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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone else find after browsing this site...it sometimes "puts you off" the whole sex thing makes you look at it differently and sometimes not for the better..i know that sounds odd...and i have had a break but im starting to rethink...?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else find after browsing this site...it sometimes "puts you off" the whole sex thing makes you look at it differently and sometimes not for the better..i know that sounds odd...and i have had a break but im starting to rethink...??"
It is the way it is and you have to deal with it. If not then maybe this place is not for you. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wouldnt say aggressive just sometimes really cheap and classless...
Porn and erotica is getting more advanced and i suppose the "reality" at times on here is a little depressing..i mean a picture of a fanny spread wide or a hairy arse with something jammed up it hardly puts you in the mood for "hollywood sex"...more "rita sue & bob too"... |
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"I wouldnt say aggressive just sometimes really cheap and classless...
Porn and erotica is getting more advanced and i suppose the "reality" at times on here is a little depressing..i mean a picture of a fanny spread wide or a hairy arse with something jammed up it hardly puts you in the mood for "hollywood sex"...more "rita sue & bob too"..."
Yup, I agree, and I don't like the effect it has on me sometimes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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PMs and mens attitudes towards me have put me off this site sometimes, if i get enough of them.
Casual sex is cheap, end of. Even if someones got pearls dripping out their fanny they're still promoting that fanny for sex... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I have felt this way. But then, I don't really browse profiles either so maybe my exposure is lower?
If you aren't having fun or if it isn't making you feel sexy, then maybe you should rethink?
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"Yes there are times when I feel like that. I do what I'm doing now and step back....Until someone comes along and sparks my interested again"
This 
I don't meet half as much as I used to after a much needed break. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That is cos you are looking to hard, that could happened to anyone, so a brake would be good. I haven't been looking for months. I just use the forum really. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt say aggressive just sometimes really cheap and classless...
Porn and erotica is getting more advanced and i suppose the "reality" at times on here is a little depressing..i mean a picture of a fanny spread wide or a hairy arse with something jammed up it hardly puts you in the mood for "hollywood sex"...more "rita sue & bob too"..."
But we're not really 'Hollywood' here are we?
I'm here for the fun and laughs and getting to know people. I suppose t's how you choose to use the site really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else find after browsing this site...it sometimes "puts you off" the whole sex thing makes you look at it differently and sometimes not for the better..i know that sounds odd...and i have had a break but im starting to rethink...??"
Yeah its why I'm here. If I wasn't I'd be fucking my girlfriend more often, and as young and fit as she is, no one wants that.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've not really been on the site for very long but I have been lurking around and poking in to the forums a bit and seen some of the other guys posts where they say how difficult it is to meet people, and I'll be honest I have had a couple of moments where I've wondered if being on here is the right thing for me.
I decided to stick to it though because as although there are some people on here that you wouldn't want to meet in the pub let alone off a website, there are some really lovely folk too.
My attitude is Rome wasn't built in a day and so I shouldn't expect someone to want to meet me within 5 minutes of creating my profile. Who knows, I may never even get to meet, but hopefully I can have some good chats and make a couple of friends along the way, so try and look at the glass being half full and look forward to the next pint, but if the beer isn't to your taste here, look for another place where it might be  |
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"Does anyone else find after browsing this site...it sometimes "puts you off" the whole sex thing makes you look at it differently and sometimes not for the better..i know that sounds odd...and i have had a break but im starting to rethink...??"
Think it's because we ain't really looking for what's on here... |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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We don't get the emails we used to from couples. I think our ages put a lot off. But I do know what the poster is saying about gynecological shots and the totally classless pictures on some profiles. Dinner on a tray in the background. Toilet seat raised in a picture of a guy who most probably doesn't want his wife to know.
Mind you, the site isn't what it was like when we first joined. I think singles of both sexes must outnumber the couples on here. But maybe our jaded attitude is nothing to do with that! Maybe it is more to the point that looking through the pictures, we don't see that many who we would meet anyway. coupled with the lack of mail on here.... |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else find after browsing this site...it sometimes "puts you off" the whole sex thing makes you look at it differently and sometimes not for the better..i know that sounds odd...and i have had a break but im starting to rethink...??"
There's a coldness here OP well that's what I feel when looking through the odd profile and the forums, .then there's the cynicism and a general lack of empathy on show on here .
On the whole its all rather clinical and I feel like humans are being boiled down to the level of things not people a lot if the time .
But it cost nothing to be here run a profile so I'll hang around butting my oar into the forums but I won't message profiles unless something exceptional in the wording catches my eye .
I'll meet the odd woman that approaches me with a offer then after Christmas I'll go for it on somewhere else that in the past has been very successful for me in finding that elusive sub looking to explore her limits with one guy over a numbers of dates .
Because the true is you can't explore your limits with a stranger trust needs time to be built up and a don't think this site attracts that kind of person in my opinion
This place is more for those looking variety if you ask me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't get the emails we used to from couples. I think our ages put a lot off. But I do know what the poster is saying about gynecological shots and the totally classless pictures on some profiles. Dinner on a tray in the background. Toilet seat raised "
That was inadvertently the funniest thing I've read on the forum this week. Thank you |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"We don't get the emails we used to from couples. I think our ages put a lot off. But I do know what the poster is saying about gynecological shots and the totally classless pictures on some profiles. Dinner on a tray in the background. Toilet seat raised
That was inadvertently the funniest thing I've read on the forum this week. Thank you "
I realised that just after the point I couldn't delete and re-type!! Doh!!!
(but I bet there is such a picture)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let's be honest here,as much as some people would like to think that sex with strangers can be classy,it isn't. No matter how nice and well taken your photos are or well written your profile is you're still getting naked with people you aren't in a relationship with. Some you barely know. Nothing about swinging or sex is classy. |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"Let's be honest here,as much as some people would like to think that sex with strangers can be classy,it isn't. No matter how nice and well taken your photos are or well written your profile is you're still getting naked with people you aren't in a relationship with. Some you barely know. Nothing about swinging or sex is classy."
I think you are wrong! Of course sex can be classy! I have no idea what you are doing, but if it is not classy, maybe that is the way you like it!
We have had some very classy meets. Not about fine wining and dining, posh hotels or ultra beautiful people. It is about connecting with others, having great conversation. Going out for a meal and then back to the hotel for some drinks and a little fooling around. Seduction!
For us it is not about meeting just anyone. It is not just about getting a shag! We don't even need to have sex if the other couple don't do full swap. Yes, we can be a downright dirty as the rest, but to say this can't be classy is wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't get the emails we used to from couples. I think our ages put a lot off. But I do know what the poster is saying about gynecological shots and the totally classless pictures on some profiles. Dinner on a tray in the background. Toilet seat raised
That was inadvertently the funniest thing I've read on the forum this week. Thank you
I realised that just after the point I couldn't delete and re-type!! Doh!!!
(but I bet there is such a picture) "
No I just mean that of all the bad things on this site that go on, toilet seat / cock shot combos are somewhere in the middle. It was funny that you explicitly consider the toilet seat being raised to be a higher degree offence. Not something that would have crossed my mind (which is why it was inadvertently funny) but I am a man... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's be honest here,as much as some people would like to think that sex with strangers can be classy,it isn't. No matter how nice and well taken your photos are or well written your profile is you're still getting naked with people you aren't in a relationship with. Some you barely know. Nothing about swinging or sex is classy."
Who said it was meant to be ?
We don't go out doing what we do because we think it's classy !
Sometimes it can be all the more horny because it's the opposite of classy , and what's up with that ?
