapp about anything and everything

Last meet went very well, he stayed the night in the spare room

Told him there'd be bacon sandwiches in the morning lol

Anyway, we got up in the morning to find him already gone

Ok fair enough, we thought

Maybe not his scene sitting around of a Sunday morning discussing the night before

But, that was two weeks ago now and haven't heard a thing from him since

Not even on whatsapp

I have sent him two messages which have been ignored

Now we are grown up enough to realise he may have tired of us and has decided to move on elsewhere but that flys in the face of what he said to us

If he'd have said that was the case it would've been fine

Just wondered if this is standard practice for single guys?"

Do you both snore?

It was just a joke!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Enjoy what you had and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps not quite on the same level, but I (and I'm sure others) am regularly baffled by the behaviour of women on here, so its certainly not exclusive to the male population.

Very frustrating and to my mind simply disrespectful of others. NSA certainly does not mean that people shouldn't be open and honest to each other."

It's just their way of handling a no longer interested scenario. IMO it's perfect for NSA.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Enjoy what you had and move on.

We intend too

It's just that as I suspect he thought it had run it's course, why he couldn't have said

We're all grown ups afterall

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS over a year ago

London

He is starting to fancy one of you more than the other and does not want to hurt someone's feelings. This means he is fancying/does not fancy one of you at all/much less.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"He is starting to fancy one of you more than the other and does not want to hurt someone's feelings. This means he is fancying/does not fancy one of you at all/much less.

Well I can't see him fancying me lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has anyone considered that there may be a perfectly rational and reasonable explanation for this chaps behaviour?

It is possible that he may have had a family emergency. A relative may have been rushed into hospital etc etc

As a result, he may be far more concerned about said relatives recovery to reply.

Or worse, a relative may have died.

The important thing to bear in mind is that nobody knows, so it's not fair to criticise the guy until (and if) he provides an explanation to the OP.

Personally, i'd have left a note or sent a text, but that's just me.

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By *rShinyKnickersMan over a year ago

BARRY

Did someone mention bacon sarnies?!?!

Sex and bacon sarnies? His loss!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did someone mention bacon sarnies?!?!

Sex and bacon sarnies? His loss!!

Exactly.

Must have been a pretty serious reason to forgo the Bacon

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By *rShinyKnickersMan over a year ago

BARRY

Some people just don't know they're born...!

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

There's usually three sides to any story.

The OP's, the other party's and the truth.

Nobody else can know. Hence there's little point second guessing why what happened happened.

Hopefully the guy in question may get back to the OP at some point - especially if he reads the forums. I hope however that he doesn't appear in the OP's veris as it would make him easily identifiable to others - which would be unfair.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Has anyone considered that there may be a perfectly rational and reasonable explanation for this chaps behaviour?

It is possible that he may have had a family emergency. A relative may have been rushed into hospital etc etc

As a result, he may be far more concerned about said relatives recovery to reply.

Or worse, a relative may have died.

The important thing to bear in mind is that nobody knows, so it's not fair to criticise the guy until (and if) he provides an explanation to the OP.

Personally, i'd have left a note or sent a text, but that's just me."

Well he's signed on to fabs plenty of times lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If all else fails, there's plenty more single guys on here that wouldn't do that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never offer bacon sandwiches for breakfast

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never offer bacon sandwiches for breakfast

remind me never to stop over yours for breakfast

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!"

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By *rShinyKnickersMan over a year ago

BARRY

"Never offer bacon sandwiches for breakfast

remind me never to stop over yours for breakfast

Bacon pancakes? Makin' bacon pancakes?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps he was a commitment homophobe?

Without talking to him you will never know why. Perhaps he thought it was becoming a commitment to you and therefore playing others were out of the question?

I play with a couple in a similar situation and make clear from the start we are not exclusive, after all that's not what swinging is all about.

Whatever the situation, I couldn't condone his behaviour. To leave without explanation and still not make contact, I'm sure is not how the vast majority would behave.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure why he got relegated to the spare room. Maybe he felt a bit used then discarded? Hard to comment really without knowing all the facts. If a guy was staying at ours all night he'd be in our bed with maybe the occasional bit of play in the night...

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

Perhaps he was like a phantom hitch hiker, you know....pick them up, give them a lift to where they want to go, turn round and they're gone

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Not sure why he got relegated to the spare room. Maybe he felt a bit used then discarded? Hard to comment really without knowing all the facts. If a guy was staying at ours all night he'd be in our bed with maybe the occasional bit of play in the night..."

