To me it implies “we are friends first and foremost and if we happen to have sex at some point down the line it is a bonus”… it implies that because - that’s what I have seen so many people who use FWB describe it as… usually the same type of people who say “I value you too much as a friend to have sex with you and spoil it” *barfffffff*

Whilst they are only words, the order of the words is important as it changes the emphasis. If people don’t like the word ‘fuck’ they could have changed it to bed-buddies, bonking-buddies, bouncing-buddies… all imply the sexual element being the reason for the friendship… rather than the friendship being the priority and sex a possibility ‘benefit’ at some point.

On other sites I have found the term FWB used by people with underlying judgemental sex related hang-ups… often the type of person who still has the word ‘slag’ in their active vocabulary and many having lower self-confidence, limited social contact outside of family and basically revolving their life around the website.

Of course this is a generalisation as some people pick up the term thinking it’s just the phrase used around these parts and adopt it in order to fit in.

Thankfully this site hasn't been swamped by the use of it.

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By *oucaneerMan over a year ago

London

Friends with benifits, around ten years ago I had loads of friend's with benifits.

Housing benitit, income support, sickness benifit, lol.

Happy to say all that's changed now.

I dont realy like the name, sounds like a job package.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lover. Much more sensual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lover. Much more sensual."

THat always to me implies more than sex. So I couldn't use it.

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By *john121Man over a year ago

staffs

"Play mate sound better...."

i think that sounds like something Smashy and Nicey would use! lol

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Interesting... my friends are my friends. My friends with benefits are just that... people I fuck who I happen to be mates with too but the fucking came first.

The play mate expression is a bit too child like for me. I had play mates when I was at nursery.

I think I'll just keep being "cheap and nasty" and stick with my fuck buddy.

He doesn't mind it and neither do I so I guess that's really all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Interesting...

The play mate expression is a bit too child like for me. I had play mates when I was at nursery.

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thats all the resons i love the name play mates as its fun ... maybe not like i had as kid but fun all the same xxx

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