Good sex should be fun , liberated , open and without guilt . And that's what we love about this lifestyle . Classy doesn't equate with it at all in our minds |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let's be honest here,as much as some people would like to think that sex with strangers can be classy,it isn't. No matter how nice and well taken your photos are or well written your profile is you're still getting naked with people you aren't in a relationship with. Some you barely know. Nothing about swinging or sex is classy.
I think you are wrong! Of course sex can be classy! I have no idea what you are doing, but if it is not classy, maybe that is the way you like it!
We have had some very classy meets. Not about fine wining and dining, posh hotels or ultra beautiful people. It is about connecting with others, having great conversation. Going out for a meal and then back to the hotel for some drinks and a little fooling around. Seduction!
For us it is not about meeting just anyone. It is not just about getting a shag! We don't even need to have sex if the other couple don't do full swap. Yes, we can be a downright dirty as the rest, but to say this can't be classy is wrong!"
Fancy it up all you want,it's still not a classy past time. It doesn't matter how you go about meeting people,be it in a nice hotel with nice people,throwing money at it doesn't make it classy. Soft swap doesn't make it classy,you're still putting your hands and mouth near someone's naked body. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let's be honest here,as much as some people would like to think that sex with strangers can be classy,it isn't. No matter how nice and well taken your photos are or well written your profile is you're still getting naked with people you aren't in a relationship with. Some you barely know. Nothing about swinging or sex is classy.
Who said it was meant to be ?
We don't go out doing what we do because we think it's classy !
Sometimes it can be all the more horny because it's the opposite of classy , and what's up with that ?
Good sex should be fun , liberated , open and without guilt . And that's what we love about this lifestyle . Classy doesn't equate with it at all in our minds "
I agree with you,the OP mentioned it being classless. I don't feel you can bring class into sex at all. You can have different experiences like someone else said,but it doesn't mean one person is classy and another not,just because they go about it in a different way. A naked photo is a naked photo to me,regardless of its content. Some are more pleasing to the eye than others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't feel you can bring class into sex at all.
You can. High Class Escorting would not exist otherwise "
They call it that because the men have a lot of money and the women are beautiful. They are still getting fucked for money in hotels the same as low class prostitutes. Sex is classless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing about swinging or sex is classy.
The 1950's called, they want their opinions back
Ahahahahah
Best joke of the Forum for today"
I wasn't even alive in the 50's! I don't think swinging or sex was then either. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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im deeper than most..i make connections with peeps and i classify myself as poly..im surrounded by variety and different perceptions..i just carry on doing what i want to do, it doesn't bother me what anyone else thinks or acts like..i live with myself every day..no one else has to...
if i dont like threads its my choice to post or not...i can always go and message someone very nice from my inbox.. i just take myself away from it, if i find its affecting my sense of being..x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing about swinging or sex is classy.
The 1950's called, they want their opinions back
Ahahahahah
Best joke of the Forum for today"
We're only 1 hour and 22 minutes into the day, it's probably the only joke of the day so far! |
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"I don't feel you can bring class into sex at all.
You can. High Class Escorting would not exist otherwise
They call it that because the men have a lot of money and the women are beautiful. They are still getting fucked for money in hotels the same as low class prostitutes. Sex is classless. "
Totally disagree. Especially for Straight Male Escorting this is not true.
I agree that Female Escorts can be quote classless, at least many of them. But not all of them
Anyway the turkey defeated me. I am going to bed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone else find after browsing this site...it sometimes "puts you off" the whole sex thing makes you look at it differently and sometimes not for the better..i know that sounds odd...and i have had a break but im starting to rethink...??"
I think it's good to have a break now and then(although it's hard not to log back in a check your mail). In the past, I've taken a break from fab and gone an vanilla dates. Their isn't the same pressure and it can be refreshing to take your time getting to know someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't feel you can bring class into sex at all.
You can. High Class Escorting would not exist otherwise
They call it that because the men have a lot of money and the women are beautiful. They are still getting fucked for money in hotels the same as low class prostitutes. Sex is classless.
Totally disagree. Especially for Straight Male Escorting this is not true.
I agree that Female Escorts can be quote classless, at least many of them. But not all of them
Anyway the turkey defeated me. I am going to bed "
Why would men be different?? There's nothing classy about taking money for sex. Go to bed and sleep off your turkey |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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Its all about using this place let me use you for a hours/worth of pleasure on my terms agree to them terms and your get a hours/worth of pleasure yourself .
I want to use you in the same way I use a sex toy the only difference you may enjoy it back .
That's what this place is all about clinical using become a number and get some pleasure for allowing yourself to be rejoiced to another notch on the bed post another number .
Now for those people who are happy to be used in a clinical way good for them but for those who need to feel a connection of some sort this is not for them .
I see profile after profile where its nothing but naked pictures few words where the owner of the profile is pimping there body to advertise for sex to get sex .guys with nothing but cock shots are showing the same thought process in my opinion I want somewhere to stick my cock so I best show what I will be offering which is my cock only hence very little written in the profile and plenty of cock pictures .
Woman moan about men with little in their profiles and loads of cock pictures then you look at the profile of the moaners and you see exactly the same thing a ten line profile and shot after shot of their tits their arse .
I would not recommend this site to any of my past fuck buddies because they all were the type of woman who never exchange their body for another body for pleasure because they would get no sense of self worth out of the act of doing so .
I don't behave in that way because it gives me no sense of self worth to act in that way its the same reason I'd never pay for sex because by doing so I'd be damaging my sense of self worth a a human being .
I see this its my opinion of what I see it doesn't mean I'm right but for me a see the swinging world as being far to clinical in a lot of circumstances to suit my tastes but that's because I'm not nor would I class myself as a swinger. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Its all about using this place let me use you for a hours/worth of pleasure on my terms agree to them terms and your get a hours/worth of pleasure yourself .
I want to use you in the same way I use a sex toy the only difference you may enjoy it back .
That's what this place is all about clinical using become a number and get some pleasure for allowing yourself to be rejoiced to another notch on the bed post another number .
Now for those people who are happy to be used in a clinical way good for them but for those who need to feel a connection of some sort this is not for them .
I see profile after profile where its nothing but naked pictures few words where the owner of the profile is pimping there body to advertise for sex to get sex .guys with nothing but cock shots are showing the same thought process in my opinion I want somewhere to stick my cock so I best show what I will be offering which is my cock only hence very little written in the profile and plenty of cock pictures .
Woman moan about men with little in their profiles and loads of cock pictures then you look at the profile of the moaners and you see exactly the same thing a ten line profile and shot after shot of their tits their arse .
I would not recommend this site to any of my past fuck buddies because they all were the type of woman who never exchange their body for another body for pleasure because they would get no sense of self worth out of the act of doing so .
I don't behave in that way because it gives me no sense of self worth to act in that way its the same reason I'd never pay for sex because by doing so I'd be damaging my sense of self worth a a human being .
I see this its my opinion of what I see it doesn't mean I'm right but for me a see the swinging world as being far to clinical in a lot of circumstances to suit my tastes but that's because I'm not nor would I class myself as a swinger."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you moaning again ....
But yes I know exactly what you mean!
It all depends on what mood I'm in at the time ....
As soon as I feel like it's a bit clatty then I turn it off!
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"I don't feel you can bring class into sex at all.
You can. High Class Escorting would not exist otherwise
They call it that because the men have a lot of money and the women are beautiful. They are still getting fucked for money in hotels the same as low class prostitutes. Sex is classless.
Totally disagree. Especially for Straight Male Escorting this is not true.