Different people different rules

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Perhaps he was a commitment homophobe?

Without talking to him you will never know why. Perhaps he thought it was becoming a commitment to you and therefore playing others were out of the question?

I play with a couple in a similar situation and make clear from the start we are not exclusive, after all that's not what swinging is all about.

Whatever the situation, I couldn't condone his behaviour. To leave without explanation and still not make contact, I'm sure is not how the vast majority would behave."

He offered exclusivity to us, we told him that wasn't necessary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did someone mention bacon sarnies?!?!

Sex and bacon sarnies? His loss!!

This was my thinking! I'd at least have stayed for the bacon and fucked off before the washing up.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Did someone mention bacon sarnies?!?!

Sex and bacon sarnies? His loss!!

This was my thinking! I'd at least have stayed for the bacon and fucked off before the washing up."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most likely taken to Guantanamo bay. It happens..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe the bacon sarnies thing croossed his line of intimacy, I mean it starts off with bacon sarnies and the next thing you know it's full on sunday lunch. ; )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!"
Ah yes, didn't know that and then yes its very strange of him. Maibe his wife texted him and found out, many possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing as queer as folk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I blame your dog for buggering him in the night, Oh you have no dog! !

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By *etzPlayCouple over a year ago

Southend

How'd you know he's gone?

I'd check the loft, maybe he's secretly living there and eating your food when you go out. I saw that on Facebook, I'd install some cameras in the kitchen

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

So climbing out the window and shimmying down the drainpipe isn't normal after a meet then?

Just askin'. No reason

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok

Myself (dan) and him spoke everyday on whatsapp about anything and everything

Last meet went very well, he stayed the night in the spare room

Told him there'd be bacon sandwiches in the morning lol

Anyway, we got up in the morning to find him already gone

Ok fair enough, we thought

Maybe not his scene sitting around of a Sunday morning discussing the night before

But, that was two weeks ago now and haven't heard a thing from him since

Not even on whatsapp

I have sent him two messages which have been ignored

Now we are grown up enough to realise he may have tired of us and has decided to move on elsewhere but that flys in the face of what he said to us

If he'd have said that was the case it would've been fine

Just wondered if this is standard practice for single guys?"

If I had to take a random guess - perhaps he's developed feelings for your wife - but as he clearly likes and respects you he's done the gentlemanly thing and left/severed contact rather than cause any hurt of upset!

That's exactly what I'd do if I played with a couple regularly and developed feelings for them! Xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"So climbing out the window and shimmying down the drainpipe isn't normal after a meet then?

Just askin'. No reason

I wondered where you'd gone!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Perhaps he was like a phantom hitch hiker, you know....pick them up, give them a lift to where they want to go, turn round and they're gone

This is my favourite theory

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"How'd you know he's gone?

I'd check the loft, maybe he's secretly living there and eating your food when you go out. I saw that on Facebook, I'd install some cameras in the kitchen

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

I'd like to reiterate I am not having a go at the bloke. Far from it, I like the guy

Just mystified

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Ok

Myself (dan) and him spoke everyday on whatsapp about anything and everything

Last meet went very well, he stayed the night in the spare room

Told him there'd be bacon sandwiches in the morning lol

Anyway, we got up in the morning to find him already gone

Ok fair enough, we thought

Maybe not his scene sitting around of a Sunday morning discussing the night before

But, that was two weeks ago now and haven't heard a thing from him since

Not even on whatsapp

I have sent him two messages which have been ignored

Now we are grown up enough to realise he may have tired of us and has decided to move on elsewhere but that flys in the face of what he said to us

If he'd have said that was the case it would've been fine

Just wondered if this is standard practice for single guys?

That's exactly what I'd do if I played with a couple regularly and developed feelings for them! Xx"

Anythings possible I suppose but I think unlikely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the guys actions were quite odd and rude. Got sod all to do with being a white knight and slating other guys to make myself look good either. If I think a guys a dick I'll say it. In the OP's position I'd leave communication open for a period of time to see if he comes back with a reasonable reason, only because of previous communication and meets. If as someone pointed out there was a medical emergency or family crisis fair enough but you can't wait forever. If it's the feelings forming thing I believe he should have said something once he'd got home via whatsapp or here.

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

My first thought was abducted by aliens, but that's doubtful.

I would find that rude, regardless of his reasons. He could have left a note or sent a message later if something had happened.