I agree that Female Escorts can be quote classless, at least many of them. But not all of them
Anyway the turkey defeated me. I am going to bed
Why would men be different?? There's nothing classy about taking money for sex. Go to bed and sleep off your turkey "
Because you do not pay to use our holes for 10min. You pay for an amazing experience same is valid for some female escorts I suppose
I find it exciting and classy to take money for sex. Maybe it is my Ego |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let's be honest here,as much as some people would like to think that sex with strangers can be classy,it isn't. No matter how nice and well taken your photos are or well written your profile is you're still getting naked with people you aren't in a relationship with. Some you barely know. Nothing about swinging or sex is classy."
I agree with destiny, if you want classy, or less cold sex I suggest you gentlemen go looking on a dating site.
You chaps have interesting expectations of a swinging...we have nsa sex site!!  |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"Fancy it up all you want,it's still not a classy past time. It doesn't matter how you go about meeting people,be it in a nice hotel with nice people,throwing money at it doesn't make it classy. Soft swap doesn't make it classy,you're still putting your hands and mouth near someone's naked body. "
If you had read what I put you would have seen that I did say it is not about fancy food, money and the like! Just because you don't think it can be classy, doesn't make it true! I also never said that just doing soft swap makes it classy! But in fact what you are saying is that sex, in any form can't be classy! Again.. Wrong (imo)! By classy, I am talking about meeting the right people, having a nice relaxed evening and going where it takes us. Not wham bam stuff that so many seem to have!
It is also not sitting on cam in the chat room till gone midnight, showing off that you have a meet. It is about connecting on some level other than just animal lust. But I guess you just haven't met the right person yet!
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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Looking at some of the posts on here, it has occurred to me that those in the main who are just after the quick shag and or are saying it can't be classy are singles! Maybe that is the difference!
I can say that all of the couples we have met except one have been in it for the experience, not just the sex! And the one we met who were just wanting the sex, we didn't play with. So I guess it is how you market yourself and what your expectations are that determine whether you can have classy or not!
I believe that most of the singles on here would probably have better luck down the pub on a Saturday night than they do here. Whether they are swingers is open to interpretation. I believe singles are not, or everyone picking up a "pull" in a pub or club are swingers too. But that is just my opinion.
I do see more and more, singles and couples on here who just want to slake their animal lust with NSA, that is not how we play and never will be. That I believe is why there are so many tasteless pictures on profiles.
OK, all only my opinion, but I know quite a few who agree.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at some of the posts on here, it has occurred to me that those in the main who are just after the quick shag and or are saying it can't be classy are singles! Maybe that is the difference!
I can say that all of the couples we have met except one have been in it for the experience, not just the sex! And the one we met who were just wanting the sex, we didn't play with. So I guess it is how you market yourself and what your expectations are that determine whether you can have classy or not!
I believe that most of the singles on here would probably have better luck down the pub on a Saturday night than they do here. Whether they are swingers is open to interpretation. I believe singles are not, or everyone picking up a "pull" in a pub or club are swingers too. But that is just my opinion.
I do see more and more, singles and couples on here who just want to slake their animal lust with NSA, that is not how we play and never will be. That I believe is why there are so many tasteless pictures on profiles.
OK, all only my opinion, but I know quite a few who agree.. "
I'm single,I'm here for the experiences. I don't go out to pubs with friends to "pull". I've had some lovely experiences and met some lovely people. I would feel the same if I were in a relationship and swinging. I have regular partners. It's usually couples who think what they are doing is classed as something more classy than what singles do. It's still sex with someone you aren't in a relationship with,no matter how classy your photos are and your surroundings are. You take your clothes off and have sex with other people. Don't look down on others because they do it a little differently to you. I don't have open vagina shots. I've been to expensive hotels,driven there in expensive cars by men with class and a great taste in women. One of my regular partners I meet in a very nice flat in West London. That doesn't make it any classier when I'm sucking his cock or he's fucking me under the expensive chandelier. Once you get naked with people we are all one class,is what I'm saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fancy it up all you want,it's still not a classy past time. It doesn't matter how you go about meeting people,be it in a nice hotel with nice people,throwing money at it doesn't make it classy. Soft swap doesn't make it classy,you're still putting your hands and mouth near someone's naked body.
If you had read what I put you would have seen that I did say it is not about fancy food, money and the like! Just because you don't think it can be classy, doesn't make it true! I also never said that just doing soft swap makes it classy! But in fact what you are saying is that sex, in any form can't be classy! Again.. Wrong (imo)! By classy, I am talking about meeting the right people, having a nice relaxed evening and going where it takes us. Not wham bam stuff that so many seem to have!
It is also not sitting on cam in the chat room till gone midnight, showing off that you have a meet. It is about connecting on some level other than just animal lust. But I guess you just haven't met the right person yet!
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You seem to think I'm talking about my own experiences here,I'm not. I'm talking about getting down to the bare bones of sex. When you're having a grope or touching someone intimately,sucking a cock or licking a pussy can you honestly say you can do it in a classy way? What goes on before you meet may seem classy to some,others may think not. Once you get undressed all class goes out of the window. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its all about using this place let me use you for a hours/worth of pleasure on my terms agree to them terms and your get a hours/worth of pleasure yourself .
I want to use you in the same way I use a sex toy the only difference you may enjoy it back .
That's what this place is all about clinical using become a number and get some pleasure for allowing yourself to be rejoiced to another notch on the bed post another number .
Now for those people who are happy to be used in a clinical way good for them but for those who need to feel a connection of some sort this is not for them .
I see profile after profile where its nothing but naked pictures few words where the owner of the profile is pimping there body to advertise for sex to get sex .guys with nothing but cock shots are showing the same thought process in my opinion I want somewhere to stick my cock so I best show what I will be offering which is my cock only hence very little written in the profile and plenty of cock pictures .
Woman moan about men with little in their profiles and loads of cock pictures then you look at the profile of the moaners and you see exactly the same thing a ten line profile and shot after shot of their tits their arse .
I would not recommend this site to any of my past fuck buddies because they all were the type of woman who never exchange their body for another body for pleasure because they would get no sense of self worth out of the act of doing so .
I don't behave in that way because it gives me no sense of self worth to act in that way its the same reason I'd never pay for sex because by doing so I'd be damaging my sense of self worth a a human being .
I see this its my opinion of what I see it doesn't mean I'm right but for me a see the swinging world as being far to clinical in a lot of circumstances to suit my tastes but that's because I'm not nor would I class myself as a swinger.
We are not worthy."
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"Its all about using this place let me use you for a hours/worth of pleasure on my terms agree to them terms and your get a hours/worth of pleasure yourself .
I want to use you in the same way I use a sex toy the only difference you may enjoy it back .
That's what this place is all about clinical using become a number and get some pleasure for allowing yourself to be rejoiced to another notch on the bed post another number .
Now for those people who are happy to be used in a clinical way good for them but for those who need to feel a connection of some sort this is not for them .
I see profile after profile where its nothing but naked pictures few words where the owner of the profile is pimping there body to advertise for sex to get sex .guys with nothing but cock shots are showing the same thought process in my opinion I want somewhere to stick my cock so I best show what I will be offering which is my cock only hence very little written in the profile and plenty of cock pictures .
Woman moan about men with little in their profiles and loads of cock pictures then you look at the profile of the moaners and you see exactly the same thing a ten line profile and shot after shot of their tits their arse .
I would not recommend this site to any of my past fuck buddies because they all were the type of woman who never exchange their body for another body for pleasure because they would get no sense of self worth out of the act of doing so .
I don't behave in that way because it gives me no sense of self worth to act in that way its the same reason I'd never pay for sex because by doing so I'd be damaging my sense of self worth a a human being .
I see this its my opinion of what I see it doesn't mean I'm right but for me a see the swinging world as being far to clinical in a lot of circumstances to suit my tastes but that's because I'm not nor would I class myself as a swinger."
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Class and this website do not go together. There are very few classy people on here. Actually thinking about it the majority are pretty close to chav end of the spectrum.
It's also interesting to note the all on the initial replies in this thread are from women. It goes without saying that females have a vastly different experience on here than men, for better or worse. |
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"Class and this website do not go together. There are very few classy people on here. Actually thinking about it the majority are pretty close to chav end of the spectrum.
It's also interesting to note the all on the initial replies in this thread are from women. It goes without saying that females have a vastly different experience on here than men, for better or worse. "
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"You seem to think I'm talking about my own experiences here,I'm not. I'm talking about getting down to the bare bones of sex. When you're having a grope or touching someone intimately,sucking a cock or licking a pussy can you honestly say you can do it in a classy way? What goes on before you meet may seem classy to some,others may think not. Once you get undressed all class goes out of the window."
Well, on both posts you seem to have missed or ignored the point! You are the one saying it can't be classy! That can only be from your experience! How else would you be able to form an opinion?
But as I have said before, this is just my opinion and I agree that it is more likely to not to be classy, That is why we have not met many new people from here but continue to meet couples we have played with before.
We are never going to agree, of course sex is sex, but even then there are differences. Maybe classy is not the right word, refined may be better if a little stuffy. Masses of writhing bodies are great, but so is the intimate meet with friends that may or not get to the sex! But then, if people let everything drop on the floor with your clothes, no wonder they don't think meets can be "classy" |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney"
Now why couldn't I word it like that? |
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"You seem to think I'm talking about my own experiences here,I'm not. I'm talking about getting down to the bare bones of sex. When you're having a grope or touching someone intimately,sucking a cock or licking a pussy can you honestly say you can do it in a classy way? What goes on before you meet may seem classy to some,others may think not. Once you get undressed all class goes out of the window.
Well, on both posts you seem to have missed or ignored the point! You are the one saying it can't be classy! That can only be from your experience! How else would you be able to form an opinion?
But as I have said before, this is just my opinion and I agree that it is more likely to not to be classy, That is why we have not met many new people from here but continue to meet couples we have played with before.
We are never going to agree, of course sex is sex, but even then there are differences. Maybe classy is not the right word, refined may be better if a little stuffy. Masses of writhing bodies are great, but so is the intimate meet with friends that may or not get to the sex! But then, if people let everything drop on the floor with your clothes, no wonder they don't think meets can be "classy" "
My clothes don't drop to the floor. I wouldn't want to be in a mass of writhing bodies. I have intimate meets with friends I've known for years. Me being single does not make my sex any less refined as yours. |
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney"
Explain to me what classy sex is to you please. |
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Somewhere was mentioned pics of vaginas. I recall seeing a wall of vaginas cast in plaster of Paris that was art. What's the difference? If Tracey Emin made a collage of vagina photos a hoard of snobby people would be oohing and ahhing over it. The same people would be looking at pics on here condemning the women as classless or chavvy. |
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney"
Exactly! Club Sex could be classy too. It depends if you are lucky enough to find the right partner.
Same for the meets organised on this site and any other site. Or not using a website at all.
Sex is classy, if you live it properly. We are not animals, not everytime at least |
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I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window |
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"I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window "
It's very difficult to act like a Queen during sex |
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney
Explain to me what classy sex is to you please. "
Ok. To me classy sex is about the atmosphere. It is about taking your time and enjoying eachother. It can be about the mood, the surroundings. For example, I once stayed in a hotel with Marc. We spent time kissing and undressing eachother. We knew eachother and cherished the moments. A fire was in the fireplace. We were sweet to one another. It was erotic, but in a special way. Slow kisses. Lingering touches. Lots of kissing. We've had these moments on meets as well (and hope to have more as we meet people more regularly).
Another time we fucked standing up against a tree in a park for 15 minutes.
I think there is a difference. Both are massively enjoyable and desireable depending on the mood and how ypu're feeling. But one I would say is classy and one more raunchy. Both are obtainable from the site if you look for it.
I don't think sex is intrinsically classless. But that is my opinion. People can and will disagree, of course.
-Courtney |
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney
Exactly! Club Sex could be classy too. It depends if you are lucky enough to find the right partner.
Same for the meets organised on this site and any other site. Or not using a website at all.
Sex is classy, if you live it properly. We are not animals, not everytime at least "
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"I wouldnt say aggressive just sometimes really cheap and classless...
Porn and erotica is getting more advanced and i suppose the "reality" at times on here is a little depressing..i mean a picture of a fanny spread wide or a hairy arse with something jammed up it hardly puts you in the mood for "hollywood sex"...more "rita sue & bob too"..."
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney
Explain to me what classy sex is to you please.
Ok. To me classy sex is about the atmosphere. It is about taking your time and enjoying eachother. It can be about the mood, the surroundings. For example, I once stayed in a hotel with Marc. We spent time kissing and undressing eachother. We knew eachother and cherished the moments. A fire was in the fireplace. We were sweet to one another. It was erotic, but in a special way. Slow kisses. Lingering touches. Lots of kissing. We've had these moments on meets as well (and hope to have more as we meet people more regularly).
Another time we fucked standing up against a tree in a park for 15 minutes.
I think there is a difference. Both are massively enjoyable and desireable depending on the mood and how ypu're feeling. But one I would say is classy and one more raunchy. Both are obtainable from the site if you look for it.
I don't think sex is intrinsically classless. But that is my opinion. People can and will disagree, of course.
-Courtney "
With regards to the hotel sex with Marc,have you ever done that with anyone else? I'm not including marital or relationship sex in this. Is it the people you are with,the venue and atmosphere that makes sex classy or refined? |
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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago
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"I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window "
Love it!!
Classic!! |
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney
Explain to me what classy sex is to you please.
Ok. To me classy sex is about the atmosphere. It is about taking your time and enjoying eachother. It can be about the mood, the surroundings. For example, I once stayed in a hotel with Marc. We spent time kissing and undressing eachother. We knew eachother and cherished the moments. A fire was in the fireplace. We were sweet to one another. It was erotic, but in a special way. Slow kisses. Lingering touches. Lots of kissing. We've had these moments on meets as well (and hope to have more as we meet people more regularly).
Another time we fucked standing up against a tree in a park for 15 minutes.
I think there is a difference. Both are massively enjoyable and desireable depending on the mood and how ypu're feeling. But one I would say is classy and one more raunchy. Both are obtainable from the site if you look for it.
I don't think sex is intrinsically classless. But that is my opinion. People can and will disagree, of course.
-Courtney
With regards to the hotel sex with Marc,have you ever done that with anyone else? I'm not including marital or relationship sex in this. Is it the people you are with,the venue and atmosphere that makes sex classy or refined? "
Yes. We've done similar with others.
I think it is a combination of things that make it classy. The venue helps. So do the individuals involved. We meet one couple regularly and when we swap it feels classy/refined because of our mindsets. It's translated into our actions. What we do, how we touch eachother, what we say to one another. And we aren't in a classy hotel. We are usually in their apartment. We have some food and drinks. A few laughs. And we ease into the night.
Contrast that with another couple we meet where the goal is clearly raunchy sex. It is shown in how we touch eachother and how the night pans out.