If he'd simply decided things had run their course, then I would still expect a message to say so. There would be no hard feelings.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never been in a situation like this myself, But he might just need a bit of time and space away from the both of you and found it hard to tell you,

Personal problems ?

Found someone else ?

Had his fun and moved on ?

You have tried to make contact with him, He might contact you and explain why he did what he did,

Leave it at that for now and move on

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"I think the guys actions were quite odd and rude. Got sod all to do with being a white knight and slating other guys to make myself look good either. If I think a guys a dick I'll say it. In the OP's position I'd leave communication open for a period of time to see if he comes back with a reasonable reason, only because of previous communication and meets. If as someone pointed out there was a medical emergency or family crisis fair enough but you can't wait forever. If it's the feelings forming thing I believe he should have said something once he'd got home via whatsapp or here."

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"My first thought was abducted by aliens, but that's doubtful.

I would find that rude, regardless of his reasons. He could have left a note or sent a message later if something had happened.

If he'd simply decided things had run their course, then I would still expect a message to say so. There would be no hard feelings.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Never been in a situation like this myself, But he might just need a bit of time and space away from the both of you and found it hard to tell you,

Personal problems ?

Found someone else ?

Had his fun and moved on ?

You have tried to make contact with him, He might contact you and explain why he did what he did,

Leave it at that for now and move on"

Exactly that

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

You checked the silver, right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wrong thread

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"You checked the silver, right?"

Lol exactly the opposite

He's left something of his here

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Could be aliens. Have you ever had anyone else abducted from your spare room?

Maybe he is a secret agent and he got a mission in the middle of the night, he could have told you, but then he would have had to kill you.

Maybe it was a falling out over ketchup vs brown sauce on the bacon sandwich.

Maybe he was still horny and found another meet on fab and he is still there fucking.

Maybe he left the cooker on.

Maybe he was a top ISIS leader and the SAS snatched him in the night?

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Could be aliens. Have you ever had anyone else abducted from your spare room?

Maybe he is a secret agent and he got a mission in the middle of the night, he could have told you, but then he would have had to kill you.

Maybe it was a falling out over ketchup vs brown sauce on the bacon sandwich.

Maybe he was still horny and found another meet on fab and he is still there fucking.

Maybe he left the cooker on.

Maybe he was a top ISIS leader and the SAS snatched him in the night?"

All possible

But why would you have anything other than brown sauce on a bacon sandwich???

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By *rShinyKnickersMan over a year ago

BARRY

Maybe he was a g..g...g..g..g..GHOST!!!

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

"Could be aliens. Have you ever had anyone else abducted from your spare room?

Maybe he is a secret agent and he got a mission in the middle of the night, he could have told you, but then he would have had to kill you.

Maybe it was a falling out over ketchup vs brown sauce on the bacon sandwich.

Maybe he was still horny and found another meet on fab and he is still there fucking.

Maybe he left the cooker on.

Maybe he was a top ISIS leader and the SAS snatched him in the night?

All possible

But why would you have anything other than brown sauce on a bacon sandwich???

THERE is your answer, you brown sauce loving degenerates, your kind make me sick.

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By *.TaylorMan over a year ago

london

Check he ain't robbed you for something

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Could be aliens. Have you ever had anyone else abducted from your spare room?

Maybe he is a secret agent and he got a mission in the middle of the night, he could have told you, but then he would have had to kill you.

Maybe it was a falling out over ketchup vs brown sauce on the bacon sandwich.

Maybe he was still horny and found another meet on fab and he is still there fucking.

Maybe he left the cooker on.

Maybe he was a top ISIS leader and the SAS snatched him in the night?

All possible

But why would you have anything other than brown sauce on a bacon sandwich???

THERE is your answer, you brown sauce loving degenerates, your kind make me sick. "

So I'm guessing you're of the red sauce fraternity

Bloody nutters the lot of you!

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Maybe he was a g..g...g..g..g..GHOST!!!

You'll give me nightmares lol

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Wandsworth

That is weird would like to know when a visitor decides to leave.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

Maybe he didn't like bacon.

Maybe he found something better than bacon to temp him away.

Have you checked the silver is all in tact?

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Maybe he didn't like bacon.

Maybe he found something better than bacon to temp him away.

Have you checked the silver is all in tact?"

Yes everything is still intact lol

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

Did he piss the bed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's just rude to up and leave after you had got to know him ! Offered him into your home! Played and offered him

a bed and food ! Not this mans standard practice! No wonder it's as rare as rocking horse shit for single guys to have regular fun

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

"You checked the silver, right?