We enjoy both. But they feel different because they are different.
-Courtney |
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney
Explain to me what classy sex is to you please.
Ok. To me classy sex is about the atmosphere. It is about taking your time and enjoying eachother. It can be about the mood, the surroundings. For example, I once stayed in a hotel with Marc. We spent time kissing and undressing eachother. We knew eachother and cherished the moments. A fire was in the fireplace. We were sweet to one another. It was erotic, but in a special way. Slow kisses. Lingering touches. Lots of kissing. We've had these moments on meets as well (and hope to have more as we meet people more regularly).
Another time we fucked standing up against a tree in a park for 15 minutes.
I think there is a difference. Both are massively enjoyable and desireable depending on the mood and how ypu're feeling. But one I would say is classy and one more raunchy. Both are obtainable from the site if you look for it.
I don't think sex is intrinsically classless. But that is my opinion. People can and will disagree, of course.
-Courtney
With regards to the hotel sex with Marc,have you ever done that with anyone else? I'm not including marital or relationship sex in this. Is it the people you are with,the venue and atmosphere that makes sex classy or refined?
Yes. We've done similar with others.
I think it is a combination of things that make it classy. The venue helps. So do the individuals involved. We meet one couple regularly and when we swap it feels classy/refined because of our mindsets. It's translated into our actions. What we do, how we touch eachother, what we say to one another. And we aren't in a classy hotel. We are usually in their apartment. We have some food and drinks. A few laughs. And we ease into the night.
Contrast that with another couple we meet where the goal is clearly raunchy sex. It is shown in how we touch eachother and how the night pans out.
We enjoy both. But they feel different because they are different.
-Courtney"
So for you it's about how you feel at the time not the actual sexual acts you're doing? Would you look at how someone else conducts themselves and think that they are classless?
The OP stated he felt the site was classless and something else that I have forgotten. I think a lot more people would indulge if they weren't made to feel inferior by others saying their sex is ok because it's classy/refined. I've read quite a lot of comments over the years,not always aimed at single people and not always by couples that sounded like they looked down on others because of how they conduct their sex lives. Fundamentally it's still sex with multiple people. Now I'm not a very judgmental person,I try to make my comments as non-judgemental as possible because I'm a live and let live realist. Maybe that doesn't come across in my writing. |
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney
Explain to me what classy sex is to you please.
Ok. To me classy sex is about the atmosphere. It is about taking your time and enjoying eachother. It can be about the mood, the surroundings. For example, I once stayed in a hotel with Marc. We spent time kissing and undressing eachother. We knew eachother and cherished the moments. A fire was in the fireplace. We were sweet to one another. It was erotic, but in a special way. Slow kisses. Lingering touches. Lots of kissing. We've had these moments on meets as well (and hope to have more as we meet people more regularly).
Another time we fucked standing up against a tree in a park for 15 minutes.
I think there is a difference. Both are massively enjoyable and desireable depending on the mood and how ypu're feeling. But one I would say is classy and one more raunchy. Both are obtainable from the site if you look for it.
I don't think sex is intrinsically classless. But that is my opinion. People can and will disagree, of course.
-Courtney
With regards to the hotel sex with Marc,have you ever done that with anyone else? I'm not including marital or relationship sex in this. Is it the people you are with,the venue and atmosphere that makes sex classy or refined?
Yes. We've done similar with others.
I think it is a combination of things that make it classy. The venue helps. So do the individuals involved. We meet one couple regularly and when we swap it feels classy/refined because of our mindsets. It's translated into our actions. What we do, how we touch eachother, what we say to one another. And we aren't in a classy hotel. We are usually in their apartment. We have some food and drinks. A few laughs. And we ease into the night.
Contrast that with another couple we meet where the goal is clearly raunchy sex. It is shown in how we touch eachother and how the night pans out.
We enjoy both. But they feel different because they are different.
-Courtney
So for you it's about how you feel at the time not the actual sexual acts you're doing? Would you look at how someone else conducts themselves and think that they are classless?
The OP stated he felt the site was classless and something else that I have forgotten. I think a lot more people would indulge if they weren't made to feel inferior by others saying their sex is ok because it's classy/refined. I've read quite a lot of comments over the years,not always aimed at single people and not always by couples that sounded like they looked down on others because of how they conduct their sex lives. Fundamentally it's still sex with multiple people. Now I'm not a very judgmental person,I try to make my comments as non-judgemental as possible because I'm a live and let live realist. Maybe that doesn't come across in my writing. "
I honestly wasn't trying to judge others by what I wrote. I didn't mean it that way. I just mean that I feel like sex can be classy and it can be raunchy - and it can be a whole host of other things for that matter. As I said, both are enjoyable and I've indulged in both.
I wouldn't say someone else is classless, no. But I also would say that there are different types of sex. Perhaps, as someone above said, classy isn't the right term. But I was reflecting the language of the OP. My defense is the same regardless of the word.
Apologies of it came off as judgemental, as that's not how I meant it.
-Courtney |
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"I haven't read the whole thread, but...
I keep seeing people say that sex with people you aren't in a relationship with can't be classy. But why? Since when did a relationship determine class? I've had pretty classless sex with Marc on occasion. And I've had classy sex from this site. It's the situation and people that determines it, not the relationship status.
So if ypu're looking for something classy, look for it. If ypu're not bothered, that's fine too. I really think the two coexist on this site and I don't see a problem with that.
Apologies if that doesn't fit the context, as I said, I haven't read the entire thread
-Courtney
Explain to me what classy sex is to you please.
Ok. To me classy sex is about the atmosphere. It is about taking your time and enjoying eachother. It can be about the mood, the surroundings. For example, I once stayed in a hotel with Marc. We spent time kissing and undressing eachother. We knew eachother and cherished the moments. A fire was in the fireplace. We were sweet to one another. It was erotic, but in a special way. Slow kisses. Lingering touches. Lots of kissing. We've had these moments on meets as well (and hope to have more as we meet people more regularly).
Another time we fucked standing up against a tree in a park for 15 minutes.
I think there is a difference. Both are massively enjoyable and desireable depending on the mood and how ypu're feeling. But one I would say is classy and one more raunchy. Both are obtainable from the site if you look for it.
I don't think sex is intrinsically classless. But that is my opinion. People can and will disagree, of course.
-Courtney
With regards to the hotel sex with Marc,have you ever done that with anyone else? I'm not including marital or relationship sex in this. Is it the people you are with,the venue and atmosphere that makes sex classy or refined?
Yes. We've done similar with others.
I think it is a combination of things that make it classy. The venue helps. So do the individuals involved. We meet one couple regularly and when we swap it feels classy/refined because of our mindsets. It's translated into our actions. What we do, how we touch eachother, what we say to one another. And we aren't in a classy hotel. We are usually in their apartment. We have some food and drinks. A few laughs. And we ease into the night.
Contrast that with another couple we meet where the goal is clearly raunchy sex. It is shown in how we touch eachother and how the night pans out.
We enjoy both. But they feel different because they are different.
-Courtney
So for you it's about how you feel at the time not the actual sexual acts you're doing? Would you look at how someone else conducts themselves and think that they are classless?
The OP stated he felt the site was classless and something else that I have forgotten. I think a lot more people would indulge if they weren't made to feel inferior by others saying their sex is ok because it's classy/refined. I've read quite a lot of comments over the years,not always aimed at single people and not always by couples that sounded like they looked down on others because of how they conduct their sex lives. Fundamentally it's still sex with multiple people. Now I'm not a very judgmental person,I try to make my comments as non-judgemental as possible because I'm a live and let live realist. Maybe that doesn't come across in my writing.