Lol exactly the opposite

He's left something of his here"

Emission filled prophylactics don't count.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"You checked the silver, right?

Lol exactly the opposite

He's left something of his here

Emission filled prophylactics don't count."

Yeah those aswell lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You checked the silver, right?"

Omg I was thinking the same thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!

I cant understand "supposedly" single men on here lately. They have told me they want to meet, and then go all silent on me, even though they are on my friends list. His loss regarding you is all I will say and good luck, not that you will need it "
I have someone.on my friends list talked all the time talked about meeting then nothing for over a week even though he logs on a lot .... If he has lost interest then fine why not tell me or delete.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!

I cant understand "supposedly" single men on here lately. They have told me they want to meet, and then go all silent on me, even though they are on my friends list. His loss regarding you is all I will say and good luck, not that you will need it I have someone.on my friends list talked all the time talked about meeting then nothing for over a week even though he logs on a lot .... If he has lost interest then fine why not tell me or delete.

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!

I cant understand "supposedly" single men on here lately. They have told me they want to meet, and then go all silent on me, even though they are on my friends list. His loss regarding you is all I will say and good luck, not that you will need it I have someone.on my friends list talked all the time talked about meeting then nothing for over a week even though he logs on a lot .... If he has lost interest then fine why not tell me or delete.

I have had this again this week. wont say too much but was his request asking when im free, then goes silent. I keep thinking Ill message and ask whats happening but chicken out, prob easier to block and delete really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never offer bacon sandwiches for breakfast

remind me never to stop over yours for breakfast

but you'll be always welcome for the dinner

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!

I cant understand "supposedly" single men on here lately. They have told me they want to meet, and then go all silent on me, even though they are on my friends list. His loss regarding you is all I will say and good luck, not that you will need it I have someone.on my friends list talked all the time talked about meeting then nothing for over a week even though he logs on a lot .... If he has lost interest then fine why not tell me or delete.

He'd be surely mad to pass up on a meet with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How can anyone's behaviour be standard practice - we are all different.

Don't dwell on what you don't know for sure, each one of us could come up with a million different reasons.

Focus on what you do know - he didn't want to stay or face you in the morning, he is not replying to any contact from you, therefore he doesn't want to speak to you. Just don't contact the guy again, it's no biggie really is it

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By *te tMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"How can anyone's behaviour be standard practice - we are all different.

Don't dwell on what you don't know for sure, each one of us could come up with a million different reasons.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"How can anyone's behaviour be standard practice - we are all different.

Don't dwell on what you don't know for sure, each one of us could come up with a million different reasons.

Well I know that and I'm not annoyed just mystified

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe he was Muslim and your offer of a bacon butty insulted his entire religion

It's a sad state of affairs that people have to disclose this sort of thing these days to avoid offence on something that was clearly a joke.

I come from a Muslim background and I snorted through my nose as I read it. Didn't laugh, though. Don't flatter yourself.

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By *oon-lightWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

Some single guys like the idea at the time and have second thoughts after so don't take it personal it's all about guys fantasy becoming reality some can't cope with it has happen to me

X don't take personal but advice don't text anymore u won't get reply x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately you can get all sorts here and he my have his reason but like you said no need to loose sleep over it time for a change. You also have some good memories of your times together and good luck in the future.

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Some single guys like the idea at the time and have second thoughts after so don't take it personal it's all about guys fantasy becoming reality some can't cope with it has happen to me

X don't take personal but advice don't text anymore u won't get reply x

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I haven't tried to contact him for a week now, time to move on

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Unfortunately you can get all sorts here and he my have his reason but like you said no need to loose sleep over it time for a change. You also have some good memories of your times together and good luck in the future. "

Absolutely

I also have the pictures

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems common practise to me!!!

I was gonna start a similar thread but then came across yours.

Personally I've had meets with a couple of guys that have gone well, they message after to say they also had a good time and want to meet again bla, bla, bla. Then go silent for no reason. If after the initial meet they find your not for them why give it all the bull then disappear???? Why not just be honest??? It's easy to be honest without being hurtful. It's really frustrating.

As far as I'm concerned it's clearly 'their' issue not yours, but I totally get where your coming from OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you looked under the Bed ?

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!

I cant understand "supposedly" single men on here lately. They have told me they want to meet, and then go all silent on me, even though they are on my friends list. His loss regarding you is all I will say and good luck, not that you will need it I have someone.on my friends list talked all the time talked about meeting then nothing for over a week even though he logs on a lot .... If he has lost interest then fine why not tell me or delete.