I honestly wasn't trying to judge others by what I wrote. I didn't mean it that way. I just mean that I feel like sex can be classy and it can be raunchy - and it can be a whole host of other things for that matter. As I said, both are enjoyable and I've indulged in both.
I wouldn't say someone else is classless, no. But I also would say that there are different types of sex. Perhaps, as someone above said, classy isn't the right term. But I was reflecting the language of the OP. My defense is the same regardless of the word.
Apologies of it came off as judgemental, as that's not how I meant it.
-Courtney"
Oh no,I wasn't saying that,I was just asking. I'm a bit brain tired at the moment sorry. I like to hear how others view swingers and people who have sexual liaisons. It's insightful. |
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Here's a simple way of looking at this whole subject .
For singles it may seem souless/ cold / not very classy . But isn't that because they don't have the same relationship with a partner that we as couples have ?
That being the case , and the feeling not being pleasant , is swinging the right thing to be doing ?
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"Here's a simple way of looking at this whole subject .
For singles it may seem souless/ cold / not very classy . But isn't that because they don't have the same relationship with a partner that we as couples have ?
That being the case , and the feeling not being pleasant , is swinging the right thing to be doing ?
Just a thought ...."
I'm single. Although I have had a couple of meets that could be called soulless or cold, but the majority have been great fun. I'm not looking for class in my meets. I'm looking for a guy with a sense of humour, decent conversation, and the ability to go like a train.
Maybe peoples expectations are a tad high. This is a swinging site in the UK, not the Playboy mansion. |
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"Here's a simple way of looking at this whole subject .
For singles it may seem souless/ cold / not very classy . But isn't that because they don't have the same relationship with a partner that we as couples have ?
That being the case , and the feeling not being pleasant , is swinging the right thing to be doing ?
Just a thought ...."
I dunno I've made long term friends from meets here I wouldn't describe hanging out with them as cold |
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"Here's a simple way of looking at this whole subject .
For singles it may seem souless/ cold / not very classy . But isn't that because they don't have the same relationship with a partner that we as couples have ?
That being the case , and the feeling not being pleasant , is swinging the right thing to be doing ?
Just a thought ...."
But I'm not talking about sex with partners. You have sex with lots of other people the same as me. My sex isn't cold or soulless. Are you saying that having a partner beside you when you have sex with someone else somehow makes it different for you? The misconceptions about single people and sex by couples is unbelievable sometimes. |
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"Sex is classy, if you live it properly. We are not animals, not everytime at least
What would the right partner have to be like for you to have classy sex? "
The scene described by Courtney would suit. Even if it is our first intimate time together. Social before hand would be awesome but NOT ESSENTIAL. Atmosphere can be created anyway
It is not easy depending on who you are with, however the important thing is to not think to the partner as a tool for your pleasure. Desire the partner, love the partner for the time you spend together 
If you only open your legs, it is not classy |
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"Here's a simple way of looking at this whole subject .
For singles it may seem souless/ cold / not very classy . But isn't that because they don't have the same relationship with a partner that we as couples have ?
That being the case , and the feeling not being pleasant , is swinging the right thing to be doing ?
Just a thought ....
But I'm not talking about sex with partners. You have sex with lots of other people the same as me. My sex isn't cold or soulless. Are you saying that having a partner beside you when you have sex with someone else somehow makes it different for you? The misconceptions about single people and sex by couples is unbelievable sometimes. "
Not saying it's any different having sex with someone else whether my partner is there . Saying that depth and meaning is there when we go home together and share our experiences together , and when looking for more than just sex , we have that too .
Certainly not judging or having misconceptions about singles in the scene !
We have met and played with more singles than you can imagine , and they and we have always come away from the meet happy and satisfied .
Just wondering if in the aftermath whether being alone can make it all seem cold , that's all |
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"Does anyone else find after browsing this site...it sometimes "puts you off" the whole sex thing makes you look at it differently and sometimes not for the better..i know that sounds odd...and i have had a break but im starting to rethink...??"
Im exactly the same at the min x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Just wondering if in the aftermath whether being alone can make it all seem cold , that's all "
Nope, usually the opposite. I can snuggle in bed and don't have to put up with the snoring  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I despair with Fab, with sex and with mankind a great deal.
But I keep coming back!"
Uhuh, I'm with you, fab is just a drop in the ocean, the woes of the world, the problems with the planet mans destruction of the environment .......
But then ........ There's always.........cock
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"Class and this website do not go together. There are very few classy people on here. Actually thinking about it the majority are pretty close to chav end of the spectrum.
It's also interesting to note the all on the initial replies in this thread are from women. It goes without saying that females have a vastly different experience on here than men, for better or worse. "
Speak for yourself. Fab is fairly representative of society as a whole. There's always going to be more people at the bottom than at the top but there are plenty of classy people on here, even some intelligent ones. Frankly some of the people who aren't very classy are still fucking hot anyway. |
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Just wondering if in the aftermath whether being alone can make it all seem cold , that's all
Nope, usually the opposite. I can snuggle in bed and don't have to put up with the snoring "
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"there are plenty of classy people on here, even some intelligent ones. Frankly some of the people who aren't very classy are still fucking hot anyway. "
I am here searching for those. Where are you hiding...? 
"Plenty" is not the exact word I think ..."some" is more appropriate |
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"I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window
But you do it with such style! "
Being serious though, I'm not sure some people here really understand what being classy is. Are we trying to suggest that the Queen doesn't fanny fart? |
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There has to be an element of rudeness for me to get off, Fab provides that. I find civvies a bit boring these days.
I have been ruined and there's no going back. |
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"there are plenty of classy people on here, even some intelligent ones. Frankly some of the people who aren't very classy are still fucking hot anyway.
I am here searching for those. Where are you hiding...?
"Plenty" is not the exact word I think ..."some" is more appropriate"
Well let's do the checklist -
- Am I currently drinking cider in a doorway? - no
- How many times have I appeared on the Jeremy Kyle show? - none
- Did I wash this morning and put on clean clothes - yes
See... |
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"I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window
But you do it with such style!
Being serious though, I'm not sure some people here really understand what being classy is. Are we trying to suggest that the Queen doesn't fanny fart? "
Those who have to make a big point of letting everyone know how classy they are, generally aren't. It was just my attempt at humour to lighten the atmosphere a little. I have no desire to know whether the queen does fanny farts or not. |
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"Here's a simple way of looking at this whole subject .
For singles it may seem souless/ cold / not very classy . But isn't that because they don't have the same relationship with a partner that we as couples have ?
That being the case , and the feeling not being pleasant , is swinging the right thing to be doing ?
Just a thought ....
But I'm not talking about sex with partners. You have sex with lots of other people the same as me. My sex isn't cold or soulless. Are you saying that having a partner beside you when you have sex with someone else somehow makes it different for you? The misconceptions about single people and sex by couples is unbelievable sometimes.
Not saying it's any different having sex with someone else whether my partner is there . Saying that depth and meaning is there when we go home together and share our experiences together , and when looking for more than just sex , we have that too .
Certainly not judging or having misconceptions about singles in the scene !
We have met and played with more singles than you can imagine , and they and we have always come away from the meet happy and satisfied .
Just wondering if in the aftermath whether being alone can make it all seem cold , that's all "
I've never left anyone feeling cold or unfulfilled. I'm usually smiling and happy to be going home and I get intimacy and cuddles too. |
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"I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window
But you do it with such style!
Being serious though, I'm not sure some people here really understand what being classy is. Are we trying to suggest that the Queen doesn't fanny fart?
Those who have to make a big point of letting everyone know how classy they are, generally aren't. It was just my attempt at humour to lighten the atmosphere a little. I have no desire to know whether the queen does fanny farts or not. "
I'm now imagine Liz on all fours,with her arse in the air apologising to Phil for the queef |
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"I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window
But you do it with such style!
Being serious though, I'm not sure some people here really understand what being classy is. Are we trying to suggest that the Queen doesn't fanny fart?
Those who have to make a big point of letting everyone know how classy they are, generally aren't. It was just my attempt at humour to lighten the atmosphere a little. I have no desire to know whether the queen does fanny farts or not.
I'm now imagine Liz on all fours,with her arse in the air apologising to Phil for the queef "
And he says, "no worries, it wasn't really the dog's fart that put you off your dinner last night" - because classy people fuck, eat, shit and when they do shit it stinks too |
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"there are plenty of classy people on here, even some intelligent ones. Frankly some of the people who aren't very classy are still fucking hot anyway.
I am here searching for those. Where are you hiding...?
"Plenty" is not the exact word I think ..."some" is more appropriate
Well let's do the checklist -
- Am I currently drinking cider in a doorway? - no
- How many times have I appeared on the Jeremy Kyle show? - none
- Did I wash this morning and put on clean clothes - yes
See... "
I cannot see your point. If you were drinking a glass od red wine on the doorway it would have been classy anyway |
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"I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window
But you do it with such style!
Being serious though, I'm not sure some people here really understand what being classy is. Are we trying to suggest that the Queen doesn't fanny fart?
Those who have to make a big point of letting everyone know how classy they are, generally aren't. It was just my attempt at humour to lighten the atmosphere a little. I have no desire to know whether the queen does fanny farts or not.
I'm now imagine Liz on all fours,with her arse in the air apologising to Phil for the queef
And he says, "no worries, it wasn't really the dog's fart that put you off your dinner last night" - because classy people fuck, eat, shit and when they do shit it stinks too "
My shit does not stink |
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"there are plenty of classy people on here, even some intelligent ones. Frankly some of the people who aren't very classy are still fucking hot anyway.
I am here searching for those. Where are you hiding...?
"Plenty" is not the exact word I think ..."some" is more appropriate
Well let's do the checklist -
- Am I currently drinking cider in a doorway? - no
- How many times have I appeared on the Jeremy Kyle show? - none
- Did I wash this morning and put on clean clothes - yes
See...
I cannot see your point. If you were drinking a glass od red wine on the doorway it would have been classy anyway "
Even Tesco finest red? |
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"there are plenty of classy people on here, even some intelligent ones. Frankly some of the people who aren't very classy are still fucking hot anyway.
I am here searching for those. Where are you hiding...?
"Plenty" is not the exact word I think ..."some" is more appropriate
Well let's do the checklist -
- Am I currently drinking cider in a doorway? - no
- How many times have I appeared on the Jeremy Kyle show? - none
- Did I wash this morning and put on clean clothes - yes
See...
I cannot see your point. If you were drinking a glass od red wine on the doorway it would have been classy anyway "
Yeah but who can afford that after you pay for a sky dish every month |
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"I've tried very hard to be classy whilst having sex.....it's not easy with my arse in the air and sweat dripping off my nose but i just about manage to compose myself in time for the rip roaring fanny fart.. .at that point all class goes out the window
But you do it with such style!
Being serious though, I'm not sure some people here really understand what being classy is. Are we trying to suggest that the Queen doesn't fanny fart?
Those who have to make a big point of letting everyone know how classy they are, generally aren't. It was just my attempt at humour to lighten the atmosphere a little. I have no desire to know whether the queen does fanny farts or not.
I'm now imagine Liz on all fours,with her arse in the air apologising to Phil for the queef
And he says, "no worries, it wasn't really the dog's fart that put you off your dinner last night" - because classy people fuck, eat, shit and when they do shit it stinks too
My shit does not stink "
Now hold on, I was only referring to classy men on that part. Women don't shit at all. Ever. |
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"Class and this website do not go together. There are very few classy people on here. Actually thinking about it the majority are pretty close to chav end of the spectrum.
It's also interesting to note the all on the initial replies in this thread are from women. It goes without saying that females have a vastly different experience on here than men, for better or worse.
Speak for yourself. Fab is fairly representative of society as a whole. There's always going to be more people at the bottom than at the top but there are plenty of classy people on here, even some intelligent ones. Frankly some of the people who aren't very classy are still fucking hot anyway. "
Oh I am very much working class myself but I can't help but notice the amount of people on here that struggle to string a sentence together. I don't care how hot they are it's still a massive turn off for me. Maybe it's just confirmation bias I don't know!
Oh and it is most definitely not representative of society as a whole, couldn't be further from the truth there in my opinion. |
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"Class and this website do not go together. There are very few classy people on here. Actually thinking about it the majority are pretty close to chav end of the spectrum.
It's also interesting to note the all on the initial replies in this thread are from women. It goes without saying that females have a vastly different experience on here than men, for better or worse.
Speak for yourself. Fab is fairly representative of society as a whole. There's always going to be more people at the bottom than at the top but there are plenty of classy people on here, even some intelligent ones. Frankly some of the people who aren't very classy are still fucking hot anyway.
Oh I am very much working class myself but I can't help but notice the amount of people on here that struggle to string a sentence together. I don't care how hot they are it's still a massive turn off for me. Maybe it's just confirmation bias I don't know!
Oh and it is most definitely not representative of society as a whole, couldn't be further from the truth there in my opinion. "
But then only ~1% of fabbers actually come on the forums. Go to a large swinging club for a night (AbFabs, Chameleons, VA etc) and you'll see a much broader range of people |
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I'm talking about the website as a whole.
I still think you need to split it into two groups; those who go to clubs and those looking for a cheap thrill.
Maybe you are right about the people who attend clubs.
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Its all about using this place let me use you for a hours/worth of pleasure on my terms agree to them terms and your get a hours/worth of pleasure yourself .
I want to use you in the same way I use a sex toy the only difference you may enjoy it back .
That's what this place is all about clinical using become a number and get some pleasure for allowing yourself to be rejoiced to another notch on the bed post another number .
Now for those people who are happy to be used in a clinical way good for them but for those who need to feel a connection of some sort this is not for them .
I see profile after profile where its nothing but naked pictures few words where the owner of the profile is pimping there body to advertise for sex to get sex .guys with nothing but cock shots are showing the same thought process in my opinion I want somewhere to stick my cock so I best show what I will be offering which is my cock only hence very little written in the profile and plenty of cock pictures .
Woman moan about men with little in their profiles and loads of cock pictures then you look at the profile of the moaners and you see exactly the same thing a ten line profile and shot after shot of their tits their arse .
I would not recommend this site to any of my past fuck buddies because they all were the type of woman who never exchange their body for another body for pleasure because they would get no sense of self worth out of the act of doing so .
I don't behave in that way because it gives me no sense of self worth to act in that way its the same reason I'd never pay for sex because by doing so I'd be damaging my sense of self worth a a human being .
I see this its my opinion of what I see it doesn't mean I'm right but for me a see the swinging world as being far to clinical in a lot of circumstances to suit my tastes but that's because I'm not nor would I class myself as a swinger.
So what you're saying is you don't fancy a fuck then? "
That's half correct I need more than a fuck in the vanilla sense .I'm not judging on one level I envy those who can fuck clinically for on paper it seem so much easier than how I'm forced to go about getting my kicks because of my sexuality .