He'd be surely mad to pass up on a meet with you

Thank you. Probably because I only socialise first and not offering sex on a first meet, but there are men out there who will do this. I think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok

Myself (dan) and him spoke everyday on whatsapp about anything and everything

Last meet went very well, he stayed the night in the spare room

Told him there'd be bacon sandwiches in the morning lol

Anyway, we got up in the morning to find him already gone

Ok fair enough, we thought

Maybe not his scene sitting around of a Sunday morning discussing the night before

But, that was two weeks ago now and haven't heard a thing from him since

Not even on whatsapp

I have sent him two messages which have been ignored

Now we are grown up enough to realise he may have tired of us and has decided to move on elsewhere but that flys in the face of what he said to us

If he'd have said that was the case it would've been fine

Just wondered if this is standard practice for single guys?"

How do you know he is single!!!

maybe he had a guilty conscience and decided to devote his time to his loving wife

could be a number of reasons, you simply never know the mind of another

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the bacon wasn't 'smoked' then i'd have done a runner too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people just don't feel comfortable staying in another's house he might have gone home for his own bed! Then while thinking about it worried that meeting u again might mean being invited to stay again? And the thought made him uncomfortable! I agree with others in this thread don't all jump on the it's rude and inconsiderate band wagon it helps nobody! Instead try to realise people change their circumstances!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having had a lot of experience of meeting single guys with previous partners I have given up trying to work out behaviour.

Some examples below

- Tried to arrange meetings with fem behind my back,

- Meet several times have great fun...allow him to meet fem solo, while I was at work....had his fun...never heard from him again

- Meet several times have fun, then start lying about meets etc...Why? It's a Swinging Site! We won't get hurt...

I could go on and on....

However, let's just all relax, it's Swinging, no strings, no commitment...

No expectations....

That said, bit of honesty doesn't hurt....We are all grown ups,

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Seems common practise to me!!!

I was gonna start a similar thread but then came across yours.

As far as I'm concerned it's clearly 'their' issue not yours, but I totally get where your coming from OP "

Thankyou

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Maibe you wasnt his types as meeting is different than to chat on whattsap lol

It was our fourth meet!

I cant understand "supposedly" single men on here lately. They have told me they want to meet, and then go all silent on me, even though they are on my friends list. His loss regarding you is all I will say and good luck, not that you will need it I have someone.on my friends list talked all the time talked about meeting then nothing for over a week even though he logs on a lot .... If he has lost interest then fine why not tell me or delete.

He'd be surely mad to pass up on a meet with you

Thank you. Probably because I only socialise first and not offering sex on a first meet, but there are men out there who will do this. I think.

We like a social first too

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Ok

Myself (dan) and him spoke everyday on whatsapp about anything and everything

Last meet went very well, he stayed the night in the spare room

Told him there'd be bacon sandwiches in the morning lol

Anyway, we got up in the morning to find him already gone

Ok fair enough, we thought

Maybe not his scene sitting around of a Sunday morning discussing the night before

But, that was two weeks ago now and haven't heard a thing from him since

Not even on whatsapp

I have sent him two messages which have been ignored

Now we are grown up enough to realise he may have tired of us and has decided to move on elsewhere but that flys in the face of what he said to us

If he'd have said that was the case it would've been fine

Just wondered if this is standard practice for single guys?

How do you know he is single!!!

maybe he had a guilty conscience and decided to devote his time to his loving wife

could be a number of reasons, you simply never know the mind of another"

Because he said he was and reading between the lines of our numerous meets, I believe him

What else can I go on short of putting a private detective on his tail!!

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"If the bacon wasn't 'smoked' then i'd have done a runner too

Smoked bacon?! No no

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By *ames blackMan over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"You checked the silver, right?"

THIS!

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By *anfiona2 OP Couple over a year ago

ramsgate

"Some people just don't feel comfortable staying in another's house he might have gone home for his own bed! Then while thinking about it worried that meeting u again might mean being invited to stay again? And the thought made him uncomfortable! I agree with others in this thread don't all jump on the it's rude and inconsiderate band wagon it helps nobody! Instead try to realise people change their circumstances!"

This was the second time he'd stayed, the time before he also left early before we woke but messaged us straight away, this time nothing

I think he feels it had run it's course, but just don't understand why he couldn't have said

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