But what am I to do one maybe two hours in a room clinically fucking vanilla style would not give me what I heed so no point in doing it ......two hours in a hotel with a set of handcuffs a blindfold a bottle of oil and willing partner .well that would be a nice first sexual meet but I would not be fucking her on that first date I'd be exploring her body building trust with her |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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There's been so much written here about class or classy sex .
I think some are getting it wrong or viewing it wrong let me explain my thoughts on this .
Sex the act the nitty gritty can never be called classy it can be raunchy sensual or dam right right filthy but the act of sex can never be classy.
I just viewed the classy statement as being how some one handles there search and what sort of environment they like to fuck in ...example a hotel meet with fuck buddy a light lunch in the hotel before bedroom fun is more classy than a Friday night down the local dogging spot getting fuck by a complete stranger .
Now I've said that it doesn't necessary mean that a woman who like one over the other is more classy away from the sex it just means one can be viewed as a more classy way of getting ones sexual kicks than the other both are still ending up in sex and the nutty gritty of sex is never classy raunchy yes sensual yes filthy dirty rough animal fucking yes but classy never .
I just think classy refers to the environment one finds a turn on not the sexual acts one gets up to in that environment
Nor does the environment; one finds sexy mean your a classy individual or a non classy individual it just means you find one sort of environment more conducive to you getting your sexual kicks .
There is no right or wrong not better or worse way of going about getting the sexual experience you need to make it enjoyable for you,the trick is being able to express your needs and then finding someones who needs match yours . |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"im deeper than most..i make connections with peeps and i classify myself as poly..im surrounded by variety and different perceptions..i just carry on doing what i want to do, it doesn't bother me what anyone else thinks or acts like..i live with myself every day..no one else has to...
if i dont like threads its my choice to post or not...i can always go and message someone very nice from my inbox.. i just take myself away from it, if i find its affecting my sense of being..x"
That's a very very interesting post and absolutely correct I will add my opinion to posts I find interesting now I don't think my opinions correct its just a personal opinion a insight into me the real me.
As for meets and the like a find I prefer the fuck buddy route more to my liking I'm more likely to enjoy the sex and the thoughts than come after the sex in that sort of arrangement .
But I am a odd ball in the fact I can do one off role play fucks I think I can do one off stranger fucks in that way because I'm tricking myself by playing a role .thus allows me to side line my normal thought process that I would have about myself after a one off meet all about using . |
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I agree with the OP and sentiments raised by others. I used to meet more frequently but it now tends to be people I have been chatting to for sometime. I call it my 'chav filteration system'. It's amazing how easy it is for any chav online to come across as potential Royal cousins.
It can be quite frustrating when you've been chatting for awhile and they have told you all about their summer home in France, you suggest doing lunch and they suggest the local burger van. There must be a quicker chav test? |
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"I agree with the OP and sentiments raised by others. I used to meet more frequently but it now tends to be people I have been chatting to for sometime. I call it my 'chav filteration system'. It's amazing how easy it is for any chav online to come across as potential Royal cousins.
It can be quite frustrating when you've been chatting for awhile and they have told you all about their summer home in France, you suggest doing lunch and they suggest the local burger van. There must be a quicker chav test?"
You just passed mine. Have a CHAV badge |
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"I agree with the OP and sentiments raised by others. I used to meet more frequently but it now tends to be people I have been chatting to for sometime. I call it my 'chav filteration system'. It's amazing how easy it is for any chav online to come across as potential Royal cousins.
It can be quite frustrating when you've been chatting for awhile and they have told you all about their summer home in France, you suggest doing lunch and they suggest the local burger van. There must be a quicker chav test?
You just passed mine. Have a CHAV badge "
P.S. I actually do have a home in France near Limoge |
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"I'm talking about the website as a whole.
I still think you need to split it into two groups; those who go to clubs and those looking for a cheap thrill.
Maybe you are right about the people who attend clubs.
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"I agree with the OP and sentiments raised by others. I used to meet more frequently but it now tends to be people I have been chatting to for sometime. I call it my 'chav filteration system'. It's amazing how easy it is for any chav online to come across as potential Royal cousins.
It can be quite frustrating when you've been chatting for awhile and they have told you all about their summer home in France, you suggest doing lunch and they suggest the local burger van. There must be a quicker chav test?
You just passed mine. Have a CHAV badge
P.S. I actually do have a home in France near Limoge "
When was your last visit to the local burger van? |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"I've read quite a lot of comments over the years,not always aimed at single people and not always by couples that sounded like they looked down on others because of how they conduct their sex lives. Fundamentally it's still sex with multiple people. Now I'm not a very judgmental person,I try to make my comments as non-judgemental as possible because I'm a live and let live realist. Maybe that doesn't come across in my writing."
In here is the bit that is causing the disagreement! Destiny is complaining about those who see their meets as classy as looking down on others! Surely that is the "others" problem! If they are that insecure with what they are doing, that they are made to feel inferior by us saying what we want, they are in the wrong game!
I can assure you, we don't look down on anyone's choice of play! Each to their own, but we wouldn't want to go dogging for instance. We wouldn't want a gang bang. We would like to have our sort of meet! If that upsets someone, we just don't have the time to worry about it!
Do what you want, with whom you want and let us do the same. We like classy as described very well by courtney, others like it rough and ready! Go for your life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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nothing to so with the site - but years ago when i was very innocent of such places i did go through phases of thinking sex was funny and stupid - man has sexy thought and gets a hardon - thrusts in and out or wanks til he comes - bit animalistic i used to think - of course the sex id had up til then was crap and now such thoughts never enter my head |
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I genuinely don't think 'classy' is the right word. I don't think casual sex is seedy but I'd never describe any sex as classy.
People are classy or not. Someone has class. I don't think the act of having sex can be described as classy regardless of who's involved.
It's beautiful and raw and real. It can be filthy, dirty, rough and fabulous but I don't think it can ever be described as classy.
One can behave with class. Unless you're talking about moaning in a posh voice, in which case I'm pretty sure we can all do that. |
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"Somewhere was mentioned pics of vaginas. I recall seeing a wall of vaginas cast in plaster of Paris that was art. What's the difference? If Tracey Emin made a collage of vagina photos a hoard of snobby people would be oohing and ahhing over it. The same people would be looking at pics on here condemning the women as classless or chavvy. "
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"I sometimes get put off by the desperation, sychophancy and constant belittling of other people's preferences, body types etc"
This! That's why I don't come on the forums so much these days. Unhappy, sad people belittling others to try and boost their own egos is off putting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You should always keep thinking about if the scene is right for you.
It's so wide ranging with every kink under the sun.
People don't go for everything in Vanilla relationships most of us go for anywhere near everything swingers do.
Never do say or put up with something you are not comfortable with. |
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over a year ago
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Some people put me off wanting sex with them
I can't blame the site for that I blame some of the attitudes,approaches and assumptions that come with the nature of the site
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else find after browsing this site...it sometimes "puts you off" the whole sex thing makes you look at it differently and sometimes not for the better..i know that sounds odd...and i have had a break but im starting to rethink...??"
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"I genuinely don't think 'classy' is the right word. I don't think casual sex is seedy but I'd never describe any sex as classy.
People are classy or not. Someone has class. I don't think the act of having sex can be described as classy regardless of who's involved.
It's beautiful and raw and real. It can be filthy, dirty, rough and fabulous but I don't think it can ever be described as classy.
One can behave with class. Unless you're talking about moaning in a posh voice, in which case I'm pretty sure we can all do that. "
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